Since thick is in, should I stay at 145 on my 5'2 frame
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veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
You're sarcasm was a little hard to read- but I assumed with as ridiculous as we were going- that's what you were after. Lay it on a little heavier next time. MOAR. it'll work.
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TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
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TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
You're sarcasm was a little hard to read- but I assumed with as ridiculous as we were going- that's what you were after. Lay it on a little heavier next time. MOAR. it'll work.
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TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
TRUE. No point spending time chasing what you don't have - spend that energy appreciating what you do got!0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
TRUE. No point spending time chasing what you don't have - spend that energy appreciating what you do got!
Why would it be a waste of time if you are able to get it? Even if it were to mean either saving up money for getting what you want or working to recomp your body to your ideal? If you are willing to do either, why would it be a waste if it is what you want?0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
Every single combination exist and is natural. Plenty of women have slim hips and big boobs, or are tiny on top with big hips/butts. My niece is like that and she's gorgeous. It's nice for her that not the only "ideal" pushed anymore is slim. Slim is still plenty in style, too.
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PikaKnight wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
TRUE. No point spending time chasing what you don't have - spend that energy appreciating what you do got!
Why would it be a waste of time if you are able to get it? Even if it were to mean either saving up money for getting what you want or working to recomp your body to your ideal? If you are willing to do either, why would it be a waste if it is what you want?
It depends on the person I guess. If that solves your issue, go for it, that's great. If it's a case of simply being envious about what others have and feeling inadequate about yourself, I'm not sure that lifting weights/getting your nose done, for example, are always the solution. I think sometimes there can be a bit of a 'grass is greener' attitude to body image and attractiveness, and people don't always appreciate the body they were born with. Sometimes what we want isn't attainable for us in a healthy way and we need to re-evaluate what we're after.0 -
PikaKnight wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
TRUE. No point spending time chasing what you don't have - spend that energy appreciating what you do got!
Why would it be a waste of time if you are able to get it? Even if it were to mean either saving up money for getting what you want or working to recomp your body to your ideal? If you are willing to do either, why would it be a waste if it is what you want?
It depends on the person I guess. If that solves your issue, go for it, that's great. If it's a case of simply being envious about what others have and feeling inadequate about yourself, I'm not sure that lifting weights/getting your nose done, for example, are always the solution. I think sometimes there can be a bit of a 'grass is greener' attitude to body image and attractiveness, and people don't always appreciate the body they were born with. Sometimes what we want isn't attainable for us in a healthy way and we need to re-evaluate what we're after.
On the other hand, some people like getting lots of surgery, and if it makes them happy and they can afford it and it's not endangering their health, then what business is it of anyone's? My boobs are fake, and I'll be damned if I let someone give me crap about it. It was my choice to make. Ya know? :-)0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »PikaKnight wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »Hate to be pedantic, but re: that silly woman's comment that women with "over-sexualized bodies" tend to have low IQs... that's actually, like, the opposite of the truth. Hourglass and pear shape in women has been shown to be correlated with many positive health outcomes, including lifespan, fertility, and HIGHER AVERAGE IQ. Physical attractiveness is a product of an appearance of health/fertility/developmental fitness, and developmental fitness influences the development of the brain, which is, after all, just another body part.
Also I find her comments to be extremely sex-negative, victim-blamey, and cretinous.
I don't have a big butt, so I have no dog in this fight, but I'm dropping this link here anyway:
University Herald: Women with big butts are smarter and resistant to chronic illnesses
Sweet. Always knew my brain came from somewhere. Now I know. It's from my big butt.
Oh, so now women who aren't curvy are stupid? What if I'm an apple shape? I'm unattractive, asexual and dumb. Great.
I literally just said that "on average" does not equal "in every case". There are many brilliant non-curvy women.
Everyone else in this thread gets to be completely ridiculous. Why don't I get to join in?
I know, right? FFS.
This is like a weird anthropology thing for me. I honestly am so out of touch that I had no idea this body type was the new ideal. I came up in a college class full of eating disorders and not one "obese" person...all those poor girls were far slimmer than the new "ideal."
Just shows you what BS it is to subscribe to anyone's "ideal."
Your best bet is to maximize what nature gave you...if it's a big butt...go for it. Slim hips? Go for that. I think the natural/unnatural thing comes into play somewhat because one aspect of you tends to be linked to the others....and an ample bum goes with built quads and a substantial rack. My tiny ribcage and narrow shoulders would look silly with big boobs or butt.
tl;dr? shake what yo mama gave you.
TRUE. No point spending time chasing what you don't have - spend that energy appreciating what you do got!
Why would it be a waste of time if you are able to get it? Even if it were to mean either saving up money for getting what you want or working to recomp your body to your ideal? If you are willing to do either, why would it be a waste if it is what you want?
