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  • wcso911mn
    wcso911mn Posts: 68 Member
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    I go to strip clubs with my husband...they don't bother me!

    Same here.
  • lightdiva1
    lightdiva1 Posts: 935 Member
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    I have little issue with my husband going to a strip club. The issues I do have revolve around hygiene and not the act of watching a stripper. I live in a small town, and the strip club near by is not, shall we say, clean.

    I hired my hubby strippers for his bachelor party. I screened them. (I am a choreographer, and know what my husband likes)

    Its not my favorite thing for my husband to do. But, I am sure he doesn't find me going to Vegas to watch the Thunder from Down Under his favorite thing either.
  • 98777
    98777 Posts: 108 Member
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    I wouldn't marry someone who liked strip clubs. So, yeah, I'll probably never marry. I'm a total weirdo.
  • MandaPaigeSparkles88
    MandaPaigeSparkles88 Posts: 1,289 Member
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    I went to a strip club with my ex husband before we got divorced. It didn't bother me at all. The only reason why I went is because he said I wouldn't go, so I went to prove him wrong. He got several lap dances and he even bought me table dances. It for a while helped our sex life too. So I mean if you trust your husband/boyfriend then let him go and enjoy himself..
  • AdrianasMombieED
    AdrianasMombieED Posts: 117 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    All 4 of those aren't the reasons for me, anyways (used to be years ago if it ever did happen). And yes, maybe some are hiding the fact that they're insecure by doing those actions you listed above. But, you'd be surprised at how many people don't mind their SO going to strip joints alone.
    Yes, a women's body is beautiful, do you have to be a lesbian to enjoy the female body? No. I'm 100% straight and I'd rather get a dance from a woman than one from a guy who looks jacked up on steroids. The male body is not attractive. Im pretty sure I'm not the only one to think that; alot of women from what I've seen so far on a mothering website i go would rather look at lesbian porn than any other and the same goes for female strippers. Everyone likes to get out and have fun with their SO's. You're relationship is what matters the most, who cares how others deal with theirs?

    The male body is not attractive??? I think you should have said that YOU don't find the male body attractive. I'd rather look at a nice hard p***s than a vag any day but then I'm straight.

    lmao not all. Shouldve added more to my post, im very tired. As in saying the male body is not attractive, I was talking about the male strippers with those huge muscles (im not into muscles) since we are replying in a stripping post. And I was referring to myself as thinking I dont think theyre attractive. LOL I have no interest in looking at the female genitalia either, but everything else, im fine with :P
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
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    My husband says there is no use going since he'd rather not waste money on something he just has to look at and not touch afterwards. Plus he has me, no need to waste money on other women. I'd give him all he wants.
  • mammamaurer
    mammamaurer Posts: 418 Member
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    dont care, he can go..... hell id buy him a lap dance:happy:
  • DalekBrittany
    DalekBrittany Posts: 1,748 Member
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    Still trying to wrap my brain around the idea of another woman doing a lap dance to me. Ugh! Repulsive idea! What could possibly be attractive/fun/entertaining about that?? I'd just stand up in disgust, say "no thanks", and push her off.

    Well, considering it isn;t something they just come up and do of their own accord, and you have to request a lap dance and pay for one, I guess you're never going to face that problem, are you?

    This. It is disgusting to me that people are "disgusted" by other women...you have the same bits. To me, that just screams "I'm uncomfortable in my sexuality!"


    NO, for god's sake, it doesn't mean I'm disgusted by other women! it means that I am disgusted by the idea a strange woman plopping herself down, rubbing herself on me and shoving her boobs in my face. Why the heck would I want that? I don't care if we have the same bits. Unwanted from another woman. Assault if from a man.

    Then don't pay for a lap dance. Simple :)

    Sorry, logic is not allowed in these forums!
  • DalekBrittany
    DalekBrittany Posts: 1,748 Member
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    If you are okay with your S/O seeing someone else naked and that turns them on, there are 2 problems with that logic.

    1. Why is he/she being sexually excited about ANOTHER person

    This implies what excites a person sexually is either a.) any of your business (it's not) or b.) the same for everyone (it's not). Some people are into "watching" other people. If you've ever watched porn (which I know you have) then guess what? You're into it to some degree, too! Shock, gasp!
    2. Shows how much interest they have in who they are with.

    It's about character and people today don't have much of it.

    That is my 2 cents.

    This implies that you actually know every single person that goes to a strip club. Just because a man or woman or even a couple go to a strip club, does not mean they aren't interested in each other, or that they aren't excited by their partner anymore. They may be experimenting, they may be into watching other people, some probably even get turned on by seeing their partner turned on, whether it's by them or not. You're stating these things as if they're facts, when really, you quite obviously have NO idea.
    -Army Vet (4 countries, 45 states in america, married and divorced, and re-married - I got some experience)

    I had a pet goldfish named Mr. Giggles once in seventh grade. But neither one of these statements have anything to do with our points, do they?
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,862 Member
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    I don't get what all the arguing is about??
    Welcome to "Chit-Chat, Fun, and Games" which often collapses into arguments and insults despite its name.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
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    For me their are a bunch of reasons to not like it.

