Women dating younger men

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  • mrcheekychops81
    mrcheekychops81 Posts: 10
    You should do what feels comforatable to you, just don't let him take you for a fool i guess, and I personally would'nt date anyone more than 5 or 6 years younger than me and I generally prefer women a little older than me.:blushing:
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
    I think it's the other way round. When you hear about an older guy with a younger girl, people would normally look at him like he is taking advantage (or if he's a sugar daddy, being taken advantage of).

    Regarding MILF and Cougar - those are positive terms. I don't know what makes you say they are negative.

    Generally it gets looked at like if a woman can get a younger guy then look how awesome and hot she still is. If an older man gets a younger woman then she is only in it for the money or she has 'daddy issues' etc.
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    What you said makes a lot of sense. Yep, me divorced with kids and no, he has not been married and he has no children. However, he is so interesting to talk to and acts much older than he is. We do have a lot of the same opinions and likes/dislikes. This is why it is difficult for me. :ohwell:
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    depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for, if you want one with a future he needs someone he can have kids with at some stage. Even if he thinks he doesn't want them now he might change his mind 10 years down the track .
  • melanie3103
    melanie3103 Posts: 246 Member
    I'm with a guy 9 years younger than me (I'm 36, and he is 27).. I never thought I would be attracted to someone so much younger, always such a big deal for me. Always attracted to older guys in the past - been married before, to a guy 7 yrs older than me (long time ago!)... and dated since then, guys older than me too. Never have I considered a younger guy, writing them all off as immature and the fact that we couldnt possibly have stuff in common. BUT it totally depends on who you meet, the right person it doesnt matter how old they are or the age gap.

    You're right, if you've nothing in common and dissimilar dreams/values then it won't work out. Regardless of whether they are your age or not. I have met many unsuitable guys with a wide range of ages. I was just lucky to find someone that I gelled with - the fact that he is younger makes no odds now. We share such a lot, similar hobbies and want the same things - so while an "average 26 yr old" would not suit me.. we do just fine. We are very happy. No-one is more surprised than me, that it worked out I mean. We are now engaged to be married, next year, and we both are keen for a family. So I guess it just works sometimes.

    Don't get me wrong I've met more than my fair share of immature 26 year olds too! Just steer clear of those! ;)
  • kappyblu
    kappyblu Posts: 654 Member
    Regarding MILF and Cougar - those are positive terms. I don't know what makes you say they are negative.

    I know they are meant to be positive and flattering. But here is what I find somewhat negative about them, because the general view of cougars is that she only wants the younger woman so she can "get her groove back" and then toss the man aside when she has had her fill and move on to the next one. When what I really want is to find love again with someone. And if he turns out to be younger than me, I would rather not be labeled as a cougar, just a woman in love. :smile:
  • ampa916
    ampa916 Posts: 189 Member
    I would never date anyone younger than me (but I am only 23 myself so it's not like they could be much younger anyways) But if I wasn't married I don't think I would date anyone younger than 30. I don't like guys my age. However if I ever became attracted to someone and had a great time with them I don't think I would let an age difference get in the way (as long as they were legal). I think it's important to live life for you, if it wouldn't bother you about his age then go for it. But don't feel bad if it does bother you, we all have our ideas about what we want in a partner and sure not every one of those are going to be met but you have to pick and choose. Make the choice for you though, not for what people would say, although know it will come up and you'd have to learn to roll with that.
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.

    No when men date somebody younger, they're just called cradle robber or my favorite, perverted sex freal

    I HATE being called a freal... it sucks..


    My ex husband is 5 years younger and after we divorced, I dated men that were 8-9 years younger. They're nice decor but no more.
    My current bf, who I've been with almost 7 years, is 52. I'm 36. I likey older men better. But we sure get weird looks. Ugh.
  • marcoscu
    marcoscu Posts: 99 Member
    If it is OK for men to date much younger women then why not they other way around. Just go for it and have some fun. Life is short.
  • ghosct
    ghosct Posts: 2
    Nothing wrong with a women dating a younger man and vice versa. go for it and who cares what people think or say
  • deez2015
    deez2015 Posts: 54 Member
    My fiance is almost 8 years younger than me. we have so much in common and we are on the same "maturity level". It works for us :D.
  • Amberetta82
    Amberetta82 Posts: 153 Member
    I couldn't get exclusive with a younger man but going on dates with them is so much fun! And honestly... sex is too sometimes. :wink:
  • Nailrep
    Nailrep Posts: 966 Member
    I was with a man 5 years younger than me for 5 years. We had a great relationship and the sex was great!! (TMI, sorry!!)

