What nobody tells you about losing weight
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OneRatGirl wrote: »So this one is definitely TMI.
But being around 35lbs in (and a lot to go), it's my time of the month. So I needed to wear my underwear in bed. But they were uncomfortable. They've gotten to a looseness where they're fine normally, but in bed, they're not clinging to me enough. It's unpleasant!
Completely relatable.
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This has been said many times, but that it is never-ending! I've been stressed lately and have found myself resorting to some old, really bad eating habits that I hadn't resorted to in years and it's been really disappointing. I've put on about 7 lbs so far which isn't bad but I'm right on the line between overweight/obese and had hoped never to cross that line again.
So just a reminder that this is a loooong journey and to stay positive and keep making those lifestyle changes so that you don't bounce back to old habits (or at least not for long).20 -
Cavallaro65 wrote: »Nobody told me how much my libido would increase.
I feel like a hormonal teenager again.
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Holy cow I am not the only one then. It's insane the difference. My wife and I both want it more often. My wife has lost 30 pounds or so and I am 73 down. Not only do we do it more but it's insanely better quality. That should be enough motivation for anyone.
I'm 20 pounds down and I have noticed an increase. I still have 180 pounds to get to the top of what is considered a healthy weight range for me. What is it going to be like then?
Is mine naturally higher and I've been smothering it with fat? It was noticeably higher 38 pounds down too before I went back up another 60 pounds. 4 -
Cavallaro65 wrote: »Cavallaro65 wrote: »Well here are things that surprise me being down 73 pounds, 9 more to goal. The strangest is I'm cold more often, I mean cold in situations I would not have been before. I used to wear a regular old flannel all winter, I'm already looking for warmer clothes and jackets/coats because I know I'm gonna be freezing.
LOL... yeah I went to Florida a couple times for work and I turned the heat on in my hotel room. In July. In Florida. lol
In spite of everyone saying how hot it is there, it was 20 degrees cooler than it was in Texas. so I was pretty cold.
I am absolutely freezing this morning. I mean this is real trouble for the winter if I'm this cold in summer still.
Winter is hard.. but at least you have the excuse to layer up. One good go to product is thermal underwear/leggings. You can wear them under jeans.
I live in Northern New England, and what I recommend if you can find some are silk thermal underwear.
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donnadee1984 wrote: »
Oh girl, unless you're under 25 (and often before then) usually the twins need some support and often shaping to really look their best. That's good news, actually. It's way easier to add shaping and padding to the bust than it is to reduce and a good bra is much safer than plastic surgery.9 -
How very THANKFUL and GRATEFUL you will become in the most smallest things to big things.
When I was obese and overweight...I was constantly murmuring and complaining about just about everything--ALL THE TIME. I used to be so busy (GIVING MYSELF OVER TO) with negative and self-pity(ish) thoughts about myself and every person, place and thing around me, I couldn't wouldn't see "the forest for the trees" so to speak. It was almost "crippling" how I REFUSED to dare to be thankful for things that in my mind weren't "thank worthy". Example: My being obese and overweight--once I humbled myself and started taking responsibility/OWNING a lot of my yuck and woes in my life and then being THANKFUL for them (because like my earthly daddy used to tell me when I was a child "what don't kill you WILL make you stronger" (he used to say all kinds of "crazy old coot" saying like that, that I didn't understand then, but super understand now)...once I started seeing my issues, woes and troubles as a "launching pad" so to speak, to begin to LEARN life lessons I was purposely (or maybe even unconsciously) IGNORING/DOWN-PLAYING/IN DENIAL about--BAM! I finally understood that I have CHOICES and a lot of reasons I was in such a yuck time and place, had a lot to do with the choices I made/make.
Once I threw gauntlet down with FEAR, DOUBT and NOT COUNTING IT ALL JOY/BEING and started being thankful and grateful for everything in my life, (not merely the so-called "good things"), but the yuck things to, ever telling myself because of them (the woe and yuck) I learned/am learning hard life lessons about myself, how I think and live and how to CHANGE, beginning with the way I THINK and considering troubles/woe/ugh/yuck to be people. places and things in my thoughts and life to no longer be ignored/downplayed/denied, but MUST be CONQUERED/VANQUISHED/DEALT WITH SEVERELY/HANDLED LIKE A "BOSS" and doing/living/thinking this way helped me make better/different choices in my daily life and watch the weight/mental issues, etc. and more if not totally defeated at the very least handled/controlled/RECOGNIZED and worked on. MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS, THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY...and watch what will begin and be happening in/thru/to YOU and those around YOU. Honey, hardly anybody will tell you this about "losing" weight AND changing your lifestyle of thinking and living!
