St Louis area trainer posts picture of overweight fan at Cardinals game
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bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
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HER RESPONSE WAS AWESOME! What a well spoken woman with a kick *kitten* attitude. you should never judge cause you truly do not know what road another has traveled. you go girl!0
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Everyone's entitled to their opinion I suppose, but I just can't get on board with that line of thinking.MsCougar2015 wrote: »I'll chime in because I am a big girl. I see both sides here. What the trainer did was rude and hurtful. However, (and I am not excusing him here) when you are out in public, everyone is fair game. Is it nice? No. Is it fair? no. There are mean people out there so get used to it. Grow some thick skin. He did pixel out her face and not post her name however, there are other ways to make the point he was making. I, like another person posted on here, was not aware of how big I am (or was, 245 down to 210 and yes I know I am still big) and yeah its a little disconcerting that you spill over into other seats. I hope this is a wake up call for her to get some professional help if she isn't already working with someone. And I hope it is a wake up call to him not to be such a insensitive jerk.
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This guy is an idiot. Karma will pay him back. Beverly's response and character are AMAZING! So impressed.
It makes me think of when there's a health segment on the news and they show overweight people walking down the street, only their backs of course. Wonder what those poor people think when they see the news? You'd think they'd have to get permission to use their images, but I don't think they do.0 -
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
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bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
Well that made me cry.0 -
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
I agree, the only thing I didn't agree with was that those other fans should have never had to move, unless they were offered better seats. If this happened to me then the other person infringing on my paid for seat should be the one to move, unless they wanna pay for some of my ticket, then I'll consider a snuggle
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bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
Beverley - if you see this thread - you are awesome.
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Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
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Agreed.emmydoodles83 wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
I agree, the only thing I didn't agree with was that those other fans should have never had to move, unless they were offered better seats.
And so I'm clear, I do agree that there is an obesity epidemic, and that it is unfair for others to suffer (having to move seats, etc), to accommodate someone's obesity. I'm not of the opinion that we should just ignore it.
But I do believe in human decency and treating people with respect regardless of size.
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emmydoodles83 wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
I agree, the only thing I didn't agree with was that those other fans should have never had to move, unless they were offered better seats. If this happened to me then the other person infringing on my paid for seat should be the one to move, unless they wanna pay for some of my ticket.
I think I would ask to move before asking the stadium to move the person infringing on my seat. I'd be mortified to call them out.0 -
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
ETA: NVM0 -
I always consider someone's motivation when trying to figure out why they do what they do.
For this guy, I think he's trying to establish a client base by making an appeal to a very basic human emotion: disgust. And using a stranger as an example.
Basically, pointing and laughing at someone so you can feel superior to them. Nice.
That's so childish and obvious that he's not the least bit concerned about her health. Says more about him than it does her.0 -
Wow. I want to cry for that woman, even though her face is never shown. Does this guy think she's completely unaware of her weight?
Yes, we need to be having frank discussions about weight - with our Doctors, family, and others who care about our wellbeing. Some a-hole fat shaming a stranger on social media is not having a discussion. It's a DB being insensitive and using someone else's misfortune to his advantage. It's sickening.
At the risk of the other MFPers jumping down my throat, I'm going to use the B-word here. This guy is a bully. Plain and simple.
Yes. Excellent comment!
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Wow. I want to cry for that woman, even though her face is never shown. Does this guy think she's completely unaware of her weight?
Yes, we need to be having frank discussions about weight - with our Doctors, family, and others who care about our wellbeing. Some a-hole fat shaming a stranger on social media is not having a discussion. It's a DB being insensitive and using someone else's misfortune to his advantage. It's sickening.
At the risk of the other MFPers jumping down my throat, I'm going to use the B-word here. This guy is a bully. Plain and simple.
Agree with all this.I_Will_End_You wrote: »The guy definitely sounds like an *kitten* on his Facebook page in general, but his post about the people next to her having to move does not bother me. I don't know that I'd call it fat shaming, more like an observation. Reporting what she was eating? Yeah....all aboard the douche canoe. While I don't think it was necessary to post her picture, I agree that people should not have to be uncomfortable in a seat they paid for because the person next to them is sharing it with them!
ETA: The media definitely didn't need to post it all over the place. It's likely the woman would have never seen it had they not.
And with this.
I'm embarrassed, living in St. Louis, that this guy breathes some of the same air as me.
I think he was trolling and sensationalizing and I think it is going to come back and kill his business.
I live in St. Louis also, He was not right in what he did, but I agree that the news really didn't have to cover this so much. They made a bad situation worse. This person may have never known what happened had the news not posted it all over the place. It may not be great publicity for the trainer, but it is still publicity that he could find a way to use to his advantage.0 -
Reading through his posts, I feel like he was just sharing workouts, then he got into the fat-shaming business. He only seems to be doing it to women, though.
Probably trying to appeal to people who are "scared" to be fat, but at the same time, that's the culture that tears down the self-esteem of so many people!0 -
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.0 -
Her response is awesome! As if it's her choice that she's too big for the seat - that is really embarrassing for her already, she doesn't need a bully to point it out.
She's doing what she can to get healthy and that "trainer" had no business judging her. It's not his job to tell strangers how to live their lives, it's his job to motivate his clients and help people, not embarrass them.0 -
bingo_jenn wrote: »emmydoodles83 wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
I agree, the only thing I didn't agree with was that those other fans should have never had to move, unless they were offered better seats. If this happened to me then the other person infringing on my paid for seat should be the one to move, unless they wanna pay for some of my ticket.
I think I would ask to move before asking the stadium to move the person infringing on my seat. I'd be mortified to call them out.
I would only move myself if I was offered equal or better seats. Otherwise I'll be as nice as possible about it but she'll need to move.