    I say go for it! And JMO, a 40 year old man who would be with a 23 year old obviously doesn't think he can impress a woman who is a bit more worldly and well rounded. It could also show that he has a controlling personality and knows he can't control a peer. And finally, it's creepy. LOL! JMO, hope I didn't hurt any feelings.

    I'm 15 years younger than my fiance and he is not controlling and I am very worldly and well rounded for my age - I think your generalisation of this situation is very unfair to be honest!!

    OP - if you get on and like each other there is no reason you shouldn't go for it hun!!!

    I added an additional post as to why I felt that way - just personal experience I guess. But if the relationship works, thaen that's great. (And I wasn't implying that all 20 something gals are not well rounded. But most are lacking life experience.) Hope I didn't offend!
  • MileyClimb
    MileyClimb Posts: 414 Member
    for me I dated guys older than me and both times I had bad experinces with it. however I would not go that extreme in the young factor. my stepbrother who is 42 married a lady the same age as my mom. do you know how awkward is to say I have a 65 year old sister in law. it feels weird.

    I would either date a guy my age or at most 7 years younger than me. I defintely couldn't imagine dating someone old enough to be my nephew.
  • Patovader
    Patovader Posts: 439 Member
    I love older women, my OH is 3 years older than me but when I was 18 I dated a 27 year old lady and loved every minute of it ;-)
  • mlewon
    mlewon Posts: 343 Member
    Go for it! If he likes you and you're attracted to him there's nothing wrong with it :)
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    When I was 26, I was in a relationship with a man who was 40. We were together for 3 years. The age difference wasn't important at all and we got along great.

    When I was 30, I was in a relationship with a guy who was 22 for a year or so. Same thing, we got along great and the age difference wasn't important.
    Both relationships ended for different reasons that had nothing to do with age.

    Right now, I'm 38. In the past few years I've dated men anywhere between 26 and 50 years old.

    Age is just a number. It's more about how much you have in common and how you get along together. I have to be careful dating younger men now, my daughter is 18 and my son is 17. I'm not in the market to start another family, but a lot of younger men want that.
  • LHudson53
    LHudson53 Posts: 126
    My son is 6 years younger than his wife. They have been married for 5 years, and couldn't be happier. If the relationship works, it works.
  • NYCDutchess
    NYCDutchess Posts: 622 Member
    Some people are also wiser than their years....I say talk to him...see if there is something really there...
    Age is ONLY a number... Some people experience MORE life in 25 years than others do in 50.

    Go with how it feels.
  • RilantheFirebug
    RilantheFirebug Posts: 207 Member
    Do what feels right for you and don't worry about what other people think. If it works out then great, if not then at least you gave it a shot.
  • leannems
    leannems Posts: 516 Member
    This applies to men and women: I think that when the age discrepancy is large, like 10-20 years there is a good chance it is not going to be an equal, partnerlike relationship. One of the couple is in power and the other (the younger) is there to please the older person. Often the older person has more money and success (and intelligence IME) and really isn't looking for someone to share their life with so much as someone to be their companion and amuse them. The younger person usually knows the deal and is "taken care of" (depending on the wealth of the older person, sometimes this doesn't happen financially) by the older person.

    I just can't see it as being equal, but all parties know what they want and apparently have it, so who cares?

    This is a blanket generalization and simply does not apply in every case. Hey - why don't I give you a case in point:

    My husband is 11 years older than me. I make more money. I have more (job/financial) success. We're both of the same level of intelligence. There is no "deal" of which either of us is aware. Your generalization doesn't apply to my relationship, which is perhaps why I find it offensive. I did not marry my husband so he could take care of me financially and he did not marry me to amuse him.

    To the OP: If you like the person, try dating the person. While age can have some affect on what you have in common or what your priorities are, those same things are affected by someone's personality (for example - I know lots of guys in their late 20s/early 30s who want to settle down vs. guys in their 40s who want to party). In some instances, age really is just a number. Give it a shot. Worse thing that can happen is that it doesn't work out, but at least you tried.
  • monroe61
    monroe61 Posts: 620 Member
    My sister's husband is 26 and she will be 35...age is sometimes an issue for maturity reasons but he is extremely determined and stable. He has 2 jobs and they own their own house together and they just had a baby, she will be 1 in a couple weeks.

