What nobody tells you about losing weight

HealthyAshes88888

sdolan91 wrote: »

Might be tmi.. but it's a lot easier shaving everywhere now. lol

I was just noticing that this morning actually

rockn3babies

So far the biggest things I have noticed since losing weight has been the comments. I have had people tell me well I do the exact same thing your doing and I haven't lost anything. While they are telling me this they are snacking on potato chips and have a snickers bar on their desk. Really! I have also been told you look fine the way you are and don't need to bother to lose anymore weight, skinny people never look right. But on a more positive note I can now fit into my daughter's clothes. She doesn't really like it, because now I take her jackets and pants. Oh well all is fair in love and weight loss.

ekim2016

Speziface wrote: »

I'm getting a lot more 'looks' from the women in my building. It's certainly unexpected, and not necessarily unwelcome, but it's definitely something I'm not used to.

I'm noticing the same.. they are smiling more and gazing at me longer.......hmmm interesting. Maybe it's my clothes fitting better?

Tionne31

farmerpam1 wrote: »

Lots of positives, the only downside, I have one "friend" I've known for years and she's said nothing. Really? I mean complete strangers have commented, cashiers at the grocery, dentist etc, so it's not as if you can't tell I've lost about 40 pounds, I mean I'm barely 5 feet tall! Last time I saw her she was very passive aggressive, laughed because I was wearing a skirt. I've known her since high school and I was always the chubby one, she was tall and slim, but she's not anymore. I realized that my success made her feel like a failure, in her mind. The last time I saw her will be the last time.

I have a long time friend who for easily 15+ years NEVER complimented me on anything, hair, clothes, new car, spaceship purchase (LMAO)...it did not matter her mouth was sealed. But she never appeared to have a problem complimenting everyone else. I only noticed it because you know how you have those days where you know that you are ooonnnn point and are receiving compliments left and right all day long, but her mouth never opened lol. She still does not compliment me really EXCEPT in cases where I post a picture on social media and loads of other people are complimenting me and I feel like she feels like people will wonder how someone who is supposedly so close to me never comments. As I am typing this I am recognizing that the rare compliments I have received recently all occurred after she got Lap-Band surgery (hmm).

Speziface

ekim2016 wrote: »

Speziface wrote: »

I'm getting a lot more 'looks' from the women in my building. It's certainly unexpected, and not necessarily unwelcome, but it's definitely something I'm not used to.

I'm noticing the same.. they are smiling more and gazing at me longer.......hmmm interesting. Maybe it's my clothes fitting better?

That's probably part of it, and the fact I'm one of the few men in the building (and definitely the only one around my age) who's belly doesn't hang over their pants. That, and the time I've spent in the gym is showing.

FatAFNoMore

ccruz985 wrote: »

"I DO get annoyed af with people who complain about being fat on one hand while shoving in a Big Mac with the other. I don't have time for that.

I agree if someone is complaining but not doing anything that is not cool. I feel this way in every aspect of life. If you are complaining but busting your butt, then I'll listen all day with a smile on my face. Otherwise no way.

When we all see someone overweight and only have the visual to judge we have to realize we know nothing. That fatso lard butt could have just lost 20 pounds and is on their way to a healthier self, not continuing the march up the scale. FYI that fatso lard butt is me in this example but I need to do that too, not judge small or 'average' people. I don't know their story.

druw3620

When people ask me how old I am and they say "damn you look good for your age"

tammierlewis

Got my license renewed today and the clerk said "Wow! You have lost a lot of weight since your last picture." My DH said "Yes she has!" 58 pounds to be exact!

brentleyann1

There was a clearance in the workout clothes at khols (check it out. I went today FYI) and I actually found clothing in my size in the stack because I was just an xl instead of a 2 or 3x. $1.60 for t shirts and $3 for leggings! I got a few outfits.

unigirl143

No one told me how much my butt/hips would hurt when sitting or laying for long periods of time. I can't see these bones body image-wise but I am super aware they are there now. Also I am cold 95% of the time now.

LauraInTheWater

That people have no effing qualms about calling you anorexic in public. I just ran into an old "friend" who proclaimed loudly, the following underhanded compliment:

"Wow! You've lost a lot of weight. Hope you're doing it the healthy way. Are you eating?" Even my laid back husband said that was tacky when we got into the car.

I forgot to mention the kicker: we were in a restaurant and we were eating a slice of cake when the guy walked up to us. Lol.

Speziface

unigirl143 wrote: »

No one told me how much my butt/hips would hurt when sitting or laying for long periods of time. I can't see these bones body image-wise but I am super aware they are there now. Also I am cold 95% of the time now.

I ended up having to buy a new computer chair (an expensive one) with a memory foam pad. I also keep an extra pillow in the bed to tuck under the bonier spots during the night. And I've got some nice 'mink' blankets from Korea.

But I like sweaters, so that's a plus. I've got a beautiful one I picked up in Denmark back in the '80s; it fits nicely now. But most of the ones I have now are too big. Guess they're going to Goodwill.

Vonny198334

Took a photo from behind in a mirror only to find a huge random chunk of fat on the back of my left thigh. The right is looking much leaner!