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brianpperkins wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.
Even if that is the case, what right is it of his to post her photo on the internet or write about her on his Facebook page?0 -
But I don't really care, I guess is my point. Strictly looking at what the "trainer" did and how the woman responded, I don't need to delve any further. I'm satisfied with my stance on the matter without having to investigate it further. I don't believe that reading a blog will change my mind on that. Regardless of how intrusive she was, he did not have the right to do what he did. We have choices in life on how we deal with things.brianpperkins wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.
BTW, are you an engineer by chance? Serious question.
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amyrebeccah wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
Right? So the antijared went back in time nearly a full year to set all this in motion with a series of posts on his blog and a women's health post but he forgot one crucial fact! A person who tries a diet sticks with that exact meal plan for the rest of their lives!
Based on his writing, I have doubts that reply is from the woman involved.0 -
....you NEVER know what another person is going through. I remember in high school, one of my fellow students had brain cancer and all the medications made her body blow up...looking at her after the meds...you would think she was just obese. But, no, these powerful drugs that were trying to kill the cancer in her also robbed her of her svelte figure.
You don't know if someone is overweight and working towards losing the weight, has a medical condition, or is oblivious. But, it is a person. That is all that should matter.
Fat shaming is disgusting....I really hope that guy does not get one client from that post. (or ever again!)
Beverly is a class act. I loved her response.0 -
SconnieCat wrote: »brianpperkins wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.
Even if that is the case, what right is it of his to post her photo on the internet or write about her on his Facebook page?
Since they were in public, where she had no expectation of privacy, it was well within his rights to photograph and comment all he wanted. It's the same reason why you have the right to comment on him now.
I wish it amazed me how many people rant about his judging her while they judge him and say he was wrong to use her as a generality while voicing an opinion while voicing their opinion about him specifically ... sadly, hypocrisy is now the norm.0 -
Question for all: What do you do when there is someone very large sitting next to you on the train/bus/plane/wherever that infringes on your seat space? As someone said above, I hate when strangers touch me. In your opinion, what is the proper response when there is someone taking up more than their share of their seat and taking up some of the space that you paid for?0
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brianpperkins wrote: »amyrebeccah wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
Right? So the antijared went back in time nearly a full year to set all this in motion with a series of posts on his blog and a women's health post but he forgot one crucial fact! A person who tries a diet sticks with that exact meal plan for the rest of their lives!
Based on his writing, I have doubts that reply is from the woman involved.
What if the anti-Jared, Beverly, AND the trainer were all in on it together? Huh? Huh?
(for the record I don't think that is the case at all).
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Sigh.brianpperkins wrote: »SconnieCat wrote: »brianpperkins wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.
Even if that is the case, what right is it of his to post her photo on the internet or write about her on his Facebook page?
Since they were in public, where she had no expectation of privacy, it was well within his rights to photograph and comment all he wanted. It's the same reason why you have the right to comment on him now.
I wish it amazed me how many people rant about his judging her while they judge him and say he was wrong to use her as a generality while voicing an opinion while voicing their opinion about him specifically ... sadly, hypocrisy is now the norm.
Does he have the legal right to take her photo in a public place? Sure. Of course. Outside of your home, free game.
Morally? Up for serious debate, as you see here. I don't consider this discussion hypocrisy. He opened himself up to discussion which I'm pretty sure he knew when he did it.
I think I will just continue down my life's path while employing my moral compass. It's served me well thus far.
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I don't agree with fat/body-shaming but I do agree with one quote from the article:
“The customary way to respond to this now is to want to hug someone and tell them ‘no matter what size you are, that's great.' But in reality it's not great,” Hausher said.
Nowadays, people are promoting being happy and loving yourself by doing whatever you want with your body at any size when the best way to show love to yourself is to eat healthy and exercise which will lead to being in a healthy weight range.0 -
amyrebeccah wrote: »brianpperkins wrote: »SconnieCat wrote: »brianpperkins wrote: »
LOL okay. Thanks for the chuckle.brianpperkins wrote: »
Point?brianpperkins wrote: »bingo_jenn wrote: »http://theantijared.com/2015/05/i-was-the-so-called-unhealthy-fat-woman-at-the-cardinals-game-2.html
I just found this on his FB page with her response. Haven't finished reading it yet.
It's amazing how many "I was ..." entries there are on that blog, all authored by the antijared. The "Beverly" in the Women's Health article linked in the blog entry is a Nutrisystem follower that is eliminating salt and drinking water ... not exactly the same habits described at the ball park.
I don't care if she's noshing on a stick of butter. What he did was wrong, flat out.
Point is one ... what evidence is there that the antijared blog is actually from here considering the number of "I was ... " entries there, and two, the eating habits don't coincide. I would like to thank you for highlighting his point of how difficult it is to have an adult conversation about obesity.
If you bother to read the "I was ... " series of blogs, they all read the same. The style is identical which is unlikely from the allegedly widely disparate authors.
One can be as fat as they want ... use whatever level of profanity they wish ... smell however ... until they infringe upon others.
Even if that is the case, what right is it of his to post her photo on the internet or write about her on his Facebook page?
Since they were in public, where she had no expectation of privacy, it was well within his rights to photograph and comment all he wanted. It's the same reason why you have the right to comment on him now.
I wish it amazed me how many people rant about his judging her while they judge him and say he was wrong to use her as a generality while voicing an opinion while voicing their opinion about him specifically ... sadly, hypocrisy is now the norm.
Are you talking about the facebook people judging his body (which some are doing, is hypocritical and I'm glad no one here is), or judging him for the action of fat shaming on his blog? I have no idea how you are finding hypocrisy in the latter, and I'm honestly curious.
If one is to judge him for being judgmental .. that is hypocritical.0
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