The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...
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when people say Whoa you look so effin s e x y now i say HMPFf...i was always S e x y.
I realize I am old, but this could have been in Chinese and I would have understood it better.....
HMPFf?
Hold My Phone Freddy's finger?
Help My Poop Feels funny?
Heavy Metal People F--kin' footballs?
TOO FUNNY! I'm even older but I like guess number 2 (pardon the pun).0 -
Yes, I get it. Human nature can be so cruel.
Why would this anger anybody?
this,I think one of the things I'm not prepared for is getting attention from people who would never have looked twice at my heavy self.
It ticks me off.
Attraction is just nature's expression of the pro-creative instinct.
Of course you'll get more attention the more weight you lose.
That is to be expected.
Welcome to the human race.:drinker:
well bobby, let me try to explain it to you. Since both the posters you quoted were both women. Now, even though I've been happily married for 11 years and probably reasonably "trained"...haha....please feel free ladies to correct me if I'm in error here.....when women don't get attention from men because they are heavy (as in the first poster) and then they lose weight and start getting attention, the feeling is they don't have any worth unless they have a nice hot body. They don't feel respected or that they don't have worth as a human being other than just someone who looks good. They want to be valued as a "whole" person who has value way beyond just their physical appearance. This is where the anger comes from. If I'm not nice to look at, then I have no value. When all of us, men and women, have much more to offer and are much more valuable than just our physical appearance. Hope that clear its up for ya.
While your statement might be theoretically "true" in the abstract, Its male thinking. Which is normal because you are in fact a man, unless your profile pic is a complete lie.
Fit, beautiful people get more attention. Just look at the way people here on MFP post pictures of their favorite celebs they fantasize about. And think of that "Magic Mike" movie...
Nobody is posting pics of the fat celebs too much.
Again,,,,human nature...:drinker:0 -
I gained 35+ lbs in about a 1.5 years because I was traveling a lot for work and going out to eat, not sticking to my exercise routine and frequenting many a bar :P I work at a shipyard with 98% men who are sailors, lecherous old men or horny young guys. As the scale climbed, so did the comments on all the weight I had gained. It is not your typical work environment, and pretty normal to have this kind of dysfunctional relationship with coworkers, always teasing each other (really, nothing is off limits) so it didn't really bother me because I was "fat and happy" and none of these guys were not exactly fine specimens themselves.
What hurt my feelings the most is that I stopped turning heads (even though I hated it when it happened) because at that point I really couldn't ignore that I was gaining so much weight.
At my heaviest, one older guy I didn't even know came up to me and told me (in front of about 10 other relative strangers) that he remembers "when I was thin and looked good". Oh boy! Haha, good thing I have a thick skin to go with these thick thighs
Now that I have lost a lot of the weight, people are shy about saying anything even though they are curious, usually only mentioning it in private. Funny how that works, publicly tease me for my weight gain and only privately compliment me on they hard work I've put in to lose it.
This sounds awful in retrospect, but it really doesn't bother me.0 -
Fantastic responses!!! I've gotten the same reactions that a lot of people on here get.0
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I've just begun my journey and a co-worker said "you look different". Then she stares me down and says "your face is not as full. It was very round and now it looks thinner". Ok thanks?0
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when people say Whoa you look so effin s e x y now i say HMPFf...i was always S e x y.
I realize I am old, but this could have been in Chinese and I would have understood it better.....
HMPFf?
Hold My Phone Freddy's finger?
Help My Poop Feels funny?
Heavy Metal People F--kin' footballs?
i too wanna know
Lol. Me three!0 -
"You're not going to lose anymore weight are you?" is the most tiring phrase ever!!!
I agree!!!! Such an awkward question, how is one supposed to answer that??0 -
The funniest thing thus far was what my nana said to me....
