Someone threatened me

What state do you live in? If its a pro gun state, GO GET YOUR CONCEALED HANDGUN LISCENSE! So sorry to hear that that happend. UGH. Some people. Nothing like having a snub nose 38 in your bra or purse ready to go if needed.

Restraining orders are only there to tell the cops that hey, this guy was not supposed to come near her. I have seen these things work almost zero times. The only thing that these guys understand is staring down the barrel of a 38 or a black belt. Shove his $@#S into is throat.

I am all about independant women having the capabilty to protect themselves against thugs like this. But I have also been known to be a bit radical. LOL

oh man what did you do to him?

CHL classes offer that kind of training.

Agree with your statements. Restraining order will only make it worse. As far as a gun, it is always an option if you are trained in it. I am 100% comfortable with guns handling them for over 5 years. Guns can be a great measure if you know what you are doing. Biggest thing regardless, have no contact, and if you get a gun ever, dont let him know.

im scared for u girl i would move somewhere else

Is this completely out of the blue, or part of some on-going conflict? Either way, the police should have done a lot more. Not only should you get a restraining order, I think you should keep the police involved. And hey, the gun can't hurt...

I work as a 911 dispatcher (which actually means very little for in the field experiance, but still...) and I'm sorry to tell you that there's not much that you can do as far as a restraining order. There was just the one incident, and if you don't know his first/last name, and his date of birth, there's not much the civil courts can do.

I would reccomend you call your local PD/SO and ask them to set up an increased patrol. Explain to the dispatcher/calltaker what happened, and ask for at least a month of patrol. It doesn't mean that LEO will be there 24/7, but if they are seen in the area often enough, it should discourage him from trying anything again.

Besides that, keep yourself safe... Get a gun if that makes you feel better(with training!) and keep your doors and windows locked at night, and maybe during the day. Keep a phone with you, and always try to be aware of where you are... Address, cross street, whatever.

You can call your local LEO agency and ask for legal advice about this, they should be able to provide.

I'm sorry I couldn't be more help, that is a terrible thing to have happen. I hope things get better, and I hope you never see that jerk again!

I work as a 911 dispatcher (which actually means very little for in the field experiance, but still...) and I'm sorry to tell you that there's not much that you can do as far as a restraining order. There was just the one incident, and if you don't know his first/last name, and his date of birth, there's not much the civil courts can do.

I would reccomend you call your local PD/SO and ask them to set up an increased patrol. Explain to the dispatcher/calltaker what happened, and ask for at least a month of patrol. It doesn't mean that LEO will be there 24/7, but if they are seen in the area often enough, it should discourage him from trying anything again.

Besides that, keep yourself safe... Get a gun if that makes you feel better(with training!) and keep your doors and windows locked at night, and maybe during the day. Keep a phone with you, and always try to be aware of where you are... Address, cross street, whatever.

You can call your local LEO agency and ask for legal advice about this, they should be able to provide.

I'm sorry I couldn't be more help, that is a terrible thing to have happen. I hope things get better, and I hope you never see that jerk again!

My mom was a 911 op for 25 years. She knows all too well, that 911 is used for the clean up in most cities these days. When you rely on law enforcement to protect you, your just asking for trouble. The only 911 I use is a colt 1911.

What can you do really..? Other than try to learn from it and protect yourself next time (pepper sprays your best shot). Guns are typical, only in MERICA! Its illegal to have a weapon of any sorts here... Unless its licensed and not used for protection..

If you really have a problem, go talk to the police about it. I'm sure you won't see this man again.

... and that is when the cops showed up.

However, the cops said that since he wasn't affiliated with a gang I shouldn't worry. They didn't even bother filling out a police report. Now, as a female when someone says they are going to shoot me, I consider this a threat.

What state are you in? Different states haves different programs available. In fl they have programs that will help you move, find a job etc...

I strongly recommend some combative classes. Knife/gun defense would be helpful.

I think you should try the police again and voice how you don't appreciate their lack of help when a man threatened you. Seriously, the cop you spoke to sounds like a lazy dead beat. If you can talk to a different cop, I'm sure they can be more helpful. Just keep trying until you finally get through their thick skulls.

I live in the UK and I appreicate things are different in the US, I'd be going this route ^^ as a 1st port of call, cant believe the cops did nothing that is atrocious. I would make sure my concerns are logged and dealt with maybe a letter that you insist they put on file and you get proof they have taken it and ask for updates on what they are doing.

You definately need to push for protection, it is your right and no doubt this ******* is sitting there feeling rather smug. In the meantime make sure you're not alone when you are likely to run into him. I hope you and your dog stay safe.