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RaspberryTickleChicken
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Your 'Ah-Ha' Moment
RaspberryTickleChicken
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I obviously have far too much time on my hands as another question out of sheer curiosity has been nagging away at me ... so here goes. 
Here I'll start this one:
- When was your 'AH-HA' moment that made you decide, 'ahhhm okay it's time to do something about this weight?'
- What made a difference this time which differed from previous attempts to lose weight &/or get healthy? (motivation)
- How much impact do you feel that a correct mindset has on the level of achievement?
Here I'll start this one:
- My 'AH-HA' moment was when I saw that my blood glucose level was 101 mg/dL and the normal range was 70-100 mg/dL.
- My motivation this time was not about making that silly little # on the scale go down, but it was about fighting off an impending diabetic future if I did nothing. The thought of all the complications that comes with diabetes. ie. kidney functions, amputations, blindness, etc. petrified me.
- For me, the mindset of 'oh I need to get healthy' rather than 'lose a few pounds' oddly took the pressure of me to 'loose X weight by X amount of time.' I looked at it as I have a lifetime to continue to reach for my goal. So the weeks where I was loosing mere fractions of a pound didn't bother me because progress was progress.
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The best way I can describe it is a switch went on in my head. All of a sudden it seemed so simple, I just don't go over that calorie goal and I would be in a deficit and lose weight. 148 lbs and over 2yrs later I am still going and have reached my goal for the first time in my life.
The main difference from the other times I've tried (and failed) to lose weight was that "switch" hadn't been turned on before. I don't really understand what exactly made my brain switch on but now that I've finally gotten here, there's definitely fear that the "switch" will just turn off one day and I'll spiral out of control again...
I'd never been that self conscious about my weight but realized how it was really getting to me, along with the obvious decline in health and mobility. The last straw for some reason, was when I got horribly sick with the flu. I lost 10 pounds that week and was determined to keep it off and continue losing. Joined WW in Jan 2010 and the rest is history.
2) The difference for me this time was a combination of two things. Not only was I determined to improve my health and fitness, I also finally realized that it wasn't necessary to starve myself or deprive myself of the foods I loved in order to lose weight. I've eaten pizza, pasta, desserts, etc the whole time, I've just learned to eat them in smaller portions and make healthier choices/substitutions.
3) It makes all the difference. Most people look for quick fixes, fad diets, pills etc because while they might want to lose the weight, they're not willing to put in the work. You have to be able to put in the work it requires to track calories (or carbs or points or whatever) and stick with a plan. Taking time to workout and plan/prepare foods is also work. If you don't put the work in, you won't get the results.
I think it also requires a great deal of learning. Most people have absolutely no clue how to eat healthy or what it requires to lose weight or why fluctuations happen. That's why places like this are very valuable. I've learned a great deal in the last few years - like how starvation mode is a myth and how you're not really gaining muscle if you're not losing weight. Knowledge is power - cliche but true.
This! A switch went on in my head when I started playing with MFP figures and realised "this could be so easy, even lazy old me could manage this".
I'm only 70 days in, but I've not looked back. I balance treats against either extra walking or against not having something else. I allow myself odd days when I go over but try and limit then to days when I have little choice (like I'm visiting family and eat what I'm given) but even then try to make sure I estimate a count, so I can try and average out the week if possible.
Realising it doesn't have to be hard is the mindset that got me going and works for me.
Coincidently, the same nurse weighing us mentioned MFP as a way to track calories over the holidays. That was it! I signed up and 6 months later was at my goal and I have maintained and logged for the next year and a half. I had no other previous attempts to regulate my weight.
The right mindset is everything if you ask me. I see some people come on here and just by the way they post, you can tell they will not be with it long enough to see any change. I knew I would reach my goal, MFP just made it a lot easier!
oh and this one too
one 2009, other 2011
I had a pretty rotten experience that caused me to stress. Unlike a lot of people, when I stress I stop eating... and due to the lack of eating, I dropped a pants size. I was well over 200 pounds, so could totally afford it. A friend of mine noticed and pointed me to MFP. So I created an account and started losing weight on purpose for a while. Life got hectic, we moved to another state, and I stopped logging and started eating like I had at 200 pounds - and gained much of the lost weight back. Last June (2013) I meandered back to MFP just to start logging again. I had convinced myself I was happy with my weight, but thought it would be interesting to see how much I was eating. After nearly 3000 calories, I stopped logging that day but didn't stop eating. A few weeks into 'playing' at logging (stopping logging food once I hit a number high enough that it made me uncomfortable), I decided to get serious about literally logging every bite of food I put in my mouth, whether or not I liked what my calories for the day looked like. After a while, I started making an effort to make better food choices because I didn't like being in the red here on MFP, and from there I dropped over 70 pounds. MFP was my aha moment.
Thissss. Way to go! Love your story.
And this! Haha awesome.
All of these stories I relate to. Mine was going to the doctor and weighing in at more than I ever had. It was like "Woahhhh that's not me" and yet it was me. And if I'm remembering correctly, I believe my cholesterol was on the high side for someone my age, which was scary as I'd never had health issues previously.
