Why deprive yourself of delicious foods?

ocaudle8912
ocaudle8912 Posts: 13
edited November 10 in Food and Nutrition
Okay, so be prepared for a rant.

Why do people deprive themselves of foods like chocolate, fried stuff, whatever when on a diet? These foods are not the enemy! The person eating them lacks self control, which is the true enemy. I hate going through my news feed and seeing people say "I never go out to eat" "I don't eat that trash" and I'm like dude moderation is key, not deprivation.

I'm determined to show people that you can lose weight and eat "trash" whenever you please. Again, it's all about moderation.
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  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    Why do you assume people think they can't eat foods you find delicious just because they choose not to?
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    edited January 2015
    I cut fried foods out because I felt like it and I don't care who has a problem with it.

    I am happy to be eating a healthy diet, losing weight and exercising. It's hard at first, but it gets easier. Now I prefer it. :)

    If other people look down their noses because I'm not having a Reese's cup and McNuggets every day, that's their problem and not mine.

    I didn't clean up my diet because I'm seeking approval from others, lol. I did it for me. I'm happy with it and proud of myself. If the Rabid Moderation crowd wants to make fun of it, let them. It makes them happy and I don't care about their approval, lol, so win-win.

    I still eat delicious food, too! It's just not drowning in grease and salt. My idea of "delicious" has changed and the things I loved before don't taste nearly as good now. I'd RATHER have the real berries than the Crunch Berries. No deprivation. :)
  • bambarby
    bambarby Posts: 10 Member
    It's difficult to eat these food in moderation. Once you start, you just can't stop. Eating them a little bit "whenever" doesn't work with some people.
  • MelRC117
    MelRC117 Posts: 911 Member
    WHY ARE ALL THE POSTS DISAGREEING WITH OP FLAGGED?!?!?! OP can have her OPINION but others cant?
  • MelRC117
    MelRC117 Posts: 911 Member
    You do you OP, if it works for others let them.

    Now go ahead and flag my post.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    MelRC117 wrote: »
    WHY ARE ALL THE POSTS DISAGREEING WITH OP FLAGGED?!?!?! OP can have her OPINION but others cant?

    Clearly all the posts have been abusive to the 18 yo expert.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    edited January 2015
    MelRC117 wrote: »
    WHY ARE ALL THE POSTS DISAGREEING WITH OP FLAGGED?!?!?! OP can have her OPINION but others cant?
    People will flag anything. I saw someone get flagged for congratulating another poster on their weight loss.

    I frequently advise seeing a doctor as part of your weight loss plan or when someone has a physical issue. There are people who flag it just because they don't like hat I suggest that, lol.

    Then there are Flag Wars. I have actually laughed out loud twice watching flags pop up in threads. First one side starts flagging, then the other side starts flagging. It's kind of funny sometimes. Flag...flag...flag.

    Someone messaged me to let me know most of my posts were being flagged. Someone out there sits and flags every post other people make. That's a little sad and goes beyond the giggling. It doesn't bother me, but I am not laughing at that person. I hope that person finds joy and peace. Just laughing at the general flagging, which is funny sometimes. :)
  • bambarby
    bambarby Posts: 10 Member
    I'm new here. What the consequence of getting flagged?
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    bambarby wrote: »
    I'm new here. What the consequence of getting flagged?

    None

  • avskk
    avskk Posts: 1,787 Member
    I "deprive" myself of certain things because I have no self-control around them. It's... really not rocket science. I have a goal, and I'm not going to reach that goal if I'm binging on four bagels a night or five ounces of cheese with lunch.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    edited January 2015
    bambarby wrote: »
    I'm new here. What the consequence of getting flagged?

    My understanding is that the moderators will check it out. If they find a post that violates the forum rules, they can remove it and possibly give the poster a 'strike' of some sort. If you get enough strikes, you can be banned from the forums. But a flag is not a strike.

    Also, the mods can see who flags a post. I'm not sure if they have any penalties for excessive inappropriate flagging, but I would not be surprised if that starts soon given the way some people seem to flag just for fun, causing more work for the mods.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    bambarby wrote: »
    I'm new here. What the consequence of getting flagged?

    Nothing. There is no consequence. Nobody cares. It's like lodging a complaint in space.

    Some people use the flag as a like button, too, so you're never really sure if it's a complaint or a like.

    They mean nothing.
  • JeffseekingV
    JeffseekingV Posts: 3,165 Member
    edited January 2015
    MelRC117 wrote: »
    WHY ARE ALL THE POSTS DISAGREEING WITH OP FLAGGED?!?!?! OP can have her OPINION but others cant?

    Very odd. One can simply post their counter point if they wanted to.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    I believe over flagging is against MFP rules, but I could be wrong.

    OP: I eat what ever I want in moderation, I have reverse my heart issues, which people said it wouldn't happen unless I cut sugar and carbs, those evil process foods, ice cream, etc, lol, I guess I proved them wrong. ;)
  • crimsonpaw
    crimsonpaw Posts: 12 Member
    I try to be good during the week, but on my "cheat" day all bets are off. I love fried and greasy food, but I realize I can't hit my goal while eating it every day. If I gave up my guilty pleasures completely, there's no way I'd suck to my plan. I'm disciplined, but if I don't have a tasty reward for that discipline then it ain't worth it to me. Just my $.02
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    because demonizing foods as "bad" and then blaming weight gain on them, then makes it easier to jut 100% restrict said foods and use them as a crutch ...

    when you boil it down there are no good and bad foods. What matters is your overall diet...context and dosage is important, not individual food choices...

