Adding MFP Friends as a married guy
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What about a gay dude? Should all his MFP friends be female?TheOwlhouseDesigns wrote: »so if i understand it right...
As a married man it is weird to ask a man to friend him...but woman is oke?
What about a married woman asking woman to friend them??? weird too?
Kinda a tough one lol
And I guess anyone who's bi shouldn't have any online friends. That must suck.
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Y'all are really piling on pollypocket here. After about 40 posts slamming her, I think she's got the idea.0
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85Cardinals wrote: »Y'all are really piling on pollypocket here. After about 40 posts slamming her, I think she's got the idea.
It's a forum. Sometimes people don't read the replies before they post. Didn't see one where she asked for a white knight either.0 -
lol, don't let my chivalry stop you now! Go ahead and weigh in, bbq.0
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pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
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85Cardinals wrote: »Y'all are really piling on pollypocket here. After about 40 posts slamming her, I think she's got the idea.
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Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.0 -
booksandchocolate12 wrote: »My husband has no idea who I am "online friends" with. And I have no idea who his online friends are. And we're both OK with that. We've been married 24 years. We don't need to be up each other's *kitten* 24/7.
Exact same here. DH isn't on MFP and I'm not on the sites/forums he's interested in. We do have lives outside of being married. I have women and men friends on here, most if not all the men are married.0 -
itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."0 -
I've always viewed MFP as my opportunity to talk about fitness and diet as much as I want with like-minded people. I never really thought about it from a male/female perspective as I don't have extremely personal conversations with my MFP friends.
Are all the girls young, half-naked and "flirting" with you or something? If your intentions were innocent and you keep it relevant to MFP- I just don't see the big deal here.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."
I will have all the fried chicken and ranch dressing, he can have all the lettuce and egg whites.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."
lol. That is sick.0 -
I've always viewed MFP as my opportunity to talk about fitness and diet as much as I want with like-minded people. I never really thought about it from a male/female perspective as I don't have extremely personal conversations with my MFP friends.
Are all the girls young, half-naked and "flirting" with you or something? If your intentions were innocent and you keep it relevant to MFP- I just don't see the big deal here.
I don't see why "being young" is a requisite for being "half-naked and "flirting" with you or something?"
but the rest is true.
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Alatariel75 wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."
That would put a whole new spin on the "My SO is sabotaging me" threads. :laugh:0 -
I just sent you a friend request, but that doesn't mean I want to take long showers till the wee hours of the morning with ya...
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itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."
I will have all the fried chicken and ranch dressing, he can have all the lettuce and egg whites.
The fried chicken is mine.
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barbecuesauce wrote: »85Cardinals wrote: »Y'all are really piling on pollypocket here. After about 40 posts slamming her, I think she's got the idea.
It's a forum. Sometimes people don't read the replies before they post. Didn't see one where she asked for a white knight either.
Lol. I know most people don't approach life or relationships like I do.
But since I'm in a very small minority with regard to interacting with people as a married woman, it would maybe give the OP some perspective on how reasonable his wife is.
And nothing I my original post is exaggerated.0 -
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mjtranter65 wrote: »So....here is the issue:
I have an imbalance of female MFP friends to male. My wife (who is not part of MFP) thinks its a bit weird (me too, I guess). The reason I have not requested male MFP friends is because it seems weird to ask because, well, just because. There are some guys that have really similar self improvement and similar goals, but I suppose the issue is that requesting is weird. That said, if your a dude and are serious about getting (and staying) fit, please add me.
Thanks....i hope.
So... should I have skipped including the d!ck pics when I sent you a friend request?
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Mr_Bad_Example wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »pollypocket1021 wrote: »I may be alone in this sentiment, but I think it's fair for your wife not to be happy about your female friends and for her to be snoping your account. My husband and I have a joint Facebook account and would have a joint MFP too if it was physically possible.
I have exactly one friend on here who is male. I have a lot of respect for him and he doesn't come around the forums anymore. If not for that specific situation, it would be zero.
Same rules apply in real life. Unless I have to talk to men as a requirement for my job, I don't without my husband present.
If I was your wife, your MFP account would've been deleted long ago.
Bad_Example and I would love to have a joint account -- with a couples total of calories to draw from.
Baahaa can you imagine? "Sorry honey, I spent the last of the calories on a brownie. You can have a treat tomorrow. Right now, I need you to have this celery for dinner."
I will have all the fried chicken and ranch dressing, he can have all the lettuce and egg whites.
The fried chicken is mine.
You know what's mine?
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FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »kyrannosaurus wrote: »What's weird about that? Your wife needs to worry less. Plenty of men have lots of female friends (online and in real life). It doesn't mean anything at all!
You must be unaware of what goes on here at MFP…FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »OP: This sounds like a personal problem. You have male friends in real life, I'm assuming. Assuming you have Facebook or other social media, surely you've requested males there before. So why is it weird to send a male a friend request on MFP? This is a fitness website; if you request a male, they aren't going to think you're hitting on them. Trust me. However, I can't say the same for some of the women here. If you stick around long enough, you'll understand what I mean.
I take exception to your repeated inference that there is hanky-panky going on at MFP. I have both male and female friends here. I have never propositioned nor been propositioned here (in a year) so I can only assume you get back what you put out.
My friends on MFP (male and female) are supportive and respectful.
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Mr_Bad_Example wrote: »mjtranter65 wrote: »So....here is the issue:
I have an imbalance of female MFP friends to male. My wife (who is not part of MFP) thinks its a bit weird (me too, I guess). The reason I have not requested male MFP friends is because it seems weird to ask because, well, just because. There are some guys that have really similar self improvement and similar goals, but I suppose the issue is that requesting is weird. That said, if your a dude and are serious about getting (and staying) fit, please add me.