The doctor's visit was in December, followed by subsequently hating how I looked in holiday photos for the first time ever. I stumbled upon MFP looking for a food diary to start the new year, and then realizing how easy it could be. It said I would lose X amount of weight in a certain amount of time, and that happened! Can't argue with something that works. The weight loss slowed down as I drew nearer to my goal, but I've picked up nothing but good habits and knowledge since becoming a member.
I think for me, the "ah-ha" moment was realizing that I was going to turn 35 this year and I could not even hardly stand or walk through the grocery store without tremendous pain and effort. I was not able to sit in a booth at a restaurant. I could hardly buckle my seat belt in my car. I avoided places where there would be crowds (concerts, festivals) because I was uncomfortable and I knew I could not stand or walk for long periods of time.
I was sitting on my couch literally eating myself to death and watching my life fly by me. It was embarrassing to me. He never said it, but I'm sure my husband was embarrassed to be seen with me and I was robbing him of doing things because of my weight.
I realized that time is never going to slow down or stop and that I had to do something. I realized that I had all the tools in my box and I just needed to pull them out and use them.
I turned my old computer room into a home gym complete with treadmill and elliptical (which I already had and never used). I bought myself a big TV so I could watch TV while I worked out. I started logging my food again and I haven't looked back in 138 days.
For me, mindset was a HUGE factor, probably the biggest to my success. My husband bought me a wall hanging that said, "She believed she could, so she did" and it made me cry. Once I started to believe I could do something, I did.
So far, I've lost 52 pounds. I have about another 150 to go. I know I can and I will.
Mine was simple, a friend and I both started dieting in Janaury, by July she had lost 20lbs and I had actually gained weight. Damn, if she could do it so could I. How shameful that I had failed so miserably. Wake up call! I'm also not proud to admit that I just did not want to be the fattest of the group.
So I got to grips with the calories in calories out. BMR blah blah and got a decent friend list together, and boom as if by magic it just works!
I love that it went from being too small to too big, winner!
How about selling it on eBay and making a few pennies?
Now I've been the thinnest in the group for two years. But we all help each other keep our weight to healthy levels.
I have never tried to lose weight before. First attempt at 55. I think attitude has everything to do with it. Sheer persistence - this isn't rocket science. One of my sisters has been very heavy for 30 years. She just got laid off and feels she can't get a job until she loses weight (she has a 2 year golden parachute, so has time to look.) She started MFP in early August, hasn't missed logging a meal, and has dropped 32 pounds. She exercises every day and is amazing. Her food choices still aren't the best, but I think it's just plain stubborn stick-to-itiveness.
1. A combination of different experiences/feelings - my daughter swam non-stop for an hour and completed 1 1/8 miles at her swim team marathon. She was 8. She swam longer than kids several years older than her. It was inspirational, and I wanted to be the sort of mom she could be inspired by too. I also just knew I had to do it to increase my chances of living a long, healthy, active life. I don't want to be a 60+ year-old in 20 years who is barely able to function because they never looked after themselves. I want to be hiking the Appalachian Trail! Plus my blood pressure wasn't the best. Physical appearance had nothing to do with it.
2. This is my second effort at losing weight. The first effort was also successful, but I got pregnant straight after I reached goal and the only way to keep food down was to graze all day. I don't have a history of dieting or yo-yoing.
3. I think correct mindset is EVERYTHING. I had absolutely no doubt in my mind that I would go from 195 lbs to 120-125 lbs. The thought I would fail has never once entered my head, just like I have no doubt I'll keep the weight off. I waited until the time was right, which meant waiting longer than ideal, but took 3 weeks DH was away on business, it was winter, work was relatively light, and I just sat down with MFP, read studies of successful weight loss, planned what I would eat and how I would approach it, how I would monitor it (I have a spreadsheet I use to track weight and other metrics) and then just did it. I have found it extremely easy. I've done the same process entering maintenance - I've thought long and hard about how I was going to keep the weight off, and how I would reward myself when I got there, and when I reach my other targets. There just isn't room for emotion in this. I approach it like I would any project: set objectives, research, plan, execute, monitor, reward when objectives met, set new objectives..
And yes, I never set a time limit either. I wanted to be able to buy one, nice winter coat this year (not have to buy 2 after going down a size), so I wanted to be more-or-less at target by October, but that was it, and I only "set" that about July, so I was well on the way there anyway.
1. When I realised I weighed almost as much as I did when I was 38 weeks pregnant, except it was almost 4-5 months later, and I was still wearing maternity jeans but with no baby.
2. I lost 20lbs on MFP before - the only difference this time is that I am actively working out my emotional eating issues. Before I was purely doing CICO, and it worked while I was on MFP, but when I stopped using MFP, I went right back to my old eating ways. Now I want to train myself to eyeball portions, and control my urge to overeat when I feel depressed.
3. Mindset and mindfulness is everything.
I was FAT...ah-ha!