Women dating younger men
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There are younger men that I find attractive and would be interested in but I am afraid of grossing them out.
What if they laugh at the cougar? I don't want to be considered a creepy old woman.0 -
Why not? When I was dating I never wanted to go out with younger guys, but I was in my early-mid 20's then and I had little kids so I wanted someone more mature. But now if I were single I would go out with a wider range of people.0
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I'd date one for the ego boost, but seriously, how much would you really have in common with someone who was born when you were in high school?
A lot, actually. My husband is ten years younger than me, and the best decision I made was to disregard that age difference and just go for it. He's what keeps me sane in a very insane world.
Love isn't about a number anymore than it's about a skin tone. It's about finding someone you connect with, enjoy spending time with, and are deeply attracted to inside and out. If you find someone who does that for you, why would you shut it out simply because he's a few years younger than you? I say grab it with both hands and enjoy the ride!0 -
My partner is 2 years younger, I think it's kinda cute?
He's also very mature for his age too.
Don't see a prob with it, to some extent.0 -
Personally I am the believer that age is just a number. I think it all depends on how much you have in common, how well you communicate and the maturity level of each individual. I used to "date" this guy that was 36 and since then I find myself only attracted to older men. I found myself in much better conversation with him than guys my own age. And actually we had a lot in common despite the age difference. I hear that guys tend to mature a lot slower than women. Not sure if that's true but I like older guys because I am usually able to carry on a better conversation with them. I really think it just depends on how much you have in common and communication. Everyone is different and know what they like. If all you're worried about is what people will think for liking someone older or younger than you, who cares what they think?? Just so long as what you're doing makes you happy and doesn't compromise someone's well being.0
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I personally have not ever been attracted to anyone younger than me, but it's not to say I couldn't. I usually go for older guys because I have more in common with them, and they are in similar life situations. I'm 24, and as of late, all of the guys I've had any interest in have been in their 30s. Anyone older than 34 is closer to my dad's age than to mine, and that's just weird... so I guess I have a narrow window haha.
I don't put much stock in age, really. It's just a number. It doesn't matter how many times you've gone around the sun, but rather what you've gotten out of the trip. If you have a connection with someone, you should go with it.0 -
My husband is 9 years younger than me.
We've been together for 16 years now.....we have a great relationship. My husband is a procrastinator (big time) so I often joke and say that the only reason why we are not closer to the same age is because he procrastinated before coming to Earth lol :-)
That aside...I don't think age should be much of an issue when two ADULTS (yes, some people are not really adults at 19, 20, etc) love each other. For my hubby and I, we were meant to be together (time has proven that) so if I had let his age be an issue, I would have missed out on a beautiful, wonderful relationship that will probably last me for the rest of my life.
PS....I use the username MtnKat because my adult children teased me about being a cougar once I turned 40 (the "official" cougar age). I live in WV, so MtnKat kind of became a thing :-)
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This applies to men and women: I think that when the age discrepancy is large, like 10-20 years there is a good chance it is not going to be an equal, partnerlike relationship. One of the couple is in power and the other (the younger) is there to please the older person. Often the older person has more money and success (and intelligence IME) and really isn't looking for someone to share their life with so much as someone to be their companion and amuse them. The younger person usually knows the deal and is "taken care of" (depending on the wealth of the older person, sometimes this doesn't happen financially) by the older person.
I just can't see it as being equal, but all parties know what they want and apparently have it, so who cares?
I disagree... this is not always the case. There may be stereotypical cases but everyone and every relationship is not the same. I am 11 years older than my boyfriend. I have 3 children I take care of me and them and he takes care of himself. Sometimes he helps me take care of them when my deadbeat ex skips a CS payment . We have plenty in common to answer all the other posts about that. What we have in common is common interests and common backgrounds and experiences. Our common ground is deeper than who Mr.Hooper on Sesame Street was or what happened to Nancy Kerrigan. His dad abandoned him when he was an infant mine walked out on me at 9 months. Both our dads took cash pay outs to sign over their rights. We both had abusive stepfathers and mothers who took their side. He is mature and well read and well rounded so we enjoy the same books and music and other activities. And yeah hes 19 so the sex is amazing (tmi sorry) but its not why we're together. We are both wounded people who understand each other. I think you shouldn't worry about the rest of it and should just be with someone who makes you happy...0 -
My oldest brother was married to a woman 7 years older than him. They divorced and he is now marrying a woman a couple years older than him. My younger brother is now married to a woman 6 years older than him. It seems to be working for them.
