Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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lilaclovebird wrote: »So..here we go.
First Date #1:
I met this guy Jason before, we worked at Lowe's together and he always offered to buy me lunch, which I declined but thought it was always kinda of sweet. He's about average in the looks department, not too stunning but not unattractive.
He suggested we meet at the movie theater which is more like an event center, it has bowling, mini golf, a billiards room, and a bar. He says he will meet me there at 6:30pm on Thursday. Okay.
I show up at about 6:20pm, and sit at the bar. NSV humble brag: I have SAVED calories for this date and I only went over goal by 11!
Anyway, I set out to have 2 drinks on this date, 3 MAX. I order a vodka cranberry and commence waiting. I'm chatting with the bartender, talking to the other patrons, I glance at the clock and it is now 7pm. Uhm....am I getting stood up?! I shoot him a text, no response. The bartender, Ashley, feels bad and offers me a shot of tequila on the house. I said sure and started picking out which movie I was going to go see by myself.
He FINALLY shows up at 7:15. Points off for being hella late.
He sits down, apologizes and says he got held up after class and then traffic was a mess. He goes to school IN DOWNTOWN AUSTIN and his class is over at 6pm and he honestly expected to be able to meet me in Bastrop by 6:30pm. It's a 30-45 minute drive into Austin ON A GOOD DAY! Points off for being a little dumb.
He orders a Bud Light and I make a noise of disgust because I do not like Bud Light and the bartender starts making fun because my first choice of beverage was going to be a slightly warm Shiner(Not my first choice but it was the best they had to offer and I'm picky about my beer).
I ask him a bit about school and he talks about how he's going into graphic design for video games and he has a mock interview scheduled for one of his classes with some executives from big gaming companies to get some pointers on getting a job and maybe be offered an internship. I ask him if he has a portfolio of his work to present and he looked at me all dumb struck. Points off for being REALLY dumb.
He has not saved/kept track of ANY of his work from school or stuff he makes/designs for fun to present to a potential employer to demonstrate his skills.
Now, I'm also trying to see his positive attributes. He seems driven, he seems respectful of my personal space, he is offering to pay for my drinks, he isn't talking bad about his ex, he is polite, and is doing okay making eye contact.
I finish my first drink by 8-ish and order a second one and he offers to pay for it, I politely decline and then he offers to buy us a burger. You had me at burger. I'm totally down. We share a burger, all the while he is talking about his cats, his dog, a little about his son, and a little about his ex(I brought up the topic to see any potential red flags there).
As the 'bar' is closing down we close out our tabs and he walks me to my car. It's at about this point that I realize I've asked him about himself and he's told me, but not ONCE did he ask me a question about myself. It's as if he's not interested in me as an actual person. Then the compliments start falling out about how I look great, how losing weight must have been really difficult, and how funny and sweet I am, and then he asks me if I would like to follow him back to his place. Uhm...no.
Then he suggests a second date maybe in a couple of weeks at the firing range. I said I would have to see what my schedule looks like and get back to him. He give me a hug, we part, and I open my car door and drive away.
He finally replied to my text and I told him what @nonoelmo suggested and I have had no further contact.
The whole experience left me feeling kind of empty I guess. I had to sit myself down and journal out some feelings because for a bit I felt like I just wasn't attracted to him physically and that's why I was saying no to the second date. The reality was, he just didn't interest me.
I think I will just focus back on myself, my work, my home, and my family.
I've rearranged my bedroom and I'm definitely feeling some new perspective coming on and I may have FINALLY picked out a career for myself. Now for the education part.
ETA: TL;DR version: Went on a date, dude wasn't blowing me out of the water, went home and decided it's best for me to ignore the whole dating thing until a later time in my life.
gotta love the hey, let's talk about me 100% of the time. yuck!
NEXT!
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I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.0 -
riderfangal wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »So..here we go.
First Date #1:
I met this guy Jason before, we worked at Lowe's together and he always offered to buy me lunch, which I declined but thought it was always kinda of sweet. He's about average in the looks department, not too stunning but not unattractive.
