Could not believe what my sister did...

Maggie_Pie1

Any and every other action, including donating the peanut butter to a food bank, is going to lead to an unneccessary argument over peanut butter.

Maybe it IS a necessary argument. It sounds to me like sabotage. She said clearly in the OP that nobody else eats peanut butter, she is the only one, it's a trigger food for her (mine is cheese), she expressed this to her sister who claimed to hate it, and then her sister buys it. IMO, that's sabotage. And I agree with those that say if it's unopened in a few days, clearly nobody else in the house is eating it, so donate it to a food bank. And do it again and again and again until she stops buying it. If someone actually does it eat besides herself, then maybe it's not a good solution, but if not, then get rid of it. There is nothing wrong with that.

Maggie_Pie1

Ooh but also, if you really like peanut butter, try that PB2 powder. You get that peanut butter taste with far fewer calories. Yes, I know it's good fats and yada yada yada. We ALL know that. But if she's trying to cut calories, she doesn't need all the fat calories.

Thena81

of course shes gonna try to trip u up, shes your sister!!
you have 2 choices:
hide the jar
or
eat it all right in front of her and stare at her while u eat it lol

bwogilvie

I didn't read the whole thread, so someone may have suggested this already, but a reasonably good-natured response would be when she is making toast or a sandwich--or even eating celery--to suggest she have some peanut butter with it. "Oh, you're having toast? You know it's a lot better with peanut butter on it. Why don't you get some? No? Why not--you said that you love peanut butter!"

ratherbeskiing

Peanut Butter is also my trigger :devil:

UsedToBeHusky

Any and every other action, including donating the peanut butter to a food bank, is going to lead to an unneccessary argument over peanut butter.

Maybe it IS a necessary argument. It sounds to me like sabotage. She said clearly in the OP that nobody else eats peanut butter, she is the only one, it's a trigger food for her (mine is cheese), she expressed this to her sister who claimed to hate it, and then her sister buys it. IMO, that's sabotage. And I agree with those that say if it's unopened in a few days, clearly nobody else in the house is eating it, so donate it to a food bank. And do it again and again and again until she stops buying it. If someone actually does it eat besides herself, then maybe it's not a good solution, but if not, then get rid of it. There is nothing wrong with that.

Her sister bought the damn peanut butter out of principle... hoping to agitate her sister and instigate an argument. Whatever purpose she had for doing this doesn't really matter... what matters is that if the OP does do anything with the damn peanut butter and allows the argument to ensue, then she is showing her sister that her lack of will power is a weakness that can be manipulated to her advantage any time she likes.

blueeyez1727

I would ask her to put it in her room, just explain that you're unable to portion control with PB around. hopefully she'll play nice and do that for you...as for her buying it after stating she hated it? i guess you'll have to tell us if that jar ever gets touched!

alibee81

If this thread teaches us anything, it's how dangerous and contentious peanut butter is. That's why I avoid it at all costs.

tartsul

am i the only one who is now craving peanut butter?

norahwynn

She's jealous and not supportive of you. So what. You have 2 lbs to go, and both you and her know that you have won this fight, with or without her help. If you wouldn't have mentioned what you were going to do, then there would probably not be any peanut butter in the house right now, since no one ate it or liked it but you.

Next time, don't make an announcement of what your intentions are (gonna run a marathon, gonna do a mud run, gonna jump out of an airplane) because she'll do whatever she can to ruin that also (or so it seems).

Good luck!

Wetcoaster

Donate it to the food bank.

mamasitaroja

I do think since you discussed with her WHY you were getting rid of it, and since you posted that no one else in your family even EATS it (including her, right?), it was a bit of a sabotage.

That said, drink a BIG glass of water and do something for exercise every time you even THINK about the stupid jar and remind yourself that it's HERS and not yours, so you have no reason to touch it.....

Curious to see if she suddenly realized she LOVED peanut butter once it was gone, and actually eats it.......keep us posted?

tekwriter

I didn't read all the pages, my response is just remember that it is her peanutbutter. That should be enough to keep you away from it. Then let her try to figure out why you aren't eating it and why she just wasted 6 bucks or so.

Queen_JessieA

It's just super annoying that I know for a fact she doesn't like it, and probably won't eat it. I don't plan on eating it, but knowing it's there is just taunting me:(

Put it on the top shelf of the pantry and quit dwelling on it. That's what I have to do with my trigger foods when others bring it in the house. After a month, they will forget about it as well and it can magically disappear.

shootergirlnc

am i the only one who is now craving peanut butter?

Nope! Totally craving it now, too.

brillmer

She is helping you work on your self control.

That's a good sister. :P

Daniele1213

I agree with a few responses on here, but then thought of another idea. Empty 3/4 of it out.........just throw it out and when she notices, tell her you coudn't resist and ate it..............!!!