    It depends on the situation and the person/people involved I think. Go for it and try it out!!!
  • ConnieB1979
    ConnieB1979 Posts: 239 Member
    My bf is 9 yrs younger than I am.....So far its working out splendidly & I have never been happier. AND Ive always said Id never date a younger man....NEVER SAY NEVER!!! Do what works for you & dont worry about what anyone else says. You cant please them all ;-)
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    I say go for it! And JMO, a 40 year old man who would be with a 23 year old obviously doesn't think he can impress a woman who is a bit more worldly and well rounded. It could also show that he has a controlling personality and knows he can't control a peer. And finally, it's creepy. LOL! JMO, hope I didn't hurt any feelings.

    You really can't generalize like this. I freely admit that I'm not unlikely to raise an eyebrow at this type of situation at first, but that's largely because of my own experience. I dated several younger guys years ago, and have since decided it's just not for me. That said, I still wouldn't discount a younger man based on his age alone. I was also with a 42-year-old man when I was 28, and we had a fantastic time. The age difference was a non-issue (except occasionally in choosing a radio station!) because our personalities were very similar and we valued the same things. I would guess that it is the exception to the rule, but it is absolutely possible for two people with a significant age difference to be fabulously compatible.

    One of the happiest marriages I know is between a man and his 20-years-older wife. They are madly in love and have so much fun together.. it sometimes makes me a little jealous.
  • kappyblu
    kappyblu Posts: 654 Member
    Some people are also wiser than their years....I say talk to him...see if there is something really there...
    Age is ONLY a number... Some people experience MORE life in 25 years than others do in 50.

    Go with how it feels.

    I love talking to him and I am interested in him, but I never let on that I am, at least I don't think I do. :blushing:
    He just seems more mature to me than a lot of men I know..even those older than me!
  • Soon2BeMrsThomson
    Soon2BeMrsThomson Posts: 167
    This applies to men and women: I think that when the age discrepancy is large, like 10-20 years there is a good chance it is not going to be an equal, partnerlike relationship. One of the couple is in power and the other (the younger) is there to please the older person. Often the older person has more money and success (and intelligence IME) and really isn't looking for someone to share their life with so much as someone to be their companion and amuse them. The younger person usually knows the deal and is "taken care of" (depending on the wealth of the older person, sometimes this doesn't happen financially) by the older person.

    I just can't see it as being equal, but all parties know what they want and apparently have it, so who cares?

    This is a blanket generalization and simply does not apply in every case. Hey - why don't I give you a case in point:

    My husband is 11 years older than me. I make more money. I have more (job/financial) success. We're both of the same level of intelligence. There is no "deal" of which either of us is aware. Your generalization doesn't apply to my relationship, which is perhaps why I find it offensive. I did not marry my husband so he could take care of me financially and he did not marry me to amuse him.

    To the OP: If you like the person, try dating the person. While age can have some affect on what you have in common or what your priorities are, those same things are affected by someone's personality (for example - I know lots of guys in their late 20s/early 30s who want to settle down vs. guys in their 40s who want to party). In some instances, age really is just a number. Give it a shot. Worse thing that can happen is that it doesn't work out, but at least you tried.

    This^^

    I'm sure when an age gap is involved people think it's a weird relationship and there has to be something more than just love like money or a 'trophy' - I don't get it, age is a number and shouldn't define who we are as an age gap couple!!
  • placebomonkey
    placebomonkey Posts: 104 Member
    Go for it girl! age is just a number you don't look old any how :)
  • placebomonkey
    placebomonkey Posts: 104 Member
    I think it's the other way round. When you hear about an older guy with a younger girl, people would normally look at him like he is taking advantage (or if he's a sugar daddy, being taken advantage of).

    Regarding MILF and Cougar - those are positive terms. I don't know what makes you say they are negative.

    Generally it gets looked at like if a woman can get a younger guy then look how awesome and hot she still is. If an older man gets a younger woman then she is only in it for the money or she has 'daddy issues' etc.

    It's great to hear this from a guy :)
  • jchrisman717
    jchrisman717 Posts: 780 Member
    I am going to be 48 and my husband just turned 35. We are very happy and well-matched. I think it depends soley on each indidivual person. There are some 40 some years old that I would date because they were too imature!
  • tashjs21
    tashjs21 Posts: 4,584 Member
    My husband is 6 years younger than me. I have dated older men, men my age and he is by far the most mature out of any of them.

    It is just a number. If you are compatible and want the same things out of life then go for it. :drinker:
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I can only think of one thing I'd want to do with someone in his 20s, and it's not have a long conversation.

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