He suggested we meet at the movie theater which is more like an event center, it has bowling, mini golf, a billiards room, and a bar. He says he will meet me there at 6:30pm on Thursday. Okay.
I show up at about 6:20pm, and sit at the bar. NSV humble brag: I have SAVED calories for this date and I only went over goal by 11!
Anyway, I set out to have 2 drinks on this date, 3 MAX. I order a vodka cranberry and commence waiting. I'm chatting with the bartender, talking to the other patrons, I glance at the clock and it is now 7pm. Uhm....am I getting stood up?! I shoot him a text, no response. The bartender, Ashley, feels bad and offers me a shot of tequila on the house. I said sure and started picking out which movie I was going to go see by myself.
He FINALLY shows up at 7:15. Points off for being hella late.
He sits down, apologizes and says he got held up after class and then traffic was a mess. He goes to school IN DOWNTOWN AUSTIN and his class is over at 6pm and he honestly expected to be able to meet me in Bastrop by 6:30pm. It's a 30-45 minute drive into Austin ON A GOOD DAY! Points off for being a little dumb.
He orders a Bud Light and I make a noise of disgust because I do not like Bud Light and the bartender starts making fun because my first choice of beverage was going to be a slightly warm Shiner(Not my first choice but it was the best they had to offer and I'm picky about my beer).
I ask him a bit about school and he talks about how he's going into graphic design for video games and he has a mock interview scheduled for one of his classes with some executives from big gaming companies to get some pointers on getting a job and maybe be offered an internship. I ask him if he has a portfolio of his work to present and he looked at me all dumb struck. Points off for being REALLY dumb.
He has not saved/kept track of ANY of his work from school or stuff he makes/designs for fun to present to a potential employer to demonstrate his skills.
Now, I'm also trying to see his positive attributes. He seems driven, he seems respectful of my personal space, he is offering to pay for my drinks, he isn't talking bad about his ex, he is polite, and is doing okay making eye contact.
I finish my first drink by 8-ish and order a second one and he offers to pay for it, I politely decline and then he offers to buy us a burger. You had me at burger. I'm totally down. We share a burger, all the while he is talking about his cats, his dog, a little about his son, and a little about his ex(I brought up the topic to see any potential red flags there).
As the 'bar' is closing down we close out our tabs and he walks me to my car. It's at about this point that I realize I've asked him about himself and he's told me, but not ONCE did he ask me a question about myself. It's as if he's not interested in me as an actual person. Then the compliments start falling out about how I look great, how losing weight must have been really difficult, and how funny and sweet I am, and then he asks me if I would like to follow him back to his place. Uhm...no.
Then he suggests a second date maybe in a couple of weeks at the firing range. I said I would have to see what my schedule looks like and get back to him. He give me a hug, we part, and I open my car door and drive away.
He finally replied to my text and I told him what @nonoelmo suggested and I have had no further contact.
The whole experience left me feeling kind of empty I guess. I had to sit myself down and journal out some feelings because for a bit I felt like I just wasn't attracted to him physically and that's why I was saying no to the second date. The reality was, he just didn't interest me.
I think I will just focus back on myself, my work, my home, and my family.
I've rearranged my bedroom and I'm definitely feeling some new perspective coming on and I may have FINALLY picked out a career for myself. Now for the education part.
ETA: TL;DR version: Went on a date, dude wasn't blowing me out of the water, went home and decided it's best for me to ignore the whole dating thing until a later time in my life.
Hey seriously why rush into another relationship. Focus on yourself for a while.
I really am confused by all the rushing intro next relationships. I guess I am such a loner this confuses me. Why not enjoy some me time. Do things you like. Then maybe you'll find someone with similar interests.
But I am an odd ball.
If you are an odd ball so am I cause I feel the same way.
Ok we're a pair of oddballs!
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I am ok with that!pofoster21 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »So..here we go.
