What nobody tells you about losing weight
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brayemerick wrote: »That I didn't always have to be the girl with "the good personality"; I can be a pretty woman, too.
That because I overcame this lifelong battle of being overweight the confidence I had to accomplish other things like ocean kayaking, playing sports with my kiddos, or getting my Master's degree.
That even when the scale and I are fighting, I know how good it feels to have that workout high, so I keep going.
That the way I talk about my body influences how my children, especially my daughter, talk about hers.
I can say my wedding dress doesn't fit after 15 years not because I've gained weight, but because I lost it!
BOOM and super YAY YOU!
Wow...you ROCK, period. What a tremendously inspiration post and person you are--LOVE THIS and thanks so much for sharing!6 -
I need to regularly remind myself that getting out of bed, bending down, going up stairs, and various other activities used to not be this easy. It's easy to forget and make my current abilities my new normal and forget that it used to not be this way.18
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RelCanonical wrote: »I need to regularly remind myself that getting out of bed, bending down, going up stairs, and various other activities used to not be this easy. It's easy to forget and make my current abilities my new normal and forget that it used to not be this way.
Amen. I did a long walk, a weights session with my PT and hot yoga today. I had a brief moment walking home from the hot class this evening, “I’m soaking wet with sweat, a bit chilled, everything aches a little, and I’m bone tired through and through. Does this ever end?”
And I had to pull myself up short and say, “No it doesn’t! And you should be pretty damn grateful for this gift you’ve been given. No, earned.!”
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RelCanonical wrote: »I need to regularly remind myself that getting out of bed, bending down, going up stairs, and various other activities used to not be this easy. It's easy to forget and make my current abilities my new normal and forget that it used to not be this way.
This is so true. Sometimes I look down at my lap when driving in my car and I can still remember when my tummy grazed the steering wheel. In those moments I smile to myself and remember how different my body used to be. You are so right it is important to remember why it is so much easier and pleasant to do everyday things when you're a more normal weight.15 -
Sorry guys, but trying to find another way to say “I’m ogling the women at yoga” doesn’t make it any less disrespectful. Going to yoga class doesn’t mean I have put myself on a menu to be ordered, sampled, or ogled. I’m there to work on being healthy, and now I’m focused on trying to make sure I’m not in anyone’s line of sight? If you want to look, there are plenty of strip bars and instagram accounts that are there for that express purpose.
You are right! I need to rephrase: Instead of saying I can look but not touch, I mean "I can see but not look."
I'm there to sweat and lose weight and flatten my stomach, strengthen my core; synchronize body, mind, spirit...
When there's an opposite gender member in front of me and we are all doing cat-cows, the right answer is "look" the other way. Human instincts are an awakening. Thank you
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springlering62 wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »I need to regularly remind myself that getting out of bed, bending down, going up stairs, and various other activities used to not be this easy. It's easy to forget and make my current abilities my new normal and forget that it used to not be this way.
Amen. I did a long walk, a weights session with my PT and hot yoga today. I had a brief moment walking home from the hot class this evening, “I’m soaking wet with sweat, a bit chilled, everything aches a little, and I’m bone tired through and through. Does this ever end?”
And I had to pull myself up short and say, “No it doesn’t! And you should be pretty damn grateful for this gift you’ve been given. No, earned.!”
I agree:
Nobody gets what they deserve on faith alone.
...the BEST part of my yoga class is when it ends
Also note (to self): the push-ups I did yesterday are for yesterday - and it doesn't hurt to keep the donuts out of my face!!4 -
Great thread - thanks to all for sharing, first time reading things like this ever!5
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That your eyes get bigger.
Not really, but as your face gets smaller, your eyes seem larger. And your cheeks don't push up as far when you smile, making your eyes less squinty - which also makes your eyes look bigger.22 -
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Plus, most of the veggies are so tasty.TeresaMarie2015 wrote: »- That eating healthy, veggies & low fat, lean meats) can mean eating a lot of food - some days I am just tired of eating, and still don't reach my calorie goal.
