Would you be offended...

WOW whats with all the man bashing in here.... im seriously offended .... this is rediculous and this goes on in every post.. i think im going to deactivate my account because not every guy is a stereotype...... thanks for ruining my life!

If a thread on an internet site can ruin your life, Lord help you when a REAL crisis comes along.

I am 137-139 pounds at 5foot 7inches and my boyfriend fell in love with me at 159 pounds and the only time he wasn't attracted to me was when I was 129 pounds..said my cheekbones were like razors and I looked one missed meal from pushing up daises..That hurt.. A lot. But I gained it back and now I am toned and in good shape and he loves my body. He is proud of me for getting up every morning at 5am to stay in shape too

No, because I reacted the same way to his weight gain and subsequent loss. We love each other regardless of size, but holding all non-shallow traits equal, most people prefer a fitter partner.

my exboyfriend once told me early on in our relationship that he wasnt physically attracted to me because of my size. trust and believe we broke up, but 7 months later he came back and we have been best friends ever since. i sometimes have to remind myself that i am doing the weightloss for me and not him, but it will be satisfactory when i do lose the weight and he will realize what he missed out on. let it motivate you. and i truly believe that confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear, and you can find that when you go through a weighloss journey. it is just important to remind yourself who you are doing it for.

What about the opposite extreme? Would you be offended if you lost weight and were no longer attractive to your partner?

First and for most the reason to eat and exercise it to be healthier.

In any relationship, as you change your lifestyle you should be talking about the change with your partner to ensure compatibility. If your partner likes long hair and you get yours cut short you are likely to be less attractive to your partner. There is room for compromise. Likewise, if you prefer short hair, than you are likely not to seek out a partner that likes long hair. The same applies with body shape.

hell yes i would be offended. and that person probably wouldn't have been kept around long enough to see my progress. if you're gonna love me, you gotta love all of me. can't love my boney butt unless you can love my fat *kitten* as well. and everyone keeps saying that men are visual.... yeah, that totally makes it ok for him to care more about your looks than you as a person O_o

If the attraction's just physical, not really. I imagine I'd look better naked thus sexy time would be more enjoyable for the both of us. If it overtook the relationship then I would be offended because then I would feel like I was lied to from the beginning.

Logically I can't see why someone would be offended if they were with someone at their largest and had a good relationship then, lost the weight and continued to have a good relationship only now with a little more physical side to it. Because let's face it, if you're here chances are you're not comfortable being big and naked with your significant other but if you lose pounds and you know you look fabulous, you're going to be more willing to throw those clothes off than before.

It's always been obvious that guys want a sexy gal. When my body gets more defined, the Mr. gets uber touchy touchy versus the norm.

Sorry I didnt read all the replies, however, I would take it as a compliment... he is noticing the change in you, that means he never lost his affection for you, and seeing the positive changes and attitude turn him on.... that is a great thing!!

I probably wouldn't be too bothered. I think the more you love yourself, the more other people will be attracted to you as well so it's only natural that your boyfriend or girlfriend will want more of you when you're happier with yourself. I think the fact that they were with you before you lost weight says they found other things that they like about you- are you honestly going to complain about someone liking you more?

nope...not at all. I wasn't attracted to me before either lol

No, healthy is more attractive imo. Not to mention when you're more fit you are more frisky and you show yourself off more so that puts your partner in the mood. I talk about my diet and weight loss with my husband so we are talking about my body on daily basis and talking about my body just happens to turn my man on.

No.
Because it's natural to be attracted more while you improve as a person, be that physical or personality.

I think a distinction needs to be made between loving and caring for your partner (the emotional level of your relationship) and sexual attraction (the physical level of your relationship). A person can love and care for you, emotionally commit to you fully and completely, and dedicate time everyday to making you feel happy and accepted and generally enjoy spending time with you.

But that doesn't mean that you necessarily push their sexy time buttons. You shouldn't feel put of if, upon dropping a ton of pounds and generally becoming a more fit person, Your partner is more turned on by you. And Likely, You'll feel more turned on because you'll feel more confident in yourself and, lets face it, you'll be in better shape for better sex.

My two cents (and the only opinion from a guy in this thread, apparently.)

and it makes a whole lot of sense. I agree

No because if the weight that I was striving for now was the weight that I was when we met then it would stand to reason that his desire for me would have gone away once I gained.

I think that the problem in some relationships when a person starts gaining is that their partner doesn't say anything about it. I've told my husband countless times that if I start to get pudgy to let me know. Last year I was sitting outside and I did something and stuff began to jiggle and he looked at me and said "Honey, you're getting FAT!" Sounds mean but he was right and I didn't get offended because I've told him to tell me. If people were more open and honest in relationships then we wouldn't have those people who gain weight and then complain that their significant other doesn't find them attractive any more. If that's not how you were when you met him, if that's not what turned him on about you then why should it be ok to be that way now? Why should you be offended if he doesn't want to be intimate with you because you no longer turn him on?