Closed Diary's
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I do most of my calorie counting in my head. I use mpf mostly to make sure that at the end of the day I haven't forgotten something I ate that morning. I usually only log the first half-ish of what I eat in a day, and I generally don't actually "complete my entry." I don't want people to be under the impression that that's all that I've had to eat, so I keep my diary private.0
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Mine is closed for several reasons.
- I feel that if it was open, I wouldn't be totally honest on a really bad day. I had really bad days both today and yesterday. I logged everything so that I could keep myself accountable and be able to look back at whatever time and realize why I didn't lose this week. If I knew people were seeing it, I probably wouldn't have put everything on there.
-I make diet choices based on what works in my life. Not everyone is the same. I don't always stay within my macros and I don't always make the healthiest choices, but for me it is about making small, sustainable choices at a time. I don't want to be feeling good about staying under my fat and calorie intake and then have someone obnoxiously point out that I've gone over on sodium.
-I saw an excellent post on here quite awhile back about the "organic rainbow lettuce brigade" or something or other basically pointing out how crazy the "clean eaters" can be around everyone else. I don't buy into clean eating and it's not something I feel I can sustain for a lifetime. I don't want those people making negative comments about my food choices because I sometimes eat processed foods. It works for me, and I don't want people making me feel bad about it.
-It's a privacy thing. No one needs to know exactly what I put in my mouth 24/7. My IRL friends don't even know that.
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Because it's none of anybody's business what I eat. I don't need your approval to validate my weight loss.0
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Mine was closed for a little while because I had no idea that it was private. Once I realised I changed it.
I imagine there are a lot of reasons someone might choose to keep their diary private so I won't extend a comment on what someone else is doing but I know that it helps me to keep mine public.
1. I am working really hard to find a balance between the fat kid who ballooned up to 200lbs and the other part of me who has lost 22lbs - I am proud of my diary - the good, the bad and the ugly.
2. I eat it - I own it. I know some people who stop logging once they go over - that simply doesn't work for me. I don't care if I am over by 25 calories or 2500 - if I eat something, I add it.
3. By no means do I stalk other peoples entries but I do check them out when I feel like it. Lots of times I see things that I like and want to replicate in my own food choices and occasionally I see things I know I should shy away from. Almost all of my friends have theirs open and I have never seen anyone rip someone a new one over a bad choice. My group of friends is my portion of the greater community and we all hold eachother accountable but are supportive and respectful - and I wouldn't want it any other way.
4. I feel that if I had my diary closed it would be easier for me to eat crap food because I know no one could see it. As long as I stayed under my calorie goal - no one would be the wiser. That doesn't fly with me! I am still learning how to be a healthy person and I don't need any opportunity for my inner fat kid to sneak in and take over.0 -
Sorry about the mispelling. Mine is open to friends and I would happily open to everyone I really don't care. No need for anyone to get pissy. It's just food... What seriously cracks me up is the closed diary people comment on mine. I never put others down. I don't care if they are under or over. I just was wondering why people would care and choose?? Thats all! Just a question. I am accountable for everything I eat or drink and don't give a **** who see's it and who comments on it. I have nothing to hide.0
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I don't comment on closed diaries that are under any more because as far as I know.. their diaries are completely blank.
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Ummmm oops, talking about others putting others down!!0 -
If they are my friend, I tell them I don't like it because I can't keep them accountable for being healthy if I can't see what they are eating or how far under they ate (alot of people with ED's on here and I DON'T want to encourage that). And I'm not going to go around calling people out on what they ate, unless we are close MFPers. But if someone ate all fresh vegetables, lean meats, healthy stuff all day and are under, I am going to compliment their diary. If they ate all Mcdonalds and cheesecake, even if they stayed under goal I'm not going to compliment them. I think there is more to MFP than just staying UNDER your goal, although it is an important part.
If they ask me how to open it I tell them. .
If they keep it closed, I defriend them. :ohwell: I feel bad doing it, but I can't really be your "friend" if you are keeping that significant of a secret from me.
I haven't deleted anyone but they comment on mine but keep theirs private.. I was just wondering why?
If they are not my friend I don't even look anyway...unless they are posting for help in a message board or something.0 -
Ahh, so you're revising your orignal thesis statement. Got it.Sorry about the mispelling. Mine is open to friends and I would happily open to everyone I really don't care. No need for anyone to get pissy. It's just food... What seriously cracks me up is the closed diary people comment on mine. I never put others down. I don't care if they are under or over. I just was wondering why people would care and choose?? Thats all! Just a question. I am accountable for everything I eat or drink and don't give a **** who see's it and who comments on it. I have nothing to hide.
and yes, meanwhile, yours isn't "open".
