do you hold back

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  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    when talking to people? meaning, when you are feeling something and feel like telling them, do you just put it all out there, throwing caution to the wind, letting the chips fall where they may? or do you hold back, protecting yourself from any real or imagined repurcussions?

    personally, i bare my soul. often times, i'm afraid i say too much, but then again, i'm good with the fact i don't hold anything back. there is nothing i wish i told someone.


    i figureeeee have this one life to live. and to make the most of it, i don't want there to be any secrets, especially with the ones i care about. sometimes what i say makes me want to throw up. sometimes it makes my heart skip a beat. sometimes i just feel relieved that what had to be said got said.

    so, if you are friends with me, don't ever think there's something i'm not telling you. with me, you get it all.

    Right with you girl. Only problem is that being that open allows people to take advantage of you and you get hurt. That part is no fun.

    I admire those who can hold back. I often think it's better.
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    I can't tell you yet.
  • Tiggerrick
    Tiggerrick Posts: 1,078 Member
    I have zero filter from brain to mouth. I get in trouble a lot.
    Why am I wishing you would have said head instead of brain O.o?
  • rm830
    rm830 Posts: 531 Member
    I try to...but usually can't. If it's something hurtful, I will hold back though.
  • Just_Dot
    Just_Dot Posts: 2,283 Member
    Nope...what you see/read/hear is what you get.
  • picassoadagio
    picassoadagio Posts: 407 Member
    I'm pretty much like you. I try to hold back but what I feel usually comes gushing out... I'm a gusher. :blushing:

    I'm like this with almost everyone but my husband. For some godforsaken reason he is the one I have the most difficult time being open with. Sad but true.

    This. I have no problems telling it like it is, unless it's my husband (but he also tells me "No" a lot).
  • adet983
    adet983 Posts: 138
    i can charm your pants right off your bottom between beers 8-12 but before 8 and after 12 im a rambling moron
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    Don't know ya....but think just like you.
    I'm an open book.
    You will always know where you stand with me.
    Yes I hurt feelings but that is not my intention.
    It's easier to remember the truth than lies.

    ^^ This and this is why I sometimes get into trouble at work
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i hold back every day.

    there are probably thousands of things i don't say to people on a daily basis for the sake of keeping peace. my mind is one that works in sarcasm, cynicism, apathy, and jokes. So i know, most often times, if i say everything, I am just doing it for my own satisfaction/entertainment and not taking their feelings into consideration.

    this doesn't mean i am not honest. i am. i think communication is important and i communicate things when i think it's necessary and appropriate. but i think if i didn't constantly filter myself i wouldn't be successful at my work, or liked in general.

    i mean, i delete 75% of my posts on this site, and have thought about deleting this one the whole time i typed it.
  • Music_is_my_soul
    Music_is_my_soul Posts: 792 Member
    I don't have a filter!!! :( well I take that back... I do but there are large holes in it and most of the time I say what's on my mind.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    Depends on the situation.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    lol I dont hold back.. Infact my friends and I say we live in the land of TMI. I will say whatever comes to mind and I really have no barriers. But the I had that filter between my brain and my mouth removed a long time ago...
  • kzivic
    kzivic Posts: 326 Member
    I hold back. I avoid confrontation like the plague, so I'd rather not say something that would cause conflict and just keep things to myself and deal with it on my own. Or avoid it.

    I wish I could say what I really want to say to some people, especially here at work, but my job is in Human Resources and I'd probably get fired if I did.
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    No, unless I think it may hurt their feelings - had a scenario of this recently. But cleared up now.

    Otherwise, I'm very open and honest and say pretty much exactly what's on my mind, for the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly.

    I try and treat people how I'd like to be treat myself. I'd want to hear the truth, so I tell the truth, calmly dependant on the situation of course.

    I can be quite shy though at times, mainly in large groups. I get intimidated.

    However, I can also avoid confrontation - hate arguments. Goes back to my childhood. I always try and sort things calmly however much I'm seething inside. lol.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Yes. I am working on that, though.
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    I pretty much have no filter . . . if I think it, I'll probably say it.
    I don't ever intentionally try to be rude or hateful though. I'm not looking to instigate a problem but won't back down from one either. If I feel its the truth then it comes out.
    Most people in my life know that if they ask for the truth from me the will get it 100%. Those that don't know it figure it out pretty quickly.
  • ScottyNoHotty
    ScottyNoHotty Posts: 1,957 Member
    I used to be my company's hatchet man. I have no problem telling people off or things they don't want to hear. On the plus side, I'm very open and gregarious with people, sometimes they get offended with some of the things that I say. ( Read my profile ).

    This is why I have a great and varied group of longtime friends, and scarred knuckles, black eyes, split lips and a broken nose. ( and thats just with my friends )
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    I generally hold back... I don't handle hurt and/or rejection well... it also depends on the day. My confidence changes often from day to day. If I'm feeling good about myself and confident I'm a lot more likely not to worry about what other people think.
  • blittle2
    blittle2 Posts: 94 Member
    I guess I put up walls and slowly let people in. I've been hurt so much I don't like to invest so much right then and get punched in the stomach back so to say. It doesn't mean that even after baring my soul that I don't get knocked down but most of the time I can back away before it has gone too far if it's something that I don' t see having any meat.
  • VenomousDuck
    VenomousDuck Posts: 206
    When I was younger I held back.

    but recently, and the age increases, I realize I don't want to waste any more time on playing it so safe.

    So, if you are fortunate enough to get close, you are going to get it all.

    But I only allow very few to get that close.
  • 4x4play
    4x4play Posts: 200 Member
    I have tried to hold back many times but being the person that I am I bare all. I'm an open person and what you see is what you get. There are times I try to not say something because I have been hurt many times. But then I think, where would I be today if I wasn't the way I am? I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason, whether I like it or not. For that reason I believe I'm a very strong person.
  • SCVSarah
    SCVSarah Posts: 231 Member
    I put it all out there
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
    My brother always tells me he thinks theres some sort of crucial filter in my brain that is broken. I told him I really didnt give a rats *kitten*.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    I tend to tell it like it is....people don't like me because of it...but hey...that's me....take it or leave it.

    When it comes to relationships and such though...different story...I am very reserved for my fear of loneliness or heartbreak.....I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    FEAR = false events appearing real

    If you're afraid of something, you're projecting possible negative outcomes that may or may not be the truth

    In the end, you're just holding yourself back and wasting time.

    You only live once. Live it loud.
  • dawnrenee567
    dawnrenee567 Posts: 292 Member
    I'm working on not holding back so much.
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    NOPE. I don't want people around me that I have to censor my thoughts and feelings with.
  • Dayna154
    Dayna154 Posts: 910 Member
    Im an open person and dont hold back. I figure if they are interested best to know who and what I am right up front.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I write them a too long letter, wherein I meander until I realize my own point and then I direct them to it in a little thesis at the end.

    11/10 I pay for it.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I write them a too long letter, wherein I meander until I realize my own point and then I direct them to it in a little thesis at the end.

    11/10 I pay for it.

    I'm feeling a little left out...I've never been the recipient of this 'letter'...

    /sigh
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