Adding MFP Friends as a married guy

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  • Posts: 34,971 Member

    I've seen some young and not so young forum members, who's profile pics looks like they are auditioning for a strippers job :noway:

    Oh boy. I can see this is going to turn out well.

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    I'm both amazed and discouraged at the sheer amount of unmitigated insanity in the form of jealousy portrayed in this thread. Seriously, stop worrying about male or female and pick your friends/contacts based upon whether you find them interesting and/or think you might have something in common with him/her.

    And, to those that are so crazy as to think that being married means you should have 'joint' accounts on social media and/or any similar type sites: *Sigh*. This sentiment is what causes so many problems in our society. Humans weren't meant to live like that. Monogamy is already a stretch from our biological nature -- making it worse by taking away individuality is just going to cause significant problems for MOST people.

    As far as my own personal feeling, I tend to gravitate towards female and gay male friends both here and on most social media because I find them more interesting than straight men like me. Whether other men like me choose to admit it or not, I daresay that I'm not in the minority.
  • Posts: 3,082 Member

    You have respect for your relationship, and your husbands feelings. I totally get where you're coming from

    Sure respect, but is that enough?

    I'm not married etc so maybe I don't have the right idea.

    But what about trust? What about being 2 individuals that are married?

    Just seems odd and what polly has said so far, if it sounded one sided it would be setting off alarms with me of an abusive or controlling relationship, but it seems like it's from both people, and polly seems happy about it so who am I to judge.


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    Homophobia, relationships founded on distrust pretending to be "respect", agism, strippers, cries for women to be modest.

    Thanks for delivering, forums.
  • Posts: 9,003 Member
    Homophobia, relationships founded on distrust pretending to be "respect", agism, strippers, cries for women to be modest.

    Thanks for delivering, forums.

    I got a Sunday night BINGO.
  • Posts: 15,573 Member
    Homophobia, relationships founded on distrust pretending to be "respect", agism, strippers, cries for women to be modest.

    Thanks for delivering, forums.


    Right? I don't have t.v. so I gots my entertainment for the night.
  • Posts: 5,214 Member
    randomtai wrote: »

    I got a Sunday night BINGO.

    Darn it! I was waiting on "men and women can't be friends cause SEXY time".
  • Posts: 533 Member
    Merkavar wrote: »

    Sure respect, but is that enough?

    I'm not married etc so maybe I don't have the right idea.

    But what about trust? What about being 2 individuals that are married?

    Just seems odd and what polly has said so far, if it sounded one sided it would be setting off alarms with me of an abusive or controlling relationship, but it seems like it's from both people, and polly seems happy about it so who am I to judge.


    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand. Having the joint account also sent a clear message to my coworkers. 10 years later, those lines are still drawn and I am very comfortable with where they are. It's about me being honest and accountable.

    So no abuse, just fallout from the Petri dish that I assume most teaching hospitals are.
  • Posts: 781 Member
    Male/Female, we are all here for one reason and that is get as healthy and fit as we can. My hubs does not care if all MFP where male and if he was on this, I wouldn't care if all his MFP where females. Most of his friends are female and I have always gotten along better with males. I am not in high school and I am way to old to play the jealous game. I do understand why some people would be more comfortable with their friends being the same sex but we are all human and we all need friends.
  • Posts: 9,532 Member
    First rule of the internet - everybody flirts, pretty much all the time.

  • Posts: 22,281 Member
    edited July 2015

    I don’t have many friends on here, but the majority of people who have sent me requests are women. Maybe more than half of the active people on here are female? Maybe women are more likely to send requests? Or maybe it’s a coincidence. I don’t know.

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  • Posts: 34,971 Member

    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand. Having the joint account also sent a clear message to my coworkers. 10 years later, those lines are still drawn and I am very comfortable with where they are. It's about me being honest and accountable.

    So no abuse, just fallout from the Petri dish that I assume most teaching hospitals are.

    Having a joint FB account isn't necessarily a fool proof thing that 'proves" a marriage or relationship is completely monogamous. Just putting that out there. And I don't understand how that makes the message "clear" versus you just turning an invitation down.
  • Posts: 6,208 Member

    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand. Having the joint account also sent a clear message to my coworkers. 10 years later, those lines are still drawn and I am very comfortable with where they are. It's about me being honest and accountable.

    So no abuse, just fallout from the Petri dish that I assume most teaching hospitals are.