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AussieDragonfly wrote: »After a really tough year last year and losing my Dad I decided to do a challenge at my gym....a nutrition based one and kg loss and cm loss is done as a group loss not individual which I love cause its not about winning as a person but a group, into Week4 and something this week has just clicked all of a sudden I feel strong again, strong enough to work harder my head is not telling me you cant do anymore then you are doing but more like I can hear my Dad in my head saying "Dont you dare use me as an excuse get in there and get moving and get it done" lol, whatever it is its working
I lost my Dad too, and felt like it got harder to keep some of the weight down afterwards. What type of group challenges do they do at your gym? I want to look up the type of challenge, but it might be easier to find it by name.15 -
@AussieDragonfly and @subjectmaychange, I lost my dad recently too. I just wanted to express my sympathy. It is so hard and I miss him so much. I watched his decline and decided I want to avoid some parts he had to deal with, so that means getting healthier now. But mostly, I just feel sad that I will never hug him or hear his voice again. Hugs to both of you.
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Food tastes better.
Having to count calories and portion out food and factoring in "treats" into my daily calories, I cherish each and every bite. I love the flavors of the foods I eat, and they taste better now that I have limited myself to better portions instead of gorging on whatever I wanted at any time I wanted....
Basically, I don't take my treats for granted anymore.21 -
That your tailbone, a body part you seldom if EVER gave a moment's thought about when you were 'fluffy', will remind you nearly Every. Moment. Of. Every. Day. of its existence.23
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Let's see, having to ask a saleslady to help me with pants because I was clueless what size I needed. Her eye was spot on. My son telling me I look like a UFC fighter ( I don't but bless him anyway ) Feeling energized just about always. My resting heart rate down 15 beats per minute. Seeing muscles on my body instead of being somewhat amorphous. Being able to run for the bus without being winded for 5 minutes after. No more sore knees, I could continue...
Very happy with my progress and determined to finish this part of the journey positively to then embark on the next, being stable and staying happy with whom I see in the mirror.20 -
I will always have a squished looking belly button, lol. I thought it would round out eventually but I forgot that loose skin is a thing and my upper stomach was definitely a place I carried weight.13
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MonaLisainCT wrote: »That your tailbone, a body part you seldom if EVER gave a moment's thought about when you were 'fluffy', will remind you nearly Every. Moment. Of. Every. Day. of its existence.
Especially when it has been broken twice.
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That you may start cutting tags outta your shirts, because they can sometime irritate/scratch you/your skin--whereas they NEVER bothered you when you were obese or overweight.
That you will no longer be "bound" to big/oversize clothes like you did when you were bigger. You'll be wearing clothes that FIT and look/feel/fit nicely. Not too tight, not too loose.
Invest in ring guards...it's a must!
The most excellent feeling of being full/satisfied without "fully cleaning your plate", not because you don't want too...but there is just no more room in your "smaller" stomach--because your stomach is so much smaller than it was when you were obese and overweight and you'll get SUPER fuller faster--at least I do! It is utterly amazing how FULL I get and sometimes am not able to finish all of my food/drink because I'm STUFFED to the GOURDS!14 -
That losing weight can lose you friends. So many of those people who see you succeeding at shedding the fat and ask "How are you doing it?", and then say they've got to do that too, don't actually want to do it. So then they shy away from you because they're embarrassed. I even had someone with whom I've been acquainted with for years, and thus know pretty well, start an argument with me over something silly just so that they'd have a reason to avoid me. I know this because we're friends again and they admitted as much.
Friends leave sometimes. True friends come back if they can.24 -
Just found this post and it's given me the motivation I need THANKYOU. I haven't read all 498 pages but the majority!
Mine are:
I'm working over-time this weekend from 06:30 to 14:30 both days. I brought a small breakfast in and a banana to have as a snack with a coffee and thought, I'll go and get something for breakfast from the canteen. Was going to have 2 slices of cheese on toast but then changed my mind as I realised how many carbs that would be and how many calories. Instead I've stuck to my breakfast and banana and treated myself to a filter coffee.
So what I'm trying to say is that as I'm getting back into weight loss again after not losing any for about 18 months is that I'm making myself aware of my choices and re-programming my brain to make healthy choices.
You have to be ready for weight loss. There's so many times I've tried and failed to lose anything. However, a kick up the *kitten* by my nurse the other day and I'm now in that mindset of "I'm ready to do this now". This isn't for an event in my life, this is for my health and me living a longer, healthier life.
Back on the wagon for 2 weeks and I'm already noticing that I'm feeling more energised having re-started my work outs at home. If you miss out your day for working out, don't just write off the week, make a plan for the rest of the week to keep you on track.