I'm also interested in a guy younger than me (11 years) but honestly it freaks me out. And I thought he was older than what is actually is so when I found out his real age I almost had a heart attack...ya know because I'm so old, lol. What I worry about most are things like having kids and settling down. Will he want those kinds of things now or want to wait? Plus at his age he'd have to think about having my kids around all the time. Not that I'd ask him on a first date (talk about creepy, lol) but they're issues I'd have to face so it makes me wonder if I should even take him up on his offer. Of course now that he knows just how old I am it might not even be an issue anymore :laugh:
PS all my friends say as long as he's legal go for it. And honestly he's a lot better than the last few guys I've gone out with!0 -
I married a man 11 years younger than me -- he was 24 and I was 35 when we married, and here we are, 21 years later, still very happily married with two teenage sons.
With that said, I'm cautious about saying "go for it" just because you find you are attracted to the guy who is 16 years younger than you. It almost sounds like you are saying "well, if my ex can do it, I can do it, too". If it's an attraction on a mental level, and you've got common interests then it could be worth pursuing. If it's strictly an attraction on a physical level, then I'd say leave it alone, back away. There are so many generational/emotional maturity issues to deal with in that 16 year age gap. Remember, with a 16 year age difference you are dealing with the age gap between a mother and child in some cases, and you may find yourself treating him as a child, you are wiser and know better. Of course, if it's all physical and not a lasting relationship you are after, then it doesn't really matter.
When I first met my husband, there is no way I would have ever considered dating him. He was so young and immature (22) and still in college with the "all fun and games" mentality, and I was so old ( 33) and had already been out in the working world for 15 years and was used to supporting myself and being responsible. But we were part of a mutual group of sci-fi friends and became friends with each other first, got to know and like each other as people without the whole dating/attraction thing getting in the way. A year later when we realized there was more to our relationship and started dating, we felt like we really were the same age, but of course,knowing the real age difference made it feel strange, not just to me (he had no problem with it, I thought even a 3 year age difference was huge, so 11 years was humongous) but also strange to our friends and family. When we finally did marry, there were definitely age based/maturity/responsibility issues that had to be worked on and compromises made. He felt like I treated him like a child, I felt he didn't make responsible decisions when it came to money, and so on. But we got that stuff ironed out early on, and since then it's been smooth sailing! I'm fortunate right now that I look younger than my age and hope it stays that way, but sometimes do get concerned, knowing the age gap will seem greater at the decade birthdays -- when I turn 60 he'll still be in his 40's. At this point I think we'll do just fine.
Good luck with whatever you decide!0 -
Regarding MILF and Cougar - those are positive terms. I don't know what makes you say they are negative.
Really? I've never considered 'Cougar' a positive term. I think generally men see it as positive, women don't.0 -
I have almost always been attracted to older men. Not a father complex...I just prefer maturity. Oddly enough, my ex was 3 years younger than me....which means I have to wait till I am 68 to get the retirement. So think about that, ladies...bwhahahahaha!!!!0
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IT DEPENDS ON THE 2 PEOPLE INVOLVED AND WHAT YOU BOTH WANT.
IVE DATED 15 OLDER AND 15 YOUNGER
I WOULD PREFER SOMEONE CLOSE TO MY AGE BUT.......
SOMETIMES THAT PERSON YOU RE ATTRACTED TO MAY NOT BE
IF YOUR SECURE ENOUGH
MATURE ENOUGH
AND YOURE BOTH GOING IN THE SAME DIRECTION
THEN.....................WINK0 -
My oldest brother was married to a woman 7 years older than him. They divorced and he is now marrying a woman a couple years older than him. My younger brother is now married to a woman 6 years older than him. It seems to be working for them.
I'm also interested in a guy younger than me (11 years) but honestly it freaks me out. And I thought he was older than what is actually is so when I found out his real age I almost had a heart attack...ya know because I'm so old, lol. What I worry about most are things like having kids and settling down. Will he want those kinds of things now or want to wait? Plus at his age he'd have to think about having my kids around all the time. Not that I'd ask him on a first date (talk about creepy, lol) but they're issues I'd have to face so it makes me wonder if I should even take him up on his offer. Of course now that he knows just how old I am it might not even be an issue anymore :laugh:
PS all my friends say as long as he's legal go for it. And honestly he's a lot better than the last few guys I've gone out with!