Thanks....i hope.
So... should I have skipped including the d!ck pics when I sent you a friend request?
Shhhhh.... somebody might think you're gay!
That's just the WORST.0 -
pollypocket1021 wrote: »barbecuesauce wrote: »85Cardinals wrote: »Y'all are really piling on pollypocket here. After about 40 posts slamming her, I think she's got the idea.
It's a forum. Sometimes people don't read the replies before they post. Didn't see one where she asked for a white knight either.
Lol. I know most people don't approach life or relationships like I do.
But since I'm in a very small minority with regard to interacting with people as a married woman, it would maybe give the OP some perspective on how reasonable his wife is.
And nothing I my original post is exaggerated.
You have respect for your relationship, and your husbands feelings. I totally get where you're coming from
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FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »kyrannosaurus wrote: »What's weird about that? Your wife needs to worry less. Plenty of men have lots of female friends (online and in real life). It doesn't mean anything at all!
You must be unaware of what goes on here at MFP…FatFreeFrolicking wrote: »OP: This sounds like a personal problem. You have male friends in real life, I'm assuming. Assuming you have Facebook or other social media, surely you've requested males there before. So why is it weird to send a male a friend request on MFP? This is a fitness website; if you request a male, they aren't going to think you're hitting on them. Trust me. However, I can't say the same for some of the women here. If you stick around long enough, you'll understand what I mean.
I take exception to your repeated inference that there is hanky-panky going on at MFP. I have both male and female friends here. I have never propositioned nor been propositioned here (in a year) so I can only assume you get back what you put out.
My friends on MFP (male and female) are supportive and respectful.
Just coz it doesn't happen to you, doesn't mean it doesn't happen! Just sayin' - If MFP was a hotel room, I wouldn't want to be turnin' on a black-light.0 -
Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »I've always viewed MFP as my opportunity to talk about fitness and diet as much as I want with like-minded people. I never really thought about it from a male/female perspective as I don't have extremely personal conversations with my MFP friends.
Are all the girls young, half-naked and "flirting" with you or something? If your intentions were innocent and you keep it relevant to MFP- I just don't see the big deal here.
I don't see why "being young" is a requisite for being "half-naked and "flirting" with you or something?"
but the rest is true.
I was thinking more of guys who creep on the young ones. Or some immodest ladies I can think of from my old Instagram. I should have said "young, half-naked OR flirting..." I do not think one implies the other-we are capable of ridiculousness at every age! No insult intended.
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itsfuntobenormal wrote: »Mr_Bad_Example wrote: »mjtranter65 wrote: »So....here is the issue:
I have an imbalance of female MFP friends to male. My wife (who is not part of MFP) thinks its a bit weird (me too, I guess). The reason I have not requested male MFP friends is because it seems weird to ask because, well, just because. There are some guys that have really similar self improvement and similar goals, but I suppose the issue is that requesting is weird. That said, if your a dude and are serious about getting (and staying) fit, please add me.
Thanks....i hope.
So... should I have skipped including the d!ck pics when I sent you a friend request?
Shhhhh.... somebody might think you're gay!
That's just the WORST.
I know - but it's okay because...
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Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »I've always viewed MFP as my opportunity to talk about fitness and diet as much as I want with like-minded people. I never really thought about it from a male/female perspective as I don't have extremely personal conversations with my MFP friends.
Are all the girls young, half-naked and "flirting" with you or something? If your intentions were innocent and you keep it relevant to MFP- I just don't see the big deal here.
I don't see why "being young" is a requisite for being "half-naked and "flirting" with you or something?"
but the rest is true.
I was thinking more of guys who creep on the young ones. Or some immodest ladies I can think of from my old Instagram. I should have said "young, half-naked OR flirting..." I do not think one implies the other-we are capable of ridiculousness at every age! No insult intended.
I've seen some young and not so young forum members, who's profile pics looks like they are auditioning for a strippers job :noway:
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mjtranter65 wrote: »Wow, I have never posted anything before, and the only hope was to collect MFP friends. The opinions range from toxic date site blah, blah to actual guys that know what I'm saying. To those, thanks. To the others, get back on the treadmill or whatever and relieve some of that pent up tension.
Thanks. I guess this attempt was in the least interesting, and somewhat successful.
What exactly ARE you saying? It's really not very clear.
I'm not understanding how gender or marital status are relevant to anything. If you find someone interesting and have things in common, add that person as a friend.
If you don't want to flirt--don't. I have several married male friends and it would never occur to me to do anything with them other than to discuss exercise and diet.
Why would requesting friendship from another man be creepy? Does your homophobia really run that deep?
Joint accounts are odd...I really don't understand married couples who can't maintain their own individual identities.0 -
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christinev297 wrote: »Cryptonomnomicon wrote: »I've always viewed MFP as my opportunity to talk about fitness and diet as much as I want with like-minded people. I never really thought about it from a male/female perspective as I don't have extremely personal conversations with my MFP friends.
Are all the girls young, half-naked and "flirting" with you or something? If your intentions were innocent and you keep it relevant to MFP- I just don't see the big deal here.
I don't see why "being young" is a requisite for being "half-naked and "flirting" with you or something?"
but the rest is true.
I was thinking more of guys who creep on the young ones. Or some immodest ladies I can think of from my old Instagram. I should have said "young, half-naked OR flirting..." I do not think one implies the other-we are capable of ridiculousness at every age! No insult intended.
I've seen some young and not so young forum members, who's profile pics looks like they are auditioning for a strippers job :noway:
Agreed. And I've had quite a few creepos as friends before I deleted them and got more picky about who's requests I accept. They're everywhere. Such is life0
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