Why do people hide their food diaries on here?
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@ OP - you still don't get it....the WAY you phrased the question is what did you in from the beginning. It wasn't phrased as, or taken as, a harmless 'im just wondering' question. It came across as an attack on people that value their privacy and you are being responded to as such. Those people gave you defensive answers and reciprocated attack. You attack them again in your responses and get more flak. See the pattern? Attack, get attacked.
Your responses do not at all reflect your chosen username. Don't go stomping off in a "I'm never posting another question again" 4 year old sort of way. Instead, learn from this and try to phrase it a little better next time, if in fact it is a sincere question and not just trolling. Or, build up your internet thick skin.0 -
BEHOLD THE DOZEN DUCK AND CHICKEN EGGS I EAT IN A WEEK!
Lol! I eat that many eggs in a week as well.
Mmmmm.. Eggs.0 -
I think judgment may be a huge factor. Although my diary is open, I feel someone might judge what I have eaten. For example, I have had tons of cravings, which I gave in to, for all kinds of unhealthy things this week-- cookies, fast foods, etc---and my diary reflects that. I am slightly ashamed that I gave into such bad choices, but I also was under my calorie goal for these days. Under calories goal, but still some very unhealthy choices. Other times, I go way overboard with my drinking, and I feel someone might think I am an alcoholic.
Anyhow, if leaving my diary open allows someone to better assist me on my journey... I am all for it. We as adults know when the foods we are taking in may not be the best for us but, we may not always want to hear it from someone else as many dont like criticism, constructiove or otherwise. In the end, we are all here to help one another though sometimes, the forums lead me to believe otherwise.0 -
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I like the privacy.
I keep my diary to keep ME accountable.
Somedays I want to eat 4 slices of pizza and I don't want to be judged.
It's locked with a key, so if someone asks what I am eating I'm happy to share.0 -
Mine is open to friends to keep me accountable. If you want to see it, add me!0
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I want it private because the diary is for my personal use to count calories, etc. and I'm not looking for any help from the MFP community in regards to that. *shrugs shoulders*0
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Because if you aren't on my friends list, why are you checking my diary? Mine is open if you are a friend, otherwise, it's closed.
This!0 -
I don't think everyone should know every bite that goes into my mouth. And, especially on days like today, I ate at least 8 jumbo red vines. I stopped counting...
I love red vines,,,I just never changed the default,,and never really thought about it0 -
Mine is closed because some days are better than others and I don't want to be judged for having a bad day ... I ate the candy bar ... BIG DEAL i'm only human! :sad:0
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Because it is no one's business what I eat?
^^This^^ it's no secret, but it's my food, my life. I log everything to track my calories to make sure I don't go over, I don't kid myself and don't see any reason why someone else in the world needs to be bothered as to whether I had an apple as a snack today or a cheese string.
well, which was it? Apple or cheese string? ;p0 -
Because it is no one's business what I eat?
^^This^^ it's no secret, but it's my food, my life. I log everything to track my calories to make sure I don't go over, I don't kid myself and don't see any reason why someone else in the world needs to be bothered as to whether I had an apple as a snack today or a cheese string.
well, which was it? Apple or cheese string? ;p
It was the cheese string! :laugh: But I reserve the right to have the apple later...... Mwahaha.
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BEHOLD THE DOZEN DUCK AND CHICKEN EGGS I EAT IN A WEEK!
My diary was unshared for a long time, because that was the default. I decided to share it recently just because I ran across the setting but it's not really a big deal.I don't feel any need to look at people's food diaries0 -
Because it is no one's business what I eat?
^^This^^ it's no secret, but it's my food, my life. I log everything to track my calories to make sure I don't go over, I don't kid myself and don't see any reason why someone else in the world needs to be bothered as to whether I had an apple as a snack today or a cheese string.
hahahaha
well, which was it? Apple or cheese string? ;p
It was the cheese string! :laugh: But I reserve the right to have the apple later...... Mwahaha.0 -
After reading through several pages of this topic I'm a bit shocked to hear about the criticisms some people have received, leading them to close their diaries. When I used this site the first time (about 1.5 years ago) I never encountered anything negative. Fingers crossed it stays that way this time around, I suppose.
My diary is public because I feel like knowing other people can see what I eat will help me to make better choices. It's similar to petty "crime"; for example, knowing that speeding is against the law acts as a deterrent for me, so I behave more appropriately. If that makes sense.
To each their own, though. I don't think it really matters either way.0 -
I ask that same question when I first joined MFP. And, I received some of the same answers. My diary has always been open and public since day 1. I have nothing to hide. How can the MFP community support you when you hide your diaries?
Not everyone wants or needs support from random strangers on the internet...just saying0 -
I didn't show mine at first, because I wasn't using the forum and was solely using it as a calorie counter on my phone. Also if you use facebook to log in and you don't want people you know seeing it.0
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I know a lot of people think its personal, but aren't we "fitness pals"? I don't know. I am nosey. I like to see what people are eating for inspiration. I like food, and I like variety. And I care how people treat themselves. I want to help and be helped. That's why we are here. I totally blunder and all my friends can see it if they want to, but it keeps me from doing it TOO MUCH!