First Date #1:
I met this guy Jason before, we worked at Lowe's together and he always offered to buy me lunch, which I declined but thought it was always kinda of sweet. He's about average in the looks department, not too stunning but not unattractive.
He suggested we meet at the movie theater which is more like an event center, it has bowling, mini golf, a billiards room, and a bar. He says he will meet me there at 6:30pm on Thursday. Okay.
I show up at about 6:20pm, and sit at the bar. NSV humble brag: I have SAVED calories for this date and I only went over goal by 11!
Anyway, I set out to have 2 drinks on this date, 3 MAX. I order a vodka cranberry and commence waiting. I'm chatting with the bartender, talking to the other patrons, I glance at the clock and it is now 7pm. Uhm....am I getting stood up?! I shoot him a text, no response. The bartender, Ashley, feels bad and offers me a shot of tequila on the house. I said sure and started picking out which movie I was going to go see by myself.
He FINALLY shows up at 7:15. Points off for being hella late.
He sits down, apologizes and says he got held up after class and then traffic was a mess. He goes to school IN DOWNTOWN AUSTIN and his class is over at 6pm and he honestly expected to be able to meet me in Bastrop by 6:30pm. It's a 30-45 minute drive into Austin ON A GOOD DAY! Points off for being a little dumb.
He orders a Bud Light and I make a noise of disgust because I do not like Bud Light and the bartender starts making fun because my first choice of beverage was going to be a slightly warm Shiner(Not my first choice but it was the best they had to offer and I'm picky about my beer).
I ask him a bit about school and he talks about how he's going into graphic design for video games and he has a mock interview scheduled for one of his classes with some executives from big gaming companies to get some pointers on getting a job and maybe be offered an internship. I ask him if he has a portfolio of his work to present and he looked at me all dumb struck. Points off for being REALLY dumb.
He has not saved/kept track of ANY of his work from school or stuff he makes/designs for fun to present to a potential employer to demonstrate his skills.
Now, I'm also trying to see his positive attributes. He seems driven, he seems respectful of my personal space, he is offering to pay for my drinks, he isn't talking bad about his ex, he is polite, and is doing okay making eye contact.
I finish my first drink by 8-ish and order a second one and he offers to pay for it, I politely decline and then he offers to buy us a burger. You had me at burger. I'm totally down. We share a burger, all the while he is talking about his cats, his dog, a little about his son, and a little about his ex(I brought up the topic to see any potential red flags there).
As the 'bar' is closing down we close out our tabs and he walks me to my car. It's at about this point that I realize I've asked him about himself and he's told me, but not ONCE did he ask me a question about myself. It's as if he's not interested in me as an actual person. Then the compliments start falling out about how I look great, how losing weight must have been really difficult, and how funny and sweet I am, and then he asks me if I would like to follow him back to his place. Uhm...no.
Then he suggests a second date maybe in a couple of weeks at the firing range. I said I would have to see what my schedule looks like and get back to him. He give me a hug, we part, and I open my car door and drive away.
He finally replied to my text and I told him what @nonoelmo suggested and I have had no further contact.
The whole experience left me feeling kind of empty I guess. I had to sit myself down and journal out some feelings because for a bit I felt like I just wasn't attracted to him physically and that's why I was saying no to the second date. The reality was, he just didn't interest me.
I think I will just focus back on myself, my work, my home, and my family.
I've rearranged my bedroom and I'm definitely feeling some new perspective coming on and I may have FINALLY picked out a career for myself. Now for the education part.
ETA: TL;DR version: Went on a date, dude wasn't blowing me out of the water, went home and decided it's best for me to ignore the whole dating thing until a later time in my life.
Hey seriously why rush into another relationship. Focus on yourself for a while.
I really am confused by all the rushing intro next relationships. I guess I am such a loner this confuses me. Why not enjoy some me time. Do things you like. Then maybe you'll find someone with similar interests.
But I am an odd ball.
If you are an odd ball so am I cause I feel the same way.
Ok we're a pair of oddballs!