Look, you posted a call out thread. And YOU got called out. It happens. Maybe best if you drop it. Lesson learned.0 -
I was talking about amoungst friends not to the public and yes mine is open!0
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I was talking about amoungst friends not to the public and yes mine is open!
ok If you say so.Is it just me? Do you wonder why people keep their diary's closed? I have had some just ignore me or some get pissed when I have asked them why?? Well why? I don't get why, we are here to support one another and people close out their diary and it says under calorie goal.... Why should anyone say good job if they cannot see it? Just wondering all, I find it frustrating.0 -
Mine is closed but I think I might be opening it up soon...This is because before I had never looked at other diaries and this past week I have. Also, a couple of the ones I looked at were under 1200 net cals, and no I didn't comment on this as it is their choice to eat this amount.0
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Is it just me? Do you wonder why people keep their diary's closed? I have had some just ignore me or some get pissed when I have asked them why?? Well why? I don't get why, we are here to support one another and people close out their diary and it says under calorie goal.... Why should anyone say good job if they cannot see it? Just wondering all, I find it frustrating.
completely agree with you. In my mind... you're either all in... or not at all.0 -
I understand some people want to keep it private... some just don't want the critic others just don't want you to see the eating to calorie burnt ratio... commenting on a non viewable diary though is just not something to do... there is an options to have that not say when you complete your diary, they should just check that as well, just saying...0
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Mine was closed for a little while because I had no idea that it was private. Once I realised I changed it.
I imagine there are a lot of reasons someone might choose to keep their diary private so I won't extend a comment on what someone else is doing but I know that it helps me to keep mine public.
1. I am working really hard to find a balance between the fat kid who ballooned up to 200lbs and the other part of me who has lost 22lbs - I am proud of my diary - the good, the bad and the ugly.
2. I eat it - I own it. I know some people who stop logging once they go over - that simply doesn't work for me. I don't care if I am over by 25 calories or 2500 - if I eat something, I add it.
3. By no means do I stalk other peoples entries but I do check them out when I feel like it. Lots of times I see things that I like and want to replicate in my own food choices and occasionally I see things I know I should shy away from. Almost all of my friends have theirs open and I have never seen anyone rip someone a new one over a bad choice. My group of friends is my portion of the greater community and we all hold eachother accountable but are supportive and respectful - and I wouldn't want it any other way.
4. I feel that if I had my diary closed it would be easier for me to eat crap food because I know no one could see it. As long as I stayed under my calorie goal - no one would be the wiser. That doesn't fly with me! I am still learning how to be a healthy person and I don't need any opportunity for my inner fat kid to sneak in and take over.
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Is it just me? Do you wonder why people keep their entire profiles closed? I have had some just ignore me or some get pissed when I have asked them why? Well why? I don't get why, we are here to support one another and people close out their entire profile. Why should anyone want to be friends if they cannot see it? Just wondering all, I find it frustrating.
Ironic, isn't it?
I don't want people to search through my trash cans out by the curb to see what I eat. It's an invasion of privacy to me.
On another note: if a food diary is keeping a person from being friends or commenting on one's thread, that's pretty thin. Real thin!!!!0 -
I keep it closed because sometimes I only eat half my dinner so I can eat candy later without going over my calories. I don't like being judged for this
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I think it's a huge over reaction to get "pissed" because someone's diary is closed. I don't care either way.0
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I keep it closed because sometimes I only eat half my dinner so I can eat candy later without going over my calories. I don't like being judged for this
Exactly, "sometimes" you make that decision. That is yours to make!0 -
I never realized mine was closed til today, so I opened it for all to see...cuz really, who gives a *kitten*?0
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People are at different places in their health/fitness journeys; some people need/want the support that involves their MFP pals looking at/commenting on their food logs, and some people don't. Neither way is "right" - it's a personal decision. If you only want to be MFP friends with people who want to keep their diaries open, then that's certainly your right. But just remember that you're excluding plenty of potentially great MFP friends. There are tons of ways to be supportive without analyzing someone's diary and giving feedback on it.0
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I am new to this site and new to being diabetic. I keep my diary closed because I don't feel it is anyones business what I am eating. I use the site to track my own food and carbs/protein. I also use the note section for personal notes to myself regaurding health issues or food and I don't want that public. I use the messae boards on here to get more info and if I ask a question that realates to food then I would talk about that food or how I am eating it, but for the most part I am just here for me and using it as a motivator to eat healthy and to keep a diary for when I see a nutritrionist. I don't think an open or closed diary matters much in the grand scheme of things, I guess it depends on how you want to use the site.0
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I tried the friends thing and having an open diary when I first joined...and I seriously don't get why people need it. I just deleted everyone and made my profile/diary private. All you get is "good job, good walk, good workout" yadda yadda yadda, and it's all fake 'support' here, especially in the success stories part. I mean, really, how many pages of people telling you 'you look good' do you need? You know most of them barely glance at the pictures. Based off how many replies it takes before someone mentions it on threads featuring Photoshoped after pictures (one of the SAME EXACT PICTURE), I'd say a lot don't look at all.
I don't get why people think this is support, or why they need it? I'm not here to eat healthy, I will never eat healthy, and I don't need someone calling me out on it because they think they're better than me. I'll eat my 1500-1800 calories a day however the f**** I want to, and it's no one elses business. Besides, I don't need to sit here every night going through peoples diaries, if you feel the need to, then go ahead, and if you have friends with closed ones, then just delete them. I don't feel the need to say 'good job' to people 50 times a day because I don't give a s**** about them or what they do. I come here to log food and exercise, and be a b***** in the forums.