Do some exercise that you enjoy. If you find it boring, it'll turn you off wanting to work out and before you know it, you'll be back at square one. e.g. my husband bought a static rower machine the other year and I started out by trying that BUT I found even sitting there going backwards and forwards for 10 minutes seemed like an eternity! SO I switched. I do x2 Zumba work outs for abut 20 minutes a week on YouTube and x2 Body Balance work outs. I love doing these and probably put more input into these workouts than I did rowing!
It takes a lot of control and effort to not eat that treat that someone brought into work. It's a battle of wills with your mind. Keep your goal written down somewhere at work to keep you on track....I do this and look at my goal everytime I find myself thinking "I'll just have one...." because I know where just one will lead to!
Take eating healthier day by day and don't just write off the week because you had that one bad day on Tuesday. Use the next day to get back on track.14 -
When my clothes are too big for awhile, I bring them to the Sally Anne. At least someone else can use them.
You can't change your friends, and you shouldn't try. How did other people change you? You had to change yourself.You will lose some friends who see you as a threat! Just let them go.....
If you lose these 'friends' they never truly were friends.
One thing I've noticed, but it's because I lost a lot of weight fast because of illness, all that extra skin hanging around. But. no one can see it but me, so I don't worry about it.
Just enjoy your journey, don't obsess, and it's okay to give yourself a treat once in awhile, after all, you have to live. And, if you feel deprived, then you may go overboard with the treats.7 -
Couple of other things come to mind, and I've seen other people touch on this as well--
You've worked out your specific "program" based on trial and error and research. You've stuck it out and made significant gains (or losses, to state it better), like 50, 60, 70 lbs or more. You absolutely look different and people take notice. And then there are THOSE people-- friends, acquaintances, etc.-- who give you "advice". You know, "You should really cut down on fats." Or "You should do crossfit." Or "That much protein isn't good for you."
Ooookay, I mean, CLEARLY what I'm doing isn't working, right?
I know they mean well, but it can get irritating sometimes.
Also, for those of you who have been overweight most or all of your life, do you ever find yourself still mentally fat? Like it's hard to resolve the fact that you've just lost a lot of weight, and you find yourself still thinking like a fat person?13 -
It is not all you think it will be. I had this image of how I would be and it just hasn't happened, lots of really positive changes however there is still this bit of belly fat that won't budge, add in the loose skin from losing what I have and when I am trying to look sexy for my SO this bit of hanging blubber is just so uninispiring.
More reasons to keep working on it. 😊14 -
The skin on my neck is more prominent. Gobble gobble18
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Little things like being able to cross your legs more. ( I know it sounds strange just a thing I noticed 😅)11
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Giving blood impacted me more than it used to. Didn’t feel super great after giving blood today. Not lightheaded, but just extra sluggish and a bit ill. Also extra hungry. I think I just pushed too much to do stuff afterward. Went thrift shopping twice and also went grocery shopping after driving out to my parents’ house. I feel much better now that I’m in bed. Before, giving blood wasn’t even a minor impact, probably because I had more blood volume in general due to having more mass.
Will still give as long as I’m able to. Haven’t in a while and glad to get back into it. They love my oneg, lol. Just have to take it easy afterward.19 -
RelCanonical wrote: »Giving blood impacted me more than it used to. Didn’t feel super great after giving blood today. Not lightheaded, but just extra sluggish and a bit ill. Also extra hungry. I think I just pushed too much to do stuff afterward. Went thrift shopping twice and also went grocery shopping after driving out to my parents’ house. I feel much better now that I’m in bed. Before, giving blood wasn’t even a minor impact, probably because I had more blood volume in general due to having more mass.
Will still give as long as I’m able to. Haven’t in a while and glad to get back into it. They love my oneg, lol. Just have to take it easy afterward.
One thing to remember: giving blood uses over 500 calories. Make sure you eat more on blood donation days! Especially if you are eating at a deficit.
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I have fibromyalgia, and while I'm always going to have it, I notice that I recover faster when I do overdo it, and I have more capacity to do things when I'm having a good day. This is overall beneficial.
(On the other hand, yesterday I moved half the boxed-up library from upstairs down to the garage so that it's out of the way when we get ready to show the house. And...yeah, that triggered a flare, no surprise there.)10 -
That it won't only make you sexier, if you lose weight naturally (without taking pills or having fad diet) you will be healthier too😉.. You'll have more confidence6
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