What nobody tells you about losing weight
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A few things....
- I'm cold all of the time, and it is so hard to warm up! I get those abdomen shivers if I get too cold, they're so awful.
- I am such a lightweight now. I used to be able to hold my alcohol very well. Now 1-2 drinks can give me a hangover if I'm not careful. I didn't expect that and regretted it the first time I had drinks with friends again!
- I went from a US 11 women's shoe down to a 9/10. So much easier to go shoe shopping.
- The constant laundry for gym gear is real.16 -
How utterly big-eyed amazeballs my cats get when they walk in on me running laps around the bedroom trying to eke out that last 38 calories to close some rings.18
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Haha! I've considered running up and down the stairs at my house, but I'm pretty sure my cat will join me. And trip me.springlering62 wrote: »How utterly big-eyed amazeballs my cats get when they walk in on me running laps around the bedroom trying to eke out that last 38 calories to close some rings.12 -
bobsburgersfan wrote: ».
Haha! I've considered running up and down the stairs at my house, but I'm pretty sure my cat will join me. And trip me.
It’s a cat conspiracy! Ours play a game we call “Pet to Pass”. They block you on the staircase and won’t move til you pet them. Then they go up or down a step, boldly in your way and demand more pet-pets. Sometimes it takes five minutes to get up a staircase.
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Cats and yoga. Nothing like hanging there in downward dog while a cat stands under you with wide eyes.
"Whatcha doin' Mom?
On another note, my large black shorthair likes to vigorously knead my bicep while suckling a fold of my sweater at my armpit. She... has issues.11 -
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Nobody told me that all my necklaces, which used to be barely more than chokers, would hang down below my bra, so they can’t even be seen. #chickenneckproblems13
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springlering62 wrote: »Nobody told me that all my necklaces, which used to be barely more than chokers, would hang down below my bra, so they can’t even be seen. #chickenneckproblems
I have this problem too. My neck, which I never thought of as a body part that held weight, has become a noodle. XD9 -
Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.19 -
^^^ THIS! When I was plus size, my first priority was always finding things in my size. That was the only criteria. It fits! Yay! Buy it. Sometimes I had a choice between outfits, but not always.
The first time I went shopping in normal sizes I was overwhelmed. I didn't know where to start. Too much to select from. It's a good problem to have.10 -
Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes.
I had a panicky moment when I realized that my desired weight shrinks me down below the sizes offered in the catalog I normally add from. And I had to say, "I guarantee that there are manufacturers who make t-shirts in straight sizes that have a decently modest neckline, and are available in ten colors, five of which suit you, and you will still be able to buy five t-shirts and three pairs of jeans and two cardigans and be happy."
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hobbitses333 wrote: »I can relate to the cats lol..mine sleep all day on their cozy blanket soft beds..unless I clear the living room for belly dancing, then they want to sleep there or play cutely right at my feet..
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I've already noticed my cat giving me strange looks when I exercise. My girlkitty used to do that a lot. It would weird her out. A benefit to weight loss I've already noticed: More room for the cat while I'm lying on the couch. And a drawback: my cat is going to wonder where his nice squishy pillow went.
This one made me LOL though - I went to give my spouse a hug. She said "you are getting smaller. Did you p*ss off an old Gypsy?" She was referring to the Stephen King book "Thinner" and I laughed so hard.15 -
Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.
Yeah, I had to learn to stop myself from buying an item just because it was tagged "Small" or "Size 8". I mean, it feels good but that alone isn't enough to buy an item. And vanity sizing is definitely a thing.
(But...that Size 8 pair of jeans makes me feel good every time I feel a little crappy about myself too. I know I'm not really a Size 8 and that my self worth isn't based on a clothing size, and so on. But....it makes me happy anyway. And they are a decent pair of jeans!)10 -
What I wasn't told is how different shopping for clothes would be. What was and still is difficult for me after losing 80 pounds is retraining my brain when shopping for clothes. It's as though my brain hasn't caught up with my body.
I still immediately go for the larger sizes. Mind you, I still have weight to lose to get to my target weight goal that I set. When I see something I like in a smaller size, my brain says, "that will never fit." But, I tell myself, "try it anyway." For example, I was shopping online for a formal dress which notoriously run smaller. I found a beautiful one but was dismayed that it didn't come in a larger size. I ordered it anyway. It fits perfectly! In fact, there's wiggle room.
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kenyonhaff wrote: »Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.
Yeah, I had to learn to stop myself from buying an item just because it was tagged "Small" or "Size 8". I mean, it feels good but that alone isn't enough to buy an item. And vanity sizing is definitely a thing.
(But...that Size 8 pair of jeans makes me feel good every time I feel a little crappy about myself too. I know I'm not really a Size 8 and that my self worth isn't based on a clothing size, and so on. But....it makes me happy anyway. And they are a decent pair of jeans!)
For me, the sizing became less important once I knew I'd be able to find my size in store. When the number wasn't the issues insomuch as their XL didn't fit and they didn't have an XXL. The letter is starting to become important again because some stores don't carry below a size 6 or a small, and because of vanity sizing, they are quite big on me sometimes.7 -
RelCanonical wrote: »kenyonhaff wrote: »Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.
