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You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Why are you so certain that everyone does everything for the exact same reasons as you?0 -
never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Stuff like what? What even if this thread about? OP was flirted with, told guy to go away, guy went away? Unless she actually wanted him to stick around there's no there there.0 -
never2bstopped wrote: »Unfortunately a lot of guys tend to think everything is fair game everywhere with no limitations. I'm not a feminist dude or whatever, nor am I a sellout but it gets tiring seeing other dudes making us look bad like this. Guys, there's a time and a place and it's not on MyFitnessPal.
What about those who have met and married on this site? Should they have not done so!?!?
No, because that one chick has already decreed that meaningful personal happiness is not what this site is for0 -
I don't allow bicep squeezes until the second date.0
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Don't you know you're only allowd to express interest in the opposite sex if you are on match.com....smhnever2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Stuff like what? What even if this thread about? OP was flirted with, told guy to go away, guy went away? Unless she actually wanted him to stick around there's no there there.
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never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Stuff like what? What even if this thread about? OP was flirted with, told guy to go away, guy went away? Unless she actually wanted him to stick around there's no there there.
Kinda late to the party
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Missy081113 wrote: »Thank you all for the support. I don't believe anything I said should have gotten me any attitude from anyone. I think that I will discontinue the support from this site. I do not need negativity in my life. Thank you good luck and God Bless.
I sympathize and that is why I don't put my picture up. I get lots of "How you doin'?" and "dang, giiirrrrl" etc... yuck. Unfortunately, it's the culture we live in. It's our job as women to deal with unwanted advances from strangers, and learn to avoid/get out of uncomfortable situations, instead of their responsibility to not make advances on people they don't know, or detect what perhaps might make someone feel uncomfortable. It's super backwards and it sucks.
Hope you have a better time on the site from here on in... I just skip over the vapid threads and post where it might actually be helpful/applicable to health, weight loss, well being... and only add friends who have similar goals and mindsets
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I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
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Cranquistador wrote: »
I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
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Obviously some people in this thread have received the same attention that OP received and live for it and thrive on it. That's alright. Hopefully they don't run into any trouble with that kind of attention in the real world.
So if someone disagrees with you, they want that kind of attention?
I just ignore anything like that. If you get a PM from someone you don't know, why do you even need to open it? Just delete it!
I am not going to let anything stupid get in the way of my weight loss and fitness journey, and that includes pervs and jerks. The easy road is to get in a huff and get distracted. Or, you can keep your eye on the prize, and just ignore the unimportant crap that life throws at you. Because we all know, life throws curveballs, and most are a lot worse than a guy hitting on you in a PM.
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Cranquistador wrote: »
I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
Still looking for this pecan pie, I must have missed it!
Who ate it while I was searching??0 -
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arditarose wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »
I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
I could never control myself around moist tarts
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arditarose wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »
I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
I could never control myself around moist tarts
DAH!0 -
I do declare I have the vapors. I love MFP. It's like the real internet...WITH TRAINING WHEELS!0
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binaryjester wrote: »I do declare I have the vapors. I love MFP. It's like the real internet...WITH TRAINING WHEELS!
DAH! Clown.
This thread is gonna give me nightmares.0 -
DYarditarose wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »
I'm so angry someone would post that picture on a FITNESS SITE! This doesn't belong here and I don't deserve to be treated like this.arditarose wrote: »_Terrapin_ wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »You just don't comprehend it. You think this is just complaining? The guys behavior was totally wrong for the whole web site. He needs to go to match.com. This doesn't belong here and women don't deserve to be treated this way by guy who think they are an easy pick up. This is a diet and fitness web site and people should have the decency to act accordingly. He was in no way being respectful from the start. If he was, he won't have tried to do what he did. So, you must be under the assumption that his behavior was ok and it is a ladies fault if she doesn't explain on a diet and fitness web site that she don't want to be picked up. It was the guy's fault. Not hers. He's the creep that needs to leave. Our profiles are designed to be related to fitness and weight here....not will you have sex with me if I get to know you.
Trying to dictate proper behavior to others on an internet site is futile. All you can do is change your own. If you refuse to change what you do, and instead cry "others must change to accommodate me" you are just complaining.
Then MFP should give users more privacy options if they are just going to let stuff like this happen.
Don't add friends and you can have all the privacy you want! Friends aren't a necessity to use this site.
Creepers can still send messages though. Doesn't matter if you friend someone or not. So actually, you don't!
Put your profile on private and stay out of any flirtatious threads and creepers will have no interest in you.
If you have inappropriate pm's report them to the mods.
Take control of your life, don't let others control it for you, and for peat's sake don't try to control others lives!
Not true, you don't have to post in those *kitten* threads to receive unwanted messages.
You must be quite desirable if you post nothing provocative, stay out of the BS threads and still get stalked.