It depends on the person I guess. If that solves your issue, go for it, that's great. If it's a case of simply being envious about what others have and feeling inadequate about yourself, I'm not sure that lifting weights/getting your nose done, for example, are always the solution. I think sometimes there can be a bit of a 'grass is greener' attitude to body image and attractiveness, and people don't always appreciate the body they were born with. Sometimes what we want isn't attainable for us in a healthy way and we need to re-evaluate what we're after.
On the other hand, some people like getting lots of surgery, and if it makes them happy and they can afford it and it's not endangering their health, then what business is it of anyone's? My boobs are fake, and I'll be damned if I let someone give me crap about it. It was my choice to make. Ya know? :-)
Oh absolutely. Gotta do what makes YOU happy.0 -
As I'm pregnant my boobs are up 3 cup sizes already. I'm an F. They look effing huge in comparison to the rest of me. Today at the grocery store some old guy was openly ogling them. But apparently that was my own fault for a) having huge boobs b) not covering them up completely in 80 degree weather and c) having sex in the first place and ending up knocked up (tut-tut!).
In my experience, people that make disparaging comments about women and their sexuality usually have big issues around sex and sexuality themselves. That poster needs therapy.
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Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!0 -
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christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Here's your answer: if being ogled bothers you, then you have the right to cover up. If she likes to be ogled, it's her right to show her goodies. Just because she enjoys sexual attention doesn't mean she doesn't have other things to offer as well. She could also be a brilliant artist who takes great pride in her paintings, for example. And it's not right of you to suggest she's inferior to you just because she enjoys sexual attention and you don't. Live and let live.0 -
TitaniaEcks wrote: »christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Here's your answer: if being ogled bothers you, then you have the right to cover up. If she likes to be ogled, it's her right to show her goodies. Just because she enjoys sexual attention doesn't mean she doesn't have other things to offer as well. She could also be a brilliant artist who takes great pride in her paintings, for example. And it's not right of you to suggest she's inferior to you just because she enjoys sexual attention and you don't. Live and let live.
I didn't say she was inferior. My question was WHY. Why do some women crave and need that attention. In my opinion there's something wrong somewhere....
I can only guess, insecurity
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So what if her shirt's half undone, her boobs whatever, her butt whatever? Maybe she's comfortable, maybe she likes feeling however she feels. Maybe, she's a mom who's a bit too warm, like the person who posted minutes before you. Maybe she's the opposite of insecure. Maybe she's dressing that way entirely for herself because she enjoys living in her body.
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So what if her shirt's half undone, her boobs whatever, her butt whatever? Maybe she's comfortable, maybe she likes feeling however she feels. Maybe, she's a mom who's a bit too warm, like the person who posted minutes before you. Maybe she's the opposite of insecure. Maybe she's dressing that way entirely for herself because she enjoys living in her body.
Nope. Don't buy it..
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christinev297 wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Here's your answer: if being ogled bothers you, then you have the right to cover up. If she likes to be ogled, it's her right to show her goodies. Just because she enjoys sexual attention doesn't mean she doesn't have other things to offer as well. She could also be a brilliant artist who takes great pride in her paintings, for example. And it's not right of you to suggest she's inferior to you just because she enjoys sexual attention and you don't. Live and let live.
I didn't say she was inferior. My question was WHY. Why do some women crave and need that attention. In my opinion there's something wrong somewhere....
I can only guess, insecurity
You did call this hypothetical woman "trash", now, come on.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Here's your answer: if being ogled bothers you, then you have the right to cover up. If she likes to be ogled, it's her right to show her goodies. Just because she enjoys sexual attention doesn't mean she doesn't have other things to offer as well. She could also be a brilliant artist who takes great pride in her paintings, for example. And it's not right of you to suggest she's inferior to you just because she enjoys sexual attention and you don't. Live and let live.
I didn't say she was inferior. My question was WHY. Why do some women crave and need that attention. In my opinion there's something wrong somewhere....
I can only guess, insecurity
Why are you assuming that's the case? People are comfortable in all sorts of manner of dress or lack thereof. Are nudists only seeking attention because they must be if we follow your line of thought.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Why does a woman need to be begging for attention in order to dress a certain way? That's my issue with the things you've said in this thread. It's like the other poster saying that women who wear makeup are stupid. If it's not your thing, whatever, but don't assume you know why others do what they do. Women who dress provocatively are generally comfortable with their bodies and confident, not asking to be 'perved on' or whatever you think.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »So what if her shirt's half undone, her boobs whatever, her butt whatever? Maybe she's comfortable, maybe she likes feeling however she feels. Maybe, she's a mom who's a bit too warm, like the person who posted minutes before you. Maybe she's the opposite of insecure. Maybe she's dressing that way entirely for herself because she enjoys living in her body.
Nope. Don't buy it..
It doesn't matter if you buy it or not, though. See?0 -
I wasn't talking about nudists0
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@christinev297 - have you seriously never dolled yourself up to the nines (or to the 0s) just because you wanted to rock it, and for no other reason?0
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christinev297 wrote: »So what if her shirt's half undone, her boobs whatever, her butt whatever? Maybe she's comfortable, maybe she likes feeling however she feels. Maybe, she's a mom who's a bit too warm, like the person who posted minutes before you. Maybe she's the opposite of insecure. Maybe she's dressing that way entirely for herself because she enjoys living in her body.
