My spouse is sabotaging my diet!

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  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    edited July 2015
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?
  • faithyang
    faithyang Posts: 297 Member
    edited July 2015
    faithyang wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    I'm sorry but I couldn't really tell if you were being tongue-in-cheek lol.

    I had a similar issue with my hubby flying things like oreos, twix and cookies around making aeroplane sounds and its hard to not open your mouth to take a bite when he makes it so irresistible and irresistibly adorable. Then the gravity of my crime hits and I break down into tears of self-hate and lamentation. I even contemplate flagellation Illuminati-style.

    Oh or trying to zen away my craving for things like fudgey mud cake brownies swirled with nutella or peanut butter and pancake stacks laden with chocolate chips and maple syrup and he suggests going to our local Pancake Parlour for a triple stack (I tend to hear triple by-pass). RAWR.

    But on a serious note if its really getting to you, its time for a talk. If not, maybe just go along with the ride and text her a picture of food in the 60s and 70s. That's bound to make you drop 3kg almost instantaneously.

    swedishbirdsnest.jpg

    Your husband sounds like a funny guy, but id feel really bad if I were him and you cried. What is flagellation illimunati style?

    Haha the last part was a bit of a joke - remember the Da Vinci Code where the crazy hooded monk used this whip to punish himself? :smiley: I don't do that of course...that would probably be a 'straight to the psyc ward' card. :smile:

    Yes he is a funny guy but sometimes he can be quite insensitive and oblivious to the feelings of those around him.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    I'm sorry but I couldn't really tell if you were being tongue-in-cheek lol.

    I had a similar issue with my hubby flying things like oreos, twix and cookies around making aeroplane sounds and its hard to not open your mouth to take a bite when he makes it so irresistible and irresistibly adorable. Then the gravity of my crime hits and I break down into tears of self-hate and lamentation. I even contemplate flagellation Illuminati-style.

    Oh or trying to zen away my craving for things like fudgey mud cake brownies swirled with nutella or peanut butter and pancake stacks laden with chocolate chips and maple syrup and he suggests going to our local Pancake Parlour for a triple stack (I tend to hear triple by-pass). RAWR.

    But on a serious note if its really getting to you, its time for a talk. If not, maybe just go along with the ride and text her a picture of food in the 60s and 70s. That's bound to make you drop 3kg almost instantaneously.

    swedishbirdsnest.jpg

    Your husband sounds like a funny guy, but id feel really bad if I were him and you cried. What is flagellation illimunati style?

    Haha the last part was a bit of a joke - remember the Da Vinci Code where the crazy hooded monk used this whip to punish himself? :smiley: I don't do that of course...that would probably be a 'straight to the psyc ward' card. :smile:

    Yes he is a funny guy but sometimes he can be quite insensitive and oblivious to the feelings of those around him.

    Men are never insensitive to their spouses, simply begin each serious conversation with..."I want to have sex...blah blah blah." You will have his complete attention. If not then he can turn his man card in with me. We will put.up a Conan poster written underneath: "Crush those Oreos, see them eaten before you, and hear the lamentation of your butt and thighs!" All while listening to Beastie Boys parodies. Ahhh..good times good times.
  • faithyang
    faithyang Posts: 297 Member
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    I'm sorry but I couldn't really tell if you were being tongue-in-cheek lol.

    I had a similar issue with my hubby flying things like oreos, twix and cookies around making aeroplane sounds and its hard to not open your mouth to take a bite when he makes it so irresistible and irresistibly adorable. Then the gravity of my crime hits and I break down into tears of self-hate and lamentation. I even contemplate flagellation Illuminati-style.

    Oh or trying to zen away my craving for things like fudgey mud cake brownies swirled with nutella or peanut butter and pancake stacks laden with chocolate chips and maple syrup and he suggests going to our local Pancake Parlour for a triple stack (I tend to hear triple by-pass). RAWR.

