Ladies, how long do you make him wait?

personally, I dont think that sex should be something people just give away. Thats kind of err... degrading. I mean, I dont think its really worth it if the two people involved arent in a good solid commited relationship. Sex shouldnt be the foundation of a relationship... and I dont think it should be the glue either. For a good relationship to happen there has to be attraction and spark of course, but along with that, there has to be communication and trust and commitment.

I look at it like this, a woman is like a cake. All the guys want a piece of that cake. So a girl lets this guy have a slice, another guy have a slice, and another and another... then what? When that woman gets married, she has nothing but a tray of cake crumbs left. All used up and special moments wasted. she has to face her husband (the one man she would have wanted to give anything and everything to) and know that he isnt the only lucky guy who got to share such intimacy and passion with. They both have to live with the fact that some other (or alot of other) people know what that cake feels like, looks like, tastes like, etc and vice versa. Sex isnt a game. And when people do it frivolously, emotions run high and people get really hurt and broken down. It gives you a temporary high while you're doing it.. and then once thats gone and the persons gone,, you feel gross and empty and alone.

Ive done it before with one person many times..and he waited a year before he got it. But ive learned my lesson the hard way. The next guy to get a slice of this cake will be the one guy that will matter to me the most..my husband. Because sex is personal. And its meant to be full of love and passion. And I wont find a greater love or passion than the one I will receive from my husband.

Ladies. Have some dignity and honor. If a man doesnt wanna stay with you because you wont "give it up" then he isnt right for you in the first place. You WILL find a man to appreciate just laying next to you and conversing and laughing with you. You just have to be smart enough to walk away from the horn dog douche bags that arent.

RESPECT YOURSELF and men will respect you. Besides, ive found that guys think its so much hotter when they have to really wait and work for it.

You guys can laugh and call me old fashioned, but we waited until our wedding night, and that was 22 years ago! Now I tell my kids the same thing!

Same with me. We waited til after we were married (1.5 years after we met online).

Till he gets out of the ropes I tied him up in! hahahahaha :bigsmile:

personally, I dont think that sex should be something people just give away. Thats kind of err... degrading. I mean, I dont think its really worth it if the two people involved arent in a good solid commited relationship. Sex shouldnt be the foundation of a relationship... and I dont think it should be the glue either. For a good relationship to happen there has to be attraction and spark of course, but along with that, there has to be communication and trust and commitment.

I look at it like this, a woman is like a cake. All the guys want a piece of that cake. So a girl lets this guy have a slice, another guy have a slice, and another and another... then what? When that woman gets married, she has nothing but a tray of cake crumbs left. All used up and special moments wasted. she has to face her husband (the one man she would have wanted to give anything and everything to) and know that he isnt the only lucky guy who got to share such intimacy and passion with. They both have to live with the fact that some other (or alot of other) people know what that cake feels like, looks like, tastes like, etc and vice versa. Sex isnt a game. And when people do it frivolously, emotions run high and people get really hurt and broken down. It gives you a temporary high while you're doing it.. and then once thats gone and the persons gone,, you feel gross and empty and alone.

Ive done it before with one person many times..and he waited a year before he got it. But ive learned my lesson the hard way. The next guy to get a slice of this cake will be the one guy that will matter to me the most..my husband. Because sex is personal. And its meant to be full of love and passion. And I wont find a greater love or passion than the one I will receive from my husband.

Ladies. Have some dignity and honor. If a man doesnt wanna stay with you because you wont "give it up" then he isnt right for you in the first place. You WILL find a man to appreciate just laying next to you and conversing and laughing with you. You just have to be smart enough to walk away from the horn dog douche bags that arent.

RESPECT YOURSELF and men will respect you. Besides, ive found that guys think its so much hotter when they have to really wait and work for it.

Well said! You are wise past your years.

I'm old... I was married first. It's nice to see younger couples waiting too.

I married at 24 years old and we waited til after we were married :happy:

Well said! You are wise past your years.

Who are you talking to? lol

personally, I dont think that sex should be something people just give away. Thats kind of err... degrading. I mean, I dont think its really worth it if the two people involved arent in a good solid commited relationship. Sex shouldnt be the foundation of a relationship... and I dont think it should be the glue either. For a good relationship to happen there has to be attraction and spark of course, but along with that, there has to be communication and trust and commitment.

I look at it like this, a woman is like a cake. All the guys want a piece of that cake. So a girl lets this guy have a slice, another guy have a slice, and another and another... then what? When that woman gets married, she has nothing but a tray of cake crumbs left. All used up and special moments wasted. she has to face her husband (the one man she would have wanted to give anything and everything to) and know that he isnt the only lucky guy who got to share such intimacy and passion with. They both have to live with the fact that some other (or alot of other) people know what that cake feels like, looks like, tastes like, etc and vice versa. Sex isnt a game. And when people do it frivolously, emotions run high and people get really hurt and broken down. It gives you a temporary high while you're doing it.. and then once thats gone and the persons gone,, you feel gross and empty and alone.

