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1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
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Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
Wow that is some serious weight stigma you've experienced! I would have cried too. I hope the costume designer got scolded for her laziness in proper sizing!
Congratulations on your fantastic loss and your work doing C25K!3 -
Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
This is a wonderfully supportive group. Share away. I would have cried too.3 -
Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
Starting out in a new routine often puts a strain on a relationship. It changes the norm and takes adjustment.
What I have found is the evan though Hubby and I have very different styles of eating. ( I like spacing out my meals and try to lay off the fat and sugar. He generally eats once a day and tries to get calorie laden foods. He eats a lot of fatty foods.) Over the years we figured it out and were able to eat one meal together. When I started MFP I did it for me and hubby was supportive of my activities. As time went on he started getting upset if I went on a walk without asking him to come with me. We both became much more active. Funny thing is now I tend to eat 2 meals a day instead of three, and hubby is tending toward two also. Going out I can always find something that can fit into my macros anywhere we go and when we have dinners at home we make both heavy foods and light. I at occasion eat small portions of the high fatty foods and supplement it with a lot of veggies, and he is beginning to eat more veggies too.
It is some times hard for me. I get so focused in what my plans are and what is want to be eating that I forget that I can some times adjust to accommodate hubby. This app still works evan when you accommodate for changes on plans. Accommodation came easier as for me as I got use to your new eating style, and learned how to modify some of my choices.
It sounds like the costume people and the photographer had their own motives and were not interested in what was best for the play. Otherwise they would have wanted to create the wardrobe that would be suiting the lead, And would have tried to have flattering pictures. Did you get a position that they wanted someone else to get?
Any how they were being real jerks.
Good job on your journey with weight loss! Keep it up. Don't forget to have fun on the way.
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Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
My husband isn't much in to working out either and still eats what he wants. I have gotten used to checking the menu before we go out if we are eating out and picking items that are very low calories and sometimes I just eat off his plate and have a salad for myself. That keeps the meal cheaper as well.
I could never eat a whole meal anyway and always had leftovers back when I was overweight so it works great. 1 -
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Yay for your sister visiting, Susie!! How long is she there for? Good job on maintenance!0
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My son makes REALLY good cheesecake.....that is all....5
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
It is always good to celebrate with loved ones when they are available . Have fun!1 -
So, new weekly holiday.
Pork Frieday Rice!!
I moved a lot of weights this week.
The scale not so much.2 -
I eat very good cheese cake!Italian_Buju wrote: »My son makes REALLY good cheesecake.....that is all....
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I eat very good cheese cake!Italian_Buju wrote: »My son makes REALLY good cheesecake.....that is all....
I eat very good cheese cake!Italian_Buju wrote: »My son makes REALLY good cheesecake.....that is all....
Me, too!1 -
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »Yay for your sister visiting, Susie!! How long is she there for? Good job on maintenance!
Two weeks!!
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Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
I am sorry they made.you cry. Some people don't even know they are.being jerks.
You seem to be.getting a handle on the weight, which is good and I go to breweries without eating all the time. 1) my dad is an alcoholic so I never drink more.than one cider or glass of wine and never when I have to drive. 2) I have celiac and my experience is that breweries are hives of barley cross-contamination.
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I eat very good cheese cake!Italian_Buju wrote: »My son makes REALLY good cheesecake.....that is all....
I miss very good cheesecake. Fortunately, the only very good GF cheesecake I have found is 90 miles away.1 -
orangesmartie wrote: »
Nothing I can think of! Just you!3 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Nice! Has she been using her fitbit?0 -
Confessions:
1) I kind of blame my boyfriend for my weight gain (I know that it's wrong, but I sometimes can't help it). I'm a vegetarian/pescetarian who eats very lightly. He's a carbitarian/carnivore who hates most vegetables. He loves his heavy food and beer. He doesn't really want to exercise or do outdoor activities, so our dates tend to be at restaurants or breweries. It's getting better now (I've lost ~8lbs in 5 weeks, am doing C25K, and he's very supportive of this), but it has definitely put a strain on our relationship in the past.
2) I hate the way my body looks in pants. My muffin top really is all that! I only wear dresses and only own one pair of pants (my dance pants). I'm hoping to branch out into skirts once I lose some more weight.
3) I recently played the lead/femme fatale in a play, my first sexy role in a long time. I pretended that it didn't bother me and laughed it off when the costume designer refused to take my measurements and estimated my size as a 20 (I was a 12-14 at the time), when they spent all their time costuming the only other woman in the play (she was onstage for all of 2 minutes, just her head peeking through the door, but she's thin), when the elderly photographer complained in front of me that he couldn't take a good picture of me because of my weight (totally not true. He was taking pictures of me from below/angled up), and when the stage manager, who is quite a bit heavier than me, ended up having to pin me into all of her clothes just so that I could be dressed in something for the play (they were all too big). I've been an actor my whole life, so I don't have a thin skin by any means, but I cried in private after every one of these incidents.
Thanks so much all for letting me vent. I'm usually a really positive person, but it helps to be able to write these things out and share them. I'm getting stronger every day and I know that I'll be able to look back on some of these things and laugh.
Starting out in a new routine often puts a strain on a relationship. It changes the norm and takes adjustment.
What I have found is the evan though Hubby and I have very different styles of eating. ( I like spacing out my meals and try to lay off the fat and sugar. He generally eats once a day and tries to get calorie laden foods. He eats a lot of fatty foods.) Over the years we figured it out and were able to eat one meal together. When I started MFP I did it for me and hubby was supportive of my activities. As time went on he started getting upset if I went on a walk without asking him to come with me. We both became much more active. Funny thing is now I tend to eat 2 meals a day instead of three, and hubby is tending toward two also. Going out I can always find something that can fit into my macros anywhere we go and when we have dinners at home we make both heavy foods and light. I at occasion eat small portions of the high fatty foods and supplement it with a lot of veggies, and he is beginning to eat more veggies too.
It is some times hard for me. I get so focused in what my plans are and what is want to be eating that I forget that I can some times adjust to accommodate hubby. This app still works evan when you accommodate for changes on plans. Accommodation came easier as for me as I got use to your new eating style, and learned how to modify some of my choices.
It sounds like the costume people and the photographer had their own motives and were not interested in what was best for the play. Otherwise they would have wanted to create the wardrobe that would be suiting the lead, And would have tried to have flattering pictures. Did you get a position that they wanted someone else to get?
Any how they were being real jerks.
Good job on your journey with weight loss! Keep it up. Don't forget to have fun on the way.
Wendy, I love that your husband is both supportive and participating in your weight loss. That is so nice. And great for both of you.1
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