What nobody tells you about losing weight
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aksteve777 wrote: »That's it's not "working out" but about proper diet and calorie deficit. Working out is the next but not until you control input.
Great point.
When people ask me what I'm doing, the following conversation happens about 95% of the time:
Other person: "Wow, you look great! What are you doing?"
Me: "I'm calorie counting using Myfitnesspal. I also started running and strength training."
OP (while giving me a knowing look): "Ah, so it's the running."
Me: "Actually, I started running about 6 months before I started losing weight. I didn't start losing until I started calorie counting. Running lets me eat a little bit more, but if I wasn't counting, I wouldn't be losing."
OP: "I can't run which is why I can't lose weight."46 -
I love seeing my thin shadow as I run the streets at night. I know it's silly but seeing my waist and space between my arms and waist is such a cool feeling. That little shadow is mine!49
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- Smaller bra! Now I can actually jog!
- Seeing my reflection at the store and recognizing myself!
- Wearing clothes that were always to tight, now I swim in them!
- Knowing I'm doing something right, when my so called friends haven't sad a word! LOL10 -
Two things that might make you happy (I'm using the generic 'you' here):
1. An Alternative to Expensive Clothes Go to the Sally Ann or Value Village or a consignment shop for your clothes while you're losing (or gaining, I suppose), and then you CAN afford to take your new body to Bermuda! The only caution is if you're afraid that "new" pair of jeans might have bedbugs, throw it in the dryer on hot for 10 min and that'll kill them.
2. Constipation Remember Phillips Milk of Magnesia from the drug store? White, chalky and nobody your age knew what it was for? In fact, it was a "natural" remedy for constipation. They don't market it as that any more, or at least I haven't seen it around, but now you can get capsules of Magnesium Citrate or better, Magnesium Gluconate. You don't need or want a huge dose because it'll cause you to "leak" at embarrassing times, but when you haven't had any "output" for a week, it could be your best friend. One 150mg capsule a night for a couple of nights should solve all problems (drink a glass of water with it). Also, it's inexpensive, so that's another plus.12 -
- Realising how few of my friends share my new more-active lifestyle
- Realising that a clothes size I thought I would be happy with now seems massive to me
- Biting my tongue when people say "there won't be any of you left soon" when I'm only 3½stone down out of 6 stone to be at the upper range of healthy
- Feeling awkward receiving compliments cos I'm not used to it and find it very uncomfortable
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-how skipping exercise can actually make you feel depressed/lathargic as your body gets used to the endorphins!
Totally get this!
We had a bout of flu go through the family the other week and I went from exercising every single day in some form (swimming/running/walking/gym) to being stuck in bed for a week either personally or nursing sick kids. Then for the week after I was still struggling with a bad chest so had to ease back slowly. I couldn't believe how much I missed those endorphins and I was raring to go as soon as I was healthy enough again! Still not 100% back into it yet but I'm shocked at how I notice it mentally more than anything.
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The bad: that the boobs do not necessarily go down. I have lost 3 band sizes in my bras, but gone UP 2 cup sizes. It is getting really hard to find bras in my size any more.
The good: just now much mental health is tied into physical health. I have suffered from depression all of my adult life (some at a "normal" weight and some at my obese weight). This last year, as my physical self has made huge strides, my mental health has improved tremendously to where I cannot even pinpoint a bout with depression in the last 14 months.
Are we twins? LOL!
I've always been big up top and although band sizes are decreasing, I'm now struggling with dresses cos my boobs don't seem to be going anywhere so I can't get the tops of dresses done up. Also, now I'm smaller in my lower body, I feel the top half is even more noticeable which doesn't help when I already feel too self-conscious. Maybe they'll just be the last thing to go? I've still got 2½ stone to lose so hopefully I'll get back to the large-but-manageable size I used to be in my early 20s!
I have also suffered a lot in the past with depression and anxiety (at all weights), but have been pleasantly surprised by how much better I feel all round now that I'm more active and getting fitter and also because I'm eating less crap these days!
Great news all round
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The way your goals change - from just wanting to lose enough to get in an acceptable range, to wanting what left of you to look fit and not soft, to wanting to see if you can squat more than your body weight or run a half marathon. Just 'cause.