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riderfangal wrote: »
I am ok with that!pofoster21 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »So..here we go.
First Date #1:
I met this guy Jason before, we worked at Lowe's together and he always offered to buy me lunch, which I declined but thought it was always kinda of sweet. He's about average in the looks department, not too stunning but not unattractive.
He suggested we meet at the movie theater which is more like an event center, it has bowling, mini golf, a billiards room, and a bar. He says he will meet me there at 6:30pm on Thursday. Okay.
I show up at about 6:20pm, and sit at the bar. NSV humble brag: I have SAVED calories for this date and I only went over goal by 11!
Anyway, I set out to have 2 drinks on this date, 3 MAX. I order a vodka cranberry and commence waiting. I'm chatting with the bartender, talking to the other patrons, I glance at the clock and it is now 7pm. Uhm....am I getting stood up?! I shoot him a text, no response. The bartender, Ashley, feels bad and offers me a shot of tequila on the house. I said sure and started picking out which movie I was going to go see by myself.
He FINALLY shows up at 7:15. Points off for being hella late.
He sits down, apologizes and says he got held up after class and then traffic was a mess. He goes to school IN DOWNTOWN AUSTIN and his class is over at 6pm and he honestly expected to be able to meet me in Bastrop by 6:30pm. It's a 30-45 minute drive into Austin ON A GOOD DAY! Points off for being a little dumb.
He orders a Bud Light and I make a noise of disgust because I do not like Bud Light and the bartender starts making fun because my first choice of beverage was going to be a slightly warm Shiner(Not my first choice but it was the best they had to offer and I'm picky about my beer).
I ask him a bit about school and he talks about how he's going into graphic design for video games and he has a mock interview scheduled for one of his classes with some executives from big gaming companies to get some pointers on getting a job and maybe be offered an internship. I ask him if he has a portfolio of his work to present and he looked at me all dumb struck. Points off for being REALLY dumb.
He has not saved/kept track of ANY of his work from school or stuff he makes/designs for fun to present to a potential employer to demonstrate his skills.
Now, I'm also trying to see his positive attributes. He seems driven, he seems respectful of my personal space, he is offering to pay for my drinks, he isn't talking bad about his ex, he is polite, and is doing okay making eye contact.
I finish my first drink by 8-ish and order a second one and he offers to pay for it, I politely decline and then he offers to buy us a burger. You had me at burger. I'm totally down. We share a burger, all the while he is talking about his cats, his dog, a little about his son, and a little about his ex(I brought up the topic to see any potential red flags there).
As the 'bar' is closing down we close out our tabs and he walks me to my car. It's at about this point that I realize I've asked him about himself and he's told me, but not ONCE did he ask me a question about myself. It's as if he's not interested in me as an actual person. Then the compliments start falling out about how I look great, how losing weight must have been really difficult, and how funny and sweet I am, and then he asks me if I would like to follow him back to his place. Uhm...no.
Then he suggests a second date maybe in a couple of weeks at the firing range. I said I would have to see what my schedule looks like and get back to him. He give me a hug, we part, and I open my car door and drive away.
He finally replied to my text and I told him what @nonoelmo suggested and I have had no further contact.
The whole experience left me feeling kind of empty I guess. I had to sit myself down and journal out some feelings because for a bit I felt like I just wasn't attracted to him physically and that's why I was saying no to the second date. The reality was, he just didn't interest me.
I think I will just focus back on myself, my work, my home, and my family.
I've rearranged my bedroom and I'm definitely feeling some new perspective coming on and I may have FINALLY picked out a career for myself. Now for the education part.
ETA: TL;DR version: Went on a date, dude wasn't blowing me out of the water, went home and decided it's best for me to ignore the whole dating thing until a later time in my life.
Hey seriously why rush into another relationship. Focus on yourself for a while.
I really am confused by all the rushing intro next relationships. I guess I am such a loner this confuses me. Why not enjoy some me time. Do things you like. Then maybe you'll find someone with similar interests.
