Does your SO CARE how much you weigh?

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  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    So more importantly than does your SO KNOW what you weight? Does your SO CARE about that number?

    He's been told many times, but I'd bet he couldn't tell you what it is because he doesn't care. I believe he'd love me no matter what, but I'm also sure he cares what I look like. But a number on the scale? Nope, he doesn't care.
  • pagingdoctork
    pagingdoctork Posts: 40 Member
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    Technically, I'm underweight and I always have been, but not enough that it's unhealthy. He always tells me how "beautiful" I am, occasionally how "beautiful and thin," which is a lot stupid, but whatever.

    Occasionally though, he'd tell me that I'd look good thinner, and when I tell him that'd be really unhealthy, he says it would be fine... little comments here and there. I'm focused on getting more toned, lowering my body fat percentage, and creating more lean muscle mass. When I tell him I'm going to start lifting, he always tells me I don't "need to," which I think means he doesn't want me to be stronger than he is (he's 6 feet and 130 pounds, so tiny).

    Now that I'm committed to eating better and working out, he's seeing the changes in my body, and he likes them a lot. Now he tells me that he wants to go to the gym together so he can bulk up ;)
  • akaporn
    akaporn Posts: 231 Member
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    She doesn't care about my weight. But, she hates the belly fat. I feel the same way.
  • reshapemariah21
    reshapemariah21 Posts: 184 Member
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    He knows exactly what I weigh and he cares. He wants me to be happy and is 100% supportive of my journey here. I tell him my weight every time I weigh. 1) So he can pat me on the back for doing well. 2) So he can remind me not to eat all the cookies if I am doing poorly. :)

    This! :happy:
  • 17ChargerGirl17
    17ChargerGirl17 Posts: 441
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    My boyfriend has never asked, nor have I ever told him.
    We got together when I was 75 heavier then I am now and he has never said one negative thing to me about my weight.
    But since I'm not losing weight for him I guess it doesnt really matter anyways. This is all about me and he is very supportive of everything I do. And tells me how proud he is of me every time I hit a new mini goal.
    I read some of the posts and realize I am one lucky girl......
  • lindalee0315
    lindalee0315 Posts: 527 Member
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    My husband definitely cares what I weigh. He doesn't know the number, but his first wife weighed 430 lbs. (He paid for her weight loss surgery--she was supposed to lose 30 lbs to show her commitment to the process so the insurance would pay for it, but she couldn't do it, so he ended up paying for it. She lied and told him she did lose the weight, and then presented him with a $25k bill!) Then, he paid for her skin removal, tummy tuck and boob job as part of their divorce. Now, several years later, she's getting very heavy again. I think it scarred him. He's very supportive and tells me I look "hot" all of the time, but he would really care if I got big.
  • JamesterCK
    JamesterCK Posts: 109 Member
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    My husband knows, I don't feel bad telling him because he's so supportive and loves me no matter what. It's just a number. I'm definitely more bothered by it than he is. I think it's because my husband weighs less than me right now and he is 6 inches taller than me. That's just not supposed to happen; makes me feel like crap. I'm headed in the right direction though, so soon that won't be true!
  • miadvh
    miadvh Posts: 290 Member
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    Well..He's never showed signs of caring. :) I got up to 60 lbs over what I was when we got together, and he never said anything. He knows the number, but doesn't give it any special attention. He's very supportive of me losing weight without, but isn't pushy about it. <3
  • sameervasta
    sameervasta Posts: 25
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    I was obese and huge when my ex and I started dating, and while she was always concerned about my health (family history of heart disease), she never really cared about my size or look. Funny enough, after I started losing weight (and especially after losing 100lbs and looking better than I have ever in my life), she started to get disinterested and eventually found someone new. I always thought it was the opposite: losing weight and looking better would help me keep her, and not chase her away. Strange how the world works sometimes.
  • kitinboots
    kitinboots Posts: 589 Member
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    My SO has joked that if I were fat it would be a problem for him, but the amount that my weight fluctuates doesn't bother him at all. I think he's more bothered by my eating habits.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
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    mine doesn't carr. He knows I want to 'lose a couple pounds' and he's fine with that, but he also thinks I look fine and sexy as is.

    Our little deal is for him to let me know if I start getting too skinny or too fat.
    I am 5' 6.5" I had some problems in the beginning of the marriage with keeing weight on. I got down to 109. not good for my heigth. He did not like that andd helped me get healthier.

    I weigh 143 now, which both my dctors tell me is a good weight, But I want to be 135- which is also a good acording to their charts.