Yup! I'm currently at the size I thought I wanted to get to (approx 3 dress sizes down) and I'm officially "overweight" not obese any more but I'm certainly not planning to stop yet. I definitely want to lose the last 2½stone to get to the upper limit of healthy and I don't know what size I'll be when I reach that, but I know I want to be fit and healthy and not just seeing the right numbers on the scales.
I've started doing the 5k parkruns as often as I can, when previously I couldn't run for more than 15-20 minutes. I could now actually imagine running a 10k and maybe even further in the future. I regularly swim 2km at the pool in a session when a year ago I could only manage 500m at a time.
These changing goals are the most motivational for me because they show real progress 8 -
The bad: that the boobs do not necessarily go down. I have lost 3 band sizes in my bras, but gone UP 2 cup sizes. It is getting really hard to find bras in my size any more.
The good: just now much mental health is tied into physical health. I have suffered from depression all of my adult life (some at a "normal" weight and some at my obese weight). This last year, as my physical self has made huge strides, my mental health has improved tremendously to where I cannot even pinpoint a bout with depression in the last 14 months.
Are we twins? LOL!
I've always been big up top and although band sizes are decreasing, I'm now struggling with dresses cos my boobs don't seem to be going anywhere so I can't get the tops of dresses done up. Also, now I'm smaller in my lower body, I feel the top half is even more noticeable which doesn't help when I already feel too self-conscious. Maybe they'll just be the last thing to go? I've still got 2½ stone to lose so hopefully I'll get back to the large-but-manageable size I used to be in my early 20s!
I have also suffered a lot in the past with depression and anxiety (at all weights), but have been pleasantly surprised by how much better I feel all round now that I'm more active and getting fitter and also because I'm eating less crap these days!
Great news all round
Not all women will lose weight in their breasts, especially after age 40 or so. Changing hormones are the likely culprit. Look at it this way - many women pay good money for large boobs and a tiny waist and butt. It's not a bad look. Buy separates instead of dresses.
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I'm still pretty much at the start of my long-term journey (I'm making small and measured changes instead of yo-yoing for the rest of my life)
Making that first step... and then another... and then another... that's the true "secret" to weightloss. Keep stepping
- actually enjoying exercise, specifically cycling. I hadn't ridden in nearly 20 years this time last year, absolutely never thought I would like riding in my lifetime and now I'm planning a 60 mile ride in September raising money for MacMillan Cancer care!
My family were never into fitness or sports (well, unless you count my dad liking rugby for the drinking sessions afterwards or the family weekend cycle rides to the pub LOL!) so enjoying being active is a relatively new thing for me. The best quote I have is from a few weeks ago when my son suddenly said to me that he thinks I'm "sporty"! It seems silly, but knowing we're teaching our kids that being active and enjoying exercise is perfectly normal... well that means an awful lot to me.
We're taking part in a Swimathon as a family to raise money for Marie Curie Cancer Care next month, and I think it's brilliant that you've found an activity you love and are helping others too
Good luck!
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RaeBeeBaby wrote: »Buy separates instead of dresses.
hehe that's a very sensible suggestion! I might find the boobs annoying, but my husband is quite happy that I'm not losing them just yet
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It's called ketosis! It's apart of losing weight...
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I am only starting my journey and only down 14 lbs with 28 more to go, but i have already noticed that my boyfriend is not extremely supportive. While he wants me to do what will make me happy (and he is starting to track food also) he actually told me last night that if this starts to take over my life he won't deal with that.
Mind you, I have been on this journey now for 2 months - i have never pushed working out or healthy food on him. If he wants to go out to eat, we go, and i just order something healthier instead of a burger. Unfortunately, my ideal body type is not what he would like me to look like. I want a lean body with muscle definition (not bulky), but he says any muscle showing on a girl is gross. I'm hoping that once I start slimming out and he sees how much happier I am he will realize this is a GOOD thing and not something to "take over my life" but just be a part of my life.
Also, i am SO sick and tired of explaining to people that i will not be GAINING muscle or looking like a man with the amount of cals i eat. Just because I lift does not mean i will be bulky and veiny. So frustrating.13 -
That people will get upset when you don't eat 3 portions of calorie dense food.6
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- That, no matter how much you lose, people that have *never* had any lasting weight loss success will tell you you're doing it wrong and then tell you how to do it right.21
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cakegoddess1 wrote: »Being ACTUALLY handicapped, I get really annoyed when large girls take the handicapped stall. It's NOT for you...it's for us who really need it. Please...a little respect.