  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    edited January 2015
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    because demonizing foods as "bad" and then blaming weight gain on them, then makes it easier to jut 100% restrict said foods and use them as a crutch ...

    when you boil it down there are no good and bad foods. What matters is your overall diet...context and dosage is important, not individual food choices...

    Agree 100%
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    crimsonpaw wrote: »
    I try to be good during the week, but on my "cheat" day all bets are off. I love fried and greasy food, but I realize I can't hit my goal while eating it every day. If I gave up my guilty pleasures completely, there's no way I'd suck to my plan. I'm disciplined, but if I don't have a tasty reward for that discipline then it ain't worth it to me. Just my $.02

    alternate suggestion ...

    if you ate a little of what you liked each day, maybe you would not feel the need to have a "all bets are off blow out" once a week ...


  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    edited January 2015
    Opinions are like @ss*****...
  • samantha1242
    samantha1242 Posts: 816 Member
    I think it may have something to do with all the weight loss "information" out there - television shows (biggest loser), ads, workout DVDs, diets, marketing methods.. most of it suggests to the public that you can't lose weight while eating these things. People tend to believe what they are told unless they are smart or curious enough to look it up for themselves. Sheep mentality.
  • jasonmh630
    jasonmh630 Posts: 2,850 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    because demonizing foods as "bad" and then blaming weight gain on them, then makes it easier to jut 100% restrict said foods and use them as a crutch ...

    when you boil it down there are no good and bad foods. What matters is your overall diet...context and dosage is important, not individual food choices...

    Bingo.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    I think it may have something to do with all the weight loss "information" out there - television shows (biggest loser), ads, workout DVDs, diets, marketing methods.. most of it suggests to the public that you can't lose weight while eating these things. People tend to believe what they are told unless they are smart or curious enough to look it up for themselves. Sheep mentality.

    agree...pseudo science + broscience + fitness industry = mass misinformation ...
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    I think it may have something to do with all the weight loss "information" out there - television shows (biggest loser), ads, workout DVDs, diets, marketing methods.. most of it suggests to the public that you can't lose weight while eating these things. People tend to believe what they are told unless they are smart or curious enough to look it up for themselves. Sheep mentality.

    Yep....that's what I see through out these forums!!
  • auntchellebelle
    auntchellebelle Posts: 127 Member
    I love when people say to me "are you allowed to eat that while trying to lose weight"

    Yes I can, as long as I don't eat the whole bag or box, etc.
  • qpmomma1
    qpmomma1 Posts: 220 Member
    I am not cutting out junk food 100% but I am trying to eat more fruits and veggies. I have IBS so for me cutting back on junk makes me feel better physically.
  • crimsonpaw
    crimsonpaw Posts: 12 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »

    alternate suggestion ...

    if you ate a little of what you liked each day, maybe you would not feel the need to have a "all bets are off blow out" once a week ...

    Thanks for the suggestion, but I find it easier to allow one day. Also, when I say "all bets are off", that's not to say I enter into a 13000 calories eat-a-thon, it just means that I allow myself to avoid focusing so hard on my food choices for a meal or two.

  • SuggaD
    SuggaD Posts: 1,369 Member
    What is "on a diet"? My diet is quite healthy. I do choose to avoid some foods that, in my opinion, are not that nutritious. But that isn't deprivation. For example, I think McDonald's food is crap. To each his own, but I choose never to eat there. I've also chosen to find healthier alternatives to some foods like fried foods. That again isn't deprivation. I do believe in moderation. I do eat out all the time, especially on weekends.
  • MelRC117
    MelRC117 Posts: 911 Member
    MelRC117 wrote: »
    WHY ARE ALL THE POSTS DISAGREEING WITH OP FLAGGED?!?!?! OP can have her OPINION but others cant?

    Clearly all the posts have been abusive to the 18 yo expert.

    Took the words right out of my mouth.
  • txteachermom
    txteachermom Posts: 83 Member
    Okay, so be prepared for a rant.

    Why do people deprive themselves of foods like chocolate, fried stuff, whatever when on a diet? These foods are not the enemy! The person eating them lacks self control, which is the true enemy. I hate going through my news feed and seeing people say "I never go out to eat" "I don't eat that trash" and I'm like dude moderation is key, not deprivation.

    I'm determined to show people that you can lose weight and eat "trash" whenever you please. Again, it's all about moderation.

    This. All of it. Seriously. My diary is open, anyone who wants to is welcome to look at it. I eat chocolate, I eat pizza, I eat things that a lot of people may consider "trash." But guess what, I'm still losing, because I eat at a calorie deficit. That's all that matters. It's really that simple.
  • queen_of_disaster
    queen_of_disaster Posts: 61 Member
    edited January 2015
    It's because we moralize what we eat. When we categorize foods between the polarities of "good" and "bad," it creates a black and white thinking where our choices are a reflection of ourselves. We're "good" for eating this and "bad" for eating that. Deprivation and restriction means you've been "good," so in this kind of black and white thinking you're either perfect for making good choices or you're bad because you've allowed yourself to eat something that is "bad" for you. There's no allowance for a grey area where you're allowed to eat everything, whether it's categorized as healthy or unhealthy, good or bad, in moderation.

    It's an easy mindset to get trapped in. You're either perfect, or completely out of control. It takes a while to unlearn this kind of thinking and to look at it more as "No food is either good or bad"--I'm still struggling to internalize that idea, but I'm trying to think of it more as this: I'm not a bad person for wanting chocolate and allowing myself to have it, every day if I want to, but in smaller amounts than I would usually allow. It's better than restricting and then spiralling into an out-of-control binge once I taste the smallest bite because, in this kind of mindset, once I've been "bad" I give myself tacit permission to keep going because once I've ruined the "perfect" day it's all over.
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