NANA: "You're face is getting thinner" .... ME: Thanks nana, I'm working really hard (big smiley face)... NANA: But how come you're body's still fat..... ME: :S
This made me lol. Those nana's!0 -
Someone who shall remain nameless because they were previously a relative of mine by marriage, used to moo at overweight people in public, to their faces. He was one of those naturally skinny people who can eat all they want and never gain an ounce, and could never understand why people didn't just stop eating.0
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I am a pretty well known political type figure where I live, and my weight over the years has been mentioned on a local blog in a not very nice kind of way. It seems to be the way some men attempt to belittle women they can't actually win a debate with. I got to read about my own weight loss the other day when I saw the comment that I "must be doing something, because she's not so fat anymore". It's going to be interesting to see what they manage to come up with once I hit my goal and they can't use the "fat" insult when they have nothing else to say.
My favorite one- My husband is an RC Aircraft hobbyist. I refer to his planes as helicopters as "The Girlfriends" because he spends so much money on them. He's been saving for a new plane, and when I teased him about it the other day, he told me I was going to have to find another word for them, because he HAS a new skinny girlfriend, and best of all, he married her a long time ago.. I love that man!
Awww, so sweet!0 -
i had a bypass so i did go from 253 to 126 in less then a year. i was accused of being very ill and or doing drugs lol....
i have recently gained some weight back tho and am now 144. its way healthier looking but im scared of the regain and going back on track here at mfp.
oh and i also kinda dont like all the male attention i get now. at first it was flattering. the whistles and catcalls just walking down the street. but it got annoying. they are seeing my body, not ME. and well they would not have liked me at my worst so they have no chance with me at my best.0 -
Every time my father-in-law would see me he'd say, "You still on that diet?" And I would say, "It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle change." Every single time he would laugh like I told the world's funniest joke and walk away shaking his head, saying, "lifestyle change." Then he'd laugh some more.
Eventually I just started saying, "No. I'm not on a diet."0 -
Love. Love thisI did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
"How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.
"Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.
"Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.
And my favorite:
"Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.
Oh wait...one more...
"Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
The best!!!!!!0 -
I haven't lost all that much yet but the inches have melted off since I started strength workouts. I have this one friend who knows I've been trying to get healthy and she makes this really snarky comments that should be compliments, but you can tell by the way she says it that it's just sarcasm. Her comments don't bother me nearly as much as my efforts seem to be bothering her :laugh:0
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"Oooo, so you're a health nut now." Not really? I'm just not eating crap all the time. >.>0
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My boss: "You sure are getting skinny! How come?" Um....I'm not trying to get "skinny". I'm trying to get healthy.
My aunt (when I mentioned going to the gym on my FB page): "I don't care what you say. You're too skinny." I am NOT "too skinny" I still have about 5 pounds to go before my belly is flat and she hasn't seen me in years. She can STFU now. I can't stand when people argue with me about how much weight *I* should or should not lose.
My coworker (when I refused carrot cake): "That's how you stay so skinny" No, I just choose not to pollute my body with junk.
Random coworker dude who only works on Friday: "You've lost a lot of weight!" When was the last time you talked to me?? Um...never. Creepy.
Another coworker: : "Have you lost weight?" Me: "Yes" Coworker: "On purpose?" Me: "Yes" Coworker: "Congratulations!"
People are strange.
I always hate when people comment on my weight loss with "You don't need to lose weight" or something similar. I always respond with "Well, you haven't seen me naked." That always shuts them up! :devil:0 -
this from someone who has only seen me on web came in the last two years. My FIL. I told him by the time hubby and come to visit over labor day, we will be have lost noticeable weight. I explained mpf. He said "well that is good because when i watched on you chrstmas day, I noticed you ate more than 7,000 (yes 7,000) calories. Im like wtf. the web cam is no longer. and he can kiss my ever getting healthier butt. I cannot even imagine what 7,000 calories looks like? I also have an Eatting Disorder? yea lets make that worse. So got rid of the cam, it will forever be broken. lol and he can just see the healier me and hubby in Sept. And be surprised when i break out my scale and measuring cups.0
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hahaha too funny, i really did had to buy all new bras lol.0
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I don't see how you do it.
