Stop saying great job when it's not!!!

I get annoyed when people tell me "its ok, tomorrow's another day". No need to try to comfort me when I'm not feeling bad.

You can still save the thread sweet child. One way to save the thread is basically post this.

Worst photo ever.

You can still save the thread sweet child. One way to save the thread is basically post this.

Worst photo ever.

agreed ^^^ out of all the pictures on the interweb.... really?

I personally do not comment on diaries if I have not looked at them, however with that being said I do not have the best eating habits so what I may think is a good day may not be to someone who's been on this road longer than I. All you can do is be honest and give constructive criticism to those you call your friends.

It's all true!! I eat healthy for the most part and well sure I could boost up my calorie burn. But cheese burgers, french fries, nacho's, pizza!! All of it's bad for you no matter how many calories you burn!! There forgetting about the big picture!!! There...thats my rant!! LOL

Did someone say Nachos?


Anyway, Great Job!

I am new here (1 week) I don't know a lot of back story to people on my list, but I try to figure out before I comment- some have enough things going in they just need a friend, some really do need and want to be reminded to get more protein, or whatever.

I just finished reading my friends' food diaries- some are private- so I usually don't say 'good job'- how do I know? maybe all they eat are 3 twinkies a day. but I do sometimes say something like "Good job on constant logging'- after all, for some, just constancy is a start (or maybe they aren't here for food support)

I have a friend who is breastfeeding, her foods were great- but water was low and I praised her foods &I encouraged her to get more water- it's extra important in that stage. (BTDT x 3- water is so needed)

my friends usually post what if going on if they are having a bad day or even bad week- my one friend- her dad has been in the hospital- she's been driving back and forth with kids- helping her mom, there are 'big family meals'- and right now it is more important for her to be helping her family that packing tuna and carrot lunches to eat right.

and I have un-friended a few people because I couldn't witness their eating anymore.

I haven't been here long enough to get defriended for my honest comments, but I won't be surprised if it happens. I try to be kind in my wording- my goal is to help- but some people wil get fed up with me, I bet.

I agree with you about the first part, I don't think it helps anyone to encourage them when they're not exactly doing well. But constructive criticism is always a plus. As far as the photo thing goes, I don't agree. Sometimes when people lose weight they gain a lot of confidence, and want to share it. It doesn't always show right off though. Take myself for example, I have lost 18 pounds, and can't see a difference anywhere. Even in the way my clothes fit. I dunno whats up, but I have still lost the weight. People get excited that they lose 20 pounds, maybe in their mind they can see a difference. Who are we to bring them down by saying "I don't see a difference".

I hadn't thought about the photos this way, but now that you say this, I totally agree. Also, when people are asking if you can see a difference they may be needing the motivation to keep going because they themselves aren't seeing it.

Also, in regard to the food- people do blindly comment, but I do have to say that there are days when I plan to splurge (example: my parent's took the hubs and I out for anniversary dinner this week) and I do feel proud if I was able to control the rest of my day well enough that I can fit in the special dinner without killing my calorie count even though the macros will still be way off for that particular day.

You can still save the thread sweet child. One way to save the thread is basically post this.

Worst photo ever.

agreed ^^^ out of all the pictures on the interweb.... really?

Sigh it is not about the photo. You guys are a trollers dream. This crappy picture happens to be popular.

I get what you're saying. I do, but here's my answer.

I don't eat completely clean and I don't expect my friends to either. So, if I see McDonalds or Pizza Hut on their list and they still keep it under? I'm gonna say "great job" and, yes, actually mean it. I don't even care if it's every day as long as they're under, especially if they are just starting out.

Also, when my friends (myself included) go on vacation and go over by 100 to 500 calories one or two days, I'm not going to beat them up over it. I'm going to praise them for not going 3,500 calories in one day and totally setting themselves back. Will I tell them to kick it in gear the next day? Yes, but I'm not going to pass their "day" by, by not saying anything just because they over did it a little. We all make mistakes.

Oh, and I also have a friend that hardly gets up to 1000 calories a day, but when she does, I say "good job" and mean it, because 1000 calories is better than what she was doing. See, you may not see this as a "good job," but I will, because I've been following what she's been doing.

Bottom line, I refuse to snub my nose at people or scroll past their post just because their weightloss actions don't "measure up" to whatever is "ideal." If they are trying and still having a bad day or, heck, even a week, I'll give them praise for what little they actually did while also giving them a nudge to kick it back in gear. I do this, because I feel praise does wonders over negativity/nothing at all. It's what helps me; So, I want to do that for my pals as well.

The best nachos come from your local taco shops, you can get them from Taco Bell but they arent real. I think i'm gonig to say screw it and have nachos for lunch tomorrow.

Yep nachos are fine if they don't put you 1,000 over net, and the OP already has stated as much. The danger I have mostly seen is people eating or netting 200 or 300 cals a day...no need to lend moral support to an eating disorder or the medical complications of rapid weight loss.

I only say it when I mean it, otherwise I go by that old adage "If you ain't got nothin' nice to say, don't say anything at all". I'm not much of a critic or diet police when it comes to people's diaries. I don't give unsolicited advice.

I do wish there was a shortcut "good job" button (similar to Facebook's "like" button) so I can give my props. But I only give credit when credit is due. I can tell when someone isn't being genuine about mine, when they give me high 5's for being under but not even realizing that the whole day's consumption was spent on crap.

It's kinda entertaining.

Under is under......