What nobody tells you about losing weight

Speziface

simbartes wrote: »

That you will have to learn to deal with stupid and unrealistic expectations from other people...

Like the woman in my office who complains constantly about being overweight (she is a little), and yet HATES exercising and refuses to do anything more taxing than shopping for food (those food bags weigh a ton you know, it build up your muscles you know!)
She then proceeds to munch on the snacks (the high carb, high sugar, salty, chocolaty, highly processed type of snacks) she brought, literally all day! Telling me the entire time, "gee I wish I could just drop weight like you did." It takes a super human effort to keep my mouth firmly shut.

I've had a couple of people say the same thing, but I don't keep my mouth shut.

"Come here and I'll show you what I'm doing," is my response. Sometimes they'll watch and learn.


And to keep on with the thread topic: I've noticed I'm getting flirted with more. A LOT more.

maybe1pe

How people (one of my best friends) will ask me how I'm losing weight and when I explain it will go on to say that it's too hard to weigh food and count calories (literally it takes me 5 seconds to weigh my food, I have to put it on a plate anyways...) and will make comments about when I don't weigh my food like "good, that's stupid anyways"

But then that SAME PERSON (who a few months ago decided to also lose weight) will complain to me over and over about how she isn't losing weight even though she uses her exercise bike every night after work.

I just give up. I don't understand the logic of telling someone who has lost 85lbs by counting calories and weighing their food that they're wrong and that doesn't work and it's so hard and that the ONLY way anyone could possibly lose weight is exercise.... okay well how's that going for you?

I'm sorry. I just had to rant because it's like a weekly occurrence with this person. I just don't say anything to her about it anymore when she asks for my help... she doesn't actually want my help she just wants to complain.

youdoyou2016

OK, it's taken me some time to realize there is a pattern here, but this one is certainly unexpected -- and really annoying and uncomfortable. ALERT: possibly a TMI post!

Apparently, one can get rolls on one's rear end?! Or a wrinkly rear end?!

I'm getting closer to my goal weight, and every pound down now makes a really noticeable difference. I am so uncomfortable sitting this week. This has happened a couple times before over the last year (and last 100 pounds gone). It's like I'm sitting on a sock or something in my underwear. But it's me! I know now it goes away eventually since now I realize it's a thing that happens every so often. Maybe it's the squishy thing that happens before a whoosh and I'm just really squishy now?! Sorry, I'm laughing as I type this. It's ridiculous ... Bodies are so weird. Anyone else know what I'm talking about? I'm so glad we're anonymous on here ...

ashorey87

THAT SHAVING YOUR ARM PITS GETS A LOT HARDER! Hahahaha. Seriously though, I never had "indented" arm pits before, they were so easy to shave. Now I struggle hard.

NanP135

How once you get used to eating smaller portions you automatically stop once you start to get full. It amazes me how much food I used to eat before and how I would keep eating even after I was full.

IremiaRe

youdoyou2016 wrote: »

Apparently, one can get rolls on one's rear end?! Or a wrinkly rear end?!

Alas, yes... A good girdle is recommended - you can get yourself all tucked in and smoothed out for the day. Good Luck.

scjl132

Thanks ashorey87 for posting that particular problem. My are so "indented" I almost have to go in sideways instead of up and down. Who knew?!?!

ashorey87

scjl132 wrote: »

Thanks ashorey87 for posting that particular problem. My are so "indented" I almost have to go in sideways instead of up and down. Who knew?!?!

Yes, me too! It's a total struggle. Who knew is right!!

lay011

NAP150 wrote: »

How once you get used to eating smaller portions you automatically stop once you start to get full. It amazes me how much food I used to eat before and how I would keep eating even after I was full.

This is related but I used to go to lunch with some girls who were skinny in my office and they would order soup and half a sandwich and eat like half of each and then go "Oh I'm so full I really can't eat anymore" and pack it up and put it away. I always thought ugh those skinny girls putting on a show of being full cuz I didn't believe they could possibly be full with that little food in their stomachs. So I had been eating a calorie deficit for about 4-5 weeks when I went to lunch with my coworkers again. I ordered a big cobb salad and guess what? About 2/3 way through I got STUFFED and I packed up the food and put it away. I was amazed! The skinny girls weren't lying...they were actually full!