Nope. Don't buy it..
I've known women like that who are very comfortable with their bodies not insecure in the way you are trying to claim.
I find it funny that most of the time these women are deemed trashy, attention seeking or are supposedly super insecure by those who are very insecure themselves.
Not saying that all women who dress a certain way are above the tearing down of other women, but it's pretty lame to make such judgmental generalizations.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »TitaniaEcks wrote: »christinev297 wrote: »Ok help clarify this for me, and this is a serious non baiting honest question.
I'm walking along and in the the other direction comes a woman with her shirt half undone so her boobs are half hanging out, and to top this classy look off she's wearing those jeans shorts with half her butt cheeks hanging out.
Is it wrong of me to instantly think "Trash", because that's the first thing that comes to mind. Why is she so insecure in herself that she has to parade her body around to get attention??
I've got a decent set of boobs, which i cover up because i have absolutely no desire to be ogled by strange men. My self worth is not measured by how many guys perve on me that day!!
Now, if i go out dressed half naked and get perved on, i have no right to be pissed off because this was obviously my intention when i left the house this morning.
I don't know..... Perhaps i have more to offer the world than my banging body. And i choose not to be treated like an animal in the zoo and be leered at like a piece of meat.
For example when i go out walking i wear a baggy shirt and shorts. Why?? Because again, i don't want or need the attention. My husband gives me plenty of that!
Here's your answer: if being ogled bothers you, then you have the right to cover up. If she likes to be ogled, it's her right to show her goodies. Just because she enjoys sexual attention doesn't mean she doesn't have other things to offer as well. She could also be a brilliant artist who takes great pride in her paintings, for example. And it's not right of you to suggest she's inferior to you just because she enjoys sexual attention and you don't. Live and let live.
I didn't say she was inferior. My question was WHY. Why do some women crave and need that attention. In my opinion there's something wrong somewhere....
I can only guess, insecurity
1) Some women are displaying their appearance because they seek to attract a mate, and most men and many gay women are visual, even if they are also very profound.
2) Some women find it complimentary when people look at their bodies with lust or approval. We humans display our positive traits so that people will give us social validation, as we are social animals. You probably have some positive traits you display proudly. Maybe you're an amazing poet, and you show your friends your poetry partly in order to impress them. Maybe you have your college diploma framed on the wall of your living room to show off a little to visiting friends. Maybe the woman takes pride in her body, maybe she worked hard for it or is proud of her good genetics. Get it? I don't see the problem here.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »I wasn't talking about nudists
Why not? They'd go about naked if they could. Or is it the amount of fabric and not skin that defines this walking the line between okay and trashy?0 -
Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »christinev297 wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »veganbettie wrote: »This thread was incredibly amusing....
All I have to say is it really isn't going to matter what you look like if your attitude and personality are less than desirable. Sure. It will get you a date. And maybe a relationship for a while. But eventually acting and being the way that some of the people here are being...not naming names but.... it won't last long. But at least you'll look good for you I guess? I suppose really that's all that matters...But it didn't seem like that was your sole intent for asking the question sooooo....
Good luck spot reducing!
I know for a fact a far number of the ladies in this thread are married/in long term relationships.
Not that your attempt at insults amount to much really, there are mass murders and criminals who manage to have people who will stick by them but some women with varying opinions on body image are the ones who'll be running into trouble? I mean....okay. Sure.
you'll never know who i really meant though now will you?
Wow, thanks for taking the heat off me veganbettie
and your...what did she say...."orange" skin? because clearly people can't have different skin tones....
And, to be honest, I don't know a single woman who wouldn't love to look like Amber Rose PRE-SURGERY. In fact, every woman I know that looks more like that post-surgery pic would kill for her natural fit shape. The implants make her look grotesque. It's one thing to be naturally bodacious. Quite another to get surgically altered to look like a physiological impossibility.Also note that the ladies in Sir Mix A Lot's video have normal fine hindquarters, not silly puffed up nonsense like Amber and Kim have now.
But, then, the good Sir did point out that Silicone Parts are made for Toys....so he was a refined gentleman in his tastes.
Glad to see that some of you do have common sense lol. I find it almost an insult to women in general that some women go for that completely sexualized look. It's not attractive. It's an open invitation for pervs and makes them look like sexual objects. But I guess it does reflect on their IQ... in a way I pity them if they felt they had to go to such extents to get attention, when they were so beautiful before.
Ok yeah I apparently have strong feelings about that.
Hello Judgey McJudgerson .I have strong feelings about women who put down other women for their appearance (and their supposed IQ's) and call them 'trash'.
Women: their own worst enemies. I've never seen guys be as vile to a woman as I have witnessed women be in daily interactions.
Oh, please. You haven't looked hard enough.
Well @tomatoey 20+ pages of women vs women gives me the perception that I most certainly have0
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