strip club question??...

LandonRand · June 2013

Wow! Lots of women are cool with the strip club action.

Never thought about bringing a date there. Perhaps I need to work it into my dating agenda.

Too soon on the first date?

curtissoph · June 2013

I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

Just a couple of words on this... I get that I can't change your mind, but that doesn't make you right. At all. Furthermore, sexuality is SO much more fluid than just '100% straight' and '100% gay'.

Personally, I've gone to strip clubs with the boyfriend before. We've had couple's lap dances and generally it's just a good time.

That being said, there is this one strip club that makes me feel seedy and ashamed whenever I go there. the girls are all the youngest that they're legally allowed to be (I'm assuming they're all legal, anyway) and they look totally drugged up all the time and covered in rashes and stuff. Some of the strip clubs, I agree, are just exploitative and sad.

Fortunately, there's this other one close by where the dancers are absolute artists- you can tell they are good at what they do and they want to be there.

So for me it depends on the particular strip club, but that's more for my benefit than the boyfriend's.

athyraslove · June 2013

I'd only strip for my husband though...I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable doing that in public! But I don't care when other women do. It's their body not mine.

NKfanKelli · June 2013

Wow! Lots of women are cool with the strip club action.

Never thought about bringing a date there. Perhaps I need to work it into my dating agenda.

Too soon on the first date?

Yeah....maybe not a first date. lol

JJordon · June 2013

just dont let him go in the champagne room....

Gerald Levert and Chris Rock covered this topic extensively in song. There is nothing going down, henceforth, wrong in these champagne rooms.

operation_cute · June 2013

wouldn't bother me

athyraslove · June 2013

Wow! Lots of women are cool with the strip club action.

Never thought about bringing a date there. Perhaps I need to work it into my dating agenda.

Too soon on the first date?

Yeah....maybe not a first date. lol

Haha yah, I would probably have freaked out if when we were dating he said he wanted to go. Every girl is different though you just have to ask. I also agree that it depends on the strip club and atmosphere.

zytah · June 2013

I go to strip clubs with my girlfriends and I go to them with my husband. if he wants to go alone, that's fine with me too. we always have a good time regardless. I probably spend more money on strippers (who will actually dance and trick the pole than the ones who just grope themselves and sway around) than my husband does! :laugh:

MsEndomorph · June 2013

Wow! Lots of women are cool with the strip club action.

Never thought about bringing a date there. Perhaps I need to work it into my dating agenda.

Too soon on the first date?

I'm pretty sure you're supposed to spend the first month pretending you aren't a pervert.
Once you've caught her, go crazy.

Perplexities · June 2013

I couldn't see MYSELF ever wanting to go to a strip club, if I was with someone I actually cared about. I don't see a valid reason for ME to do such a thing, and it is MY opinion it could potentially exacerbate already present insecurity issues even with the most confident of women, if you're a great guy and she's really into you she has reasons to assume other women might feel the same way about you.

ninerbuff · June 2013

Lol, apparently lots of women hear haven't heard of "The Dancing Bear".

I'd encourage my wife to get a lap dance if she wanted to. Not a big deal.

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Iknewyouweretrouble · June 2013

It would hurt me a lot if my bf went to a strip club. I would definitely break up with him. it would make me very sad

(.

tammys_changing · June 2013

I don't have a problem with it either. We have gone together and he has been with the guys. I have also paid for lap dances. I think pole dancing it's a talent

norcal_yogi · June 2013

wouldn't bother me.... just not something i'd freak out about. might even be a fun night out!

Krizzo87 · June 2013

I'd buy the lap dance for him and possibly one for myself, too...

Fiercely_Me · June 2013

just dont let him go in the champagne room....

Gerald Levert and Chris Rock covered this topic extensively in song. There is nothing going down, henceforth, wrong in these champagne rooms.

Ha! Now that dumb song is stuck in my head.. "no sex in the champagne room.."

EricJonrosh · June 2013

I worked on a comm system for Shotgun Willie's in Denver. Spent most of my time downstairs in the dressing/locker area, near the cliched row of bright mirrors. What a sad, lowly, ruined bunch of girls. You can see the mileage that job was putting on their souls, how much they were giving away for each dollar. I wished I could tell just one of them how special she was and she didn't have to do that, but they only understood one form of praise. Puts a different perspective on it I hope.

EricJonrosh · June 2013

I couldn't see MYSELF ever wanting to go to a strip club, if I was with someone I actually cared about. I don't see a valid reason for ME to do such a thing, and it is MY opinion it could potentially exacerbate already present insecurity issues even with the most confident of women, if you're a great guy and she's really into you she has reasons to assume other women might feel the same way about you.

And this.

SarahKJ0704 · June 2013

Well I used to dance at a club and I can tell you from experience that many girls working there are very intelligent and bright and some the total opposite and would do just about anything for their next dollar.

krazyforyou · June 2013

My exhusband use to go with my blessing, I got the reward at the end of the night.

tehboxingkitteh · June 2013

I'd be up front with him, shoving dollar bills down her g-string. And buy him a lap dance.

Although I haven't been back to a strip club after being kicked out of one years ago...

It was male amateur night. There was a small room (that looked like it was for private parties with a small stage and all) that the women were in. There was a ledge for drinks off the stage. My friend decided to embarrass me by waving a dollar bill over my head. The current dancer decided to come giggle his junk in my face. He squatted down, the straw from my friend's drink went up his butt, and he ran off the stage immediately with his butt cheeks clenched with a straw sticking out of his keester.

Next thing I know, the DJ comes on the speaker "I don't know what kind of freaky **** you ladies are into... stirring the salad or blowing the salad, but touching the dancers is not allowed" Then a bouncer came and found me, asked me to leave the room. Long story short I was escorted out of the club not only for violating their dancer, but for having an alcoholic drink in front of me when I was underage because they thought it was mine.

OMG, I CAN'T BREATHE. The mental image was too much!

That is the funniest story I've heard in a while. I can't get the image of a tight muscular butt with a straw scurrying away out of my mind

the straw looked like this... minus the mustache. but I figured a few people would get a kick out of imagining the mustache straw keester

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rebbylicious · June 2013

I think it has to do with how the guy treats the wife/girlfriend.
If he pays attention to her, makes her feel respected, sexy, and beautiful, gives her lots of praise, she probably won't have a problem with him going. But if he doesn't make her feel like he finds her attractive, and doesn't show affection and act like he loves her... I am sure she wouldn't want him giving any attention or money to another woman.

Edit- so poorly written I am not even going to bother editing it! LOL

Baby_sway86 · June 2013

Iv never been jealous of stripper (sorry if anyone is one). Really don't see myself being left for on, is that stuck up? But my guy going to his mother hey mom, this is my gf she a stripper.
We use to all go in groups back in my younger days - drink and get lap dance.

But I think fair is fair and I'd live to go watch magic mike - I don't care how much it cost haha.

jeromykaplan · June 2013

F**k that i wouldnt want someone spinning their junk in my girls face,,,if i had a girl haha

usernameMAMA · June 2013

I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.

I know that I am comfortable enough with my sexuality to know that I don't want another woman shaking her boobs in my face. I was under the impression that if you enjoyed having someone of the same sex grinding on your lap that makes you at the very least bisexual. If that's not something that gives you pleasure, then it stands to reason you are there for one of the other listed reasons. I'm not saying that being a lesbian is right or wrong, I'm saying that if a lap dance is enjoyed...well?

Besides all that crazy logic, it doesn't really matter. It's how I view the situation; you view it differently. The world keeps on spinning. I highly doubt that society is going to crumble over my opinion.