She just doesnt get it!

My0WNinspiration

Buy your own food or make do with what your mom is cooking. Its not your mothers fault you can't control how much pasta you stuff down your throat.

OkieinMinny

DAMN MFP and being Wonky today so I cant see how old you are - because I have 2 young boys and my biggest fear is they will live with me forever!

Im with everyone else - if you HAVE to live there due to the economy etc then yes cook your own meals if you dont like what mom is making and YES respect her!

mhcoss

put your own roof over your head. until then stop crying like a baby that mommy is feeding you

Jacwhite22

Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...

mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::

She just doesnt get it.. im trying to lose weight here and eat my protein and clean food... "having a little" just isnt gonna cut it! I wish there was a way for her to understand but there really isnt. Being from a pretty hardcore italian family we have pasta 2-3 nights a week. Dad doesnt like whole wheat pasta and god forbid I dont eat whats cooked... Its so frustrating that even when I make my own food she still gets upset bc I didnt eat what she cooked. I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?

sorry about that!
(rant over)

You sound like a spoiled rotten self righteous person.....not saying you are....but you sound like it. Eat what your mother cooks......Or talk with her about it and then cook your own food. Or eat a smaller portion of what she fixes and then have a protein shake. You're the one on a "diet" not your mother. Don't you dare give her crap for what she chooses to cook and feed her family....That's not right.

Daisy_Cutter_

Wow -- as a mother I'm just going to say I feel sorry for yours. You're completely ungrateful for her. YOU HUNG UP? Pretty much threw a fit like a 2-year old over what she had planned for dinner. Sheesh...

Grow up -- PLEASE -- stop treating your mother like she doesn't matter and doesn't have feelings. Do you know how it feels to be a mom and be treated the way you just treated her? She's doing what she feels is right and you are disrespectful? I'm fuming right now.

If I was your mother I'd kick your butt out.

Buy your own groceries if you can't move out and be polite when you decline meals... hanging up on your mother should never happen again.

Again to reiterate: GROW UP!

jaxxie

Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...

mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::

She just doesnt get it.. im trying to lose weight here and eat my protein and clean food... "having a little" just isnt gonna cut it! I wish there was a way for her to understand but there really isnt. Being from a pretty hardcore italian family we have pasta 2-3 nights a week. Dad doesnt like whole wheat pasta and god forbid I dont eat whats cooked... Its so frustrating that even when I make my own food she still gets upset bc I didnt eat what she cooked. I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?

sorry about that!
(rant over)

I completely understand. I used to be just like you. Ungrateful for what my mother did for me out of love. Now that she's dead, I'm free to cook my own meals.

But now that my evil mother who fed me all the yummy, nutritious and filling foods (yet somehow I stayed thin with her cooking, magic I know) is dead, I now have this Satan's minion of a sister-in-law cooking for me daily. She just doesn't get it. She feed feeding me carbs and beans and lentils and veggies and meats and cheese and eggs and dairy. I am forced to tell her how much I will have to taste her yummy and nutritious foods and make my own salad to fill the rest of my calories and my belly like a grown up. I don't wanna be a grown up. If I wanted to be a grown up, I wouldn't have turned 29 years old...

yup

Wow, did you misplace your silver spoon?
edited to note that the other quote was because it was RIGHT!

Silver_Star

Here's some motivation. Eat the food your mom makes and go work out your dang selfishness. That will burn a lot of calories for sure.

Capt_Apollo

i love how this kid was probably going to himself "yeah, the people on MFP will understand me!!" and we're all like "nope."

bumblebums

You gonna pay my rent? Long Island in the most expensive place in the country to live. Im not paying 1300 a month for an apt to pay someone elses mortage... MY mom isnt a stick either and shes gained a substantial amount of weight in the last few years too, but you cant tell her that.

Nope, sorry. Try an hour west of you.


On to substantive comments. You presumably got where you are because you ate too much for your activity level. Part of learning how to control your weight is about moderation. Eat your mom's cooking--just know when to stop. For example, don't eat seconds. A bit of pasta with broccoli won't hurt you (unless you have celiac disease or are diabetic).

JanetP124

So how about 2 or 3 nights out of the week you offer to buy the food and cook what you feel are acceptable meals for your Mom?


Then a couple of more nights you be out of the house at dinner time and make do with "clean food" that you stop at the grocery store and buy and consume. One night a week let your Mommy cook for you and eat a small amount and make appreciative noises and tell her you love her.

Katla49

I'm betting your mom cooks healthy foods and the problem is eating too much. Use portion control to solve the problem. Buy a food scale and dishers. You can get these on Amazon or at restaurant supply businesses. Dishers look like ice-cream scoops and are used in the restaurant industry to serve consistent portions. Calculate your calories and use the scales and dishers to put the correct portions of your mom's food onto your plate. Don't take seconds. You lose weight, and she sees the value in portion control. Maybe you can motivate her into losing right along with you. If you exercise and consume the right amount of healthy calories, you will lose weight and get healthier. Some people also use smaller plates so the plate looks fuller. :flowerforyou:

vjohn04

Um it's pasta.. It won't kill you.

Plus there are no "clean" and "dirty" foods.. food is food.