Ive done it before with one person many times..and he waited a year before he got it. But ive learned my lesson the hard way. The next guy to get a slice of this cake will be the one guy that will matter to me the most..my husband. Because sex is personal. And its meant to be full of love and passion. And I wont find a greater love or passion than the one I will receive from my husband.

Ladies. Have some dignity and honor. If a man doesnt wanna stay with you because you wont "give it up" then he isnt right for you in the first place. You WILL find a man to appreciate just laying next to you and conversing and laughing with you. You just have to be smart enough to walk away from the horn dog douche bags that arent.

RESPECT YOURSELF and men will respect you. Besides, ive found that guys think its so much hotter when they have to really wait and work for it.

i agree with you and totally respect your post. i have a sister who is only not yet 16 and trust me, i am protective over her as if she's my daughter.

but, you're also very young. with age, your views can change. we do need to protect our young women from being used, but the older you get, its the men that need to watch out. i've got a few single girlfriends that can get quite predatory when the drought gets to be too long.

i can't believe i'm telling this to an 18 year old. forget everything i just said.

From 24 hours to 3 weeks. Depends on how smart he is.

Until I want to have sex.

Exactly. :laugh:

Well...I made a move the first night, but he wanted to wait a few weeks.

Biologically speaking, we are not meant to be monogamous...few mammals are. (VERY few).

I get historically/religiously sex is a much bigger deal than just reproduction, but in my mind sex is not meant to be restricted to one person. We are meant to reproduce as much as possible so evolutionarily it makes no sense to be monogamous. Granted, I don't think there's as much natural selection since humans became fully civilized, but that's a bit off topic. And I know that people aren't having sex just to reproduce, but it's just something to think about. We are MEANT to do it. and a lot.

I understand to an extent that people want sex to be important and special, but I feel like that's just forcing ourselves to hold off on something that is so central to why we are alive. I dont know, call me what you may, but I don't really see the big deal.

Sex is sex. Not a whole lot more in my mind

case by case basis

Exactly. If there's something there, why not go for it?

I'm not easy, I'm an practical person. I wear my "nice" perfume all the time, if I want to wear my "good" dress with no occasion, I do. That whole "you can die at any moment" thing. I live my life the way that makes me happy. If it isn't how you'd live yours, that's fine.

:laugh:

personally, I dont think that sex should be something people just give away. Thats kind of err... degrading. I mean, I dont think its really worth it if the two people involved arent in a good solid commited relationship. Sex shouldnt be the foundation of a relationship... and I dont think it should be the glue either. For a good relationship to happen there has to be attraction and spark of course, but along with that, there has to be communication and trust and commitment.

I look at it like this, a woman is like a cake. All the guys want a piece of that cake. So a girl lets this guy have a slice, another guy have a slice, and another and another... then what? When that woman gets married, she has nothing but a tray of cake crumbs left. All used up and special moments wasted. she has to face her husband (the one man she would have wanted to give anything and everything to) and know that he isnt the only lucky guy who got to share such intimacy and passion with. They both have to live with the fact that some other (or alot of other) people know what that cake feels like, looks like, tastes like, etc and vice versa. Sex isnt a game. And when people do it frivolously, emotions run high and people get really hurt and broken down. It gives you a temporary high while you're doing it.. and then once thats gone and the persons gone,, you feel gross and empty and alone.

Ive done it before with one person many times..and he waited a year before he got it. But ive learned my lesson the hard way. The next guy to get a slice of this cake will be the one guy that will matter to me the most..my husband. Because sex is personal. And its meant to be full of love and passion. And I wont find a greater love or passion than the one I will receive from my husband.

Ladies. Have some dignity and honor. If a man doesnt wanna stay with you because you wont "give it up" then he isnt right for you in the first place. You WILL find a man to appreciate just laying next to you and conversing and laughing with you. You just have to be smart enough to walk away from the horn dog douche bags that arent.

RESPECT YOURSELF and men will respect you. Besides, ive found that guys think its so much hotter when they have to really wait and work for it.

Well said! You are wise past your years.

Thank you sincerely, i appreciate that :]

On average, how many dates before you let him tap that?

'tap that'? what a childish, vulgar way to think!

i make him wait however long it takes for me to actually want to.
and he's free to apply the same rule to me.
i'm an adult, so i don't play stupid, childish games.
nor do i have sex that i don't want.
it might take weeks, it might take months.

it's not something i ''give away'', like i'm rationing chocolate to a kid.
it's something i share, a two way street,with someone i want.

It's an interesting question really. It really does depend on the situation/chemistry however. Some people need to feel a connection or commitment first. Others just "click" as they say.

Us men can say what we want but a lot of us do tend to feel "privileged" or "challenged" nowadays so we typically try to go for it as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

However, If I am at out on a first date with a woman who I really like and care for, I tend to try to end the night respectfully. If we have a connection then great but I never want to do anything that would make the woman feel cheap or disrespected.

Bottom line: Sex is supposed to be a wonderful, amazing thing that people share together. Best to not cheapen it you know?