And seriously..."it's like sex with your partner", "you're either all in or not at all", "closed diaries = gaining weight" ..........wow.So do you ask your friends outside of MFP to tell you everything that they ate that day and then end the friendship if they refuse to tell you?
I love this, so much.
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How do you know if it closed, just asking I'm on here trying to get friends.0
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I guess I just dont understand why someone else's diary really matters to you personally. I keep mine closed because honestly I dont need unsolicited advice. If I need help on my diet, I will open it and ask for input realizing I will get every comment under the sun. But more realistically I will ask a nutritionist or dietitian. You have the religious clean eaters, the low carbers, the super low cal people, the eat more people, paleo, on and on and on....... Everyone is an expert. I eat real butter, I eat real cheese and whole milk, once a week a get a milkshake from McDonalds, I eat at Wendy's from time to time, granted it is the salad, but whatever. I eat in a way I can maintain for the rest of my life, I log so I can evaluate my diet and workouts, not so others can keep me accountable. The way I see it, if you need to open your diary so others can keep you accountable, then do it but dont expect others to need or want the same from MFP. I like to have friends on here, I love to see their weight loss progress, I like to encourage them to a new and healthier lifestyle but that doesnt mean I need to criticize their choices. And yes, someone commenting that I could conserve calories by using trim cottage cheese instead of the full fat version is a pain....We are all adults here, I personally dont need someone else kicking my butt, I'm pretty good at that myself, but if there is a time I do need it, I will call my Dad.0
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I tried the friends thing and having an open diary when I first joined...and I seriously don't get why people need it. I just deleted everyone and made my profile/diary private. All you get is "good job, good walk, good workout" yadda yadda yadda, and it's all fake 'support' here, especially in the success stories part. I mean, really, how many pages of people telling you 'you look good' do you need? You know most of them barely glance at the pictures. Based off how many replies it takes before someone mentions it on threads featuring Photoshoped after pictures (one of the SAME EXACT PICTURE), I'd say a lot don't look at all.
I don't get why people think this is support, or why they need it? I'm not here to eat healthy, I will never eat healthy, and I don't need someone calling me out on it because they think they're better than me. I'll eat my 1500-1800 calories a day however the f**** I want to, and it's no one elses business. Besides, I don't need to sit here every night going through peoples diaries, if you feel the need to, then go ahead, and if you have friends with closed ones, then just delete them. I don't feel the need to say 'good job' to people 50 times a day because I don't give a s**** about them or what they do. I come here to log food and exercise, and be a b***** in the forums.
And seriously..."it's like sex with your partner", "you're either all in or not at all", "closed diaries = gaining weight" ..........wow.So do you ask your friends outside of MFP to tell you everything that they ate that day and then end the friendship if they refuse to tell you?
I love this, so much.
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Well closed diaries hasn't kept me from defriending anyone or not excepting anyone. Why does everyone think when your diary is open people only judge you for the negative? it can be used as a tool. I write my foods in the food notes and some of us share recipes that way. I track good and bad... I love beer and I am not afraid to log it!! I am on this site to lose weight and get healthy and me logging my foods for the world (friends) to see helps me feel accountable... Its not all negative and no one should ever feel or be attacked because of their food choices. It was just a QUESTION!! Not meant for people to get ****TY! OR attack one another!!!0
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Some people just like to pick on others just like the mispelling comments. Good enough, I am here to support my friends and work on myself and if it makes you feel better inside to laugh at and put me down go for it.. :flowerforyou:0
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Is it just me? Do you wonder why people keep their diary's closed? I have had some just ignore me or some get pissed when I have asked them why?? Well why? I don't get why, we are here to support one another and people close out their diary and it says under calorie goal.... Why should anyone say good job if they cannot see it? Just wondering all, I find it frustrating.
For some people, it's not "just food"; a lot of people have ended up here through eating issues - whether full blown eating disorders, or other milder struggles with food. Scrutiny of what you are eating every day is a big problem for some people. I have my diary open for friends - sometimes. At times, I find that I can be more honest and more relaxed about my food choices when I'm not thinking about what other people might think.
Some people just don't need support, encouragement or criticism based on their diaries. The way I eat works for me. I don't need praise for it. At the same time, my diet is far from perfect and I'm sure people could see ways to improve it and helpful suggestions to make. I'm just not looking for that. If I need help or advice, I'll ask my friends, or I'll ask on the forums.
You say no one should feel attacked because of their food choices, but unfortunately a lot of people do if they have open diaries and then get people giving unsolicited criticism or advice. I get that some people like the support when they have completed their diary and people compliment them on being under-goal, or having lots of "healthy" choices. That's just not what I'm here for though.
I'm sorry you feel attacked on this thread, but hopefully, you're getting a better idea of why people have closed diaries. It's really not something worth getting annoyed about. Love that quote: "I'll do me, and you do you". Try to let it go! :flowerforyou:0
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