The Wife

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  • brendaj39
    brendaj39 Posts: 375 Member
    do you work with me??? I have a guy at my work that refers to his whole family like that,,,its either "The Wife" or "The Daughter" and "The other Daughter" "The Father-In-Law" or The Mother-In-Law" I've worked with him for 8 years and to this day, I have no idea what their names are...
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    I find it quite chauvinistic . However i guess if he married her he loves her - I'd rather my husband called me that, then didn't marry me at all and called me his "partner". I know its a personal choice but I always feel a bit sorry for people who have been in relationships for years and years and still have to do that.

    thats another whole can of worms tho!
  • RunnerBlonde808
    RunnerBlonde808 Posts: 257 Member
    My husband will say my wife and call me by name. I wouldn't like to be called the wife all the time but I don't find it offensive. I questioned my husband on it and he thinks its offensive. lol. I think some men might find it more offensive than the women that are being referred to.
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    I don't know...I call my hubby by his nickname out in the world but I call him by his first name in the house and around his family...we are very close. We have friends that have a really great relationship yet the husband's ring tone when his wife calls is the Darth Vader's Death March. I have seen a few people wrinkle their brows at his ring tone thinking it is disrespectful of his wife. She however suggested it once and thinks it is funny. It can be hard to figure people sometimes.
  • zaithyr
    zaithyr Posts: 482 Member
    Me and my hubby pretend to get frustrated with each other and we will refer to each other as "WOMAN!!!"
  • krleeqmayna
    krleeqmayna Posts: 10
    Sooo true...we never use each others names unless irritated or mad...
  • AshlyRamos
    AshlyRamos Posts: 76 Member
    I refer to mine as "The Ex"...is that offensive?

    That's a heck of a lot better than what I call mine. Just sayin'. LoL
  • kuunsilta
    kuunsilta Posts: 126 Member
    This reminds me of when I was working at a coffee shop and was serving an old man. I said to him, "Would you like a bag for that, sir?". He grinned at me and said, "No, that's all right. I got an old one at home."
    We both had a good laugh xD
  • HannahDiaz25
    HannahDiaz25 Posts: 104
    I would be ok with it... My husband calls me that sometimes. He likes saying it. (we've only been married two years and he he loves introducing me as his wife :smile: ) so no I don't think its offensive.
  • AmadaLynn
    AmadaLynn Posts: 116
    Known as Wifey by him and the warden by his friends
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    I have a friend that does that though with all of his family. It took me years to find out the names of his wife, son and daughter and grandkids. He literally refers to them by their relatedness

    "Going to take Wife to the doctor then visit with Daughter and Grandson". I'm like.... Robot much? These people have names... I'm not the CIA!
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    I refer to my wife as "The Wife" at times. I also call her wife at times as in, "Hey, Wife! Can you get me a beer?" She understands the comedy so she is not offended.
  • jenbooks
    jenbooks Posts: 55 Member
    Well, since I refer to mine as the husband, I'd better not have a problem with it. I'm secure enough in my own person that "wife" doesn't bother me.

    Now, if he said "ball and chain", we might have a problem. :D
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    I find it quite chauvinistic . However i guess if he married her he loves her - I'd rather my husband called me that, then didn't marry me at all and called me his "partner". I know its a personal choice but I always feel a bit sorry for people who have been in relationships for years and years and still have to do that.

    thats another whole can of worms tho!

    you shouldn't feel sorry for other people's choices. That is often called being judgmental =)
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
    That wouldn't bother me. He may be talking to someone who doesn't know my name and it's just easier to say "the wife" or "my wife". I call my boyfriend "the boyfriend" to people who dont know his name.
  • AmadaLynn
    AmadaLynn Posts: 116
    I find it quite chauvinistic . However i guess if he married her he loves her - I'd rather my husband called me that, then didn't marry me at all and called me his "partner". I know its a personal choice but I always feel a bit sorry for people who have been in relationships for years and years and still have to do that.

    thats another whole can of worms tho!

    you shouldn't feel sorry for other people's choices. That is often called being judgmental =)

    No you should not at all. Ever think that people who are not married and have a "partner" are just as happy if not more happy than most married people are?

    I have been in my relationship for almost 10 years, house, cars, and 2 kids later I am not married, why? Simple, I do not need a piece of paper to define me.
  • monroe61
    monroe61 Posts: 620 Member
    The wife, wifey, boo, baby mama....all in good fun :) normally it's babe though, it would be weird for him to call me Samantha!! Although I do use his first and middle name quite often! He hates that...Dennis Kerry!! haha
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    I refer to mine as "The Ex"...is that offensive?

    That's a heck of a lot better than what I call mine. Just sayin'. LoL

    Ditto!!
  • stunningalmond
    stunningalmond Posts: 275 Member
    My husband calls me the wife all the time. And I call him the hubs. And our kids are the big and the little. Lol!
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Just this morning my husband told me to "move my fatass" so he could get in the drawer for a knife to make the boy's sandwiches. LOL! We are very raunchy.......
  • SarahMorganP
    SarahMorganP Posts: 921 Member
    People are too sensitive these days. The only thing that I think most women cringe at is calling your wife Momma. LOL.

    I call my husband "Daddy" and he calles me "Mama", we did that while our kids were little and it just stuck. People look at us like we are crazy out in public when we say it but it just slips out since we are so used to it after 15 years of it. Since we are in our early 30's though it just seems odd to people I think.

    When talking ABOUT my husband to others and he isn't around I use his name if they know him. If they don't know him I say my husband. Same for him about me.
  • Mom2rh
    Mom2rh Posts: 612 Member
    As with everything, it depends on the context. Since I see that they have divorced, I'm voting for detached and perhaps demeaning. My ex would say TO ME "I miss my family" when he was traveling. I always found it odd and disconnected. It's like talking about yourself in the third person...which he has done too. But since he is narcissistic and controlling and has anger issues, it all goes together.
  • hyperionguy
    hyperionguy Posts: 90
    People are too sensitive. Through tone, I can easily make the allegedly more P.C. "my wife" sound possessive and/or degrading.

    Like literally anything else, it all depends on HOW it is said and in what context and intent.

    Yes, I use 'the" for most references and it works for all involved. Especially at work where I don't expect to burden people with remembering names plus the relationship associations of every person in my extended families.

    When talking to family members I refer to my only sibling, a brother, as "the other one". My parents think it is cute and have picked it up themselves. I like, but it is also helpful to everyone because my best friend has the same name as my brother and telling stories or referring to who called can get very confusing.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    I prefer "The Boss"
  • SexyCook
    SexyCook Posts: 2,249 Member
    I see nothing wrong with it....I think it's a cute statement....I have even seen it on a GUY CAR!!! :laugh: :laugh:
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  • prettygirlhoward
    prettygirlhoward Posts: 338 Member
    If my husband calls me by my actual name, then I know I'm in trouble ...



    SAME HERE! LOL!
  • thomassd1969
    thomassd1969 Posts: 564 Member
    wouldnt bother me but on a similiar note my finacee' calls his son "the boy". Ex: I'm going to go pick up the the boy from his mothers. Me and the boy are going to dinner.
    This drives me insane. I told him its like the child has no importance or real name.
  • jerilph
    jerilph Posts: 19 Member
    :heart: I wouldn't find it offensive although my husband calls me his better half and tells people he is my bottom half. After nearly 29 years of marriage I'm happy he is still with me. Most of my family has two or marriages under their belts. He also calls me his bride, I think that's funny after so many years. I call him babe.
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