    First I have been several times. A woman that I knew owned one, and we went there as it was just another bar. Everyone can try to glorify "stripping" as some sort of empowered thing that is making use of a body obtained by hard work.....But you are fooling yourselves.
    First of all it isn't normal to get naked and rub your goods all over someone you do not know for money. It's just a lesser form of prostitution. Both of which "normal" people will not do.

    Second, look up statistics on the number of strippers who have been sexually abused. WHAT is sexy about a woman doing something to you because some slimey dirty scumbag POS did "something" to her?

    Drug addiction is a REALITY.
    These women make a BUNCH of money and most often times are always broke. The old story "stripping to pay for college" is just something that is told to take the edge off of the reality of the situation.

    First of all who the hell are you to make assumptions as to why these women are strippers? Who are you to judge their choice of exotic dance as a way to make a living? My mother was a stripper, a SINGLE mother who NEEDED a way to support her child and pay her way through college at 19 years old. So No its not just something to take the edge off reality.


    How many millions of women in the same situation through this country and throughout time DIDN'T choose to be a stripper?

    How many of them DID? Your so ignorant. Go eat something.


    A tiny, TINY, TINY fraction of women as compared to those who DID NOT.

    Reality isn't ignorance.


    Have a nice day.

    Are you still wondering why you're having such a hard time with online dating?
  • 42hockeymom
    42hockeymom Posts: 521 Member
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    I've been married for 26 years.

    When I was first married and a lot younger (think like 3 and 4 years old, because I'm only 29 now.. :laugh: ) I had a problem with it.

    Then I matured and realized that the vows we took are just that VOWS. Something to not be broken, and I realized he's coming home to me. It also helped that the girl who did my nails was an exotic dancer and told me stories. Some hysterical, but they all ended up with the fact that she never went home with the guy and the rules at the clubs she worked at were pretty strict about touching.

    So one birthday I decided to surprise him and took him too a strip club. Big mistake, I took him to a skanky one. Lesson learned! The girls there were freaked out by MY BEING THERE. So we went to a much nicer one. We had a blast! He told me it was one of his birthdays. The part he liked most? Seeing me interact with the dancers!

    Then I had a revelation, he LOVES ME, he FINDS ME ATTRACTIVE and SEXY. Yes he likes to look at other women, and I don't understand why he shouldn't, hell I've pointed out a few in my time. I've learned that A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS JUST THAT, A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. She's not competition for me.

    Sure, theres always time when we need to be aware and not encouraging our husbands to go out and find a piece on the side, but in my marriage, there's no place for jealousy.
  • thatonegirlinohio
    thatonegirlinohio Posts: 50 Member
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    I think I enjoy strip clubs more than my recent ex ever did. So... non issue.
  • JDySart777
    JDySart777 Posts: 270 Member
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    Just as long as she only goes to the Two Ton Frog... :laugh:
  • quicklabs
    quicklabs Posts: 254 Member
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    Absolutely NOT! (Married 33 years)
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
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    My current bf doesn't care for them, but I used to go with an ex; I don't really see the big deal here.

    Oh yea, prudes.
  • JachelMSmith
    JachelMSmith Posts: 3 Member
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    I'd find it hilarious.
    My husband is a very quiet and keep to himself type of person, I'd pay for a dance for him just to see his face lol
    Mine too the experience just to see his reaction would be priceless...
  • Schmoopy221
    Schmoopy221 Posts: 19 Member
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    I've gone with my husband many times so I don't have an issue with it. At a few places, the girls seem to take issue with my being there. But, at a few places, I've been asked if I wanted a lap dance!
  • pwall921
    pwall921 Posts: 19 Member
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    They are fun but toooooo much $$.
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
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    And one other thing.


    If your husband had some random woman get naked and rub herself all over him for free would that be OK?

    If your wife had some random guy get naked and rub himself all over her for free would that be OK?





    So then why is OK to PAY for it to happen?



    Someone care to answer this?

    Same point I made back on page 11 - strip clubs have little to do with the admiration of the female body, they are about the fetishisation of money and the power that having money has. Like many have said, if you wanted just to look at female bodies, there are any number of non-stripclub ways you could do that, some for money, some for free.

    The strippers think they are 'empowered' because they can use their bodies to make men give them money, the men feel powerful because they can use their money to make a woman who is "out of their league" take her clothes off (and maybe give them a handjob out back if they are ultra creepy).

    The person who actually 'wins', like in all businesses is the person who owns the club (not that I have a problem with that, per se - I am after all self employed).

    It is this underlying dynamic of strip clubs that I find a massive turn off, and obviously I have been on stag dos etc. I'm also not a fan of being 'sold' a dance by the girls as they walk around, but then I hate sales tactics anywhere (especially cellphone shops if I'm honest).

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