What nobody tells you about losing weight
Replies
-
smiliekiwi wrote: »I heard recently that 80% of thin people did not have to work at it.
We have different metabolisms and born into different lifestyles. I don’t think we should take the blame for how we got there .. but definitely take the credit for losing it and huge kudos for keeping it off ( the Biggest Loser never had a reunion show for a reason)
I was thin all my life and never had to work at it UNTIL my mid-40s. Went up two sizes that year and then another size the following year. Accepted it as the natural progression of getting older. Wore bigger sizes for at least 8 years (didn’t even diet for my wedding). Finally faced my 162-pound self (I’m 5’4.5” ) and was aghast when I looked at the pictures. Lost 27 pounds. Gained 10 back. Lost 5. Am now trying to lose again. It can become a real struggle EVEN for those who were previously thin!
I echo this. Was very thin all my life growing up, could eat whatever I wanted and even lost just about all of the baby weight after two pregnancies. Didn't start to gain until my mid-late 30s and because it was only about 10 pounds a year it was very gradual and I noticed, but didn't really pay a lot of attention to it because it wasn't too much too fast. Well 10 pounds a year over 5 years is 50 pounds of course and I was 5'4" at 180 in 2014. Lost 55 pounds by early spring of 2016, and now... have gained 35 back over the course of a very stressful year, but want to just lose another 25 as 125 at my age is a bit too thin (wrinkles come out when you're older!). But yes, being thin for a lot of your life- you think of yourself as thin in your mind (I guess the same way people who've been heavy all of their lives have the mental image of being fat). And it's weird, but until you see a photo you don't even see it in the mirror. The struggle will never end and it's very easy to slip into bad habits as maintaining is about 1000 times harder than losing. Hard to find that balance of no longer losing but no gaining either.4 -
I was going through and untagging myself from facebook photos that were with people I don't like anymore, but then I realized I should save some of them for "before" pictures because I never took any official ones, lol.8
-
RelCanonical wrote: »I was going through and untagging myself from facebook photos that were with people I don't like anymore, but then I realized I should save some of them for "before" pictures because I never took any official ones, lol.
Finally. A real use for those stupid things!2 -
jwilliams1975 wrote: »3. Finding out when you get close to goal weight you can’t depend on your bathroom scale because we are mostly water, so now I get InBody 570 measurements:( fat, muscle, and water percentage measurements
Could you explain this a bit more? Why can't I trust the bathroom scale at goal weight compared to starting weight? I get that InBody is probably more accurate or techinical, so is this because you have some specific goal? Do you do bodybuilding?1 -
You just can't trust bathroom scales, one minute they say you weigh 200lbs and the next they are asking your partner out on a date33
-
jwilliams1975 wrote: »3. Finding out when you get close to goal weight you can’t depend on your bathroom scale because we are mostly water, so now I get InBody 570 measurements:( fat, muscle, and water percentage measurements
Could you explain this a bit more? Why can't I trust the bathroom scale at goal weight compared to starting weight? I get that InBody is probably more accurate or techinical, so is this because you have some specific goal? Do you do bodybuilding?
I think he's trying to track his gains but since he appears to be mainly focused on recomp just following the number on the scale doesn't really show the progress like he wants to.2 -
This is a little backwards, but I think it still applies
And after 4yrs of being grateful (I truly do love breastfeeding!!) I am so READY to finally be able to eat in a deficit + lift heavy things and SEE results. I was unprepared for how weary my mind would be as I felt “trapped” in this body, grateful to be breastfeeding, then guilty for feeling “trapped” when this such a special time. I always was “shoulding” on myself. It was a real mental battle! “You should be more grateful for this special privilege instead of wishing for the time when it can be done and you’re ‘free’ to ‘be yourself’ again” bllahhhhhhh.
My body and my mind are ready for a break! And I wish there were more stories of mamas like me out there so when we’re discouraged we can more easily find out that we’re not alone.
Well count me as another mama like you! I have carried 3 pregnancies since 2014 and nursed two babies. I’m still nursing the 16 month old. I think I had 2 months off between 1 & 2. (Weaning and then pregnant again). It is exhausting. For me, just wearing a sports bra affected my milk supply! I can’t leave those on any longer than necessary.
We do give up our bodies and make the baby that we are growing—inside our outside our body—first priority. And it’s ok to feel both frustrated and grateful that we are able to breastfeed and give up our bodies for so long. I’m sure that when I’m old and looking back this will seem like a much shorter season of life than it seems right now.
Yess!!! I had a long break between 1 & 2 but a short break like this between 2 & 3.
I have often thought the same thing! This is SUCH a short time in the grander picture of life. I’m surprised at how weary my mind had become over the last 4yrs of encouraging myself with that reality. It’s like I reached a point a few months ago where I just couldn’t think positively about it any more
I’m in a much better head space right now. Thanks for sharing your experience! 2 -
I carry a lot of weight in my cheeks, and I'm starting to look a little bit bobblehead-y because everywhere else is shrinking, lol. I'll take it, keeps the wrinkles at bay.7
-
RelCanonical wrote: »I carry a lot of weight in my cheeks, and I'm starting to look a little bit bobblehead-y because everywhere else is shrinking, lol. I'll take it, keeps the wrinkles at bay.