    But on a serious note if its really getting to you, its time for a talk. If not, maybe just go along with the ride and text her a picture of food in the 60s and 70s. That's bound to make you drop 3kg almost instantaneously.

    swedishbirdsnest.jpg

    Your husband sounds like a funny guy, but id feel really bad if I were him and you cried. What is flagellation illimunati style?

    Haha the last part was a bit of a joke - remember the Da Vinci Code where the crazy hooded monk used this whip to punish himself? :smiley: I don't do that of course...that would probably be a 'straight to the psyc ward' card. :smile:

    Yes he is a funny guy but sometimes he can be quite insensitive and oblivious to the feelings of those around him.

    Men are never insensitive to their spouses, simply begin each serious conversation with..."I want to have sex...blah blah blah." You will have his complete attention. If not then he can turn his man card in with me. We will put.up a Conan poster written underneath: "Crush those Oreos, see them eaten before you, and hear the lamentation of your butt and thighs!" All while listening to Beastie Boys parodies. Ahhh..good times good times.

    LOL good idea, that's a great way to get his attention. :smiley:

    Maybe intersperse each few words with SEX.

    "Honey, I want to have sex....and you know the food thing sometimes really bother me when SEX you disregard my efforts to try to lose weight SEX. Ultimately I want to look sexy for you and for me and SEX also be healthy at the same time SEX."
  • madddawg11
    madddawg11 Posts: 6 Member
    LMAO!! I feel you rmitchell, my wife be like, let's go to Olive Garden and I'm like nah............... well okay. After I log everything in I'm like..........
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  • faithyang
    faithyang Posts: 297 Member
    madddawg11 wrote: »
    LMAO!! I feel you rmitchell, my wife be like, let's go to Olive Garden and I'm like nah............... well okay. After I log everything in I'm like..........
    k5h5qpcmpfdn.png

    +1.

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  • theportkey
    theportkey Posts: 52 Member
    My husband has always looked at my dinner plate... At a time of watching my weight... And says 'thats not very substantial'. And when I come home and HE has cooked the dinner I see massive portions and don't want to hurt his feelings by saying that it's too much mash potato or too many sausages.
    I've been doing so well the last 6 weeks by sticking to a great routine of (OMG) exercise and logging my diary every day. 16Lb lost and hubby noticing the change.
    I came home the other day and yes... Dinner was sausage and mash.
    2 sausages, cabbage, carrots, broccoli.... And wait for it... A rounded spoonful of onion mash !! All calorie measured and weighed. He looked so chuffed and all I could do was stare at his beautifully gigantic sized portion of mash and wished it was on my plate lol
  • shennin001
    shennin001 Posts: 113 Member
    Lol! Today was my first day of MFP and my husband bought me a whopper value meal from Burger king
  • irishdancer214
    irishdancer214 Posts: 108 Member
    I am guilty of making tons of baked goods knowing that my boyfriend will singlehandedly finish them off. There's some kind of satisfaction for a woman knowing your man is well fed :)

    This is so true...my boyfriend eats maybe twice a day though, so for him, the extra calories aren't a big deal. I do my best to make him healthy stuff too though!
  • JudithNYC
    JudithNYC Posts: 80 Member
    Am I the only one who finds it wrong for a spouse or friend to be texting cheesecake photos to someone who is trying to lose weight? Guess so.

    At my last job I made the mistake of saying I was trying to lose weight. Next day a co-workdr brought me a gift: a dessert cookbook! WHY? It's not like I starve myself or need to lose a few pounds for vanity. (Not that there is anything wrong wih a little vanity.) I just don't understand people.

    This time around the only people who know that I am trying again are my two sons and my sister. People that I couldcsmack over the head if they tried something like that. Just kidding.

    And before anyone starts talking about willpower, don't waste your time. I am at a place where I can say no thanks or go over that day's calorie limit without any guilt at all. One slice of cheesecake did not make me 100 pounds over my ideal weight and for sure it is not going to derail my weight loss efforts.

    My "problem" is that I just don't understand this kind of behavior.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    I'm sorry but I couldn't really tell if you were being tongue-in-cheek lol.

