Ladies: Best Way To Approach You In The Gym?
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You should probably avoid approaching a woman at the gym and hope to bump into her somewhere else. Working out is often a very personal thing that allows a person to tune out the rest of the world and concentrate on themselves. I personally wouldn't like the intrusion. If you saw me outside of the gym and then approached me and mentioned that you recognized me from the gym that would be cool.0
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If you see her often walk staight up to her on your way out and say. "Hi I am (full name so she can stalk you on facebook) I like to see you in here. It brightens my work out." Smile, turn head to side, wish her a nice day and walk out. That way she feels safe because you left, no awkwardness. It puts a smile on her face. If she is repulsed by you, she will just ignore you tomorrow. If she is into you she will smile and blush. Play for a week in gym with stolen glances and casual gentleness and then when she is warm and ready ask her out.0
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I would welcome conversation from anyone at my gym. Unless it's someone I know, people at my gym tend to be socially isolated--which is fine, but awkward sometimes. I'd would welcome advice from any guy in the weight room on different exercises.0
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I'm going to guess that 'while wearing a ski mask' would be a bad idea.
A ski mask is always a great idea!0 -
I have to agree with most of the other women here. When I'm working out I really don't want to be approached. By anyone.0
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if any guy would like to give me the feeling of the century and say they have the hots for me I would gently tell them I am happily married but they have made my day , week , month, hell year... A long time ago a man stopped his car at the bus stop I waited at got out and gave me his card asking for a date. I was with a boyfriend so didn't call but its now 15 years later and I still remember that feeling...0
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I'm going to be honest with you...just don't. When I go to the gym I am furious lol and I am sweaty and gross and just am there to do one thing. If you MUST you could try catching her before she goes in or on her way out but I'm warning you...lol. If a guy tried to talk to me during one of my workouts (provided I weren't taken) I would ignore him and I'm a really friendly person but yeah...
You could try making eye contact with her first to kind of test the waters and if she looks like she might be interested then you could try talking to her in between sets, ask her about her routine or something
Actually even THAT sounded a bit harsh for me. I just don't think of the workout room as a good place to talk, if you caught me while I was walking or getting a drink that be much better0 -
So this is a question I've long since wondered about. From time to time you cross a pretty girl in the gym and you assume she has similar interests and are curious to learn more about her...So how do you initiate a conversation without sending the wrong message/signals?
Pretend this is a person who you've made continual eye contact a few-several times with. They appear friendly...but you both constantly have your music in and move with purpose...presumably because you've both just gotten out of work and want to finish up your duties as soon as possible. He comes up to you and leads off with....?
Hey, whats up?
Come here often?
Nice Nike's?
I don't think so...What would the ideal guy say?
Send her a smile, if she reciprocates she's open to saying hi. Personally I feel *gross* in the gym cuz I"m sweaty, red and smell so I would be highly self conscious if a guy came up and started talking but if we exchange smiles then I'd be more open to it 0 -
That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.
If they're working out like I do, they're likely not angry at all. They're just "feelin' the burn" in a big way and that junk HURTS!!! That's why I frequently make this face :mad: when I'm at the gym. However, if a guy were to approach me between sets and say, "Hi! How are you?" I'd probably respond with a smile and, "I'm great. How about yourself?" I can't use photobucket here at work, so if you're up for a few extra clicks of the mouse, use the links below to see an illustration.
This is what I feel like when I'm working out:
http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=Workng+out+images&view=detail&id=0BED51A38D6F6E094B4FBFB63E7721317DD56563&qpvt=Workng+out+images
This is what I'm pretty sure I actually look like when I'm working out:
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just read some more and you got her number ace.. now blog about your date it's so ridiculously romantic that you have so many people 'talking' about her and she doesn't know ... I love a romantic story0
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Is that really you in your profile pic? because if it is im pretty sure she won't mind you speaking to her!!!!! SWOON!!!!! 0
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I don't get why it would be creepy. I'd totally talk to a hot guy who approached me at the gym. Hell, I'm checking him out so why should it be creepy that he's checking me out?
Just make sure not to "sneak up". I've always got earbuds in and music going full blast, so a little shoulder tap or something if she's rocking some tunes. Then just lead off with "How's it going?" or something similarly cheesy.
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Is that really you in your profile pic? because if it is im pretty sure she won't mind you speaking to her!!!!! SWOON!!!!!
100 percent agree with this. :laugh:0 -
Is that really you in your profile pic? because if it is im pretty sure she won't mind you speaking to her!!!!! SWOON!!!!!
Also.....this. LOL0 -
I hate to be approached by guys at the gym or even stared at. Please don't do it. Save yourself from being told off or worse yet reported to management, her boyfriend or hubby! LOL!0
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trojanbb... LOL!!! ...aint that the truth! I personally would love a guy to walk up, hand me his number (with his name on it) and walk away. Yeah.. let me finish my work out, but believe me... I WOULD BE KILLIN THAT MACHINE and praying the number doesn't smear from my sweat.0
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Lord, no wonder a single girl can't get a date......
