Ladies, how long do you make him wait?

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  • _beautiful_disaster_
    _beautiful_disaster_ Posts: 182
    Buncha *kitten* up in here

    LMFAO :laugh:
  • usera1365
    usera1365 Posts: 146 Member
    Buncha *kitten* up in here

    LMFAO :laugh:


    This took the Cake.... Almost started crying LMAO at this one too....... OMG
  • lindsy721
    lindsy721 Posts: 350 Member
    For my husband, it cost 16 diamonds and the rest of his life. :-D
    (there are 3 diamonds in my engagement ring and 13 small diamonds in the wedding band)

    We saved sex for marriage :) We started dating when we were freshmen in college (I was 18), got married the summer we graduated (age 22). And have been happily married for 5 years, with many more to come :-D And as much unlimited, on-demand sex as he (or I!!) wants :-D

    I'm with you, sevsmom!! Excruciating, but worth waiting for!!


    Mine too girl! Ya'll are right - it is worth the wait. My husband always says 'Married sex is AWESOME!' I wouldn't have had it any other way!

    The problem with "married sex is awesome" is that you have no idea what other sex is like. You could think sex is awesome with your first partner, only to realize that other people make it MUCH, MUCH better.

    I'm thankfully I'm spending the rest of my life with my current partner who is amazing on every level, and not the first few who were horrible in bed.

    On the other hand, if they were both virgins and had never experienced other partners, they won't know what other sex is like anyway. Therefore, they can be perfectly content with their married sex because they are not comparing their partner's abilities to that of others.
    Thank you for understanding, Beautifully. Much appreciated. My husband and I were both virgins. He gets all the credit for finding out what gets me off, and we experiment all the time :-P As far as "knowing what else is out there"... quite honestly, I don't want to know. According to what my more sexually-experienced girlfriends are saying, it doesn't sound that great.

    I didn't wait. But I wanted to. It just didn't work out that way. I think it's great for those of you who wait until marriage. I admire you and appreciate your committment.
    Thank you, I appreciate your respect for our choice. I've gotten used to the nay-sayers, all the people telling us that our sex life "must suck" because we've only had each other, it's refreshing to see someone actually support us-- instead of calling us "religious freaks" or some other condescending term. Pre-marital abstinence is incredibly difficult, but we made it!! :-D Again, thank you.
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    LOL... mom always told me when i didnt have to hide that i was pooping, i was ready. 35 years old and i have a 15 & 13 year old daughter, and I have to say.. looking back.. she was right! =)
  • lupa_girl
    lupa_girl Posts: 21
    Buncha *kitten* up in here

    And........
  • beautifullyblessed16
    beautifullyblessed16 Posts: 180 Member
    Buncha *kitten* up in here
    :laugh: :laugh: One might also argue there are a "buncha judgemental prudes running up in here" too....

    Judgmental...no. Prude...maybe. Mature...yes.

    I had my premarital moments but once I became a Christian, my views changed. So I have been on both sides of the spectrum.
  • jsherrill92
    jsherrill92 Posts: 775 Member
    Buncha *kitten* up in here

    hahahahaha
  • andreamkelly
    andreamkelly Posts: 169
    I'm old... I was married first. It's nice to see younger couples waiting too.
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    For my husband, it cost 16 diamonds and the rest of his life. :-D
    (there are 3 diamonds in my engagement ring and 13 small diamonds in the wedding band)

    We saved sex for marriage :) We started dating when we were freshmen in college (I was 18), got married the summer we graduated (age 22). And have been happily married for 5 years, with many more to come :-D And as much unlimited, on-demand sex as he (or I!!) wants :-D

    I'm with you, sevsmom!! Excruciating, but worth waiting for!!


    Mine too girl! Ya'll are right - it is worth the wait. My husband always says 'Married sex is AWESOME!' I wouldn't have had it any other way!

    The problem with "married sex is awesome" is that you have no idea what other sex is like. You could think sex is awesome with your first partner, only to realize that other people make it MUCH, MUCH better.

    I'm thankfully I'm spending the rest of my life with my current partner who is amazing on every level, and not the first few who were horrible in bed.

    On the other hand, if they were both virgins and had never experienced other partners, they won't know what other sex is like anyway. Therefore, they can be perfectly content with their married sex because they are not comparing their partner's abilities to that of others.
    Thank you for understanding, Beautifully. Much appreciated. My husband and I were both virgins. He gets all the credit for finding out what gets me off, and we experiment all the time :-P As far as "knowing what else is out there"... quite honestly, I don't want to know. According to what my more sexually-experienced girlfriends are saying, it doesn't sound that great.

    I didn't wait. But I wanted to. It just didn't work out that way. I think it's great for those of you who wait until marriage. I admire you and appreciate your committment.
    Thank you, I appreciate your respect for our choice. I've gotten used to the nay-sayers, all the people telling us that our sex life "must suck" because we've only had each other, it's refreshing to see someone actually support us-- instead of calling us "religious freaks" or some other condescending term. Pre-marital abstinence is incredibly difficult, but we made it!! :-D Again, thank you.

    LOVE and COMMITTMENT is what makes sex Much MUCH better.. just IMO =)
  • MaryB2
    MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
    And people wonder why STDs and single parenthood is so prevalent. :huh:

    Any boy who will dump someone if they don't sleep with them by the 3rd or 5th date is not a man and not worth bothering with anyhow. If you sleep with such a loser on the 3rd date odds are you aren't going to be going out on a 4th date. He got what he wanted and is probably too immature to know there is more to dating than sex.