    I had a similar issue with my hubby flying things like oreos, twix and cookies around making aeroplane sounds and its hard to not open your mouth to take a bite when he makes it so irresistible and irresistibly adorable. Then the gravity of my crime hits and I break down into tears of self-hate and lamentation. I even contemplate flagellation Illuminati-style.

    Oh or trying to zen away my craving for things like fudgey mud cake brownies swirled with nutella or peanut butter and pancake stacks laden with chocolate chips and maple syrup and he suggests going to our local Pancake Parlour for a triple stack (I tend to hear triple by-pass). RAWR.

    But on a serious note if its really getting to you, its time for a talk. If not, maybe just go along with the ride and text her a picture of food in the 60s and 70s. That's bound to make you drop 3kg almost instantaneously.

    swedishbirdsnest.jpg

    Your husband sounds like a funny guy, but id feel really bad if I were him and you cried. What is flagellation illimunati style?

    Haha the last part was a bit of a joke - remember the Da Vinci Code where the crazy hooded monk used this whip to punish himself? :smiley: I don't do that of course...that would probably be a 'straight to the psyc ward' card. :smile:

    Yes he is a funny guy but sometimes he can be quite insensitive and oblivious to the feelings of those around him.

    Men are never insensitive to their spouses, simply begin each serious conversation with..."I want to have sex...blah blah blah." You will have his complete attention. If not then he can turn his man card in with me. We will put.up a Conan poster written underneath: "Crush those Oreos, see them eaten before you, and hear the lamentation of your butt and thighs!" All while listening to Beastie Boys parodies. Ahhh..good times good times.

    LOL good idea, that's a great way to get his attention. :smiley:

    Maybe intersperse each few words with SEX.

    "Honey, I want to have sex....and you know the food thing sometimes really bother me when SEX you disregard my efforts to try to lose weight SEX. Ultimately I want to look sexy for you and for me and SEX also be healthy at the same time SEX."

    This is beautiful. A woman finally understands!! Never before in the history of mankind has communication between the sexes taken such leaps and bounds, im actually crying now...so beautiful.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    shennin001 wrote: »
    Lol! Today was my first day of MFP and my husband bought me a whopper value meal from Burger king

    Its fine! I still believe in you. Did you eat it all? You'll be fine, just make sure you also start your first day with a 5 mile run :)
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    madddawg11 wrote: »
    LMAO!! I feel you rmitchell, my wife be like, let's go to Olive Garden and I'm like nah............... well okay. After I log everything in I'm like..........
    k5h5qpcmpfdn.png

    Yeah I hate it when I eat something now and I think it might.be ok and its high calories. I actually get mad now. Teeny tiny container of sweet walnuts at which wich yesterday was 200 cals...so not worth it.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    JudithNYC wrote: »
    Am I the only one who finds it wrong for a spouse or friend to be texting cheesecake photos to someone who is trying to lose weight? Guess so.

    At my last job I made the mistake of saying I was trying to lose weight. Next day a co-workdr brought me a gift: a dessert cookbook! WHY? It's not like I starve myself or need to lose a few pounds for vanity. (Not that there is anything wrong wih a little vanity.) I just don't understand people.

    This time around the only people who know that I am trying again are my two sons and my sister. People that I couldcsmack over the head if they tried something like that. Just kidding.

    And before anyone starts talking about willpower, don't waste your time. I am at a place where I can say no thanks or go over that day's calorie limit without any guilt at all. One slice of cheesecake did not make me 100 pounds over my ideal weight and for sure it is not going to derail my weight loss efforts.

    My "problem" is that I just don't understand this kind of behavior.

    A dessert book..thats hilarious. If it was a low calorie dessert book then that would have been sweet. I dont mind going slightly over calories occasionally, say 1x a month maybe but im going to try to stay in bounds. 4 weeks this Monday in the zone!! I smell ribs in the crock pot for the 4th...I will not give in I will not give in.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    faithyang wrote: »
    My wife baked brownies last night. I ate 1/2 of one. I told her she was not supportive of my diet. I even used a little whiny girl voice "you don't understand, I have my mother's thighs! It's so hard." She only laughed..haha but seriously she just texted me a picture of a cheese cake in the oven...

