Called fat by a stranger.

I can't believe they said that to you! I'm only 17, but never in my life have I EVER said anything like that to anyone else, and I never would. Don't let this deter you from having kids. The kids didn't just happen to be the way they are, they were raised that way or have been affected by other children who were raised poorly. & I agree with you, there are plenty of them out there. When I was at my biggest (150 pounds, doesn't sound heavy, but I'm only 4'11), a young girl (probably no older than 12) asked me if I was pregnant while I was at work. Her mom smacked the daylights out of her for that, and then told her never to say anything like that to a stranger. It hurt my feelings, but the mom was obviously shocked. She probably learned the rude behavior from other children.
My mom used to be 270 pounds and got made fun of all the time. She had gastric bypass surgery 10 years ago and now weighs 150 pounds.
Use it as motivation and take any negativity with a grain of salt!

my little brother calls me fat. but i use it as motivation and what's funny is that even though he calls me fat he motivates me to do push ups with him and sit ups and workout every morning... so i guess it not that bad.lol oh and he's 9.

It amazes me how poorly some people raise their children and teach them to be heartless and cruel. I would never have disrespected someone like that. Not then, not now, not ever. For gooness sake, at 24 I still won't even say "crap" in front of my parents

Don't let a young, immature, and rude kid tear you down. Good for you for getting your exercise in!! Just keep your head up and keep doing you. Remember all of us on MFP here cheering you on and supporting you! :flowerforyou:

To bad being stupid isn't painfull, maybe they would wisen up!

Those boys need to be taken out behind the woodshed for a "attitude adjustment"!!

That makes me sick and my heart goes out to you.People say stuff like that and they don't realize what kind of damage it does. This guy I knew from elementary school, all the way up through high school keeps trying t o add me on Facebook and I won't add him because he called me a fat pig in 7th grade. Yeah, really. I'm 25 now. I can hear his voice as clear as if he was behind me saying it again though. I'm sorry you had to go through that. *kitten* those brats.

Too many kids without adequate supervision or discipline, too many essentially absent parents. Sorry this happened. Unfortunately, it's all too common.

That reminds me of something I read the other day, it said something like "the same people who make fun of overweight people for eating bad, still do the same thing when they're trying to work out/change. sorry I can't whip out my magic wand and change over night."
I've always been scared of kids saying something, just because I've heard of them acting like this so often
But good for you for standing up for yourself. I probably wouldn't have, but he deserved to be slapped.

Kids are so cruel these days. But, it isn't just their fault...it is the parents fault too. They obviously have a couple of crappy parents. Cruel kids shouldn't stop you from having kids though.

A guy from XEROX came to my school once, years ago, to train our staff on proper use of the new copier. When we were all crowded around to see, he looked at me and said, "When are you due?" I turned red and couldn't speak. A friend said, "She's not pregnant." He apologized and I was like, "Whatever. I know I'm fat. I just had a baby 6 months ago." He goes, "Oh then that's why." Dude, shut up, you already effed up. LOL. Another friend who was much older than me and nearly 400 pounds laughed and said, "I'm not pregnant either. This is all fat." It made the guy feel terrible. He goes, "Well it's just that I've seen so many pregnant people here." One of the teachers, who was pregnant, goes, "Really? How many? Because it's just me and the school psych." LOL. Oh my goodness.... SOME PEOPLE.....

I NEVER forgot how that felt.
Because of that very moment in my life I will NEVER EVER ask a woman if she is expecting. In fact our preschool teacher was looking kind of big last winter but I kept it to myself. In about April she said something that let me know she was for sure pregnant and I said, "Oh my goodness. I didn't even know!" She looked at me like I was nuts. But really it wasn't for sure. She could have just been gaining weight.

When I was in college and about 18 years old, I went to the mall with my sister. A boy, maybe about 15 or 16 years old, came up to me, tapped me on the shoulder and said, "You're a fat, ugly B****." I was like WHAT? He repeated it. My sister told him to shut up and that he was a jerk. He ran back to his group of guy friends and a few of them high-fived him. They were all laughing and cheering. I cried and cried.

People are cruel...
Not just kids. Some people just have no filters. Others are just so clueless.

Im so sorry this happened to you! My mother in law calls me a "fat cow" all the time... I just take it from where its coming from. Yeah they were buttholes for saying it, I would feel more sorry for them because their parents obviously dont care about them.

Keep your chin up girl! You are 23lbs into this, and thats no easy feat!! Good job on how far you have come, and use this as ammo the next time you dont feel like working out or want to eat badly!

Holy crap your MIL sounds charming.

I feel your pain. the whole reason I started trying to lose weight was because I read in a text message that my husband had wrote to his friend about how fat I've gotten in the last few months and how I'm too fat and lazy to find a new job (I'm a bar tender and where I work sucks). He's never said it to my face which is what hurt the most.and the only reason I've gained weight in the past few months was because he's in the army and we just got stationed in a small town so I was depressed and also he is such a picky eater that we often eat out because I'm basically tired of cooking to satisfy his taste buds. Sorry to vent lol, I'm just saying I know how bad being called fat hurts, just know your not alone and that you are working to improve yourself for yourself.

OMG! your husband said that? Teach him a lesson, lose the weight and text his friend and tell him your losing the most weight of all, your hubby!

A couple of points:

1.) Not all 12 year olds are *kitten*. Just like adults, they come in all shapes, sizes, and attitudes.
2.) Not all *kitten* have bad parents. Sometimes, being around their friends is all it takes to have them doing something they know their parents would kick their butts for.
3.) How you carry yourself is half the battle. I've never once been called fat by anyone, but I think it's because of how I carry myself. No one doubts that I would respond - and likely pretty harshly - if anyone dared call me anything but "Ma'am". And no, I'm not 6'4" and scary. I'm 5'2" and very feminine. But I'm confident in who I am, and it shows in how I walk, talk, and behave. Yes, I'm fat, and I'm worth my weight in gold. I recognize this, so others recognize it, too.
4.) While I understand that you're pretty upset about the whole situation, you really are no better by blaming all 12 year olds and their parents for what two a$$hats did to you. A broad brush is a broad brush, no matter what color it's painting. I've raised four amazing individuals, each of which would have shut any friend of theirs down for doing something like what was done to you. And I've seen kids with great parents do really stupid stuff when Mom and Dad didn't happen to be around.

Good luck with your goals. You'll get there, if for no other reason than to show two little *kitten* what you're made of.

EDIT: As for the pregnant thing, I've made it a rule never to ask a woman if she's pregnant unless I see the child coming out of her womb myself. If I'm told a woman is pregnant when I wasn't sure, I always respond, "Well, I thought so, but I've learned never to ask." Women ALWAYS appreciate where I'm coming from on that one.