Women dating younger men

Why not? When I was dating I never wanted to go out with younger guys, but I was in my early-mid 20's then and I had little kids so I wanted someone more mature. But now if I were single I would go out with a wider range of people.

My partner is 2 years younger, I think it's kinda cute?
He's also very mature for his age too.
Don't see a prob with it, to some extent.

I personally have not ever been attracted to anyone younger than me, but it's not to say I couldn't. I usually go for older guys because I have more in common with them, and they are in similar life situations. I'm 24, and as of late, all of the guys I've had any interest in have been in their 30s. Anyone older than 34 is closer to my dad's age than to mine, and that's just weird... so I guess I have a narrow window haha.

I don't put much stock in age, really. It's just a number. It doesn't matter how many times you've gone around the sun, but rather what you've gotten out of the trip. If you have a connection with someone, you should go with it.

This applies to men and women: I think that when the age discrepancy is large, like 10-20 years there is a good chance it is not going to be an equal, partnerlike relationship. One of the couple is in power and the other (the younger) is there to please the older person. Often the older person has more money and success (and intelligence IME) and really isn't looking for someone to share their life with so much as someone to be their companion and amuse them. The younger person usually knows the deal and is "taken care of" (depending on the wealth of the older person, sometimes this doesn't happen financially) by the older person.

I just can't see it as being equal, but all parties know what they want and apparently have it, so who cares?

I disagree... this is not always the case. There may be stereotypical cases but everyone and every relationship is not the same. I am 11 years older than my boyfriend. I have 3 children I take care of me and them and he takes care of himself. Sometimes he helps me take care of them when my deadbeat ex skips a CS payment . We have plenty in common to answer all the other posts about that. What we have in common is common interests and common backgrounds and experiences. Our common ground is deeper than who Mr.Hooper on Sesame Street was or what happened to Nancy Kerrigan. His dad abandoned him when he was an infant mine walked out on me at 9 months. Both our dads took cash pay outs to sign over their rights. We both had abusive stepfathers and mothers who took their side. He is mature and well read and well rounded so we enjoy the same books and music and other activities. And yeah hes 19 so the sex is amazing (tmi sorry) but its not why we're together. We are both wounded people who understand each other. I think you shouldn't worry about the rest of it and should just be with someone who makes you happy...

I married a man 11 years younger than me -- he was 24 and I was 35 when we married, and here we are, 21 years later, still very happily married with two teenage sons.

With that said, I'm cautious about saying "go for it" just because you find you are attracted to the guy who is 16 years younger than you. It almost sounds like you are saying "well, if my ex can do it, I can do it, too". If it's an attraction on a mental level, and you've got common interests then it could be worth pursuing. If it's strictly an attraction on a physical level, then I'd say leave it alone, back away. There are so many generational/emotional maturity issues to deal with in that 16 year age gap. Remember, with a 16 year age difference you are dealing with the age gap between a mother and child in some cases, and you may find yourself treating him as a child, you are wiser and know better. Of course, if it's all physical and not a lasting relationship you are after, then it doesn't really matter.

When I first met my husband, there is no way I would have ever considered dating him. He was so young and immature (22) and still in college with the "all fun and games" mentality, and I was so old ( 33) and had already been out in the working world for 15 years and was used to supporting myself and being responsible. But we were part of a mutual group of sci-fi friends and became friends with each other first, got to know and like each other as people without the whole dating/attraction thing getting in the way. A year later when we realized there was more to our relationship and started dating, we felt like we really were the same age, but of course,knowing the real age difference made it feel strange, not just to me (he had no problem with it, I thought even a 3 year age difference was huge, so 11 years was humongous) but also strange to our friends and family. When we finally did marry, there were definitely age based/maturity/responsibility issues that had to be worked on and compromises made. He felt like I treated him like a child, I felt he didn't make responsible decisions when it came to money, and so on. But we got that stuff ironed out early on, and since then it's been smooth sailing! I'm fortunate right now that I look younger than my age and hope it stays that way, but sometimes do get concerned, knowing the age gap will seem greater at the decade birthdays -- when I turn 60 he'll still be in his 40's. At this point I think we'll do just fine.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

I have almost always been attracted to older men. Not a father complex...I just prefer maturity. Oddly enough, my ex was 3 years younger than me....which means I have to wait till I am 68 to get the retirement. So think about that, ladies...bwhahahahaha!!!!

IT DEPENDS ON THE 2 PEOPLE INVOLVED AND WHAT YOU BOTH WANT.
IVE DATED 15 OLDER AND 15 YOUNGER
I WOULD PREFER SOMEONE CLOSE TO MY AGE BUT.......
SOMETIMES THAT PERSON YOU RE ATTRACTED TO MAY NOT BE
IF YOUR SECURE ENOUGH
MATURE ENOUGH
AND YOURE BOTH GOING IN THE SAME DIRECTION
THEN.....................WINK

I am 55, my husband is 45. Age is just a number. Most people think he is much older than I am. Not sure if I just look younger or he looks older! lol


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