    I'm sorry but I couldn't really tell if you were being tongue-in-cheek lol.

    I had a similar issue with my hubby flying things like oreos, twix and cookies around making aeroplane sounds and its hard to not open your mouth to take a bite when he makes it so irresistible and irresistibly adorable. Then the gravity of my crime hits and I break down into tears of self-hate and lamentation. I even contemplate flagellation Illuminati-style.

    Oh or trying to zen away my craving for things like fudgey mud cake brownies swirled with nutella or peanut butter and pancake stacks laden with chocolate chips and maple syrup and he suggests going to our local Pancake Parlour for a triple stack (I tend to hear triple by-pass). RAWR.

    But on a serious note if its really getting to you, its time for a talk. If not, maybe just go along with the ride and text her a picture of food in the 60s and 70s. That's bound to make you drop 3kg almost instantaneously.

    swedishbirdsnest.jpg

    Your husband sounds like a funny guy, but id feel really bad if I were him and you cried. What is flagellation illimunati style?

    Haha the last part was a bit of a joke - remember the Da Vinci Code where the crazy hooded monk used this whip to punish himself? :smiley: I don't do that of course...that would probably be a 'straight to the psyc ward' card. :smile:

    Yes he is a funny guy but sometimes he can be quite insensitive and oblivious to the feelings of those around him.

    Men are never insensitive to their spouses, simply begin each serious conversation with..."I want to have sex...blah blah blah." You will have his complete attention. If not then he can turn his man card in with me. We will put.up a Conan poster written underneath: "Crush those Oreos, see them eaten before you, and hear the lamentation of your butt and thighs!" All while listening to Beastie Boys parodies. Ahhh..good times good times.

    LOL good idea, that's a great way to get his attention. :smiley:

    Maybe intersperse each few words with SEX.

    "Honey, I want to have sex....and you know the food thing sometimes really bother me when SEX you disregard my efforts to try to lose weight SEX. Ultimately I want to look sexy for you and for me and SEX also be healthy at the same time SEX."

    This would put an end the increasing divorce rate.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.

    So you want to derail your own thread. What does exercise have to do with sabotaging a diet. While you might feel you have something to prove. I don't know to who.

    Are you just upset that I am right? True hurts sometimes right. I wish someone didn't sugarcoat for me because I would of already been at my goal years ago.

  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    If you really feel she is trying to keep you from reaching your goals then I would have a serious talk with her. No jokes. That is damaging and disrespectful behavior. It sounds like you and your wife joke and tease though so she likely isn't trying to do anything terrible and would probably stop if you very seriously told her to stop.
    Show her your goals. Let her know that she doesn't have to change everything just because you are trying to lose weight and get in shape.

    Regardless, you can choose to fit some of the dessert in your goal and eat it or tell her no thanks it doesn't fit your goal and don't eat it at all. You could discuss having desert only once a week or some lower calorie desert options that you plan on in advance so you know they fit your goal without requiring an extra 5 mile run.
    If your spouse pushes you to eat over your goal then push her to join you in that extra exercise.
    I look at recipes and food pictures all the time. I am immune to cheesecake pictures. Maybe send back a text with an even better looking dessert picture.

  • husseycd
    husseycd Posts: 814 Member
    Except for a brief year in my early 20s when I quit working at a horse ranch but didn't realize I couldn't eat the same and gained 30lbs, I've never been overweight. I do have a weakness for sweets though, and one way I've maintained a healthy weight for pretty much my entire life is to not keep sweets in the house. So, I'm always a little surprised by the "have more willpower, you lazy bum!" comments. Oh, if we only lived in such a perfect world of perfect willpower.

    My husband has a similar reaction to whiskey that I have to brownies. Now, I can eat a small brownie no problem--as long as there isn't a pan of them sitting on the counter. I might not finish the pan, but I'm definitely going to go over my daily brownie allotment. Sure I could do that every once in a while, but every day? I'd never be able to maintain this level of leanness if there were brownies tempting me all the time.