Jaemoo34

you should try powdered peanut butter; this is your typical 2 tablespoons serving. just saying you dont have to completely eliminate your pb if you can at least abide to somewhat of the serving size, this isnt nearly as damaging
Calories
45
Fat
1.50g
Carbs
5g
Protein
4g
Dietary Fiber
1g
Sugars
2g

shrinkingWITS

Seriously?

Kettle_Belle14

Pour a MASSIVE amount of salt in the jar and stir it around. You'll stay away from it b/c it will be gross, and if she actually tries to eat it, she will be in for a rude awakening! :laugh:

Christie0428

that is really rude of her! I am sorry she's not supportive! She may be jealous of your success.

She's mean oh well. Would start mentioning other trigger foods then. Like sauerkraut, okra, cabbage, and other things she probably hates as well, she how much of the stuff she buys.

This is funny and a good idea, but you if you do this, why not benefit from it and tell her some healthy option you like is you trigger food so she will supply you with avocados or salmon.... see what you can get from it at least!

I also like the suggestion to scoop out a ton of it and throw it out or to bury the jar in teh back of the cabinet... or both. Although if she is trying to sabotage you she will think she is succedding and just buy more.

Another evil thought I had ( and I haven't read all 12 pages so someone else may have already suggested this) is to out in a ton of mega hot sauce and stir it up... if she hates PB anyway she'll never know adn you won't be tempted to eat it :devil:

seriously though as other have said, it is her jar, if you can be the more mature one and regard it as off limits because it belongs to her then all the better.

GOod luck! Hopefully you can move out soon (not sure how old you are)

furniem

Put it in the far back top corner of the cupboard and take the label off of it. Ignore that it is there.

Tara1090

She probably did it on purpose, but why let it bother you. This is a lifestyle change and you will encounter this again in the future, I am sure. Whether it be at school, work, family function. Its all about self control. Part of changing your lifestyle or dieting is regaining control and part of that is learning restraint.

JewelsinBigD

We were having hamburgers the other night and we always buy the lean beef and I found that I can put a burger on a wheat slider roll for only 100 calories and it feels like a real hamburger (as opposed to bunless). Anyway, my husband thought I would really like the premade hamburgers with bacon and cheese in them! REALLY? I WOULD LIKE THOSE? UGH!!!!! Needless to say I did not eat one....

PamGeirng

I went on a diet with a friend some years back and she fell off the band wagon and I kept going. I lost 50 pounds. She worked for Baskin Robbins Ice Cream and she bought me the big 5 gallon tub that they scoop out of, of my favorite kind of ice cream. I didn't eat one bite of it. I let my husband and kids and friends all eat it. Sabotagers ugg!

socajam

I really just need to get this off of my chest...

About a week ago, I realized how much of a trigger food peanut butter is for me. I can't eat it in moderation, and it was causing me to eat wayyy more than I should have been. So, knowing that I'm the only one in my household who even likes peanut butter, I decided it was my choice whether or not it would be kept in the house.

So I told my sister about how I was going to give it up, and she agreed. She even mentioned that it was gross that I ate it by the spoonful, and proceeded to state that she "HATES peanut butter".

And here's what troubles me....approximately 4 days of being peanut butter free, I opened a cabinet to find a brand spanking new jar of it. When I questioned everyone why there was peanut butter in the house, my sister told me that "I don't control what everyone else eats" and that she really likes peanut butter and "I can't take it away".

I can't believe she would intentionally stock the house with my ONE and ONLY trigger food. I mean...really? She's never been supportive of my lifestyle, and it just feels like she really wants me to fail:frown:

She is not asking you to eat it. This is your test and she is right, you should not be controlling what others eat. I have two Costco jars of cashew nuts in my cupboard that by bought by my SO. I am fully aware of the implications of eating more than my daily allowance, so I allow myself 17 pieces, sometimes 34 and that it for the day. Tomorrow is another day when I will be eating cashews again. This is call taking control of the situation, and not allowing the situation to control you.

RychelleD

Donate it to a food bank. Than smile and tell her when she asks where it went.

sixisCHANGEDjk

If she isn't going to eat it and you don't want to eat it, throw it away (or donate it as previously mentioned). Maybe she'll quit wasting her money pestering you.

JUDDDing

Just don't eat it.

IMO, the whole concept of "trigger foods" is annoyingly high maintenance.

Thank your sister for helping you build your willpower - it will serve you well in the future. :drinker:

ShesReady2Live

That stinks. Some people I think, feel threatened when you try to improve yourself or change bad habits for good ones so they do things like this or say off the cuff remarks. I'm only a month into my journey and I can't believe some of the things people say to me or offer to me. They have no clue. Just be strong and stay focused on your goal. I shared a cooking idea with a very close friend of mine just because I thought it was something yummy and a good way to get potassium. I take a russet potato, cut it in wedges and bake it in the oven. Better than having fries right? Well this person snappily says to me, eat a sweet potato it's better for you. Had to cut that convo short. You gotta pick your battles I guess right, lol.