Can men and women be "just friends"?
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I have many guy friends... every now and again one will try to muddy the waters, but I am pretty set in my ways, and try to put them in their place if that happens.
In all honesty, I have found men are less complicated then women0 -
My experience no. It has always been one person liking the other usually the guy, it sucks cause I have lost Great friends because of it. Now I am married I have the male best friend I've always wanted. and more0
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I love my guy friends. I couldn't imagine not having guys as friends. :-)0
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Yes. But you can't apply this kind of blanket logic to everyone's situation. If your SO is the jealous/insecure type, you kinda have to weigh your options.0
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2 out of 4 of my best friends in life were of the opposite gender. In fact I am more comfortable being friends with people of the opposite gender. My current best friend is also female.
I think you have to have such a mutual unsaid understanding where both people realize what the boundaries of the relationship are. and I also agree with whoever said: "Often when deep feelings become involved the relationship changes..."
(yes I've had 4 "best friends" during different life phases- so sue me)0 -
yes of course! my best friend is a man, and weve been friends for 5 years0
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I have never been friends with a guy that didnt want to have sex with me. If I was interested then he would become a friend I had sex with, if I wasnt then he was just a friend...0
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I'm not allowed to be friends with anyone that's more attractive than my wife. She insists that all my lady friends be ugly or overweight. That makes life easy for me I guess.
Awesome0 -
One of my best friends is a man, we have been friends for 10 years now and we have never been romantically involved or ever wished to be. He has a girlfriend and im single so there's definitely no hidden attraction on his part and none whatsoever on mine. Its definitely possible for men and women to be just friends.0
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Here is where I get confused. I've heard many women say that they want their man to be their best friend. So for those ladies out there who have a male best friend that they're physically attracted to, why the heck aren't you jumping his bones?0
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Of course.
I don't even understand why people ask this question so much.
I mean, even if you find your friend attractive that doesn't mean anything. If you found them boring, ugly and mean they wouldn't be your friend. Of course you pick people you like. As long as you don't act on it. Stuff in your head doesn't count, otherwise we'd all be in big trouble!!0 -
No.
In my teens and twenties I would have said yes. I had loads of guy friends in my teens, twenties and early thirties. More male friends than female.
Then from my mid-twenties a pattern emerged. With all my guy friends. Ranged from the declaration of undying love to the drunken pass. People who had been friends from 3 or 4 months to over a decade, but one by one it all cropped up. One guy friend even said to me he couldn't be friends with a girl he wasn't at least a little bit attracted to,
So now that I'm married I tend not to have guy friends.
And the guy I married didn't try to be friends with me first. We both went to a business thing, he came over, he sat next to me, he gave me his card, we emailed a bit, he asked me to lunch on a business pretext, then at the end of that he asked me out. From meeting to date it took a few weeks. I don;t really trust the whole "be friends first" thing. If you like someone a lot, ask them out.0 -
Definitely. But I do think it's more of a class / maturity issue than a genetic one. In my naive growing-up years, I've been burned before by guys with alterior motives who turned out to have more respect for their man parts than for me. Classy people who respect the other person can develop a great friendship & keep their thoughts intact. Were the option to arise to date the other person, they may consider moving the friendship to another level, or not, for whatever reasons. It would be hard not to be attracted to your best friend, imho, but with class & respect for the friendship, you can keep those hormones in check. When things get truly intimate, I think we're prone to get intimate at other levels... again, unless we keep our boundaries & have a leash on our thoughts.
.....I'm not too much one to talk tho, as I did end up marrying my best friend after we knew each other 5yrs, but we kept safe distances until we eventually realized we couldn't get enough of each other & trying to date other people kept turning out to be just silly for both of us all along.0 -
Sure. I have quite a few guy friends and my husband has a few women friends. Neither of us have any intimate feelings about our opposite sex friends. I think it can be more challenging...but yes, men/women can be JUST friends!!0
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Absolutely.0
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Sure! I get along better with men than I ever did with women. Men are very cut and dry, no guessing which I really like.
Women are too insecure for the most part. I do have two women that are my besties, but men, they are awesome.
I agree women have drama and nonsense all the time and talk about you behind your back and on and on, as long as the guy isn't attracted to you then you can be friends, if he is attracted to you its prob not going to go well if the feeling is not mutual.0 -
OF COURSE men and women can be "just friends". I have male friends whom I love and care about, and I feel the same about their wives. I enjoy interacting with and talking to my male friends. There is no sexual attraction whatever either way, we just like each others' company. I've NEVER understood the idea that every man looks at every woman through a lens of "would bang"...how stupid. I've never seen that in real life.0
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I have really close guy friends.....that I am not sexually attracted to whatsoever. So thats how that works. haha.0
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Yes...
I have guys that are friends...honestly chemistry and all that doesn't get in the way if you know from the get-go that you're just friends.
Plus I already have someone in my life I'm crazy about.
I think it's more dicey when the two people are single...but again, if you don't have in your mind that you're hoping for it to turn into something more, you can definitely be friends with the opposite sex.0 -
I'd like to say yes but I think it really just depends on the people.0
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