ETA: I want to give God (The Only True and Living God, The God of the bible, The God of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and Jesus) ALL of the glory, honor, THANKS and praise for this way of thinking and living--He taught me thru His Word (alone, with no man teaching me this--just His Holy Spirit and The Bible ALONE). He is The One that gave/gives me His/The Fearlessness, His/The Power, His/The Love of this/His Way, His Truth and His Life...This/His Awesome (literally) New AND Living Way to think, live and be. MANY (if not most) will be able to do this apart from God...but not lil ole me. He is my Motivation/Inspiration, Comforter, Teacher, Strength, Guide, Parent (Father), Boss/Master. Just FYI!9 -
The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.27
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TypingToaster wrote: »Cavallaro65 wrote: »Nobody told me how much my libido would increase.
I feel like a hormonal teenager again.
🤭
Holy cow I am not the only one then. It's insane the difference. My wife and I both want it more often. My wife has lost 30 pounds or so and I am 73 down. Not only do we do it more but it's insanely better quality. That should be enough motivation for anyone.
I'm 20 pounds down and I have noticed an increase. I still have 180 pounds to get to the top of what is considered a healthy weight range for me. What is it going to be like then? Is mine naturally higher and I've been smothering it with fat? It was noticeably higher 38 pounds down too before I went back up another 60 pounds.
Great job on the 20, a and you can get there the other pounds off.
All I know is for us it's just really incredible. We went from a bad 1 day a week session to an absolutely incredible 3-4 times a week. I can't tell you how much better quality it is. It's hard to put into words. All I know is I should have done this year's ago. What was I waiting for if this is the prize along with good health of course. 🤣1 -
RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.3 -
RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.1 -
That when shopping you will STILL look at clothes that are for yr "bigger" self.9
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RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:12 -
RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.10 -
RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
And maxi-dresses are never long enough for me. They always hit me at a weird spot mid-ankle.6 -
RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
True! I've never found a maxi-dress I can wear.1 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
And maxi-dresses are never long enough for me. They always hit me at a weird spot mid-ankle.quiksylver296 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
And maxi-dresses are never long enough for me. They always hit me at a weird spot mid-ankle.
You just reminded me of the most beautiful dress I found at goodwill that I had to give up because 1) It was a summer dress and I didn't know if I'd fit into it next year and 2) because it hit funny at the ankle. Uggggh. LOOK AT IT. I guess what "nobody tells. you" is that fitting issues do not go away when you lose weight, lol.
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@RelCanonical Are you handy at all with a sewing machine? The good thing about our problem is that lots of times, hems can be raised. (Not that I do it. I'm well aware that my energy and free time will not be invested in hemming a dress right now...)5
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@RelCanonical Are you handy at all with a sewing machine? The good thing about our problem is that lots of times, hems can be raised. (Not that I do it. I'm well aware that my energy and free time will not be invested in hemming a dress right now...)
Just last year I learned how to sew a button back on to a shirt. I was so proud of myself.19 -
RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Yes! I tried on a very fitted dress, with a high neckline and short sleeves, and was turning around about whether it was appropriate for church. The shop lady looked me over and said, “I would wear it if I were you, but really it’s supposed to be a mini dress, so you’re lucky you’re short”. The dress hit me mid-knee 🙄
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That as you lose you will be faced with your demons and at times if you don't the weight will come back. Also that as you lose or become more active you will find you want better in all areas of life which could mean cutting friends/spouses out heck some start cheating because of this newfound freedom. Sometimes people want you to stay fat in order for security.22
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That no matter how hard I know I'm working, how much I've already lost; for a long time I'm still going to be treated horribly because of my weight. Brings you crashing down to earth.
It's not going to stop me, it doesn't alter what I'm achieving but, boy, wake up call.25 -
I swear I enjoy my food MORE now that I’m figuring out how to piece together meals within my calorie goal + get the right macro balance.19
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I know this will seem naive, but it's true.
I gained 75 pounds with my first pregnancy. I was sick with preenclampsia and on bed rest for some of it. So I attributed the amount of weight I gained to getting sick. When I was miserable and stuck on the couch, I ate a lot of junk food.