But I am an odd ball.
If you are an odd ball so am I cause I feel the same way.
Ok we're a pair of oddballs!
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Ugg, that's terrible. I've never even considered the perspective a medical professional might have on situations like these. I hope there isn't too much backlash on the victim.This morning at work there was a car crash victim that came in. He had minor injuries, but the other driver was a fatality at the scene. His mental health was definitely worse off than his physical health. I checked when I got home and no information had been released, not even the fact that a driver was killed. I looked a little while ago and they said that there is an ongoing investigation and criminal charges could be filed. I'm not sure I understand why though, since the guys BAC was 0, and the other driver swerved into his lane. I hate having more knowledge available to me than what is generally available to the public, since the paper almost makes it sound like this poor guy who was rocking back and forth on a stretcher going "omg he's dead" is some sort of monster
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I'm like this as well, but I've never even been in a serious relationship.pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »So..here we go.
First Date #1:
I met this guy Jason before, we worked at Lowe's together and he always offered to buy me lunch, which I declined but thought it was always kinda of sweet. He's about average in the looks department, not too stunning but not unattractive.
He suggested we meet at the movie theater which is more like an event center, it has bowling, mini golf, a billiards room, and a bar. He says he will meet me there at 6:30pm on Thursday. Okay.
I show up at about 6:20pm, and sit at the bar. NSV humble brag: I have SAVED calories for this date and I only went over goal by 11!
Anyway, I set out to have 2 drinks on this date, 3 MAX. I order a vodka cranberry and commence waiting. I'm chatting with the bartender, talking to the other patrons, I glance at the clock and it is now 7pm. Uhm....am I getting stood up?! I shoot him a text, no response. The bartender, Ashley, feels bad and offers me a shot of tequila on the house. I said sure and started picking out which movie I was going to go see by myself.
He FINALLY shows up at 7:15. Points off for being hella late.
He sits down, apologizes and says he got held up after class and then traffic was a mess. He goes to school IN DOWNTOWN AUSTIN and his class is over at 6pm and he honestly expected to be able to meet me in Bastrop by 6:30pm. It's a 30-45 minute drive into Austin ON A GOOD DAY! Points off for being a little dumb.
He orders a Bud Light and I make a noise of disgust because I do not like Bud Light and the bartender starts making fun because my first choice of beverage was going to be a slightly warm Shiner(Not my first choice but it was the best they had to offer and I'm picky about my beer).
I ask him a bit about school and he talks about how he's going into graphic design for video games and he has a mock interview scheduled for one of his classes with some executives from big gaming companies to get some pointers on getting a job and maybe be offered an internship. I ask him if he has a portfolio of his work to present and he looked at me all dumb struck. Points off for being REALLY dumb.
He has not saved/kept track of ANY of his work from school or stuff he makes/designs for fun to present to a potential employer to demonstrate his skills.
Now, I'm also trying to see his positive attributes. He seems driven, he seems respectful of my personal space, he is offering to pay for my drinks, he isn't talking bad about his ex, he is polite, and is doing okay making eye contact.
I finish my first drink by 8-ish and order a second one and he offers to pay for it, I politely decline and then he offers to buy us a burger. You had me at burger. I'm totally down. We share a burger, all the while he is talking about his cats, his dog, a little about his son, and a little about his ex(I brought up the topic to see any potential red flags there).
As the 'bar' is closing down we close out our tabs and he walks me to my car. It's at about this point that I realize I've asked him about himself and he's told me, but not ONCE did he ask me a question about myself. It's as if he's not interested in me as an actual person. Then the compliments start falling out about how I look great, how losing weight must have been really difficult, and how funny and sweet I am, and then he asks me if I would like to follow him back to his place. Uhm...no.
Then he suggests a second date maybe in a couple of weeks at the firing range. I said I would have to see what my schedule looks like and get back to him. He give me a hug, we part, and I open my car door and drive away.
He finally replied to my text and I told him what @nonoelmo suggested and I have had no further contact.