    The hubby can have a drink or two no problem, but if he has just a few more, he's likely to finish the bottle of whiskey. So what do we do? Lock up the liquor. He prefers it that way and quite honestly, I'd prefer it if he locked up his sweet snacks. My willpower only goes so far. But can you imagine if this forum conversation was reversed? A spouse sending pictures of cocktails or overflowing pint glasses to the person struggling with drinking too much? Sure, a person has to learn how to be around temptation, but your spouse should respect your wishes/desires enough to not dangle that temptation in front of your nose.

    Shockingly, I have less issues with the donuts and such sitting around the office. It must be the atmosphere.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.

    So you want to derail your own thread. What does exercise have to do with sabotaging a diet. While you might feel you have something to prove. I don't know to who.

    Are you just upset that I am right? True hurts sometimes right. I wish someone didn't sugarcoat for me because I would of already been at my goal years ago.

    Nice deflect bra. We can post it in the fitness forum :)
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    If you really feel she is trying to keep you from reaching your goals then I would have a serious talk with her. No jokes. That is damaging and disrespectful behavior. It sounds like you and your wife joke and tease though so she likely isn't trying to do anything terrible and would probably stop if you very seriously told her to stop.
    Show her your goals. Let her know that she doesn't have to change everything just because you are trying to lose weight and get in shape.

    Regardless, you can choose to fit some of the dessert in your goal and eat it or tell her no thanks it doesn't fit your goal and don't eat it at all. You could discuss having desert only once a week or some lower calorie desert options that you plan on in advance so you know they fit your goal without requiring an extra 5 mile run.
    If your spouse pushes you to eat over your goal then push her to join you in that extra exercise.
    I look at recipes and food pictures all the time. I am immune to cheesecake pictures. Maybe send back a text with an even better looking dessert picture.

    Immune to cheesecake! I want your super powers.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.

    So you want to derail your own thread. What does exercise have to do with sabotaging a diet. While you might feel you have something to prove. I don't know to who.

    Are you just upset that I am right? True hurts sometimes right. I wish someone didn't sugarcoat for me because I would of already been at my goal years ago.

    Nice deflect bra. We can post it in the fitness forum :)

    How about posting your stats on a thread that already going called 1000 pound club.

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1437982/1000-pound-club#latest
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    husseycd wrote: »
    Except for a brief year in my early 20s when I quit working at a horse ranch but didn't realize I couldn't eat the same and gained 30lbs, I've never been overweight. I do have a weakness for sweets though, and one way I've maintained a healthy weight for pretty much my entire life is to not keep sweets in the house. So, I'm always a little surprised by the "have more willpower, you lazy bum!" comments. Oh, if we only lived in such a perfect world of perfect willpower.

    My husband has a similar reaction to whiskey that I have to brownies. Now, I can eat a small brownie no problem--as long as there isn't a pan of them sitting on the counter. I might not finish the pan, but I'm definitely going to go over my daily brownie allotment. Sure I could do that every once in a while, but every day? I'd never be able to maintain this level of leanness if there were brownies tempting me all the time.

    The hubby can have a drink or two no problem, but if he has just a few more, he's likely to finish the bottle of whiskey. So what do we do? Lock up the liquor. He prefers it that way and quite honestly, I'd prefer it if he locked up his sweet snacks. My willpower only goes so far. But can you imagine if this forum conversation was reversed? A spouse sending pictures of cocktails or overflowing pint glasses to the person struggling with drinking too much? Sure, a person has to learn how to be around temptation, but your spouse should respect your wishes/desires enough to not dangle that temptation in front of your nose.

    Shockingly, I have less issues with the donuts and such sitting around the office. It must be the atmosphere.

    Yeah pictures sent to someone with a drinking problem would be bad! I never thought of it like that. I agree with you about in office stuff. Maybe the work deflects it.
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.