I agree about the face fullness! My neck especially is a wrinkly mess from not only age but weigh loss! Ugh!3 -
bjdavidson964 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I carry a lot of weight in my cheeks, and I'm starting to look a little bit bobblehead-y because everywhere else is shrinking, lol. I'll take it, keeps the wrinkles at bay.
I agree about the face fullness! My neck especially is a wrinkly mess from not only age but weigh loss! Ugh!
I have the opposite problem-my passport problem from my lightest weight makes me look ill, or like I abuse drugs. Anti-wrinkle creams are now a staple in my bathroom1 -
RelCanonical wrote: »I carry a lot of weight in my cheeks, and I'm starting to look a little bit bobblehead-y because everywhere else is shrinking, lol. I'll take it, keeps the wrinkles at bay.
Ugh - wish I had this problem. Overall I do look better 40+ pounds lighter, but my face doesn't have the fullness it used to. It looked good full...not as gaunt. Not that I want to go back but.... *sigh*4 -
A real catch-22. I agree with the 'sigh'! Anti-wrinkle creams are a staple for sure...lol!3
-
Mexicangreensalsa wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I love wrapping my hand around my wrist to check how much weight I've lost in a traditionally "bony" area. Used to be I could only just barely touch finger to thumb, but now I can easily get a grip around my wrist. I kind of obsessively do it when I don't have something else to do with my hands and I wonder if my coworkers think I'm weird during meetings haha.
OHMYGODS
...I have just experimented and discovered that I can wrap my thumb and pinky finger around my wrist. Easily.
I had no idea that was a thing.
Along related lines, definitely nobody told me that my necklaces would become unwearable with half of my outfits. I've somehow gone from needing extension chains on some of them to having even 16" chains dangling irritatingly low on most clothes. Who knew that you could store that much fat on your neck?!
I never knew some people couldn't do this with ther wrists.
I can still barely touch my middle finger to my thumb and I have long fingers and large palms.0 -
Mexicangreensalsa wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I love wrapping my hand around my wrist to check how much weight I've lost in a traditionally "bony" area. Used to be I could only just barely touch finger to thumb, but now I can easily get a grip around my wrist. I kind of obsessively do it when I don't have something else to do with my hands and I wonder if my coworkers think I'm weird during meetings haha.
OHMYGODS
...I have just experimented and discovered that I can wrap my thumb and pinky finger around my wrist. Easily.
I had no idea that was a thing.
Along related lines, definitely nobody told me that my necklaces would become unwearable with half of my outfits. I've somehow gone from needing extension chains on some of them to having even 16" chains dangling irritatingly low on most clothes. Who knew that you could store that much fat on your neck?!
I never knew some people couldn't do this with ther wrists.
I can still barely touch my middle finger to my thumb and I have long fingers and large palms.
We all have different body shapes. (: I am def a dress size up from most people my height and weight because my shoulders are, on average, wider than the average woman's.0 -
We all have different body shapes. (: I am def a dress size up from most people my height and weight because my shoulders are, on average, wider than the average woman's. [/quote]
I hear you there. I carry my weight in my tummy and legs, but I wear a size larger shirt than pants.0 -
I noticed a lump on my side under my bra. Then I realized that it was my ribcage, D'oh. I had forgotten or never realized that my rib cage widens significantly. My Dad used to say I had a barrel chest.7
-
People wanting to give their opinion or get my opinion more.
Giving me their opinion- like I think you have lost too much weight even though I haven’t, that I ate too much/too little, or the I’m surprised you eat blank and lose weight type comments.
Get my opinion- do you think I should this? Or what do you do to lose weight? Eating healthy and exercise is never good enough.
Also buying clothes and shaving is a lot different4 -
Having a waist again. I forgot what it was like to be able to wear pantyhose without them rolling off at the worst moments 😜15
-
You can become a 'regular' at the gym. Desk staff come out of the back room to say hello, trainers extend sessions to make sure they've covered everything you wanted, and instructors offer to sneak you into overbooked classes.
There's this whole community I never knew about!30 -
You can become a 'regular' at the gym. Desk staff come out of the back room to say hello, trainers extend sessions to make sure they've covered everything you wanted, and instructors offer to sneak you into overbooked classes.
There's this whole community I never knew about!
Very true. I went on a week-long vacation last summer and when I returned I had more than one staff member at my gym say "We were beginning to worry about you because you hadn't come in for a few days."
The other gym regulars notice when someone hasn't been in for a few days as well. We don't talk much (it's early and we're here to work) but there's definitely a community feel to my gym.23 -
linsey0689 wrote: »People wanting to give their opinion or get my opinion more.
Giving me their opinion- like I think you have lost too much weight even though I haven’t, that I ate too much/too little, or the I’m surprised you eat blank and lose weight type comments.
Get my opinion- do you think I should this? Or what do you do to lose weight? Eating healthy and exercise is never good enough.