I lost most of it using MFP. I set a goal of ending up 30 pounds under the limit for a healthy BMI, with the idea that if I got pregnant again, I'd only gain the 30 pounds Google says you gain with a "healthy, normal pregnancy", and it would be optional for me if I wanted to lose weight again. I'd still be healthy. Since I'd been so sick with my first pregnancy, I figured that if I got pregnant again and had a healthy pregnancy, I wouldn't gain as much.
Bahahahaha!
I was close to my goal, but still losing weight when I got pregnant. I never established myself at maintenance calories. I had a healthy pregnancy, but stopped logging, and gained 75 pounds again. I tried logging a couple of times but wasn't able to keep it up due to the stress.
I felt/feel frustrated, but doubly so, because of expectations not meeting reality. I had expected I'd only have to lose weight once. It was the carrot on the end of the stick I had held out for myself. I just assumed that if my pregnancy was healthy, I wouldn't gain as much. I'd never had any issues with weight before I got pregnant the first time, so I assumed that my instincts would tell me how much to eat, and I'd be fine, since I always had been, before. I'd been thin before I got pregnant, and ate with gusto. Now I've learned more about the work it takes to maintain after weight loss.
I'm now at it again for the second time, and am 5 pounds down. I'm not giving up! Not giving up on me.34 -
RelCanonical wrote: »@RelCanonical Are you handy at all with a sewing machine? The good thing about our problem is that lots of times, hems can be raised. (Not that I do it. I'm well aware that my energy and free time will not be invested in hemming a dress right now...)
Just last year I learned how to sew a button back on to a shirt. I was so proud of myself.
Congrats on learning to sew on a button! A few key sewing skills can save a lot of money!
But...if you can find a seamstress/tailor it can be a big timesaver too. I'm good around a sewing machine but even I send items to a professional on occasion.1 -
RelCanonical wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
And maxi-dresses are never long enough for me. They always hit me at a weird spot mid-ankle.quiksylver296 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »The position of my "waist" (the narrowest part of my torso) has shifted down. Used to be right under my breasts, but is now at more of a "natural" position. My waist belts have therefore shifted down, and do look much more flattering in their new position.
My natural waist is very high. It can either be an advantage or an annoyance, depending on the cut of the garment! I can't say I've noticed it shifting dramatically as I lost weight, though.
As a fellow short person, I can see the advantages, haha. Usually my skirts hit just right because I wear the skirt so high on my torso. Otherwise, they'd be too long.
Another short-person advantage - I can buy all the dresses with online reviews complaining about them being too short for work! :laugh:
Downside - maxi dresses are pretty much a no-go. I swear I've seen some maxi dresses that look longer than I am tall.
And maxi-dresses are never long enough for me. They always hit me at a weird spot mid-ankle.
You just reminded me of the most beautiful dress I found at goodwill that I had to give up because 1) It was a summer dress and I didn't know if I'd fit into it next year and 2) because it hit funny at the ankle. Uggggh. LOOK AT IT. I guess what "nobody tells. you" is that fitting issues do not go away when you lose weight, lol.
Actually I don't think the ankle hem is *that* odd, honestly. I think there are some other areas of tailoring to consider. I think there is an odd imbalance between the emphasis on the hips and your relatively smaller bust area. I think either a) use a bra with a bust enhancer to create a lovely hourglass figure or b) have a seamstress tailor down the waist/hip area.
Of course, we're living in an age where clothing is seldom tailored and is often so cheap that it is more affordable to just buy a new dress. You need to decide how much you want to invest into it. And this is a nice dress. Unfortunately, this is the problem with "aspirational clothing items"...just getting smaller does not necessarily mean every smaller dress will look great on you just because you are smaller.5 -
Nobody really told me that if I lost weight that my head would look amazingly huge. Like a bobblehead. Now I need to add muscle to my frame because I am not accustomed to seeing my head look so big.16
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I've said this before, but want to say it once more (it's THAT important)...
BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! It's nice, encouraging and fun to have others cheer you on...but a lot of times in life, that just won't happen (for whatever reasons). Being your own cheerleader will help you become tough(er) and stronger in so many other areas in your life. Being your own cheerleader will help inspire tons of positive, uplifting and powerful "self-talk". Being your own cheerleader will be a game changer in your battle of the bulge and in your entire life!17 -
DiscipleOfChrist29 wrote: »Nobody really told me that if I lost weight that my head would look amazingly huge. Like a bobblehead. Now I need to add muscle to my frame because I am not accustomed to seeing my head look so big.
LOL this made me laugh mostly because I gained weight and my own mother said my head is too small for my frame
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The success of losing each week is addictive, if it doesn't happen it can really affect your mood37
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