    My husband be perfectly happy with my body if I was 125-160#

    he is thin, BUT, at 48 had belly fat. It really bugs me, but he doesn't seem to care or want to do anything I'd feel too shallow to but him about it much.
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
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    Nope. Not unless I got obese and it started to affect my health negatively. [his words]
  • mtaylor33557
    mtaylor33557 Posts: 542 Member
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    I think my husband cares about how I feel about what I weight. He's never took an interest in my weight, but he knew that I had gained and gotten to a point where it bothered me tremendously... so as I started to lose, I would tell him how much I was losing and he would give great feedback.

    Now I've got comfortable with my weight again, so if I get on the scale and it's gone down.. I tell him the number and he'll usually act happy for me.

    I can say that no matter what I've weighed, I've never seen a difference in his attitude toward me.
  • hockeymama1963
    hockeymama1963 Posts: 45 Member
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    yes he cares.

    he's very superficial when it comes to what is "acceptable" for a woman to weigh


    You may need to re think this relationship kiddo. Take it from experien)ce: My hubby of 10 years (now ex-hubby of 17 years) decided that after the birth of our 2nd child that he couldn't be married to a woman 20 pounds overweight- He had been nagging me from the moment my 2nd baby was born. It didn't matter that he was 50 pounds heavier than he was when we got married. He decided when our son was 2 and I hadn't lost the 20 pounds he was done and couldn't be married to someone who weighed 150 pounds and threw me out with both of the children
  • alpine1994
    alpine1994 Posts: 1,915 Member
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    Following on from does your SO know how much you weigh, I was quite surprised how many people said "no secrets here". I wouldn't keep my weight a secret from my husband, but I can't imagine him caring for a millisecond what I weigh. I wouldn't interest him.

    So more importantly than does your SO KNOW what you weight? Does your SO CARE about that number?

    It was surprising to me too to see so many people saying their bf/husband knew, so I told my bf that there's no reason for me to hide it and I wrote it down on the calendar where I track my progress and he can look at it if he wants. He just kind of laughed and was like ok crazy! Whenever I call myself fat, he gets offended and says "you are NOT fat". (I am in the 160s at 5'8") He tells me that he doesn't think losing weight is necessary for me but he will support me if that's what I want to do. This is all roses and cupcakes to hear him say that, but the problem lies more within me than him. Someone once broke up with me because I wasn't attractive to him anymore because of my weight. I definitely appreciate his honesty, but I think it just screwed me up a little and maybe in the back of my mind I'm a little scared my current bf will do that to me. Horrible....

    (edited to take out bf's name, whoopsies)
  • KevDaniel
    KevDaniel Posts: 449 Member
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    I know exactly what my wife weighs. I think it would be really absurd to judge your own spouse so I support whatever she wants to do. If it became a health concern I would have her see a doctor because I feel that it coming from her husband would seem judgmental but if her doctor told her straight up it was hurting her then it would come across as medical advice. I am in this for a lifetime and I want her to be happy.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
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    Mine couldn't give a monkeys what I weigh, he never noticed when I was heavier, although to be fair I was never heavier than 148 and never said I looked prettier lighter, at my lightest 122lbs. I'm 5'6 and the only thing he ever says is that I'm beautiful! I never do the 'Do I look fat in this?' thing though.
  • NaomiDollar
    NaomiDollar Posts: 49 Member
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    My SO doesn't care. He loves me just the way I am. But he also supports me in my endeavor to get healthy.
  • GeekyGirlLyn
    GeekyGirlLyn Posts: 238 Member
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    When I was dating my ex he did not know. I routinely told him 30-40 pounds less than I was. Simply because he wouldnt constantly say "I could never date a girl who weighed the same as me, you should be glad you weigh less." Looking back I see it was just one more flaw in our relationship, one more sign I should leave but at the time I lied so he didnt know. Now...well he can go do something anatomically impossible. I dont care who knows. lol. Im the only one it matters to.
  • prettygirlhoward
    prettygirlhoward Posts: 338 Member
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    I don't know if he knows ho wmuch I weigh or not I don't remember if I ever told him... but he doesn't normally ask. But even when I was real heavy he NEVER ONCE said anything to me that was mean or rude about losing it. When I used to cry after I had my daughter and seeing the physical change it did to my body he would tell me I was beautiful and that to not be ashamed of myself, I just had a baby and I need to give my body time to heal and adjust.... and if there is something I don't like about myself he said "only you can change it" and no matter what my body looks like or how much I weigh he will always love me.

    :flowerforyou:

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