When to get Married...

My boyfriend and I have been getting this for years from his family. Every time I see his aunt she runs up and grabs my hand to looks for a ring, it's super annoying. We don't get it so much from my family, just a quick comment every now and then from my mom. It might a little different for us though because we have been together for 8 years. It's not just marriage either, we always get asked when we are going to have kids. Sometimes it's like they have given up on the marriage part and just want the babies.

I am 39 almost 40 and they used to harass me all the time about kids and marriage. So I told them, last I recall this was my life, not theirs and - yeah I will live it as I see fit. Needless to say they have not bothered me since!

I have been married for 2 years now, but before that my grandmother was pretty bad. She got pulled over once and gave the cop my phone number.

I'm engaged, but this sounds like something my grandmother would have done as well... :laugh:

As a guy, I never had the pressure to get married from MY family, but at times you definitely can feel the pressure from the girl you're with. Girls have their families bugging them about babies and all of that talk of biological clocks ticking. I just don't think that's a good enough reason to rush into anything that involves the rest of your life. When you're in your 20's, you've (hopefully) got a long life ahead of you. You've got to make sure you're buying into that concept on your own terms. You need to love yourself and not be insecure about who you are. You need to be able to be 100% honest with yourself and know what you want in life. I know I didn't have that stuff down until I was about 30-31 years old, which means I probably wouldn't have been capable of being a great husband until now.

Regardless, I think that you'll KNOW when it's time. I was in long-term relationships where I never felt compelled to marry, but my wife and I got married about 8 months after we met, and it's been an amazing experience. It just felt right. Then again, we were both in our thirties, were completely happy with who we were, and had been through enough relationships to know exactly what we wanted and what would/wouldn't work. When we found it, we felt no pressure or anxiety about it. Heck, both of our families didn't even care when we told them that we'd probably come back from Vegas married. I guess I'm thankful to have such a laid back fam and a wife that didn't pressure me. Haha.

As a guy, I never had the pressure to get married from MY family, but at times you definitely can feel the pressure from the girl you're with. Girls have their families bugging them about babies and all of that talk of biological clocks ticking.

It's the complete opposite for my boyfriend and I, all the pressure comes from his family.

Only while I was in my 20s and 30s. I think they FINALLY gave up now that I turned 40 and still refuse to do it.

I got married at 21 to my High School sweetheart. My son has just gotten married at 18. Yes, I will be a grandfather soon (in November).

I think the most important thing to remember about getting married is that you need to find someone who will be willing to submit to. And someone who is willing to submit to you. If you are both in a role where you are looking out for the others best interest, your marriage will flourish. If you are just getting married because society say's you MUST, then I would recommend that you don't. You'll probably just end up another divorce statistic.

Marriage is a sacrifice of your self to include another person as a part of you. It's that whole 2 become 1 flesh thing. That's when it works best.

It's not 'when' to marry, but 'why' to marry.

Agree!!

Agree with this. I was 22 when I married my husband who was 25. No pressure from parents. In fact, mine were 100% against it. About to celebrate 3 year anniversary with two beautiful children (and no, I wasn't pregnant when we got married Get married when you're ready. Way better to wait then rush in and have it not work out.

I am 28 and pregnant with my first child. My mom has been bugging me about getting married but as of right now I feel like me and my boyfriend are already married. We have a house togther and well starting a family together. We plan to get married sometime after we have the baby but are in no hurry now. We would like to focus on getting ready for that instead of stresing about a wedding.

I think that when the time is right you will know when to get married. 23 is still very young. You still have alot of living left to do and if you dont feel like the one you are with is the ONE then just enjoy what you have now

I got married at 21 to my High School sweetheart. My son has just gotten married at 18. Yes, I will be a grandfather soon (in November).

I think the most important thing to remember about getting married is that you need to find someone who will be willing to submit to. And someone who is willing to submit to you. If you are both in a role where you are looking out for the others best interest, your marriage will flourish. If you are just getting married because society say's you MUST, then I would recommend that you don't. You'll probably just end up another divorce statistic.

Marriage is a sacrifice of your self to include another person as a part of you. It's that whole 2 become 1 flesh thing. That's when it works best.

It's not 'when' to marry, but 'why' to marry.

perfect response esp

Marriage is a sacrifice of your self to include another person as a part of you. It's that whole 2 become 1 flesh thing. That's when it works best.
It's not 'when' to marry, but 'why' to marry.

Yes for the past 5 years :ohwell: