Ladies: Best Way To Approach You In The Gym?

Easywider
Easywider Posts: 434 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
So this is a question I've long since wondered about. From time to time you cross a pretty girl in the gym and you assume she has similar interests and are curious to learn more about her...So how do you initiate a conversation without sending the wrong message/signals?

Pretend this is a person who you've made continual eye contact a few-several times with. They appear friendly...but you both constantly have your music in and move with purpose...presumably because you've both just gotten out of work and want to finish up your duties as soon as possible. He comes up to you and leads off with....?

Hey, whats up?
Come here often?
Nice Nike's?

I don't think so...What would the ideal guy say?
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  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    "Excuse me but are you using that bench?"

    Or if she's doing a particularly hard workout just comment on it. Ex: this cute girl was doing a killer ab workout and my husband in a non creepy way told her it was pretty serious.

    Oh and if all else fails a small wave and a hi always works.:wink:
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I'm going to guess that 'while wearing a ski mask' would be a bad idea.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.

    Angry workouts burn more calories?
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.

    Smart man. I don't personally know any women who you like being approached at the gym. We're there for a purpose, sweating, tired, etc. Not really the most social situation.
    I would advise any guy against it.. but if you think that the girl is into you as well then you can try to go for it. Personally I just get creeped out and act friendly out of obligation.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Simple.

    Don't.

    Sorry.
  • Dan112358
    Dan112358 Posts: 525 Member
    So this is a question I've long since wondered about. From time to time you cross a pretty girl in the gym and you assume she has similar interests and are curious to learn more about her...So how do you initiate a conversation without sending the wrong message/signals?

    Pretend this is a person who you've made continual eye contact a few-several times with. They appear friendly...but you both constantly have your music in and move with purpose...presumably because you've both just gotten out of work and want to finish up your duties as soon as possible. He comes up to you and leads off with....?

    Hey, whats up?
    Come here often?
    Nice Nike's?

    I don't think so...What would the ideal guy say?
    Follow her into the change room. (Disclaimer: I've never tried this technique. If you do, please let me know how things worked out for you)
  • Babymomakell
    Babymomakell Posts: 257 Member
    I think that waiting until she is leaving the gym, maybe in the hallway or something would be a more accepted approach, I get annoyed when guys try to talk to me during my workout... I am there to look ugly, break a sweat and kick my own *kitten*... leave me alone... HAHA
  • joy31021
    joy31021 Posts: 216
    just don't
  • jess1992uga
    jess1992uga Posts: 603 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.
  • Irish_eyes75
    Irish_eyes75 Posts: 475
    just don't

    what joy said ;)
  • MIchelleH2027
    MIchelleH2027 Posts: 1,239 Member
    One thing you do NOT do is ..... Ask some random person that you had seen talking to her; "Do you know her? Is she a cougar?" because the person you maybe asking could turn out to be that woman's 16 year old son!!!!
    True Story!!!! :huh:
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    just don't

    what joy said ;)
    It's just so freaking creepy.

    People wonder why I work out with my "b*tch face"
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Maybe not. When I workout there the last thing I want to do is communicate with others.
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.
    Or "I heard you fart during your benchpress. That's some really good intensity."
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.

    Based on the way girls look at guys in the gym and threads like this....If I did that, most girls would change gym memberships, report me to the gym management, and then accuse me of being a sexual predator...and then come on MFP and complain about guys not approaching them.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.

    Based on the way girls look at guys in the gym and threads like this....If I did that, most girls would change gym memberships, report me to the gym management, and then accuse me of being a sexual predator...and then come on MFP and complain about guys not approaching them.

    :laugh:
  • ChcolateLady11
    ChcolateLady11 Posts: 359
    "Excuse me but are you using that bench?"

    Or if she's doing a particularly hard workout just comment on it. Ex: this cute girl was doing a killer ab workout and my husband in a non creepy way told her it was pretty serious.

    Oh and if all else fails a small wave and a hi always works.:wink:

    THIS! a smile and a wave.
  • HMVOL7409
    HMVOL7409 Posts: 1,588 Member
    Simple.

    Don't.

    Sorry.

    This. Sorry! There's a term a few guy friends of mine have termed girls like me and that's a "gym b***h". I take no offense to it and laugh it off as I'm there to get my business done and that's it and don't care to talk to anyone male or female.
  • Easywider
    Easywider Posts: 434 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.

    Thank you for your reply! It's good to know that their are still some friendly, extroverted people out there. Sounds like a pretty minimally invasive approach that's succinct and honest...Just what I'm going for.
  • REALBIGBATBASTARD
    REALBIGBATBASTARD Posts: 103 Member
    What ever you decide to say, just make sure you yell real loud, just in case they have music blasting!
  • blackgirlfit
    blackgirlfit Posts: 120 Member
    Everytime i go to the gym, i always get approached by a guy.

    Sometimes it's when i'm leaving the gym, and a guy runs to the door and says "exuse me!! I couldn't help but notice you in there. i didn't want to interupt you but my name is [...], whats yours?"

    or while i'm doing reps they would say "how many more sets do you have?" and then a conversation would go on from there

    . the best thing you can do is just smile at a girl but don't scare her away. let her get her workout in. and then approach after
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    Based on the way girls look at guys in the gym and threads like this....If I did that, most girls would change gym memberships, report me to the gym management, and then accuse me of being a sexual predator...and then come on MFP and complain about guys not approaching them.

    Ha.
    True story.
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.

    Smart man. I don't personally know any women who you like being approached at the gym. We're there for a purpose, sweating, tired, etc. Not really the most social situation.
    I would advise any guy against it.. but if you think that the girl is into you as well then you can try to go for it. Personally I just get creeped out and act friendly out of obligation.

    This. I'm not at the gym to socialize. Sooo yeah, I'd rather be left alone so I can get my stuff done and head home. :laugh:
  • blonde71
    blonde71 Posts: 955 Member
    Years ago, when I was single I belonged to a gym. I used to dread walking by the weight room to go to my aerobics class because nine times out of ten, the guys would stop and leer at you. It made my friends and I sooo uncomfortable. I thought it was creepy then and still do. Although at my age, I doubt there would be much leering going on. :laugh:
  • HellsKells
    HellsKells Posts: 671 Member
    Guess I am the weird girl in the room because I don't mind at all if a guy comes up to talk to me at the gym. I like when they come to the machine next to me and just strike up conversation. To me it shows they are fearless. Sure you could wait till I leave the gym but to me that's creepy and I think you were too wussy to talk to me earlier.
    To prevent being rude just say "Hey, I don't mean to interrupt your workout, but I saw you from across the room and you caught my eye. You look like you are going strong in your workout, but I would love to hear from you." Slip me your number and tada! Not only have you energized my workout by making me feel all good on the inside, but I will call/text you haha.

    I wouldn't be put off either. I think if a guy's interested enough to approach me when I look my worst, then he probably deserves to be given a chance to see me at my best. I'd call. Can't make any judgments on what happens from there, but I'd be stoked about that initial contact, I think.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    Simple.

    Don't.

    Sorry.

    This would be my answer.

    I'm there to workout... and thats it.

    I've caught guys staring at me as I do things, so I started staring at them first. They prob. think I'm creepy but at least it stopped them staring at me!
  • peachyxoxoxo
    peachyxoxoxo Posts: 1,178 Member
    That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.

    Angry workouts burn more calories?

    It does take more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    So here is a good rule of thumb men. If you insist on bothering females at the gym.

    Only bother the ones who are smiling.


    DO NOT bother the ones with "b*tch face". Their face is that way for a reason.
    So you won't talk to them.


    And women if you really want to be hit on at the gym, smile.
  • RyleeNoelle
    RyleeNoelle Posts: 361
    The key is to simply not be creepy. The gym guys I get irritated with are the ones who stare me down and make overly intense eye contact while I'm running. It's uncomfortable.
    But if I lock eyes with someone and they give me a quick, friendly, NORMAL smile, then it completely changes things.Keep it simple; say hi and ask how she's doing.. And then maybe tell her that she caught your eye, or you admire how dedicated she is to her workout. Something complimentary and not creeperish. Then give her your number and move along.
    Also, read signals! If she is unresponsive or seems at all bothered, drop it.
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