Most of these posts would have a guy scared to death to speak to us0 -
Simple.
Don't.
Sorry.
THIS. the gym is not a singles club. it's a gym. the purpose is to get in, exercise, and get out. if i see a guy staring at me while i'm on the treadmill, i feel really uncomfortable and do everything i can to avoid eye contact. so yeah...don't.0 -
probably after i was done running, if a guy came up to me, and starting flattering me, and saying how great of a run i just did. and then that would start the friendly talk, and open doors ,for getting to know me better.0
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The only dude that I was not completely put off by approaching me simply caught me while I was wiping down a bench I had used and simply said "Hi, you're making great progress. Call me if you ever want to talk shop" then simply handed me a business card and bid me g'day.
He made it to date 3 before I got drunk and threw up on his shoes. I call that success.0 -
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Or "I heard you fart during your benchpress. That's some really good intensity."
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The thread "Why aren't more guys ballsy" comes to mind. Hmmm, not sure why. :grumble:
Keep in mind that many people lead busy lives with demanding jobs. For a lot of people there are limited opportunities for social engagement outside of work and the gym. A public gym IS a social setting whether you like it or not. Many people look at it as a more wholesome place to find friends and possibly dates than a bar crawling with bimbos or knucklehead guys. A guy is a place where you can meet folks who are dedicated to a common interest (shocking reason to be attracted to someone, I know [sarcasm]. See this site [irony].)
Some of the extremists in this thread need to look into investing in a home gym or going to a small family owned one like the smart lady a few posts up. It might be worth it in order to avoid wasting so much energy and frustration putting on a b***hface front. Do everyone a favor and wear a shirt with "F-off" printed front and back then you can ditch the unsavory, miserable, uptight, frustrated demeanor.
I don't talk to people at the gym. not because I don't want to, but because I am shy. i do know that some guys are 'creepers' not because they're really creeps but because they're sick of the mixed signals and the results that can be contrary to the signals. they just adopt a ham fisted approach figuring something may come out of it, and if it doesn't... well at least not much time/effort was wasted trying to figure her out.
If anyone sees me at the gym... come talk to me. :glasses:
Well said! Totally agree! If I was single, I wouldn't mind at all. It's a social setting for gods sake..geez.0 -
The girls who are smiling, wearing pink victoria secret attire and flouncing on the treadmill or eliptical are the ones who want to be hit on. The chicks bench pressing, sweating buckets and have angry faces are the ones that dont want to be hit on.
Best you can do is try to make eye contact with her and smile when you see her. Maybe she will come around.0 -
Lord, no wonder a single girl can't get a date......
Most of these posts would have a guy scared to death to speak to us
There's a lot of creeps to be had at the gym. Especially the ones that stare at me while I use the inner/outer thigh machines
you can't blame me for being a bit skeptical.The girls who are smiling, wearing pink victoria secret attire and flouncing on the treadmill or eliptical are the ones who want to be hit on. The chicks bench pressing, sweating buckets and have angry faces are the ones that dont want to be hit on.
Best you can do is try to make eye contact with her and smile when you see her. Maybe she will come around.
Pretty good way to put it...except I might be wearing pink VS whilst sweating angry buckets on the bench press...pretty sure nobody notices what I'm wearing except that its soaked though0 -
So this is a question I've long since wondered about. From time to time you cross a pretty girl in the gym and you assume she has similar interests and are curious to learn more about her...So how do you initiate a conversation without sending the wrong message/signals?
Pretend this is a person who you've made continual eye contact a few-several times with. They appear friendly...but you both constantly have your music in and move with purpose...presumably because you've both just gotten out of work and want to finish up your duties as soon as possible. He comes up to you and leads off with....?
Hey, whats up?
Come here often?
Nice Nike's?
Ok, so I haven't read all the comments but I must say, this is an interesting topic/question. As some have said, many women are in a rush, getting their sweat on and just want to get the heck out of there... not interested in talking to a guy when looking like crap. However, you said that the two of you have made eye contact several times! That's the clincher! If she wasn't into you, she would have made eye contact with you ONCE and then made a point to ignore you after that. The fact that she is still looking at you tells me she's interested and chances are she's not going to make a move and is dying for you to acknowledge her further. Since you are both listening to your ipods, she's not going to hear the three comments you suggested above (which, by the way, I wouldn't go with any of those). Instead, make a point to walk past her when she is also walking (so that your eyes will naturally meet) and mouth "Hi!" and keep walking. She won't be able to hear you but will be able to head your lips. If she likes you, a simple "hi" will let her know you're into her too. Step two, for the next few work-outs, leave the ipod at home and continue the "hi" thing. If/when she's willing to talk to you, she will "forget" hers at home too
When she does forget the ipod, the door opens up to a comment like "No music today?" (with a smile). She'll know you're interested! Good luck!