Yeah, I had to learn to stop myself from buying an item just because it was tagged "Small" or "Size 8". I mean, it feels good but that alone isn't enough to buy an item. And vanity sizing is definitely a thing.
(But...that Size 8 pair of jeans makes me feel good every time I feel a little crappy about myself too. I know I'm not really a Size 8 and that my self worth isn't based on a clothing size, and so on. But....it makes me happy anyway. And they are a decent pair of jeans!)
For me, the sizing became less important once I knew I'd be able to find my size in store. When the number wasn't the issues insomuch as their XL didn't fit and they didn't have an XXL. The letter is starting to become important again because some stores don't carry below a size 6 or a small, and because of vanity sizing, they are quite big on me sometimes.
To the last: I have sized out of some stores as well, and that boggles my mind. Before the weight loss, not being able to find my size in box stores was a given. Except Lane Bryant. Weight loss, at the time, was key to getting into being able to go to the mall and not spend a brick on clothing.
Never did I ever imagine I would ever reach a point where I would fall off the other end of the Great Ledge of Sizes. Even weirder, it's happening more frequently than just one store (which could have been an anomaly). And I don't really feel that small; a good chunk of the world feels smaller than me -- so where in the world do they go? (In fact, most days, I think my clothing lies to me).9 -
dhiammarath wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »kenyonhaff wrote: »Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.
Yeah, I had to learn to stop myself from buying an item just because it was tagged "Small" or "Size 8". I mean, it feels good but that alone isn't enough to buy an item. And vanity sizing is definitely a thing.
(But...that Size 8 pair of jeans makes me feel good every time I feel a little crappy about myself too. I know I'm not really a Size 8 and that my self worth isn't based on a clothing size, and so on. But....it makes me happy anyway. And they are a decent pair of jeans!)
For me, the sizing became less important once I knew I'd be able to find my size in store. When the number wasn't the issues insomuch as their XL didn't fit and they didn't have an XXL. The letter is starting to become important again because some stores don't carry below a size 6 or a small, and because of vanity sizing, they are quite big on me sometimes.
To the last: I have sized out of some stores as well, and that boggles my mind. Before the weight loss, not being able to find my size in box stores was a given. Except Lane Bryant. Weight loss, at the time, was key to getting into being able to go to the mall and not spend a brick on clothing.
Never did I ever imagine I would ever reach a point where I would fall off the other end of the Great Ledge of Sizes. Even weirder, it's happening more frequently than just one store (which could have been an anomaly). And I don't really feel that small; a good chunk of the world feels smaller than me -- so where in the world do they go? (In fact, most days, I think my clothing lies to me).
Same here, family was always telling me how thin I looked but then I looked at my cousins and they are rail thin compared to me. I'm petite so I always knew I'd be in pretty small sizes, I just didn't think it'd happen so soon, with 15 pounds still to lose. Fortunately or unfortunately, I have broad shoulders so I can usually fit on top much easier than on bottom.5 -
That your body doesn't turn out the way you expect even with exercise, I'm trying real hard to accept how I look now wrinkles and sags.
Another who was shocked at going down a size in shoes, I thought I'd stretched out my shoes at first.
People can say some pretty hurtful stuff about weight loss and being too thin even though I'm in my weight range.
Trying to discuss weight loss and being told CICO has nothing to do with Keto especially.
People offer food even more now, especially things like cookies and cupcakes in the last week. I'm maintaining but shoving food in my face isn't ok.
I'd become super opinionated and what people do at the gym, like when someone uses the machine directly next to me when there's 20 other machines free, people who talk or goof on their phone for 20 minutes when sitting on a machine, and those that sweat all over machines without drying them off. I never realized how picky I am!
That I'd have to spend more money on electricity between being freezing all the time and washing my daily workout clothes. I also spend way more time in the kitchen making meals.17 -
RelCanonical wrote: »dhiammarath wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »kenyonhaff wrote: »Nobody told me I'd have to relearn how I shop for clothes. Finding clothes big enough isn't the main criterium anymore, I can actually judge clothes by design and whether or not they suit me.
Well, I'm starting to be able to now, finally reached the upper end of the non plus sizes. Today I had to restrain myself from buying the first pair of jeans I tried on, just because they fit me, and forced myself to put it back on the shelf and find a pair in the style I actually wanted.
Yeah, I had to learn to stop myself from buying an item just because it was tagged "Small" or "Size 8". I mean, it feels good but that alone isn't enough to buy an item. And vanity sizing is definitely a thing.
(But...that Size 8 pair of jeans makes me feel good every time I feel a little crappy about myself too. I know I'm not really a Size 8 and that my self worth isn't based on a clothing size, and so on. But....it makes me happy anyway. And they are a decent pair of jeans!)
For me, the sizing became less important once I knew I'd be able to find my size in store. When the number wasn't the issues insomuch as their XL didn't fit and they didn't have an XXL. The letter is starting to become important again because some stores don't carry below a size 6 or a small, and because of vanity sizing, they are quite big on me sometimes.