Laughed myself silly after I'd got over the shock

Doubt the weight went on evenly though so I can't expect it to come off that way!!!

FeelingAlive

The discovery of a fashion sense. Never knew I had one.

I still have a long way to go, but I am already becoming more acquainted with my body. "Oh, I have a dimple there, oh, I never knew my back could curve like that." I am also receiving signals from my body better. I picked up I was feeling ill sooner than I normally would.

I actually have more energy now, and I can't sit still for long periods of time anymore. I felt so restless I went and played fetch with my dog in the middle of an episode I was watching.

Feeling scared that I will change so much that I won't recognize myself in the mirror. I have never been thin before so it is entirely new territory for me. Will I look like my mother, or more like my aunt? Will I have a strong jaw line? What shape will my face end up being? It's frightening and I am afraid that I will struggle with body image problems after this process.

New55me

mazmataz wrote: »

VeronicaA76 wrote: »

everher wrote: »

For example, I went out the other night and got a "light" option that I feel is just as tasty as the full calorie option, but I just felt like I was that woman you know? The one who isn't overweight, but is getting the low calorie option and you're wondering why because it's not like she's fat.

Oh dear yes, all of this. Ordering a salad, because I want a salad and get looks of "why are you ordering a salad, you can eat whatever you want, you're not fat". Clothing, well, they do make most things in an extra small. Or we could just shop in the children's section, it's cheaper anyways. And who knows, you'll just have to find a way to rock that Dora the Explorer t-shirt!

Going back to this ^

I met a guy a few years ago and we became mates. He was/is your average young, slim good looking guy in his early 20s...I just assumed because he was so slender (and spent a lot of time in the gym), like most blokes his build and age, he had a lightening speed metabolism and could eat like a horse. I then noticed that on nights out he would drink vodka/gin with diet tonic or diet coke when the other guys were on pints. I also spotted that when we went out together as a group for food, occasionally he wouldn't join in or would order something really small, just saying that he ate loads earlier.

Eventually I got to know him enough to ask him about this, and he just laughed, pulled up a photo on his phone and said "that's why!". It turns out he used to be really overweight, put in the work and lost it and had been maintaining with these little tricks for several years.

It really made me think about the assumptions I make when I meet people. If I had met him whilst he was big, I wouldn't have questioned for a second why he was making these choices. It also blew my mind a little that this person that I'd only known as a fit young guy with used to be obese!

I only hope that one day I'm the one laughing and pulling the chubby photos out to explain my eating choices. Well done guys!!

HI CAN SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE? HOW DO YOU CREATE A NEW COMMENT NOT A NEW DISCUSSION

New55me

I THINK I FOUND IT THANKS

New55me

I have a full wardrobe and NOTHING fits me. Só to me will be start dressing my lovely clothes and we'll take it from there

jcummings6

cbeutler wrote: »

jcummings6 wrote: »

Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.

Just say "Thank you."

I do just say "Thank you" the problem is some people continue on and I get really uncomfortable talking about it. Someone mentioned saying just a little more which I may use. Like "Thank you, it's a challenge each day, but it's been worth it." Something like that... thanks for your reply.

jcummings6

des10705 wrote: »

jcummings6 wrote: »

Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.

I usually tell them "Thank You, its a battle everyday, but so worth it"
Enjoy the compliment you worked HARD for it

I really like that, thank you. I've found that a simple "Thank you" doesn't turn the attention away, it's almost like I need a closing line after. lol

bobbigirl83

I wrote this on my Facebook a while back after posting a "before" photo for the first time:


ONE HUNDRED AND FORTY LBS DOWN!! In the years I've been on a weight loss journey, I've never done this on my personal page. In fact, I've done my best to avoid catching even a glimpse of a dreaded "before" photo. This particular photo, however, popped up popped up in my Facebook memories earlier this week (thanks, Cassy!) and I just stopped and stared at the girl in it. I don't recognize her, I don't relate to her, and I no longer know her. But I am no longer ashamed of her, either. So, on a morning in which I received a heartbreaking message from a close friend relating the struggles she is experiencing with her own weight as well as a message asking me to support a popular weight loss product I've never even tried, I'm putting her out there for the first time for all of you to see.
You would think that the biggest result of losing weight would be ... well ... losing the weight. That hasn't been the case for me at all, though. I've found that the physical changes are completely secondary to lessons I had never even considered that I'd learn. The lessons have been at times painful, but they are incredibly important. So, in case there are any others out there struggling like my friend from this morning ...

• This is a journey that will never, ever end.

• You will not become a better or happier person because the scale flashed a particular number.

• Those who treated you like crap before will likely still treat you like crap.

• People will still comment on your size, what you eat, your exercise activities, etc.

• There will be days you will fail and this will happen often.

• Your body insecurities will not go away, they will just morph into something new.

• Every piece of clothing you try on will still not fit perfectly.

• Your talents will not increase.

• You will not suddenly have all of the answers.

• The world will not fall at your feet.

YOU DO NOT BECOME MORE OF ANYTHING BY BECOMING "LESS."

This process hasn't been about increasing my worth based on my size. It's been about learning how worthy that girl on the left (in the before photo) has always been.