DeweyAndreas

wateryphoenix wrote: »

-You will discover bones you forgot (or never knew) you had.
-Support from friends/family can be pretty hit or miss.
-Not everyone will notice or comment on your loss. Most of my closest friends haven't said a word about me losing weight, but their families have, and my family has.
-Just because you lost weight doesn't mean you can go back to how you were before you were trying to lose weight. I know a few people who let themselves revert back to the old 'them', and they gained a lot of their weight back. This is a lifestyle change. A lifelong journey.

Well said.

jennybearlv

That even though your conscious mind is very confused about who this shrinking person is and why she is so bony your instincts know exactly what your capable of. I had this interesting thought process today while getting into the bath. It went straight from "This water is too hot," to "Why am I so high?" Apparently whatever instincts kick in to save me from slightly too warm water decided I was perfectly capable of jumping up a foot and a half onto a four inch ledge with wet feet. My conscious mind is feeling even more confused about who I am and rather worried about what other precarious situations I might get myself into.

SueSueDio

Something dawned on me just a few minutes ago that I never would have considered in relation to weight loss - it takes me longer to use the bathroom, and I have to be more alert to my body's hints that I need to go so that I allow myself more time to get there!

Why? Because I'm no longer wearing elasticated trousers that I can quickly and easily pull up and down... I now have belts and buckles and buttons and zips to deal with, as well as close-fitting shirts to be tucked in when pulling everything up again.

It was all so simple before... now it's a bit of a performance some days!

dominique_paul

How easy eating healthy and living right can be once you get into the routine.
But also how something can easy throw off your hard work.
That I deserve to be happy along the process of losing weight.
To start living NOW. Don't say "I'll do this, when I way this"
How hard it is to pick up where I left off.
That you have to realise when people are negative influences on your health even when they don't see it.
That I gained a light inside myself that I wanted to pass on to others.

Hungry_Shopgirl

At least three people have commented on how proud they are of my "drive" and determination when it comes to weight loss. But in reality for me it's been less about will-power and more about habits I don't have to think about. Like setting my alarm at 4:50 am to get a workout in before work. I don't think about it, I don't decide to do it, I just roll out of bed and do it because it's routine and I like sticking to the plan. Or packing fruits and veg to eat during the day. Or reaching for a yogurt and fruit when I'm hungry in the afternoon. It's just there, it's what I do.

I didn't realize that being healthy would be more about just replacing habits and that these "healthy" way would become just as comfortable and predictable as my overeating, unhealthy ways were for me in the past.

daworley

SueSueDio wrote: »

daworley wrote: »

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I've seen this site mentioned a couple of times, and was confused because it appears to be a stitching site with nothing about selling clothes. I finally dug deep enough to discover it's actually thredUP.com which is the clothing site.

(And their service isn't available in Canada so no good to me anyway, but in case anyone else is confused I thought I'd mention it!)

You are right!! Thank you for getting the right site!

rachelr1116

Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »

At least three people have commented on how proud they are of my "drive" and determination when it comes to weight loss. But in reality for me it's been less about will-power and more about habits I don't have to think about. Like setting my alarm at 4:50 am to get a workout in before work. I don't think about it, I don't decide to do it, I just roll out of bed and do it because it's routine and I like sticking to the plan. Or packing fruits and veg to eat during the day. Or reaching for a yogurt and fruit when I'm hungry in the afternoon. It's just there, it's what I do.

I didn't realize that being healthy would be more about just replacing habits and that these "healthy" way would become just as comfortable and predictable as my overeating, unhealthy ways were for me in the past.

So much this. I've had several people in the last few weeks comment about how I must have amazing willpower. Not really, I just do the things I've been doing for so long that it's become my new normal.

JeffreyOC

Our minds and bodies are different from people who have a normal relationship with food. We have overcome the weight issues, now we have to deal with the issues that put the weight there in the first place.

NannersBalletLegs

JeffreyOC wrote: »

Our minds and bodies are different from people who have a normal relationship with food. We have overcome the weight issues, now we have to deal with the issues that put the weight there in the first place.

^This! I had no idea how emotional this process was going to be. Now, I have to actually deal with my feelings rather than eating them! It's all good, though, because we all know deep down that the only way out is through.

nwarner89

bump -- nice read for motivation!

soufauxgirl

that discipline to reach my fitness and weight loss goals has spilled into other aspects of my life; for example working diligently at getting good marks for my uni studies and wanting to fulfill some key career milestones.