    (Yea, yea I see the ones who married the guy they slept with on the first date. I've also known of people to hit the lotto. Just because it happens once in a great while doesn't mean it's even remotely common.)

    It's probably more common than you think.
  • Gyoza11
    Gyoza11 Posts: 143 Member
    LOL... mom always told me when i didnt have to hide that i was pooping, i was ready. 35 years old and i have a 15 & 13 year old daughter, and I have to say.. looking back.. she was right! =)

    I dunno, peeing is one thing and I don't mind walking around naked but I'd NEVER want to be near him while he's pooping!!
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    I "taped" my now husband after a week... in a truck... in a school parking lot.:laugh:

    Mmm, so classy.

    I'm sorry... I wasn't asking for your aproval.:noway:

    BWAHAHA.... he is gonna wish he had a freaky little number like you one day! HELL YEAH! It dont matter where! It matters that you hold your man's attention!! LOVE this! me & the hubby tap it all kindsa places!!
  • lisasch67
    lisasch67 Posts: 135 Member
    3 - 5 dates. Depends on how much I like him... If I want him to stick around I make him wait. If I'm just interested in an ONS, then I don't. Seems backwards, but it's true.
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    LOL... mom always told me when i didnt have to hide that i was pooping, i was ready. 35 years old and i have a 15 & 13 year old daughter, and I have to say.. looking back.. she was right! =)

    I dunno, peeing is one thing and I don't mind walking around naked but I'd NEVER want to be near him while he's pooping!!

    OMG, who does?? i meant that you didnt have to turn the water on.. hold it, ect.. You just go. Hell, we have our privacy, but have no issues discussing anything.. through the door. LOL
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I "taped" my now husband after a week... in a truck... in a school parking lot.:laugh:

    Mmm, so classy.

    I'm sorry... I wasn't asking for your aproval.:noway:
    :laugh: Nice response!

    The problem with these people on their high-horses is that they often get knocked off them!!
  • Andwynn
    Andwynn Posts: 38 Member
    > mom always told me when i didnt have to hide that i was pooping, i was ready

    You poop??!
  • arielian
    arielian Posts: 200
    honestly i don't have a rule. but if i know that sex is our main focus. What's the point of waiting for the inevitable. If I see substance and interest in a relationship. I'll wait only to feel you out before I give the cookies.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    Buncha *kitten* up in here
    :laugh: :laugh: One might also argue there are a "buncha judgemental prudes running up in here" too....

    Judgmental...no. Prude...maybe. Mature...yes.

    I had my premarital moments but once I became a Christian, my views changed. So I have been on both sides of the spectrum.

    Right... Because calling women *kitten* is such a mature thing to do.
  • kcmcd
    kcmcd Posts: 239 Member
    Until he married me. :)
  • arielian
    arielian Posts: 200
    Its always different. Although I just now realized that the only two serious relationships I have had, I knew them for YEARS before having sex with them and I think it was like 5 months of being "best friends" before I had sex with them. Soooo, thats kind of odd. All the other people, MEH. I banged a couple dudes on the first date. I was more of a "Im using you for sex, please never call me again" kind of girl... Unless I really "liked" them. Haha.
    ^^^^^ I LOVE!
  • Suzannejl
    Suzannejl Posts: 212
    You guys can laugh and call me old fashioned, but we waited until our wedding night, and that was 22 years ago! Now I tell my kids the same thing!
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Until I want to have sex.
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    > mom always told me when i didnt have to hide that i was pooping, i was ready

    You poop??!

    :embarassed: umm, no? lol
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    I'm sorry, but where are you finding these guys who wait for months?

    Yeah, I know the cliche, a good guy is one who is willing to wait, but a real man is good enough to get in there a lot quicker.
    Seriously??? The real man is willing to wait. Its not a contest, IMO.

    I agree. :smile:
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    2 weeks minumum
  • beautifullyblessed16
    beautifullyblessed16 Posts: 180 Member
    Buncha *kitten* up in here
    :laugh: :laugh: One might also argue there are a "buncha judgemental prudes running up in here" too....

    Judgmental...no. Prude...maybe. Mature...yes.

    I had my premarital moments but once I became a Christian, my views changed. So I have been on both sides of the spectrum.

    Right... Because calling women *kitten* is such a mature thing to do.

    Whoa, whoa. You read that wrong. I wasn't calling anyone a *kitten*. You have to go back to read the previous responses. My response was directed to the one last quoted. I was saying that if someone is going to call me a prude for my beliefs, it doesn't necessarily make me judgmental.
  • FittingIn
    FittingIn Posts: 162 Member
    Excellent job waiting until marriage.
  • fitfocusedfamily
    fitfocusedfamily Posts: 117 Member
    no tapping before commitment?

    there's no way I would commit to a man without knowing his tappin skills....well.

    haha! I agree with both your comments! It depends on the chemistry. I also want to know their skill level before committing. The first kiss is usually a good indicator.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    What has happened to society where men talk like that. I hope my daughters don't date anyone like that. Kind of sick really. I mean really "tap that". Its not like she's a keg of beer. Commitment first is the way it should be.

    If I have a daughter in the future I hope she won't date a guy who wants to "tap" her either. I hope she has good judgement on who she wants to be with. Same if I had a son and he starts dating girls. I want it to mean something to them and not just sex.
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
    When I feel like it I guess
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