The whole experience left me feeling kind of empty I guess. I had to sit myself down and journal out some feelings because for a bit I felt like I just wasn't attracted to him physically and that's why I was saying no to the second date. The reality was, he just didn't interest me.
I think I will just focus back on myself, my work, my home, and my family.
I've rearranged my bedroom and I'm definitely feeling some new perspective coming on and I may have FINALLY picked out a career for myself. Now for the education part.
ETA: TL;DR version: Went on a date, dude wasn't blowing me out of the water, went home and decided it's best for me to ignore the whole dating thing until a later time in my life.
Hey seriously why rush into another relationship. Focus on yourself for a while.
I really am confused by all the rushing intro next relationships. I guess I am such a loner this confuses me. Why not enjoy some me time. Do things you like. Then maybe you'll find someone with similar interests.
But I am an odd ball.
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@KylerJaye wow, you are SO pretty! What a gorgeous smile you have.
I'd much rather look at you than whats-her-face.0 -
Spending an exciting Saturday night reading my dehumidifier manual because it's gotten so noisy I have to take it apart and clean it.
Be warned, youngsters: this is what old fogies do on their weekends
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
Bhahahahaha, funny. I finally felt that I was really an adult at 25 when I bought and put together my first hoover vacuum.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
Ok 3 years from now. Trust me my weekends will never be about appliances.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
WHOA!!!!! Back the truck up. I saw no tipping point! I'm still climbing the hills for that matter.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
I am just shy of 40 and my weekends consist 99% of chores and errands....if I try REALLY hard, I can fit something fun in, a few times a year.......7
20+ years ago my weekends consisted of night clubs, restaurants, dates, weekends away and shopping (for things I actually wanted, not needed)
When did this happen......
ETA: I have NO idea why there is a 7 at the end of that sentence, lol, it is certainly not the amount of times I do something fun on a weekend, that is about half that, lol0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
Probably not by much
Over 50 anyway. That's the tipping point, when your weekends become all about troubleshooting household appliances
I am just shy of 40 and my weekends consist 99% of chores and errands....if I try REALLY hard, I can fit something fun in, a few times a year.......7
20+ years ago my weekends consisted of night clubs, restaurants, dates, weekends away and shopping (for things I actually wanted, not needed)
When did this happen......
I'm 44. I do chores and home repairs, and do things with my kids, and go on dates and go shopping.
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I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.
It's largely the bolded. I want to, I guess, care for someone?
I have all this love and caring and kindness I want to share and I've just decided to share it with myself(ETA: beacause I'm someone too, right?), by running and lifting and eating well and cooking and yeah...
I'm feeling like making a lot of big changes. Not sure where yet but something is going to happen! Maybe a hair cut? Maybe a new piercing? Maybe my first tattoo? Who KNOWS?!0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »
I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.
It's largely the bolded. I want to, I guess, care for someone?
I have all this love and caring and kindness I want to share and I've just decided to share it with myself(ETA: beacause I'm someone too, right?), by running and lifting and eating well and cooking and yeah...
I'm feeling like making a lot of big changes. Not sure where yet but something is going to happen! Maybe a hair cut? Maybe a new piercing? Maybe my first tattoo? Who KNOWS?!
Yes to sharing all that love and kindness and caring with yourself! How about (wait for it) a sassy new do. I have tattoos and I love them. I however, really recommend that you take a long time in deciding what and where and who will do it. 23 years since my first one and no regrets....but, the first ideas I had on what I thought I wanted and where would have been big regrets. Picture The Tasmanian Devil on a breast toward the clevage. Oh, yeah! (shudder) But for a few months I thought I would do it.
Edit to add: I found this picture online... so kind of...pretty much like this, exactly. Except I'm a well endowed female. (I'm so glad I didn't do it.)
I don't even know what I was thinking was so great about that.0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »
I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.
It's largely the bolded. I want to, I guess, care for someone?
