My boyfriend likes me heavier :(

Maybe he's worried about what you will do with him when you get to your perfect you, will you change your mind on wanting him in your life? Maybe this is his TRUE concern. And you know there are men out there that love heavy women, they truly like them heavy, doesn't make them dirtbags or unsupportive, they like what they like and to change that may be to much for them to continue in the relationship. It's not fair to "dump" him because he like heavier women, after all he wanted you didn't he?

I have NO doubt at all that this has already been said, numerous times....but he's an unsupportive jerk for that. YOU have to be happy with you. He can get over it. I know it is easier said than done, but you can't be miserable with yourself in order to make him happy. That's not fair to either of you.

you do what is best for you. you are doing it for you and no one else. you just keep pressing through

Your boyfriend is probably scared that you will leave him. My husband has lost over 50lbs in a year using MFP. In teh begining I use to tell him ll the time you look fine even though he did need to loose more weight. As time went by I found myself more attracted to him but honestly was worried that he would leave me for someone more attractive or skinner than me. Your boyfriend may just be scared oif you loose alot of weight that he may loose you. You don't have to leave your boyfriend. I will tell you what my husband told me..He basically said that I should be supportive not only is he doing this to get healthier but also to feel better about himself. He said wouldn't I rather see him skinner and happier than fat and unhappy. He continued to reassure me that I had nothing to worry about. That he loves me. You don't have to leave your man just keep assuring him that he is the one for you and that he should be supportive of you loosing weight. However at the same time tell him that if he loves you he would want you to be happy and healthy. Would he rather have a happy, healthy, sexy GF than a unhappy, unhealthy GF? I don't think that you should leave him if you are happy with him. It may take sometime but you just need to assure him that you are doing this for you! Not for anyone else or him. Then if he keeps bugging and you loosing weight is going to put a strain on your relationship...Then maybe you should look deep down inside and think about is he really the guy for you if he can't support you. He may just need some time.

I think a lot of men just don't know how to react--not that he necessarily expects/wants you to be fatter. Like most other people, I think there are explanations.

1) He might be worried about you (people, particularly here, can be REALLY obsessive about weight loss...to the point, I imagine, it might put a strain on their relationships). How hard core have you been about losing? How quickly did you lose?

2) He may also just not know how to compliment you on your weight loss without sounding like a **** (ie: he thinks you're way hotter than you were, implying you were not hot before)...Additionally, he may be trying to show you that your size REALLY doesn't matter to him.

3) Have you ever seen Napoleon Dynamite? The scene where he hits on Deb by telling her that she "could drink 2% if she wanted" (meaning he thinks she's fit). Sometimes people joke about fattening you up when you look thin.

All these posts that say things like "LOSE HIM!" are totally insane and really impractical. In my opinion, talk to him and tell him you want him to support you, **and let him know HOW he can support you**, so that he doesn't have to flounder while figuring out how to do it. This is definitely NOT the biggest issue a couple can face in life--just talk it out and work through it.

Your boyfriend should love and support you no matter what size you are. The fact that you are happy and doing things that will make you healthier in the long run should make him happy for you. What kind of boyfriend doesn't want their girlfriend to be healthy and happy! Have a nice talk with him and tell him your feelngs.

Your health and body preference take precedence over his. End of story.

I couldnt have said it any better!!

OMG why are you even taking this into consideration. Do what makes YOU happy. You have to live with yourself forever, he may not always be around. What do you think?

tell him to gain weight. he might be jelous more guys are guna be after you . xxx

First: This is all about YOU. How do you feel? Better, I assume, right? Same with me. Granted, I have about 60 more to go to my personal goal, but still, 30 out of 90...that's 1/3 the way! I do like the fact that my pants fall off my butt and that I can fit in smaller shirts. I am sure you do too! I am also sure you physically (health-wise) feel better.

My fiance doesn't say too much about it, but I know he's happy for me. He's not the super supportive type, but I think if he sees my dramatic body change, it may encourage him to do the same. (Guess who wears the pants in the relationship!)

People call me beautiful. A friend called me that the other day, and it made me smile so much inside. This friend has said that all they've ever wanted for me to is to be happy, healthy and pretty...and if losing weight makes me happy, then so be it.

I don't know what to say about your boyfriend. Part of me wants to smack the crap out of his face for saying something like that, especially since you've (probably) been working so hard at this. Part of me thinks it's misguided love in saying he's always liked you just the way you are. Bad choice of words maybe? Does he say this repeatedly?

If he's making a big deal about it, confront him (gently) and tell him how important this all is to you and how it makes you feel. You should NOT be concerned with making him happy with your body. You should be concerned with making you happy.