I don't think so...What would the ideal guy say?0 -
Follow these steps to have HER initiate the conversation.
1. If she is on the treadmil, jump on it behind her and try to keep up.
2. Work out next to her and grab either her towel or bottle of water then walk away.
3. If she is bench pressing, put your crotch right over her head and start spotting her.
4. If she is doing free weights, grab the ones she is walking towards no matter how light or heavy.
5. if she goes to lay on a bench, lay down first, same with a chair, sit first.
6. When you pass her in the hallway, keep getting in her way while she tries to pass or move real close to squeeze her between you and the wall.
7. If she is working out and sweating really bad, wait for her to close her eyes, then start dabbing the sweat off of her.
If YOU want to initiate the conversation:
1. Treadmill, easy just do the one next to her and and ask her how to get started.
2. Free weights, ask her to spot you then just keep staring at her, especially bench pressing, try to raise your head and blow a puff of air when she spots you.
3. In the hallway maneuver, grab her hands and start twirling her and comment how much you would like to take her dancing.
4. If you see her sweating or looking thirsty, offer your bottle of water (wipe it off first).
5. Offer to share your towel.
6. Last, when you see her walking into the locker room, offer her to use YOUR shower at HOME.
If any of these work, PLEASE let me know, I will write a book.....!!!!
Good luck and if you try this please make a video, I would love to see the results.0 -
Ok, ignore all the girls saying DON'T. If you make eye contact and she looks away, than yeah, don't approach her. But if you smile at her and she smiles back, that's a good sign. It's probably not a good idea to walk up to her while she's working out and interrupt her, so wait to speak to her when she's about to leave the gym, i.e. done with her workout. Don't leave at the same time, because that would be creepy, and maybe don't walk right up to her and stand in her path, but just say "Hi, how are you" in passing and see how she reacts. It's good to let her know you're interested, and then see if she makes eye contact with you next time you're at the gym. Just break the ice and see if she immediately puts another wall up.
I definitely think it's nice to say hi to people you're interested in getting to know. Why not meet people at the gym? You clearly do have some interest in common! The gym is a community, folks. If we keep cutting out social interactions in public places, we're all going to end up alone in front of our computers!0 -
Follow these steps to have HER initiate the conversation.
1. If she is on the treadmil, jump on it behind her and try to keep up.
2. Work out next to her and grab either her towel or bottle of water then walk away.
3. If she is bench pressing, put your crotch right over her head and start spotting her.
4. If she is doing free weights, grab the ones she is walking towards no matter how light or heavy.
5. if she goes to lay on a bench, lay down first, same with a chair, sit first.
6. When you pass her in the hallway, keep getting in her way while she tries to pass or move real close to squeeze her between you and the wall.
7. If she is working out and sweating really bad, wait for her to close her eyes, then start dabbing the sweat off of her.
If YOU want to initiate the conversation:
1. Treadmill, easy just do the one next to her and and ask her how to get started.
2. Free weights, ask her to spot you then just keep staring at her, especially bench pressing, try to raise your head and blow a puff of air when she spots you.
3. In the hallway maneuver, grab her hands and start twirling her and comment how much you would like to take her dancing.
4. If you see her sweating or looking thirsty, offer your bottle of water (wipe it off first).
5. Offer to share your towel.
6. Last, when you see her walking into the locker room, offer her to use YOUR shower at HOME.
If any of these work, PLEASE let me know, I will write a book.....!!!!
Good luck and if you try this please make a video, I would love to see the results.
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Anything you say or do around a woman who isn't interested in you is considered creepy.
Anything you say or do around a woman who is interested in you is considered attractive.
This is a no-win situation for you.
Just be friendly, talk to staff, talk with friends. Make yourself appear approachable and fun. If she is interested, she will talk to you eventually. If she isn't she will continue ignoring you.
Some women might say that is weak, and they think the man should try and actively pursue them. These women need to get over themselves.0 -
Ok, ignore all the girls saying DON'T. If you make eye contact and she looks away, than yeah, don't approach her. But if you smile at her and she smiles back, that's a good sign. It's probably not a good idea to walk up to her while she's working out and interrupt her, so wait to speak to her when she's about to leave the gym, i.e. done with her workout. Don't leave at the same time, because that would be creepy, and maybe don't walk right up to her and stand in her path, but just say "Hi, how are you" in passing and see how she reacts. It's good to let her know you're interested, and then see if she makes eye contact with you next time you're at the gym. Just break the ice and see if she immediately puts another wall up.
I definitely think it's nice to say hi to people you're interested in getting to know. Why not meet people at the gym? You clearly do have some interest in common! The gym is a community, folks. If we keep cutting out social interactions in public places, we're all going to end up alone in front of our computers!
Yes, ignore all of the people giving their honest feelings! What a great idea! I do agree with what you're saying though, I think the eye contact is the key here to this discussion. I'll have to remember not to look at any of the men while I'm at the gym now :devil:0
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