I have all this love and caring and kindness I want to share and I've just decided to share it with myself(ETA: beacause I'm someone too, right?), by running and lifting and eating well and cooking and yeah...
I'm feeling like making a lot of big changes. Not sure where yet but something is going to happen! Maybe a hair cut? Maybe a new piercing? Maybe my first tattoo? Who KNOWS?!
Yes to sharing all that love and kindness and caring with yourself! How about (wait for it) a sassy new do. I have tattoos and I love them. I however, really recommend that you take a long time in deciding what and where and who will do it. 23 years since my first one and no regrets....but, the first ideas I had on what I thought I wanted and where would have been big regrets. Picture The Tasmanian Devil on a breast toward the clevage. Oh, yeah! (shudder) But for a few months I thought I would do it.
Edit to add: I found this picture online... so kind of...pretty much like this, exactly. Except I'm a well endowed female. (I'm so glad I didn't do it.)
I don't even know what I was thinking was so great about that.
I've had several ideas on what I want and where it would go as far as tattoos, but I'm honestly leaning towards the new hair do.0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.
It's largely the bolded. I want to, I guess, care for someone?
I have all this love and caring and kindness I want to share and I've just decided to share it with myself(ETA: beacause I'm someone too, right?), by running and lifting and eating well and cooking and yeah...
I'm feeling like making a lot of big changes. Not sure where yet but something is going to happen! Maybe a hair cut? Maybe a new piercing? Maybe my first tattoo? Who KNOWS?!
Yes to sharing all that love and kindness and caring with yourself! How about (wait for it) a sassy new do. I have tattoos and I love them. I however, really recommend that you take a long time in deciding what and where and who will do it. 23 years since my first one and no regrets....but, the first ideas I had on what I thought I wanted and where would have been big regrets. Picture The Tasmanian Devil on a breast toward the clevage. Oh, yeah! (shudder) But for a few months I thought I would do it.
Edit to add: I found this picture online... so kind of...pretty much like this, exactly. Except I'm a well endowed female. (I'm so glad I didn't do it.)
I don't even know what I was thinking was so great about that.
I've had several ideas on what I want and where it would go as far as tattoos, but I'm honestly leaning towards the new hair do.
Nice! I do love a great new look.0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »
I've done both before so I can relate. Sometimes it's just nice feeling like you have a partner and someone who can care for and love you like no one else can. I hope this makes sense but it's hard to explain! Especially after just getting out of a relationship you don't want to lose those feelings
I totally understand what you mean. I met my husband about a month after I got out of an on/off relationship that spanned a course of 4 years. It's almost like having so much love still inside of you and no one to share all of it with. It's lonely and scary, but the time to yourself can be useful to clear your head.
It's largely the bolded. I want to, I guess, care for someone?
I have all this love and caring and kindness I want to share and I've just decided to share it with myself(ETA: beacause I'm someone too, right?), by running and lifting and eating well and cooking and yeah...
I'm feeling like making a lot of big changes. Not sure where yet but something is going to happen! Maybe a hair cut? Maybe a new piercing? Maybe my first tattoo? Who KNOWS?!
Yes to sharing all that love and kindness and caring with yourself! How about (wait for it) a sassy new do. I have tattoos and I love them. I however, really recommend that you take a long time in deciding what and where and who will do it. 23 years since my first one and no regrets....but, the first ideas I had on what I thought I wanted and where would have been big regrets. Picture The Tasmanian Devil on a breast toward the clevage. Oh, yeah! (shudder) But for a few months I thought I would do it.
Edit to add: I found this picture online... so kind of...pretty much like this, exactly. Except I'm a well endowed female. (I'm so glad I didn't do it.)
I don't even know what I was thinking was so great about that.
So glad you rethought that!0 -
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@lilaclovebird I love your new photo!!
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Good luck V!!!0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »@lilaclovebird I love your new photo!!
This!!pofoster21 wrote: »@MissKalhan have a great race today!
And this too!
I have the greatest admiration for all you runners.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Good luck0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Yes keep them coming!0
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