Also buying clothes and shaving is a lot different
I've lost a lot, but I find more people want to tell why of how I have done it wrong, or how I couy improve. Usually it's people who have not been able to loose weight themselves.7 -
This may be a "well, duh!" for most, but nobody told me that even when I'm on a restricted calorie diet, I don't feel hungry. My body adjusts to eating less, but still eating whatever I want, if I'm within limits. Sometimes I feel so full that I wonder how was I even able to eat so much! Portion control is the best thing for me.
Also, that I will have to use all my sewing skills since half my clothes is already too loose on me.18 -
kenyonhaff wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I carry a lot of weight in my cheeks, and I'm starting to look a little bit bobblehead-y because everywhere else is shrinking, lol. I'll take it, keeps the wrinkles at bay.
Ugh - wish I had this problem. Overall I do look better 40+ pounds lighter, but my face doesn't have the fullness it used to. It looked good full...not as gaunt. Not that I want to go back but.... *sigh*
Are you still in a deficit? I have heard that the face looks less gaunt after maintaining for a while with glycogen replenishing at maintenance calories.2 -
How being a pack rat paid off- I'm shopping in my closet of clothes I haven't been able to wear in 3 years and they look GREAT!
How often we mistake thirst for hunger.
How suddenly I leave the gym smiling! That only took 6 years!!!22 -
I used to "scoff" at or at the very least, roll my eyes at people who have blasted the greater majority of the weight off, who would complain or even "dare" to post about what a difficult time they had attempting to lose forever getting rid of the last 10 or so pounds when I was obese and overweight. I used to think to myself "hmmmmmph! What are they complaining about"?!? 10 pounds or so is NOTHING compared to how far I've got to go. Now that I'm at that place of blasting the last 10 or so pounds from up off of me/my body (and have been at this place of blasting the last 10-13lbs off for a long time now)--several+ months and I'm not complaining, because I have learned that this weight blastification TAKES TIME and a lot of it ). I am humbled and am sorry that I used to think that way when people would post their struggles/issues with the last 10lbs or so
. The last bit of weight a person is trying to forever rid their bodies from is no joke, at all. It's a real deal struggle that I never imagined and/or imagined that it would be as easy as pie to blast the last 10 or so pounds away. 29 -
Nobody told me I could be within 40 pounds of goal weight and start sabotaging myself.
https://myfitnesspal.com/blog/IremiaRe
I am completely flummoxed about it, as I have NO idea why my psyche is starting to fight me. Seriously, every pound is a major battle right now... not because I don't know how or what to do - but because I simply am not DOING it, consistently - even though I KNOW what needs to happen for the weight to come off.
42 -
Nobody told me I could be within 40 pounds of goal weight and start sabotaging myself.
https://myfitnesspal.com/blog/IremiaRe
I am completely flummoxed about it, as I have NO idea why my psyche is starting to fight me. Seriously, every pound is a major battle right now... not because I don't know how or what to do - but because I simply am not DOING it, consistently - even though I KNOW what needs to happen for the weight to come off.
I have done this for years so I can relate. I don't know what it will take for you, but I just got sick and tired of doing things half @ssed.. working so hard and then undoing my own efforts, so I just buckled down hard this last year.8 -
Nobody told me I could be within 40 pounds of goal weight and start sabotaging myself.
https://myfitnesspal.com/blog/IremiaRe
I am completely flummoxed about it, as I have NO idea why my psyche is starting to fight me. Seriously, every pound is a major battle right now... not because I don't know how or what to do - but because I simply am not DOING it, consistently - even though I KNOW what needs to happen for the weight to come off.
I have done this for years so I can relate. I don't know what it will take for you, but I just got sick and tired of doing things half @ssed.. working so hard and then undoing my own efforts, so I just buckled down hard this last year.
lol.. I just realized when I typed Azzed with an @, I linked to someone's old profile.2 -
That people will look at you and somehow make a comment using your body to make self-degrading comments about themselves. I struck up a conversation with two moms at the local community center who had little babies (8 and 10 months), I had my 21-month-old baby on my back, my husband was changing the other two kids from swim lessons in the men's locker room. I told them how beautiful and engaging their babies were and we chatted for a minute about their kids, then I complimented one mom's swimsuit because I had one in the same style. Instead of just taking the compliment she made a comment about how she didn't like to show her body because she "just had a child and didn't look good like me" or something like that. It made me feel awkward, so I just told them to have a nice swim and left. Look, lady, it's fine if you want to make self-degrading comments. I don't want to hear it, so I'll probably cut the conversation off soon after, but why did you have to bring my body into it?
I wish I'd been honest and told her my 21-month-old was her baby's age (8 months) when I started tracking my food, I was obese then. Within 6 months I was a healthy weight. I wish I had been able to encourage her, but I was taken aback.25 -
Nobody told me how stupid I would feel when I realized I’d been wearing my shorter summer leggings backwards. For weeks.
No wonder they felt funny!!!!!21
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.6K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.3K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.5K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 431 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.6K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.8K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions
Do you Love MyFitnessPal? Have you crushed a goal or improved your life through better nutrition using MyFitnessPal?
Share your success and inspire others. Leave us a review on Apple Or Google Play stores!
Share your success and inspire others. Leave us a review on Apple Or Google Play stores!