With all due respect, as the daughter and niece of longtime wheelchair bound women (advanced MS), you are incorrect in your statement. The only handicapped-related facility that is exclusively for handicapped users (and is thus protected by law) is handicapped parking. Ramps, toilets, elevators, support bars, and so on are available for use by anybody, including the able bodied. They are made available because some handicapped people are not physically able to use the regular facilities or entrances, stairs, etc., but they are not reserved for the exclusive use of disabled people. If the handicap bathroom stall is the only one available, I will use it with no qualms or guilt whatsoever, and I know that my mother and aunt would not begrudge that in the slightest. Now, if there is a disabled lady waiting for a stall, I would certainly leave the handicap stall open for her, but only in the same way as I would encourage an elderly lady to go ahead of me in line. It's common courtesy, not entitlement. I'm sorry, but as one who lives closely with disabled people, I find your attitude disappointing.
Thank you. I was biting my tongue on this, because I can get very witchy when I go on a rant. You said it nicely. Sorry, but I don't want my fat butt rubbing all over the wall of a public restroom stall, and neither does anyone else.10 -
softballgirl712 wrote: »Feeling comfortable enough to say to others when you are hungry. Sounds crazy but I used to never announce it because I thought everyone would think "of course you are"
Same for me. I always have to justify it with "I haven't eaten since x-o'clock" or else I'm just a piggy who likes to eat.14 -
PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »softballgirl712 wrote: »Feeling comfortable enough to say to others when you are hungry. Sounds crazy but I used to never announce it because I thought everyone would think "of course you are"
Same for me. I always have to justify it with "I haven't eaten since x-o'clock" or else I'm just a piggy who likes to eat.
Yep, me too. Also I love your name.
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aksteve777 wrote: »That's it's not "working out" but about proper diet and calorie deficit. Working out is the next but not until you control input.
This is so true. I had been working out for months before I cut calories, and there was no weight loss. I like to think it prevented even more weight gain, but who knows. As soon as I paired calorie deficit with that exercise though, the pounds started coming off in no time. 80-20. It's 80% diet and 20% exercise, for sure.6 -
Oh, and that my in-laws didn't notice a difference, but the lady who works at my apt. office noticed I'd lost weight! And she called me "skinny" today, haha.
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@S_Evanson613: Just don't let him influence your goals. Your body, mind, and spirit are not another's to control. Your happiness is important.
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Everything around weight loss seems to be tied up with emotions for me. I realize that my workout and eating habits change depending upon that. Its not just words, sticking to a plan is the most important thing you can do. The best piece of advice for working out is change into your workout clothes before you decide to work out or not. I've found that once I'm dressed and ready to go, there is no turning back.
Also the clothes. I'm thrilled to be losing weight, just not sure I can afford buying new clothes every couple of months.
Finally, the sleep. Its awesome and I almost always wake up energized and ready to go.
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brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
This winds me up too... Some people genuinely don't seem able to connect that those behaviours are why you look the way you do!
I got that at the gym once from a guy who was hitting on me. He told me I looked too good to need to be at the gym...and while on one hand it was a compliment, on the other it really upset me because the only reason I'm not a whale is because I work out and eat right most of the time. Totally ignorant of the hard work it takes, especially for us women with slower metabolisms.6 -
They don't tell you that it starts to feel good to be a little hungry, and that eating amounts of what you used to eat will make you feel I'll.14
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I've found that people love to be discouraging. A supervisor at work said, "you're so tiny, don't worry, you'll gain it all back." She also said, "you're starting to look frail." Why would you tell someone who has lost weight that they are going to gain it all back?!26
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How loose my clothing really are. They flap in the wind.5
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This is so true! In the beginning of my journey I did just this! It works, once I'd gotten dressed I had to go. (*)NickJustin44 wrote: »The best piece of advice for working out is change into your workout clothes before you decide to work out or not. I've found that once I'm dressed and ready to go, there is no turning back.10 -
crazygooselady wrote: »They don't tell you that it starts to feel good to be a little hungry, and that eating amounts of what you used to eat will make you feel I'll.
This.
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Two years ago I didn't dare to pin my hair up because I felt my face (note: fat cheeks melding into my neck) would be too exposed. Now I'm totally fine with bunning it, even on public transport!
The amount of times I have to pee per day!!
I drink about 3L per day now. I think I pee every hour or maybe more...
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