To the last: I have sized out of some stores as well, and that boggles my mind. Before the weight loss, not being able to find my size in box stores was a given. Except Lane Bryant. Weight loss, at the time, was key to getting into being able to go to the mall and not spend a brick on clothing.
Never did I ever imagine I would ever reach a point where I would fall off the other end of the Great Ledge of Sizes. Even weirder, it's happening more frequently than just one store (which could have been an anomaly). And I don't really feel that small; a good chunk of the world feels smaller than me -- so where in the world do they go? (In fact, most days, I think my clothing lies to me).
Same here, family was always telling me how thin I looked but then I looked at my cousins and they are rail thin compared to me. I'm petite so I always knew I'd be in pretty small sizes, I just didn't think it'd happen so soon, with 15 pounds still to lose. Fortunately or unfortunately, I have broad shoulders so I can usually fit on top much easier than on bottom.
Yeah. Same. I have about 15-25lbs to lose myself (to get to the middle range of my BMI -- my only answer for this is I am shaped like a noodle XD). I'm a mixed bag of size types. Petite tops generally fit, but sometimes I need longer pants than average, though I'm of average height. It's crazy that I spent so much of my time believing it would be so easy to find clothing once I got into the general size pool... but that is so not the cause. No matter what the size, clothing can still win a skirmish in the dressing room!8 -
1. that your armpits will go from being convex to concave
2. that those double knees you got so used to (you bend your knee and all the extra "meat" bulges out on the inside of your knee) are NOT normal.
3. That you're usually the last one to notice the actual weight loss in the mirror, hence you beat up on yourself WAY too often.15 -
How you can reach your goal weight and still want to lose more...and more...and more. And pretty soon you stop setting a weight goal because you are never happy with what you see.
Then realize you have an eating disorder. Yep. Because that's what happened to me after obsessing over calorie counting and perfecting my body.
Be wary, folks.45 -
Can't drink as many mimosas or glasses of wine......
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How you can reach your goal weight and still want to lose more...and more...and more. And pretty soon you stop setting a weight goal because you are never happy with what you see.
Then realize you have an eating disorder. Yep. Because that's what happened to me after obsessing over calorie counting and perfecting my body.
Be wary, folks.
Reminds me of my experience trying to eliminate all the "bad" foods. Eventually I had a mild mental breakdown over my "lunch": a mozzarella cheese stick wrapped in a slice of deli turkey all wrapped up in a romaine leaf. The culprit? You know deli meat has a lot of sodium... And that mozzarella stick was full fat. Here I was, trying to be healthy, and I was about to eliminate yet two more foods and add them to the ever-growing list of food that I couldn't eat.
I did lose weight, but, like you implied, at what cost? I'm sorry that calorie counting caused you to have an eating disorder. Elimination diets caused the same thing for me. Just goes to show you--not everything works for everyone.29 -
I learned a lot getting to the place where limiting calories would not in and of itself trigger a binge. One was that fat is useful when you diet. Our brains like fat. They light up like crack for fat. So a little bit of butter here and there in my diet or a teaspoon of heavy cream in a sauce means that I'll eat my portion and no more, because my brain thinks we ate, we're good. Extra fat? Nah, cause of the density of calories. But a little lets me do this and not binge.
Things I learned as I've lost weight so far: I didn't know 20 pounds was going to make such a visible difference so early on, when I still have 114 pounds to lose. I didn't know reshaping myself was going to involve such emotional vulnerability, because this changing is scary. I don't know what's under the fat. I've never been thin as a grown woman.32 -
My knee, hip, and back pain are mysteriously gone!23
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I've never been so aware of my own bones. I can feel them in my shoulders and hips. I can see them in my hands and knees. Sitting on the floor without a cushion is just awful and I think I'm gonna have to buy one for my office chair.
I don't know who I am anymore. My entire adult life has been rotating around shame for being big and struggling to shrink and disappear in public so as to not be an annoyance, and hide myself in baggy clothes. What if I don't need to do that? What do I do then? So much personal identity is tied up in appearance.39 -
That’d you’d be really grateful that a particular monthly social event you grossly overindulge at would come below your goal, because, god bless her, the hostess, who is sweet as she can be, is a terrible cook.20
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...I don't know who I am anymore. My entire adult life has been rotating around shame for being big and struggling to shrink and disappear in public so as to not be an annoyance, and hide myself in baggy clothes. What if I don't need to do that? What do I do then? So much personal identity is tied up in appearance.
I just love that you wrote this, @Terytha . It's just so profound and something I struggle with as my own journey progresses. It's a struggle, but in a way I love this particular struggle: am I discovering who I am, this new me, or am I creating the new me? (And is it dangerous to mix philosophy with weight loss?)
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I Have lost 80 Lbs Feeling Great! And then.... I noticed it! Losing weight at 50 years old was quite the challenge! What I noticed was my Face. use to look younger than my age. Now, Older! I drink lots of water and do my best for nutrition. Guess U have to sacrifice one for the other. But, Really? Any Ideas? Anyone?8
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