Would you be offended...

mzcruise
mzcruise Posts: 24 Member
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If your significant other was more attracted to you after you lost weight? Like you lost 50 pounds and they couldn't keep their hands off you but before was only got intimate every once in awhile?
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  • nboot1
    nboot1 Posts: 41 Member
    In short- yes....however I know when I am happy about the way I look, so is he. I also know when I am feeling more confident in the way I look I am also more likely to come onto him. I always here confidence is very attractive...
  • missymuffet459
    missymuffet459 Posts: 162
    I go back and forth on this. The fat girl in me would have her feelings hurt. I should be loved no matter what size.

    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence. What is not to love? I know that I would be more attracted to my husband at a fit state rather than an unhealthy state.

    I know my husband LOVES me through thick and thin (pun intended). If he doesn't find me more attractive when I lose more than I will be offended!!!!
  • HulaHips83
    HulaHips83 Posts: 129
    No. Men are visual. The better the view, the more aroused they are. It's biology.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    I go back and forth on this. The fat girl in me would have her feelings hurt. I should be loved no matter what size.

    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence. What is not to love? I know that I would be more attracted to my husband at a fit state rather than an unhealthy state.

    I know my husband LOVES me through thick and thin (pun intended). If he doesn't find me more attractive when I lose more than I will be offended!!!!

    I think you hit the nail on the head.
  • jillica
    jillica Posts: 554 Member
    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence.

    CONFIDENCE IS SEXY! No, I wouldn't be offended. Even when I lose 10 lbs, I start to feel sexier, more confident and want to get intimate more often. Look out hubby when I lose 50 lbs!
  • Mynx21
    Mynx21 Posts: 21
    Yes i would, because then i clearly would know my weight/appearance in general wasn't as attractive as that person claimed it to be.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Yes, because I would feel he was with me for looks instead of love. It's different for my hubby though because when I married him I was 125 lbs at 5'7 and he barely wanted to touch me then throughout our marriage I gained 50 lbs and he couldn't keep his hands off me :tongue:
  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
    Not offended at all. Sad to say but most people do look more attractive when they are thinner versus heavier. Most people are very superficial when it comes to what they like and are attracted to. May sound *****y but it is the truth. I look alot more attractive now than I did 25lbs ago.
  • pdworkman
    pdworkman Posts: 1,342 Member
    What if the opposite? What if he lost interest when you got thinner?
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Absolutely not! My husband is all over me now that I've lost weight (he was before, but he REALLY likes the size I am now).

    I don't know why anyone would possibly be offended by this! Its all the more motivation to stick with it and maintain any losses you have!
  • msmimi
    msmimi Posts: 238 Member
    No. Most men are visual.
  • Razack541
    Razack541 Posts: 29
    I think a distinction needs to be made between loving and caring for your partner (the emotional level of your relationship) and sexual attraction (the physical level of your relationship). A person can love and care for you, emotionally commit to you fully and completely, and dedicate time everyday to making you feel happy and accepted and generally enjoy spending time with you.

    But that doesn't mean that you necessarily push their sexy time buttons. You shouldn't feel put of if, upon dropping a ton of pounds and generally becoming a more fit person, Your partner is more turned on by you. And Likely, You'll feel more turned on because you'll feel more confident in yourself and, lets face it, you'll be in better shape for better sex.

    My two cents (and the only opinion from a guy in this thread, apparently.)
  • GabrielleZelda
    GabrielleZelda Posts: 190 Member
    hmm that's a toughie. I don't think I'd be offended, because this person stuck with you throughout, right? Come to think of it, my man is more attracted to me now than he was 20 pounds ago! If anything it makes me feel a little foxy. He'S with you because he loves who you are, regardless of your weight. The fact that he's a little more attracted to you PHYSICALLY doesn't remove anything from your relationship, I don't think :-).
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    This should be good....
  • gemmalouise85
    gemmalouise85 Posts: 157 Member
    I ased my partner this and he said when i'm confident with my body its sexy as he feels like im happy and he gets exactly what he wants weather im 300lb or 120lb!
  • angeldaae
    angeldaae Posts: 348 Member
    If I myself look in the mirror and find myself more attractive when I'm at a lower weight, I have no reason to think that he wouldn't think the same.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Seriously, I just want to get laid. Does it matter the why?
  • garita93
    garita93 Posts: 267 Member
    I go back and forth on this. The fat girl in me would have her feelings hurt. I should be loved no matter what size.

    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence. What is not to love? I know that I would be more attracted to my husband at a fit state rather than an unhealthy state.

    I know my husband LOVES me through thick and thin (pun intended). If he doesn't find me more attractive when I lose more than I will be offended!!!!

    I think you hit the nail on the head.

    ditto!
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    sounds normal.
  • LizHowerton
    LizHowerton Posts: 329 Member
    No, not at all. I would enjoy it :)
  • PANZERIA
    PANZERIA Posts: 471 Member
    No. My s.o. is attracted to me no matter what. He loves my brains, my confidence, my sense of humor, and my personality. (I also have a large chest and great legs)

    HOWEVER, he has mentioned to me that over the past month, with my muscles getting more defined and my body slowly eating away at all the fat, he is more physically attracted to me.

    I don't take offence to it. I like it. I know he's attracted to me no matter what, but the fact that my body is getting leaner and more defined makes sex better.
  • jmcveigh82
    jmcveigh82 Posts: 3
    I think it would be silly to be offended by that. I like me more when my butt is smaller, why shouldn't he?
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Seriously, I just want to get laid. Does it matter the why?

    This made me smile.
  • chimpy_chimp
    chimpy_chimp Posts: 106 Member
    I think a distinction needs to be made between loving and caring for your partner (the emotional level of your relationship) and sexual attraction (the physical level of your relationship). A person can love and care for you, emotionally commit to you fully and completely, and dedicate time everyday to making you feel happy and accepted and generally enjoy spending time with you.

    But that doesn't mean that you necessarily push their sexy time buttons. You shouldn't feel put of if, upon dropping a ton of pounds and generally becoming a more fit person, Your partner is more turned on by you. And Likely, You'll feel more turned on because you'll feel more confident in yourself and, lets face it, you'll be in better shape for better sex.

    My two cents (and the only opinion from a guy in this thread, apparently.)

    ^^^THIS^^^ is the best comment here.
  • angelakj23
    angelakj23 Posts: 51
    Ditto!
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  • GeorgieLove708
    GeorgieLove708 Posts: 442 Member
    No, because I know he's still attracted to me, how could I not expect him to be more attracted to him when I'm not obese? Of course, he's insatiable now, so the only increase in sex if I lose weight would be an increase in sex drive on my part, not because of him. If we rarely had sex now I might feel differently.
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence.

    CONFIDENCE IS SEXY! No, I wouldn't be offended. Even when I lose 10 lbs, I start to feel sexier, more confident and want to get intimate more often. Look out hubby when I lose 50 lbs!


    ^^^^
    THIS! You can't put it all on your partner. If you are feeling better about yourself and showing that through confidence then they are going to react to that not just your looks. This is also about how available you make yourself. Once you've lost the weight you WANT to lose then you most likely will be more willing.
  • emmy3111
    emmy3111 Posts: 482 Member
    No.

    That's a major part of why I want to lose weight in the first place... to be more attractive :) I would certainly take an increase in interest as affirmation that what I'm doing is working!
  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
    WOW whats with all the man bashing in here.... im seriously offended .... this is rediculous and this goes on in every post.. i think im going to deactivate my account because not every guy is a stereotype...... thanks for ruining my life!

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