"I'm sorry, your spouse is going to die...

ThePhoenixRose
ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
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...within the next week. You may want to start making preparations." What do you do when the Dr. tells you this?
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  • MILFdoesabodyGd
    MILFdoesabodyGd Posts: 347 Member
    wow people. sad!
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    Please say this is not a serious thread?
  • Cindib13
    Cindib13 Posts: 234 Member
    I'd be devastated. My husband is my best friend. I would take time off work and spend every moment possible with him making memories and just be together.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    I have no clue what I would do.
  • Alzzak
    Alzzak Posts: 89 Member
    Please say this is not a serious thread?

    agreed...
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    Wait on her hand and foot trying to meet every want she has.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Edit i would have NEVER have left you!!! Sorry this happened to you!!!!
  • WestCoastPhoenix
    WestCoastPhoenix Posts: 802 Member
    Get a second opinion, since I'm not married.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    Please say this is not a serious thread?

    This is serious. To a degree. I posted in the chit-chat section because it didn't pertain to anything weight-related.

    I'm curious as to if anyone else would handle it the way my husband did when they told him this news. 3.5 years ago. Clearly, i did not die. They were wrong.
  • FloraSin
    FloraSin Posts: 188 Member
    I'd be crushed, but keep it inside so he could get the full deal of what's left. I'd put myself into debt for anything he wanted.

    Edited to add: I'm glad that you didn't die!
  • Tannedtiffers
    Tannedtiffers Posts: 558 Member
    what did he do??
  • yelpat
    yelpat Posts: 414 Member
    Rejoice
  • katrina1501
    katrina1501 Posts: 23 Member
    well real or not its not something to joke about

    you go through something like that and then laugh about it

    sorry but i dont find this funny at all
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    I actually have given this some thought. I would want to be strong because obviously miracles do happen but I fear I would fall apart. I guess honesty is better than naivety.
  • Dedee36
    Dedee36 Posts: 29 Member
    Honestly, I would be completely 100% heart broken. I wouldn't leave his side for anything. I would spend every moment with him and want our family to gather round and just enjoy each other.

    SO, then tell us what did your husband do?
  • nikinyx6
    nikinyx6 Posts: 772 Member
    I'm pretty sure I would settle into a depression so deep I would never return. I likely wouldn't eat, sleep, or let him out of my sight..... My guy is my best friend, and has been for over half my life...i've never been with anyone else and I'm totally happy with that....I just hope I never hear those words, the ambulance trip on xmas eve with him shook me badly enough
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    well real or not its not something to joke about

    you go through something like that and then laugh about it

    sorry but i dont find this funny at all

    When you've been through it, you can judge me for this. K? thanks.
  • shanolap
    shanolap Posts: 1,204 Member
    I do not know what I would do. But I like to be able to let him go with all my love, my respect and my appreciation for being the most wonderful person I have ever been blessed to be a part of. I cannot type this without wiping a tear.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    I'm pretty sure I would settle into a depression so deep I would never return. I likely wouldn't eat, sleep, or let him out of my sight..... My guy is my best friend, and has been for over half my life...i've never been with anyone else and I'm totally happy with that....I just hope I never hear those words, the ambulance trip on xmas eve with him shook me badly enough

    I'm so sorry you had to have that scare! Hope things are looking up for him now!!
  • snarky
    snarky Posts: 262 Member
    I am glad that the doctors were wrong! and I am curious how your husband reacted that you are asking the question.

    When my father was told he was going to die, we moved in to the hospice to spend as much time as we could with him and make sure that he was comfortable. It was rough, but the staff didn't mind having extra people around. I think they were used to it. He had been ill for a while. We weren't expecting a different outcome.
  • nikinyx6
    nikinyx6 Posts: 772 Member
    I cannot type this without wiping a tear.

    me too :cry:
  • Alzzak
    Alzzak Posts: 89 Member
    Please say this is not a serious thread?

    This is serious. To a degree. I posted in the chit-chat section because it didn't pertain to anything weight-related.

    I'm curious as to if anyone else would handle it the way my husband did when they told him this news. 3.5 years ago. Clearly, i did not die. They were wrong.

    What did he do? and way to go!!!
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    Who knows how I would really react. Probably be freaked out...and start getting hiim to make sure that his last will and testament is prepared...and then spend the rest of the time doing something we both love to do together. I'd try to make his week special.
  • nikinyx6
    nikinyx6 Posts: 772 Member
    I'm pretty sure I would settle into a depression so deep I would never return. I likely wouldn't eat, sleep, or let him out of my sight..... My guy is my best friend, and has been for over half my life...i've never been with anyone else and I'm totally happy with that....I just hope I never hear those words, the ambulance trip on xmas eve with him shook me badly enough

    I'm so sorry you had to have that scare! Hope things are looking up for him now!!

    He's OK, BAD accident with a very sharp knife...cut the artery, nerve, and three tendons off in his wrist, blade went in one side and out the other. He still has no feeling in his thumb and first finger, but he's regained most of the range of motion. Doctor aid if I hadn't done what I did, he would have died. So scary, blood sprayed all over the presents under the tree...sorry if that's TMI folks...
  • kwin91
    kwin91 Posts: 128
    I can't even imagine. He's everything to me. And more. Him just being away these past two months at boot camp has killed me! I hope that this isn't true. If it is I would spend every single second with him and maybe go to a place he's always wanted to go to if you have the money. That would be the most awful thing. I don't even want to imagine that...!!!
  • bmw4deb
    bmw4deb Posts: 1,324 Member
    I have heard those words, 12 years ago in april I lost my first love and the father
    of my children to cancer, he was 38 yrs old.
    What did i do ? I honestly don't remember I saw everything thru a haze and pondered
    why my neighbors were mowing there grass why kids were playing basket ball and
    laughing and birds were singing Didnt they know my Bill was dying ! I remeber a pic nic
    and a butterfly exhibit I remember screaming into a towel in my bathroom for god to
    take him cause i couldnt do it anymore and the guilt I still feel for that request.
    Fast forward almost 13 years my kids are grown and parents, my husband of almost 10yrs
    will be 44 and after surgery Chemo and Radiation over the past 10 months I now await those words again
    What if ? I hope you never get your answer........
  • Alexstrasza
    Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
    I'd push all the anger, hurt, sadness, and confusion out of me and stay positive and happy for my husband. I would do everything I could to make sure his last week was the most amazing week of his life.

    After he died I would probably break and be devestated for a very long time.

    Ugh. I don't even wanna think about it. My husband is my best friend, my love, my everything. I can't imagine life without him.
  • BarbWhite09
    BarbWhite09 Posts: 1,128 Member
    Please say this is not a serious thread?

    agreed...

    ^ this. :/
  • Notorious_T
    Notorious_T Posts: 384
    I lost mine last year in a car accident, the unexpected loss left so may what-ifs and made it so hard. I'd def prefer to never again deal with this loss, but I think knowing time is limited, you could at least say the things you needed to. :sick:
  • ForeverIrish
    ForeverIrish Posts: 227 Member
    I am not currently married but I do have a significant other. The BF is pretty cool and I don't want him to die.

    If this question was directed to me about my ex spouse, I'd tell you that this is a problem that needs to be addressed by the skank he knocked up.

    April 30th is my divorce date. I throw an Independence Day party every year. I was divorced in 1993.

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