You don't need to lose no more weight.
You need to eat more meat.0 -
"You don't need to lose anymore weight."0
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So instead of being condescending or taking it as an insult, as it seems many people do, why not let these people know what changes you have made to get where you are, so they can too. Because that's usually the reason people ask. This whole site is about everyone helping everyone get more fit, so why is everyone so against that same camaraderie in the real world?
This^^^^^!! I am an MFP poster child. I tell people about this site, help them get started...it's almost like I found religion all over again. Well I guess I did find a new healthy life, so that's pretty cool too!0 -
I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.
It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?
When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"
Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!
My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.
What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?
My husband makes funny quirks here and there and accused me of having a boyfriend at the gym since I spend so much time there. I told him I do and his name is "Jack" as in "Jumping Jack" so occasionally he will ask me how Jack is doing, and I have something ultra witty to reply with and he shuts up!
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"OMG, you look great! Not that you looked bad before, but really really great! what's your secret?" When I tell them its the only thing I know that's 100%guaranteed to work I have them on the edge of their seats. Then I drop the bomb. "I make good food choices, I log my food, watch my calories and exercise faithfully!" You should see the crushed look on their faces [Mhua ha ha ha!!]
bahahaha this made me crack up!0 -
to be honest I would be so happy to get half of the comments people are posting on here, haha.0
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Someone asked me "Are you dying? Why'd you get so skinny???" Then there are the people that,instead of going "You lost a lot of weight, you look great" they just say "You lost a lot of weight..." Not sure how to reply to that. I wouldn't say "thank you" bc it doesnt sound like a compliment. What is the correct answer to that??? "Yes, yes I did." Or the people who say, "You've lost alot of weight,don't lose anymore." bc they think you're starving yourself. Actually bro, I probably eat twice as often as you do in a day,but thanx for your concern!
Anything short of a compliment, I would NEVER say anything about someone's weight! Some people are so insensitive!0 -
I understand the feeling, BUT, I, also, have probably said some stupid things to people, too. It's not that I/people meant to be mean OR stupid, sometimes we want to acknowledge something and just don't know what to say. So, unless it's said in a mean way or hateful way, maybe we could cut people some slack. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say and, if you are anything like me, sometimes words just don't come out right. I don't mean to hurt feelings, but I know that I have.
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Someone came up to me I hadn't seen for a while and they said, "Oh my gosh, you must've lost over 200 pounds"! Well if that were the case I would be down to a whopping 40 pounds. It hurt knowing that she thought I was THAT big. Ouchy.0
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when people say Whoa you look so effin s e x y now i say HMPFf...i was always S e x y.
I realize I am old, but this could have been in Chinese and I would have understood it better.....
HMPFf?
Hold My Phone Freddy's finger?
Help My Poop Feels funny?
Heavy Metal People F--kin' footballs?
lol! its an onomonopia!0 -
I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.
It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?
When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"
Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!
My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.
What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?
I could have wrote this post, word to word until I got to the part about making stuff up. Every person I'm around can clearly see I have changed my eating habits and choices. They know I'm also exercising and it is working for me.
Now for the craziest thing said to me ........... "You need to stop losing, you are going to blow away." Why do they say that? Could it be because I now weigh a lot less than they do??? I have lost a lot of weight, but I still have several pounds to go for a healthy weight.0 -
Ooh, ooh, I get this. My conversation goes like this, though:
Them: When are you gonna quit losing weight?
Me: When I get back to my birth weight - 6 pounds, 11 ounces.
Them: Hhmmph. Well, I think you've lost enough.
Me: Hhmmph. That's because you haven't seen me nekkid (I know it's "naked." I'm from the south)
Your birth weight...bahahaha. I'll have to use this whenever someone says something ignorant to me.0
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