    You work at Ashley Madison or something?
  • Posts: 533 Member
    OdesAngel wrote: »

    You work at Ashley Madison or something?

    You'd think!
  • Posts: 9,003 Member

    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand. Having the joint account also sent a clear message to my coworkers. 10 years later, those lines are still drawn and I am very comfortable with where they are. It's about me being honest and accountable.

    So no abuse, just fallout from the Petri dish that I assume most teaching hospitals are.

    "No thanks, I am married" Doesn't work? :huh:
  • Posts: 533 Member
    PikaKnight wrote: »

    Having a joint FB account isn't necessarily a fool proof thing that 'proves" a marriage or relationship is completely monogamous. Just putting that out there. And I don't understand how that makes the message "clear" versus you just turning an invitation down.

    No, but it makes male coworkers WAY less likely to send an inappropriate message in the first place.
  • Posts: 9,532 Member
    edited July 2015

    No, but it makes male coworkers WAY less likely to send an inappropriate message in the first place.

    Can you prove you don't have any other Facebook accounts?

    (The answer is: "No")
  • Posts: 5,214 Member
    edited July 2015

    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand. Having the joint account also sent a clear message to my coworkers. 10 years later, those lines are still drawn and I am very comfortable with where they are. It's about me being honest and accountable.

    So no abuse, just fallout from the Petri dish that I assume most teaching hospitals are.

    A married 19 year old doing in a teaching hospital getting asked out for drinks.

    Alex, I will take "Making this *kitten* up as as I go for 1,000"

    Or maybe you are Doogie Howser.
  • Posts: 469 Member
    I get along with everybody, but enjoy conversations with my male friends better. Some people and maybe you too...have attracted more of the opposite sex friends for the same reason. It's all good. But I do think men and women each have their own set of weigh loss issues, so mixin' it up...is all good too. No one will think u are weird..if you invite more male friends. :)
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    If your true main goal is fitness...male or female shouldn't matter! If fitness is second or third...stick to your Facebook threads..
  • Posts: 2,403 Member

    Maybe I should preface with the fact that I used to work somewhere where married people having affairs with coworkers was the norm. It was openly talked an joked about. There were days when I was asked out for drinks after work before I clocked in.

    I didn't want that to become acceptable or normal for me, so I made sure that everything in my life was completely open and transparent to my husband and I drew certain lines in the sand.

    I also draw lines in the sand. They look like this -

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    I also draw lines in the sand. They look like this -

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    Grey's Anatomy is not real life.
  • Posts: 2,403 Member

    Grey's Anatomy is not real life.

    This ain't Sea World, this is as real as it gets.

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    I'm scared. ***cries**
  • Posts: 533 Member
    edited July 2015

    A married 19 year old doing in a teaching hospital getting asked out for drinks.

    Alex, I will take "Making this *kitten* up as as I go for 1,000"

    Or maybe you are Doogie Howser.

    Try unit clerk during nursing school. And yes, I was married at 19.

    Eta: ages aren't on name badges. Young females get asked out.

    OP: sorry I hijacked the thread.

    Happy wife = happy life.

    Peace, ya'll.
  • Posts: 9,003 Member

    Try unit clerk during nursing school. And yes, I was married at 19.

    Explains so much.
  • Posts: 5,214 Member
    randomtai wrote: »

    Explains so much.

    Try unit clerk during nursing school. And yes, I was married at 19.

    So neither "No, I am married" or "No, I am underage" didn't cut it in a way a joint facebook account did?

    Ok!
  • Posts: 2,403 Member

    So neither "No, I am married" or "No, I am underage" didn't cut it in a way a joint facebook account did?

    Ok!

    "Hey baby, want to get drinks and get naked later?"

    "No thank you, I have a joint Facebook account."

    "Man, that's serious commitment! Sorry to bother you with come-ons."
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    "Hey baby, want to get drinks and get naked later?"

    "No thank you, I have a joint Facebook account."

    "Man, that's serious commitment! Sorry to bother you with come-ons."

    Hey, I know this is mighty forward of me, but if you don't have a joint facebook account, do you want to hook up in the supply closet? I know you're underage and I don't want to ruin my future providing alcohol to minors.
  • Posts: 533 Member
    edited July 2015
    randomtai wrote: »

    Explains so much.

    Well thank god the random internet people believe me.

    Seriously, the point of all of this was that the OPs wife is not alone in how she feels. In fact, it is possible to be even more extreme (and still be happy about it).
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