As long as you are under calories, you will lose... end of story.

^this.

I could never give up a food I like (unless I had an allergy to it). Why eliminate things from your diet. You really should listen to your mother! A little won't hurt.

rowanwood

I'm in, just to see if there's eventual butthurt to enjoy.



Also, be nice to your mom. Mine is dying. Yours will too someday. I promise you'll regret every crappy thing you ever did to her.

taunto

i love how this kid was probably going to himself "yeah, the people on MFP will understand me!!" and we're all like "nope."

I for one agree.

OP: Just break up.

runzalot81

This can't be real. We've been punked.

alladream

When I turned vegetarian, my mother stopped cooking for me and I have been feeding myself since. That was 1981, and sometimes I still lived there. *shrug* You gotta do what you gotta do, and I understand parents pushing the food, but yeah, fill up on salad and cook a huge thing of vegetables and protein and have that. Good luck: it can be hard.

o2bADyer

So you're complaining about a free meal that your mom is cooking for you? Make your own! I get it that you want to eat healthier and I get it that you can't afford your own place, but listen to you. You sound truly ungrateful to me... :noway:

cindybowcut

Moderation in everything. Are you dieting or is this a lifestyle change? You don't have to give up anything you just need to make sure you are eating the portion size. Have some pasta add some protein to it and a large green salad. As a mom if my child talked to me like that I would tell them to make their own dinner. If you don't like what your mom makes set down with her and help plan the menu for a week.

tapirfrog

Im not paying 1300 a month for an apt

Wait, you can get an apartment for $1300 a month?

skinnyinnotime

Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...

mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::

I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?

sorry about that!
(rant over)

Don't be so mean to your mum, she loves you, so she doesn't understand doesn't make her thick. Show your mum respect by not hanging up on her for such trivia.

Maybe someone should scream at you "cook your own food and stop being mean to your mum".

BusyRaeNOTBusty

LOL. This is what I tell my children when they complain about what I make for dinner:

YOU GET WHAT YOU GET AND YOU DON'T THROW A FIT.

They are 6, 4, and 2. YOU sir, are an adult. You don't get to complain about what someone makes you for free in the home you most likely get to live for free.

UnwrappingCandy

CARBS ARE NOT EVIL!!!!



and the way you treated your mum is just effing ridiculous. How old are you?

futuremrsevers

Sadly, the world does not stop when we decide to go on a diet. Either cook your own food or start working out to compensate for the delicious food your sweet mother is making for you.

taunto

Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...

mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::

She just doesnt get it.. im trying to lose weight here and eat my protein and clean food... "having a little" just isnt gonna cut it! I wish there was a way for her to understand but there really isnt. Being from a pretty hardcore italian family we have pasta 2-3 nights a week. Dad doesnt like whole wheat pasta and god forbid I dont eat whats cooked... Its so frustrating that even when I make my own food she still gets upset bc I didnt eat what she cooked. I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?

sorry about that!
(rant over)

I completely understand. I used to be just like you. Ungrateful for what my mother did for me out of love. Now that she's dead, I'm free to cook my own meals.

But now that my evil mother who fed me all the yummy, nutritious and filling foods (yet somehow I stayed thin with her cooking, magic I know) is dead, I now have this Satan's minion of a sister-in-law cooking for me daily. She just doesn't get it. She feed feeding me carbs and beans and lentils and veggies and meats and cheese and eggs and dairy. I am forced to tell her how much I will have to taste her yummy and nutritious foods and make my own salad to fill the rest of my calories and my belly like a grown up. I don't wanna be a grown up. If I wanted to be a grown up, I wouldn't have turned 29 years old...

yup

Wow, did you misplace your silver spoon?

I live in Saudi Arabia. Silver spoons are beneath us. At least Gold or Platinum spoons.

Neryberry12

Her house, her rules? Don't like it then leave? Can't afford to leave? Go earn some cash like everyone else on the planet?

And as a PS go buy some flowers and apologise to your mum!!! How ill-mannered! :-(

anarjackson

If you don't have time to cook, buy your groceries and tell your Mom what to cook for you. Then you can sit down as a family with them and eat together.

theerachele

Maybe you could find some healthier recipes and cook dinner together with your mom?

pamklass

All the extra time you have from not having to prepare meals and grocery shopping allows you to get out and be more active to burn them off.

kkclif

Okay well since I completely understand where your coming from I'll try to be helpful instead of patronizing. My parents do not eat healthy by any means and I can't change their eating habits. You really have no option other than to do your own shopping and cook your own meals. Does it make your life more difficult? Yeah. It's the only way though. I usually try to incorporate what I can from what my parents make into my dinner and then make my substitutions when it's necessary. If they are making pasta and broccoli use the broccoli and make your own pasta when you get home. You just have to work with it. I don't know why she would get upset if you cook your own food, but if she does I suppose she will just try to come to terms with the fact that you are trying to eat healthy. My parents understand when I tell them what I choose to eat and what I don't and they actually try to work with me the best that they can to help me out. Just make it work. And for the record I don't think you are rude for being frustrated...

spectralmoon

$1300 for an apartment?

... Is that it? Maybe I should move over there.