I'm such a dork! I didn't realize I was logged in on my son's account! :laugh: :blushing:0 -
My oldest brother was married to a woman 7 years older than him. They divorced and he is now marrying a woman a couple years older than him. My younger brother is now married to a woman 6 years older than him. It seems to be working for them.
I'm also interested in a guy younger than me (11 years) but honestly it freaks me out. And I thought he was older than what is actually is so when I found out his real age I almost had a heart attack...ya know because I'm so old, lol. What I worry about most are things like having kids and settling down. Will he want those kinds of things now or want to wait? Plus at his age he'd have to think about having my kids around all the time. Not that I'd ask him on a first date (talk about creepy, lol) but they're issues I'd have to face so it makes me wonder if I should even take him up on his offer. Of course now that he knows just how old I am it might not even be an issue anymore :laugh:
PS all my friends say as long as he's legal go for it. And honestly he's a lot better than the last few guys I've gone out with!
I'm such a dork! I didn't realize I was logged in on my son's account! :laugh: :blushing:
My sister would refer to that as a senior moment! :laugh:0 -
IT DEPENDS ON THE 2 PEOPLE INVOLVED AND WHAT YOU BOTH WANT.
IVE DATED 15 OLDER AND 15 YOUNGER
I WOULD PREFER SOMEONE CLOSE TO MY AGE BUT.......
SOMETIMES THAT PERSON YOU RE ATTRACTED TO MAY NOT BE
IF YOUR SECURE ENOUGH
MATURE ENOUGH
AND YOURE BOTH GOING IN THE SAME DIRECTION
THEN.....................WINK
Thanks for the feedback. He definitely seems much older than he is. I think that's a good sign. Hopefully we will both have the same direction in mind! 0 -
bumping so maybe a new group of folks will offer their opinions as well....:flowerforyou:0
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OP..
you have to get men early.. i have been told they are easier to train younger.. and they are at their sexual peak at like 18.. women's peak is like 40.. so when men get to 40.. wed rather sleep and dream about it.. then actually do it..
oh the joys of getting older for men..
This all depends on the man, my hubby is 52 and I am 44. He hasn't slowed down in the very least!! I am a lucky woman.
(Not our first marriages) 0 -
I am 55, my husband is 45. Age is just a number. Most people think he is much older than I am. Not sure if I just look younger or he looks older! lol
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Age is just a number and i dont see a problem. That being said, i couldn't be with someone more than a year younger than me. Just not my thing.
So then you do see a problem with someone younger lol
My wife is almost 10 years older than me. I am crazy about her and she is my best friend. We have a lot in common.0 -
Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.
But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.
Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?
So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:
I'm dating a 28 year old...a couple years ago I was briefly seeing a 26 year old. The call me the PUMA! Go for yours.0 -
If they are in good shape and you have great sexytime age doesnt matter0
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I say go for it, why not? What do you have to lose... If you don't you may regret it later and always wonder what if.
Me personally - I'm 28 with a 36 yo man (going on 9 years together). I'm not sure what range I would date in, as I have not dated since I was 19, but then I was dating between my age and 8 years older.0 -
I want to be a cougar... just saying.. continue0
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Puma, Cougar, MILF, GILF and even Sabertooth are all honorifics. There are no negatives attached to those terms.0
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My advice to you is to direct you to Sonny from A Bronx Tale who said to go for the one that puts wind under your sails because at the end of the day when you’re under the sheets and it’s just the two of you nothing else matters.0
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Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.
But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.
Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?
So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:
I, personally, think it's disgusting, but that's just my opinion. You should do whatever will make you happy.
The only question I would have is this (and one of my main reasons for feeling the way I do)... what happens when this 24 year old boy decides he wants to have BIOLOGICAL children and because you're past your child bearing years you are unable to fulfill that?
Mmmmmmm I think this is probably something a couple may discuss before they get as far as starting a family do you not think.......0 -
My ex was 7 years younger than me, which doesn't sound like a lot, but he was 21 and I was 28! The age difference didn't really get to me... most of the time! On occasions it would be really evident ie. When out for the night he just wanted to get trollied, but I was more sociable! When it came to settling down and moving in together I found that I was the adult in the relationship and he was the child. I had to tell him to do stuff, put a blanket over him when he fell asleep playing the playstation, wake him up in the mornings.... the list goes on!
Perhaps it was just HIM! He'd always been mothered, hadn't fully matured into (I could say adult here, but given the circumstances) a human being. The relationship ended and I swore I'd never do that again!0
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