Adding MFP Friends as a married guy

mjtranter65

So....here is the issue:
I have an imbalance of female MFP friends to male. My wife (who is not part of MFP) thinks its a bit weird (me too, I guess). The reason I have not requested male MFP friends is because it seems weird to ask because, well, just because. There are some guys that have really similar self improvement and similar goals, but I suppose the issue is that requesting is weird. That said, if your a dude and are serious about getting (and staying) fit, please add me.

Thanks....i hope.

Christine_72

I'm the opposite. I think it's a tad odd that a married man has lots of female friends on here...

I've got a couple guy friends, but the rest are female. I rarely accept requests from men anymore, unless I know them well from the forum. I do it out of respect for my husband. He'd understandably have a fit if he looked at my friends list, and it was full of guys.

kyrannosaurus

What's weird about that? Your wife needs to worry less. Plenty of men have lots of female friends (online and in real life). It doesn't mean anything at all!

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FatFreeFrolicking

kyrannosaurus wrote: »

What's weird about that? Your wife needs to worry less. Plenty of men have lots of female friends (online and in real life). It doesn't mean anything at all!

You must be unaware of what goes on here at MFP…

85Cardinals

haha, she's onto you. The jig is up.

nora_gettingfitnow

MFP is exactly about that "MY FITNESS PAL" its not a dating site!!!

Ratio of female pals to male pals shouldnt be an issue. The site is about getting fit and having Pals to support and motivate you along the way with like minded views as you.

If you want to add male friends add them, its no different than male adding female etc...

In saying that, Good luck with your fitness and hope you acheive your goals

Cahgetsfit

christinev297 wrote: »

I'm the opposite. I think it's a tad odd that a married man has lots of female friends on here...

I've got a couple guy friends, but the rest are female. I rarely accept requests from men anymore, unless I know them well from the forum. I do it out of respect for my husband. He'd understandably have a fit if he looked at my friends list, and it was full of guys.

yep. I only have a couple of guy friends too and I only add them if either they are friends of friends or if I look at their profile and see a balance of guy/girl friends.

Quite often you look at a profile and it's some bloke with only young girls as friends.

I reject those. And the ones who request friendship with random messages of the "you are hot" types...

Not here for dating, here for losing weight!!

Maybe you can request more male friends depending on what you like - like hobbies/workouts - a new thread for "guys with similar goals" or whatever.

CariJean64

I'm married, and have both male and female friends here, but mostly female. If you're looking for friends with similar goals, bite the bullet and request friendships with them. The worst they can do is refuse, and you'll probably end up with several supportive male friends here.

FatFreeFrolicking

OP: This sounds like a personal problem. You have male friends in real life, I'm assuming. Assuming you have Facebook or other social media, surely you've requested males there before. So why is it weird to send a male a friend request on MFP? This is a fitness website; if you request a male, they aren't going to think you're hitting on them. Trust me. However, I can't say the same for some of the women here. If you stick around long enough, you'll understand what I mean.

FitOldMomma

Lol, I never stopped to think about how it would/could be different for men here on MFP. But I see your point...I can't imagine my husband ever friend requesting a total stranger.

yellowantphil

camilacreme wrote: »

yep. I only have a couple of guy friends too and I only add them if either they are friends of friends or if I look at their profile and see a balance of guy/girl friends.

Quite often you look at a profile and it's some bloke with only young girls as friends.

I reject those. And the ones who request friendship with random messages of the "you are hot" types...

Not here for dating, here for losing weight!!

Well that’s the thing: I somehow ended up with 11 women and one guy on my friends list. I’m not here for dating either... that’s just how it worked out. So now I feel like I need more guys on my friends list, just so the list doesn’t look weird.

Alluminati

I think it's weird that your wife is all up in your MFP profile even though she's not on MFP. I also find it odd that you find it weird to request male friendships. I find it wierd that there is some ratio of male to female friends that's desired, because if there isn't a balance, somehow a married person is.....doing something wrong? Frankly, these types of posts are just weird in general.

47Jacqueline

I think it's odd that you can't ask a guy to be your friend yourself, but you want them ask you. I would address some latent gender issues, but I'm sure someone would bash me for it.

Christine_72

Also if you send out a friend request to men, make sure and add a message.

I've had requests from guys, and when I checked out their friends list and it's full of young girls and women, they get an instant decline!

Liftng4Lis

On so many levels.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

So what you are saying is, you FR women because you find them totally hot. BUT don't want to add guys in the event anyone thinks you've added them because you think they are bone-worthy.

Right.

This is truly special, OP.

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4theking

I am a bit weird but I would love to be your friend!

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nora_gettingfitnow

KisforKrista wrote: »

This may not be a dating site, but it sure doesn't stop some people from using it as such.

You'll always get the ones that can't take it seriously, the downside is there is generally always someone that will respond to their nonsense so it continues but they are easily deleted

randomtai

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6502programmer

FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »

You must be unaware of what goes on here at MFP…

So what DOES go on around here?

Lounmoun

Most of my friend list were people who sent me requests. Most of those people identify as female. It doesn't really matter for my friend list what gender as long as their goal is weight loss and fitness and they aren't making inappropriate remarks to me.
I feel more weird about befriending a female in their early 20's than a male my age.

If you look in the introduction or getting started forum you might see some guys who want friends. Post to their thread and tell them they can add you- or start a thread looking for people with similar stats and goals.

Alluminati

UltimateRBF wrote: »

Here OP you want this section of the forums
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/categories/chit-chat-fun-and-games
*shudder, sanitizes hands*

Lmfao

Christine_72

UltimateRBF wrote: »

Here OP you want this section of the forums
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/categories/chit-chat-fun-and-games
*shudder, sanitizes hands*

oh no you didn't!

You just contaminated this thread :laugh:

yellowantphil

Lounmoun wrote: »

Most of my friend list were people who sent me requests. Most of those people identify as female.

I don’t have many friends on here, but the majority of people who have sent me requests are women. Maybe more than half of the active people on here are female? Maybe women are more likely to send requests? Or maybe it’s a coincidence. I don’t know.

Deadpool9

I don't think it's weird. I simply have more female friends that care about their diet and health than male friends.

I am a guy and am into bodybuilding and weight lifting, so I will add you.

PixelPuff

Welllll, I get more random add requests from girls than guys, and I never ask for them... Maybe the girls are just more willing to send random adds? Habits from FB for people may just come over here.

I accept no randoms. Maybe you should adopt that policy?