No this is not why we are all here why can't people understand that. What the hell type of site have I joined. I am not in to all this hand holding and crap.0 -
I know a lot of people think its personal, but aren't we "fitness pals"? I don't know. I am nosey. I like to see what people are eating for inspiration. I like food, and I like variety. And I care how people treat themselves. I want to help and be helped. That's why we are here. I totally blunder and all my friends can see it if they want to, but it keeps me from doing it TOO MUCH!
No this is not why we are all here why can't people understand that. What the hell type of site have I joined. I am not in to all this hand holding and crap.
I think it's totally fine if you're not into giving/receiving support from members on MFP, but a lot of people do view this as a way to gain inspiration and support (especially if they don't have supportive people around them in "real" life). It's all personal choice as far as how deep into the community you choose to go. There's no need to be so negative about the fact that some people choose to get help from other people here.0 -
Because they don't want to be judged on what they eat I'd think, I however couldn't care less, I eat what I like and I don't care who sees it ,Im human and I eat everything even sweets and processed on occasion on no the world might end jk but seriously Im human and I eat what s new.0
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Mine is friends locked I believed. Partly because it's personal and I'm not really looking for comments unless I specifically ask. Lots of people have lots of different ideas on what counts as eating well or eating right, and no matter what you do, there is going to be someone who says you are doing it wrong. Eat more, eat less, eat paleo, go vegan, avoid gluten, don't ever eat blah blah blah. So I don't really want drive by comments.
The other part of it is, well whenever I have tried to change things in the past and openly talked about it openly to everyone (something I haven't done in a long long time) sooner or later the self appointed "food police" would get in my business and start critiquing my lunch and making comments what I should or shouldn't eat. Or if I'd save up for a treat..someone would say oh should you really be eating that. Its really no ones business but mine.
I've found that that sort of thing is really a trigger for me..call it baggage from a way over controlling father...and just makes me want to eat the very things i"m trying not to more than if they never said anything. For some people being "held accountable" does wonders. For me it causes feelings of rebellion and falling off the wagon... I'm much more likely to stick to plan I make where I'm only accountable to myself. If it doesn't work, I'll tell a friend or dietician or trainer what I'm doing and say..hey..any ideas.
Being on a public site and talking about this stuff at all on here and to close friends is kind of a big step for me.0 -
I know a lot of people think its personal, but aren't we "fitness pals"? I don't know. I am nosey. I like to see what people are eating for inspiration. I like food, and I like variety. And I care how people treat themselves. I want to help and be helped. That's why we are here. I totally blunder and all my friends can see it if they want to, but it keeps me from doing it TOO MUCH!
No this is not why we are all here why can't people understand that. What the hell type of site have I joined. I am not in to all this hand holding and crap.
I think it's totally fine if you're not into giving/receiving support from members on MFP, but a lot of people do view this as a way to gain inspiration and support (especially if they don't have supportive people around them in "real" life). It's all personal choice as far as how deep into the community you choose to go. There's no need to be so negative about the fact that some people choose to get help from other people here.
Not negative, just blows my mind that people assume everyone is here for the same reason. I mean it is common sense to me that people are different and have different reasons for doing things.0 -
Everyone can see mine!! Friend or not, It's not always under. Sometimes it's way over but I log everything any way. It keeps in check to see that and then to know that others can see it. The only time i look at other diaries is when I see a good success story and I want to know how that person ate, or I get bored with what Im eating and need new ideas.0
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Some people are more private then others. When I first started I didn't have mine open. But then I figured it might help me be accountable because you can't hide what you have eaten. I mean if you don't lose weight it is kinda obvious something is missing in the plan. I don't see anything wrong with anyone who chooses not to share. I feel it is one's preference. To each his own0
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Why do people hide their food diaries on here?0
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nice tracker on your pic love Matt Smith....I know I know it's off topic lol0
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As I said before its a to each their own thing that being said there is NO reason to be hating on the OP for asking her question and to the person who said we aren't here for the same reason. Then I suggest you check the mantra of this website! And if you don't want all the hand holding crap as you call it Some of us NEED that right now in our lives. Sometimes I swear people would rather be hateful then to just get along. If you are not here to lose weight get healthy and be supportive then this aint the place for you sorry. Be nice or play somewhere else. This is MFP MY FITNESS PAL!!! Not MY FBOMB PAL Grow up already. This website is saving my life one day at a time. Are ya gonna make fun of me because I don't' mind a little hand holding and passion and a few hoorahs and atta girls along the way . I am going to do my damndest to support each and every member on this site whether they are on my friends list or not. ( Anyone feel free to add me if ya wish) Lorrain has spoken!
Lorrain from Maine
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nice tracker on your pic love Matt Smith....I know I know it's off topic lol
IDK if this was for me, but if it was, thanks! If not, please enjoy the pic of Matt Smith in my ticker0 -
Mine had been set to friends only, but I just made it public. I couldn't care less who sees it, no problem.0
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because people don't want any comments on why they aren't dropping pounds.....CHICKENS! lol...0
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