A stranger's harsh words

People can be so moronic. Regardless whether or not he was drunk, it doesn't give him any right whatsoever to let something have that effect on you. It makes me so sad, and it didn't even happen to me. :frown: It takes a pretty vile personality to come out with something like that, so already you're the better person - keep that in mind and keep holding strong, and smile because you're beautiful. :flowerforyou:

For future reference, here's the correct response:

Turn to anyone else within earshot, and say very loudly, "Did you hear what that guy said? I feel so sorry for people like that, who have so little in their lives to value that their only joy comes from being an *kitten* like that. It must be so sad living in his shoes like that, in such a joyless, pathetic, sad, dark life. Oh well, I guess without *kitten* like that, it would be harder to notice the great people in the world."

Typo? LOL!

He is an idiot! And he will realize that one day when he, his wife, his sister or his mother is picked on and put down by another idiot just like him. Karma does have a way of doing that!

You are a beautiful person and the way you handled the situation was spot on. :flowerforyou:

I wish you the best of luck in your journey to a healthier life ahead! :flowerforyou:

Good God, some people really should have their mouths stapled shut. I'm so sorry you were the victim of a true blue moron. I know it's easier said than done, but try to dismiss his comments and consider the source.....a loser. Try to turn it into motivation in your mind. You can change your lifestyle, he sure can't. Big hugs to you. You ARE strong, we all have our vulnerable moments. What I'd give to meet up with him with a sledgehammer. :flowerforyou:

I HAVE A STAPLER!! :bigsmile:

I'm sorry that happened... You did the right thing and are a much stronger person than I am. I would not have been so nice. You are doing great. Keep up the awesome work!

My response would have been, "yeah stay away so you don't catch my FAT and I don't have to worry about catching your STUPID!"

He was a stupid drunk so don't let his words mean anything to you.

Be happy with the knowledge that you can fix your weight, he'll never be able to fix his mental flaw!

:flowerforyou:

In the words of my favorite lady, Madea - "It aint what you're called, it's what you answer to."

Take the insult with a grain of salt and keep living your life. People will never cease passing judgment or speaking before they think (unfortunately I tend to have the same sickness at times), all you can do is use them harsh words to push yourself to your limits and prove them - and everyone else around them - wrong.

It's always hard to just "turn the other cheek", no matter how old or mature you are... but some people, especially idiots, are definitely NOT even worth the effort. Of course that's always easier said than done, cause had it been me, that guy and I might have had a good throw down... but guess who would have won? Yup, the "fat" girl. Although I'm not such a great person myself, and I hate idiots with a bloody passion, so disregard that part lol

Hold your head up and just keep on truckin', cause YOU are all that matters right now, not some belligerent, drunken *kitten* with such blatant ignorance. Not. Worth. Your. Time.

You're beautiful! Remember that.

Love and Alohas,
Ihilani Kapuniai

Wow what a jerk! I'm so sorry that it happened to you, I had a kinda similar situation so I know how you feel. Losers like him deserve to be ignored. You can always change your body but he will always remain a loser.

My response would have been, "yeah stay away so you don't catch my FAT and I don't have to worry about catching your STUPID!"

Haha I love this!

He was a freakin' stumblin' drunk. How much credence do you give his critique?!

Walk up behind him and kick his knees out from under him and then say "Wow! You were right! You DO need to stay away from me!"

My heart broke a little when I read your post. I am so sorry. Brushing it off is easier said than done, even when the hurtful words came from a worthless stranger that you will probably never see again. I too have been there. It happened over 5 years ago and I still think about it from time to time. It was right after I had my first child. I was 100 pounds heavier than I am today. Having my son was motivation for me to take my life back, be healthy and set a good example for my child. My husband and I decided to go to the park for a long walk. I stopped to go to the bathroom. As I was washing my hands I felt this woman behind me just staring. I turned around to grab a towel to dry my hands and made eye contact with her. She said "I can't BELIEVE that you exercise. I mean, your hips - they are SO BIG!!!" And she even used hand gestures to demonstrate how massively enormous my *kitten* was. I literally felt like I had been punched in the gut. All I could think to say was "that was an incredibly rude thing to say." I came out of the bathroom shaking and couldn't even tell my husband what happened until that night when we were in bed and I couldn't go to sleep. Anyway, my boot camp instructor and mentor always says "don't ever forget where you came from." He said he sees it all the time. People that come to him that are overweight with little self esteem and start seeing results. He said sometimes people get in the best shape of their lives and something changes in them. They become arrogant, start judging others, etc. Just remember that you have the same heart no matter what size you are. Stay true to yourself and treat others with respect and you will be fine. Good luck on your fitness journey! And please know that you're not alone!

I'm normally quite a strong person and don't really let anyone who says anything affect me, but on Friday, that all changed..!

I was out with friends for a long brunch (my "cheat" meal for the month) and some random (albeit drunk) man was walking around with his girlfriend and said to her 'let's get away from here because that woman is fat".. in ear shot!!! I asked him what he said and he repeated it, looking directly at me, "what, you are really fat"... my only response was that I couldn't help it if he was an "a'hole"... but the damage was done, I was devastated, still am. I held myself together, until I got in a taxi and then bawled my eyes out for an hour until I fell asleep... how does he not know what affect this could have on someone, what if they weren't as strong as I am??

How can anyone be that cruel..! It is clearly up to you what you think, but why would you say something so offensive to someone your walking past, whether you know them or not..!

I used to be "less cuddly" but through a year of ups and downs and stress and tragedy, I've gained around 60 pounds... I started work on finding myself again at the beginning of June and shed 9 of them so far. My journey's only just beginning but people like that don't help... although I woke up the next morning and went for a 5km walk in searing heat - so I guess, sucks to be him (probably cuddling a toilet bowl somewhere) because what he did, made me get up the next morning to ensure I got my exercise in..! I'm a "shrinking healthily" 226 pound woman with feelings, damn it!

Instant A'hole, just add alcohol. Use it as fuel as you did the next morning. He has a miserable life, therefore he must make others miserable to justify his misery.

You are doing more to better yourself than he ever will, just take solace in the fact that you are a better person and you would never hurt someone like that.

Great Job on the 5k walk, you are doing it!

Years ago, I traveled quite a bit for work. One evening, I was flying in a really small plane - think 10 seats. Anyway, the man next to me didn't want me to sit in that seat. He literally didn't want the fat chick to be on the exit row next to him. Hello? I could have easily opened that door if necessary - put a little weight behind it, you know? Anyway, he was just rude and an *kitten*.

When we arrived in South Bend, he was still spitting and fuming. But Karma is a glorious thing. I picked up the last rental car available that night, and there were no cabs available. My parting words? "Doesn't pay to be an *kitten*, does it?" Not mature, but dang that felt good.

Moral of the story: karma can be your friend. You keep doing what you are doing. And figure he'll keep doing what he's doing and someone's gonna take a shot at him.

Hold your head up and smile - you are beautiful.

Whos drunk @ brunch? That says alot about him right there. I would have taken his words lightly. He has issues.....