Yes it must be tough; but for me Odes 1/4 eaten pecan pie has me thinking of PMing them. It looks really good- - -no I'm not saying it is a good or bad food. More yummy is a term I'll use to describe the pic. . . . .
bahahaha. I've been eyeing that pecan tart all week.
I could never control myself around moist tarts
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Obviously some people in this thread have received the same attention that OP received and live for it and thrive on it. That's alright. Hopefully they don't run into any trouble with that kind of attention in the real world.
Not being outraged or thinking its a big deal =/- live and thrive on it. That's a heck of an insulting assumption.0 -
River_Goddess wrote: »Missy081113 wrote: »Thank you all for the support. I don't believe anything I said should have gotten me any attitude from anyone. I think that I will discontinue the support from this site. I do not need negativity in my life. Thank you good luck and God Bless.
I sympathize and that is why I don't put my picture up. I get lots of "How you doin'?" and "dang, giiirrrrl" etc... yuck. Unfortunately, it's the culture we live in. It's our job as women to deal with unwanted advances from strangers, and learn to avoid/get out of uncomfortable situations, instead of their responsibility to not make advances on people they don't know, or detect what perhaps might make someone feel uncomfortable. It's super backwards and it sucks.
Hope you have a better time on the site from here on in... I just skip over the vapid threads and post where it might actually be helpful/applicable to health, weight loss, well being... and only add friends who have similar goals and mindsets
Huh?
Because it only happens to women....0 -
River_Goddess wrote: »Missy081113 wrote: »Thank you all for the support. I don't believe anything I said should have gotten me any attitude from anyone. I think that I will discontinue the support from this site. I do not need negativity in my life. Thank you good luck and God Bless.
I sympathize and that is why I don't put my picture up. I get lots of "How you doin'?" and "dang, giiirrrrl" etc... yuck. Unfortunately, it's the culture we live in. It's our job as women to deal with unwanted advances from strangers, and learn to avoid/get out of uncomfortable situations, instead of their responsibility to not make advances on people they don't know, or detect what perhaps might make someone feel uncomfortable. It's super backwards and it sucks.
Hope you have a better time on the site from here on in... I just skip over the vapid threads and post where it might actually be helpful/applicable to health, weight loss, well being... and only add friends who have similar goals and mindsets
Huh?
Because it only happens to women....
It's funny how that works isn't it!0 -
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Derprioception wrote: »And bars are for drinking, libraries for reading and grocery store for shopping for groceries. The fact of the matter is, wherever people gather, both men and women are going to try to hook up with other men and women. Just as it's unrealistic to expect the outside world to conform to us, the world of the Internet is much the same. The bonus to the Internet though is that it comes with little x's and block buttons that make it ever so easy to ignore unwanted conversation in any form with almost no need for direct confrontation. Enjoy that.
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This is an important question because I also met my wife on a website that was not a dating site.never2bstopped wrote: »Unfortunately a lot of guys tend to think everything is fair game everywhere with no limitations. I'm not a feminist dude or whatever, nor am I a sellout but it gets tiring seeing other dudes making us look bad like this. Guys, there's a time and a place and it's not on MyFitnessPal.
What about those who have met and married on this site? Should they have not done so!?!?
What can we do to amend the damages our horrible crime has wreaked upon society?
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So you believe that an anonymous person* flirting with you on a website via a text message is comparable to being raped?KETOGENICGURL wrote: »Missy and Amy-Kee have valid points, they don't NEED protection, didn't ASK for it, they don't HAVE to tolerate it, and there is NO WAY to not show anything abut yourself UNTIL you make it public. You might as well say anyone can contact you and comment on your weight, your looks, and ask for naked pictures or suggest anything they like! which can happen in public too....but really, why should that be allowed here??? Telling someone attractive "don't put up your picture then" is like the old "she was asking for it by dressing that way"…..and have you seen the naked body shots here..male and female? In our absorbed SELFIE NATION someone modest, or not willing to strip to show abs is told to like it or lump it. You don't have to be a "feminist" to expect courtesy and some level of manners.
(*or even a computer program, because let's face it you don't even know if it was a bot or a real person.)0 -
Yeah, this is totally different from the "she was asking for it" mentality.Obviously some people in this thread have received the same attention that OP received and live for it and thrive on it. That's alright. Hopefully they don't run into any trouble with that kind of attention in the real world.0 -
In a perfect world everybody would behave in the matter that you expect. But I'm thinking you must be brand new to the internet.0
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Wait this isn't a hook up site?0
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I mean, if he harassed you after you said you weren't interested... I get it.
But a person who stops talking to you after you say you're in a relationship?
I don't get the issue ...0 -
I don't accept any friend requests, as that's not a part of this site I have interest in.
I did get a weird message nonetheless though from a guy who was like "Hey, chin up girl you're beautiful and you've got this," which was odd since I haven't posted anything indicating that I'm struggling with...well, anything, really. It was creepy and unwelcome, and I deleted it immediately.0
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