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  • luckyjuls
    luckyjuls Posts: 505 Member
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    I'm just not comfortable with it. I don't judge strippers but imagining my husband getting pleasure from a naked woman grinding on his lower half just feels wrong to me.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
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    And one other thing.


    If your husband had some random woman get naked and rub herself all over him for free would that be OK?

    If your wife had some random guy get naked and rub himself all over her for free would that be OK?





    So then why is OK to PAY for it to happen?



    Someone care to answer this?

    When you pay, that is understood as a main motive for the transaction, it is a form of entertainment. Both the person and the performer got what they wanted.

    Now if a random person in a stripper club started taking their clothes off and giving lap dances, that would be like a bonus level or something.

    Now if a random person in a place other than a strip club a random stranger started rubbing against your SO and your SO didn't try to stop it, this then depends on y'alls relationship and it's boundaries, some couples are okay with it some aren't.

    But in the random stranger doing it for free it becomes not okay because now there is the question of motive why is it being done. Even then, some couples will be okay with it.
  • ruth3698
    ruth3698 Posts: 305 Member
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    I would only allow him to go if it was for a birthday or bachelor party.and no lap dances.I've never been but my boyfriend said our local strip clubs aren't great.The girls just kind of walk around the pole and drop it low a couple of times
    He said it's just like an expensive bar with naked girls...that's it lol.Now if the girls were awesome dancers I would love to go...as for lap dances from another woman....I would probably be laughing and embarassed because more than likely my friends would do it as a joke.
  • Katrioustu
    Katrioustu Posts: 2,461 Member
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    I guess if we are talking about female strippers. What about the male ones?

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    Hmm?
  • GinaMarieG27
    GinaMarieG27 Posts: 29 Member
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    I would not want my boyfriend to go. I think it may tempt him to cheat at one point or another.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,610 Member
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    I think the only thing someone should be concerned about is: how much money their SO is spending on it and how frequent is the SO going?
    That should indicate if it's an issue or not.

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  • Katrioustu
    Katrioustu Posts: 2,461 Member
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    What girl wouldn't want to be ground on by one of these guys?
  • ahviendha
    ahviendha Posts: 1,291 Member
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    i would have no problem with it. i went to a strip club when dating my current BF and the strippers actually didn't like me because i was giggling so much during the lap dance. i think it killed the vibe ;)
  • Salt_Sand_Sun
    Salt_Sand_Sun Posts: 415 Member
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    We've gone together.
    He's gone alone.

    Doesn't bother me unless it becomes a habit (like every weekend). But every now and then.... no problem. If I can go with him - lots of fun to be had.
  • krouse83
    krouse83 Posts: 182 Member
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    I'm ok with strip clubs. I'll even go to a strip club with him or without him. I however am not a fan of paying for services. Give money for the dancing, but arranging for services and payment in a back room is something I'm not comfortable with.
  • Trophywifey28
    Trophywifey28 Posts: 46
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    I would *love* to take my husband to a club. I'm not sure if he would dig it though. I've been probably 5-6 times and every.single.time. the dancer is more interested in me then my male company ;)
  • Katrioustu
    Katrioustu Posts: 2,461 Member
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    I would *love* to take my husband to a club. I'm not sure if he would dig it though. I've been probably 5-6 times and every.single.time. the dancer is more interested in me then my male company ;)

    As I said.... a lot of dancers are lesbians....
  • shannonb8489
    shannonb8489 Posts: 27
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    i'd rather give him one myself! :blushing:
  • AdrianasMombieED
    AdrianasMombieED Posts: 117 Member
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    I would be pissed if my fiance did that when we first started our relationship (I was 17 and he was 18). But, I couldnt care less what he does now. Taking care of my daughter is more important than worrying about him getting a lap dance/watching girls strip. Even if we didn't have a daughter to take care of, I'd still allow him. I'm not going to force him to stay home with me. I'm not controlling. lol.

    Pfft, I want a lap dance from a hot female stripper, I think it would be fun! As for male strippers, H*ll no! lol. Yuck.

    But, I would have a problem with it if he went all the time and wasted the money that should be going to bills and our daughter's needs. Every once in a while, sure, go ahead.
  • ruth3698
    ruth3698 Posts: 305 Member
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    i would have no problem with it. i went to a strip club when dating my current BF and the strippers actually didn't like me because i was giggling so much during the lap dance. i think it killed the vibe ;)

    Lol, I would be laughing hysterically too.You wouldn't happen to be a fan of Robert Jordan's wheel of time would you? Just asking because of your profile name.
  • selina884
    selina884 Posts: 826 Member
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    My boyfriend used to go however since dating me he has stopped out of will.
    He says he used to go for entertainment "with the boys" but as hes in a relationship, he doesnt feel the need to go anymore.

    I'm not complaining.

    Personally, I have no interest.
  • AdrianasMombieED
    AdrianasMombieED Posts: 117 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    All 4 of those aren't the reasons for me, anyways (used to be years ago if it ever did happen). And yes, maybe some are hiding the fact that they're insecure by doing those actions you listed above. But, you'd be surprised at how many people don't mind their SO going to strip joints alone.
    Yes, a women's body is beautiful, do you have to be a lesbian to enjoy the female body? No. I'm 100% straight and I'd rather get a dance from a woman than one from a guy who looks jacked up on steroids. The male body is not attractive. Im pretty sure I'm not the only one to think that; alot of women from what I've seen so far on a mothering website i go would rather look at lesbian porn than any other and the same goes for female strippers. Everyone likes to get out and have fun with their SO's. You're relationship is what matters the most, who cares how others deal with theirs?
  • AprilRN10
    AprilRN10 Posts: 548 Member
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    My man has gone a couple of times. Doesn't bother me.
  • ohnstadk
    ohnstadk Posts: 143 Member
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    All heterosexual men like seeing naked women. So when I see posts like "my husband doesn't like strip clubs" or won't go with me, it is not because he does not like strange naked women. He is a lot smarter than you think. Going to a strip club with your girlfriend or wife is really stupid. There is no up side to this for the guy. Women love to test their man and there is no better place to find out what the man likes and how he acts around other women than a strip club. Thus, the smart answer for men is "no I only want to see you naked honey!".

    You have totally been dating the wrong women then. Real women dont play games. If I say I want to go then I actually want to go. And I have gone and it is awesome. It really depends on the chick and how honest she is being with you
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    All 4 of those aren't the reasons for me, anyways (used to be years ago if it ever did happen). And yes, maybe some are hiding the fact that they're insecure by doing those actions you listed above. But, you'd be surprised at how many people don't mind their SO going to strip joints alone.
    Yes, a women's body is beautiful, do you have to be a lesbian to enjoy the female body? No. I'm 100% straight and I'd rather get a dance from a woman than one from a guy who looks jacked up on steroids. The male body is not attractive. Im pretty sure I'm not the only one to think that; alot of women from what I've seen so far on a mothering website i go would rather look at lesbian porn than any other and the same goes for female strippers. Everyone likes to get out and have fun with their SO's. You're relationship is what matters the most, who cares how others deal with theirs?

    The male body is not attractive??? I think you should have said that YOU don't find the male body attractive. I'd rather look at a nice hard p***s than a vag any day but then I'm straight.

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