    So you want to derail your own thread. What does exercise have to do with sabotaging a diet. While you might feel you have something to prove. I don't know to who.

    Are you just upset that I am right? True hurts sometimes right. I wish someone didn't sugarcoat for me because I would of already been at my goal years ago.

    Nice deflect bra. We can post it in the fitness forum :)

    How about posting your stats on a thread that already going called 1000 pound club.

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1437982/1000-pound-club#latest

    Now THAT was an interesting post. Thanks!
  • rmitchell239
    rmitchell239 Posts: 125 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
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    Oh look another blame someone else thread instead of blaming myself for my lack of self control.

    Yo dude you are rude. What is your deadlift weight? Mine is 410 lbs at 205, not awesome but decent. Just curious if you can double your weight in deadlift. Before you ask yes deadlift is THE exercise to gauge overall strength due to working so many muscle groups...not that I like it all that much. Don't post bench score because you probably bench every other day doing 5x5 with 5 min rest in between while you try to talk to as many ladies as you can not taking the hint that theybare ignoring you. If you want we can post it on you tube, im not scared. Hey! This would be fun, lets post a fitness off (instead of a dance off) posting videos of ever increasingly difficult workouts and have the MFP community judge us. Last workout: Murph, 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 body weight squats, 1 mile run. We can even have a bench day.

    So you want to derail your own thread. What does exercise have to do with sabotaging a diet. While you might feel you have something to prove. I don't know to who.

    Are you just upset that I am right? True hurts sometimes right. I wish someone didn't sugarcoat for me because I would of already been at my goal years ago.

    Nice deflect bra. We can post it in the fitness forum :)

    How about posting your stats on a thread that already going called 1000 pound club.

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1437982/1000-pound-club#latest

    I still think your first post was rude but I apologize for my snippy remarks. I see your post on squat photos and see you going really low and even read about you doing pause squats! Nice!! Anyone that goes in and does squats like that is great by me. You have some good flexibility there. I did paise squats at the gym before and people look.at you like you are crazy.
  • LeslieB042812
    LeslieB042812 Posts: 1,799 Member
    Ugh, my husband does this sort of thing.....What's worse, he'll even refuse to eat unless I do too (and the same thing in the same amount). I've tried explaining that a 6' man cannot eat the same as a 5'2" woman (or vice versa), but he refuses to listen. He also moans when he catches me weighing and logging my foods (I have to sneak around). I think he does it because he likes sharing food as much as eating it and also he doesn't want me to lose weight (he's just like your wife--likes me fatter, but losing the boobs is his fear! lol). It's really frustrating, though. I totally feel your pain.

    I don't really have a solution (and talking about it really hasn't helped), just that some days I do better than others. And, if I know he's wanting to eat out or cook me something, I plan ahead by minimally eating the rest of the day (like a packet of tuna and some lettuce for lunch). That helps me fit in the "shares". I also try to take over the cooking and dishing of food so that I can sneak in weighing everything and sneak him larger (size appropriate) portions by piling them differently. I get called "controlling" but it's worth it! lol

    Sooo...your husband is refusing to eat anything but what you eat in order to attempt to control what/how much you eat...but YOU are controlling?

    Hahaha very good point! I think I'll have to take a screen shot of this comment and send it to him. We have an ongoing debate over who is the most controlling out of the two of us.....this outside opinion might be just the edge I need! Thanks, Jennifer. :wink:
  • adriaticsea
    adriaticsea Posts: 20 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
  • DuckReconMajor
    DuckReconMajor Posts: 434 Member
    My fiance just bought a bunch of klondike bars and hot dogs. Fitness gods be w me.
    Sabotage his sabotage and make castles and little turtles out of them. Use glue and other inedibles to hold them together.
  • allaboutthefood
    allaboutthefood Posts: 781 Member
    I am a baker and both hubs and I are losing weight. If and when I bake for the kids, I have an easier time staying away from the treats than he does, he says the same things to me, but I say hey they are for the kids just don't eat them. Does he listen no!!