strip club question??...

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  • MsEndomorph
    MsEndomorph Posts: 604 Member
    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    All 4 of those aren't the reasons for me, anyways (used to be years ago if it ever did happen). And yes, maybe some are hiding the fact that they're insecure by doing those actions you listed above. But, you'd be surprised at how many people don't mind their SO going to strip joints alone.
    Yes, a women's body is beautiful, do you have to be a lesbian to enjoy the female body? No. I'm 100% straight and I'd rather get a dance from a woman than one from a guy who looks jacked up on steroids. The male body is not attractive. Im pretty sure I'm not the only one to think that; alot of women from what I've seen so far on a mothering website i go would rather look at lesbian porn than any other and the same goes for female strippers. Everyone likes to get out and have fun with their SO's. You're relationship is what matters the most, who cares how others deal with theirs?

    The male body is not attractive??? I think you should have said that YOU don't find the male body attractive. I'd rather look at a nice hard p***s than a vag any day but then I'm straight.

    As a woman, I know a lot of women, and I swear not one of them would agree with you. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say that before! Not that there's anything wrong with it...just not expected lol.
  • nickalow11
    nickalow11 Posts: 99 Member
    There have been many conversations about this in my house. My husband has been, I never have. I have made it clear that I really prefer he not go. And I will fully admit it is because of my insecurities, not because I don't trust him. Ask me the same question after I've lost another 50 pounds. :)
  • emmalouc93
    emmalouc93 Posts: 328 Member
    I couldn't see MYSELF ever wanting to go to a strip club, if I was with someone I actually cared about. I don't see a valid reason for ME to do such a thing, and it is MY opinion it could potentially exacerbate already present insecurity issues even with the most confident of women, if you're a great guy and she's really into you she has reasons to assume other women might feel the same way about you.

    Agree with this viewpoint.

    On a personal moral level, I don't like them, and wouldn't like my boyfriend to go to one, but if he wanted to, I wouldn't be able to stop him, and definitely trust him not to do anything, but it would make me question why he needs to pay for a woman to dance on him when he has a willing one at home! I would be disappointed, if I'm being honest, but I am not with a man that likes them at all thankfully, and I would not go to one.

    I would rather a personal lapdance in an exclusive relationship.... Much better, and the ending is presumably a lot more fun than when it is with a stranger :P
  • MsEndomorph
    MsEndomorph Posts: 604 Member
    Nope....I wouldn't be happy... Pissed would be more like it...:explode:

    It is amazing to see all these women on here that go....I would have never guessed women would be ok with that...

    Oh Well Live and Learn :drinker:

    That my friend is because we live in a society and age where morals and the line between right and wrong are practically non-existent.

    If my significant other went, she could pack her bags and hit the door. Hell I'd pack them for her.

    If you are okay with your S/O seeing someone else naked and that turns them on, there are 2 problems with that logic.

    1. Why is he/she being sexually excited about ANOTHER person

    2. Shows how much interest they have in who they are with.

    It's about character and people today don't have much of it.

    That is my 2 cents.


    -Army Vet (4 countries, 45 states in america, married and divorced, and re-married - I got some experience)

    The naivety of that is so extreme, I don't know we're to start.

    For starters, men have eyes and penises when they aren't in strip clubs. They have imaginations, nude scenes on TV and in movies, they have porn, and god knows what else. It doesn't matter if you're "ok" with your SO being attracted to someone else or not - it's happening. If being attracted to another person means you no longer have interest in your SO...we're pretty much all screwed.
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    mine would not go,
  • Maribel_1986
    Maribel_1986 Posts: 457 Member
    I couldn't see MYSELF ever wanting to go to a strip club, if I was with someone I actually cared about. I don't see a valid reason for ME to do such a thing, and it is MY opinion it could potentially exacerbate already present insecurity issues even with the most confident of women, if you're a great guy and she's really into you she has reasons to assume other women might feel the same way about you.

    Agree with this viewpoint.

    On a personal moral level, I don't like them, and wouldn't like my boyfriend to go to one, but if he wanted to, I wouldn't be able to stop him, and definitely trust him not to do anything, but it would make me question why he needs to pay for a woman to dance on him when he has a willing one at home! I would be disappointed, if I'm being honest, but I am not with a man that likes them at all thankfully, and I would not go to one.

    I would rather a personal lapdance in an exclusive relationship.... Much better, and the ending is presumably a lot more fun than when it is with a stranger :P

    I feel the same way! I have never been to a strip club but my fiance did when he was 18-20 (he's 27 now)... And he said pretty much the same thing that out of respect to me he won't go. Plus it's a waste of money. I do agree. I think that if I was single I might go once just to see what the big hype is about but honestly I would rather have my man satisfied and not just give him a tease like the strippers would do.
  • mhull57
    mhull57 Posts: 21 Member
    our deal is whatever amount of money he spends there.... he spends twice as much on me.. haha
  • freddykid
    freddykid Posts: 265 Member
    I go or used to go with my wife all the time. we haven't been in a while now but for me that is totally normal.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
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    What girl wouldn't want to be ground on by one of these guys?
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    Me. I would HATE being "ground on" by a stranger. I would have to know the guy and have some sort of relationship. NOT interested otherwise.
  • StrongAndHealthyMommy
    StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
    ummm if he wants to go to strips clubs full of nasty hookers, he can be single.... and he knows that from date#1
  • emmalouc93
    emmalouc93 Posts: 328 Member
    Also, to clear things up, like most women on this thread, I think male strippers are disgusting... Not into that at all.
  • epicrockstar24
    epicrockstar24 Posts: 86
    i’d probably let him go. i know that its really only looking, and he watches porn anyways so stripping really ain’t much different than that.

    but i really wouldn’t be okay with it, i wouldn’t hold it against him or anything (im assuming were are talking about him going just once in a blue moon for a bachelor party or something and not an all the time thing) but it would eat at me inside and really mess up my mind. But i realize thats because of my own insecurity. i’d tell him how i felt about it, but trying to control him and telling him him what he can and cant do like i’m his mother, is not something i want to do, so if he really wants to go, then he can go. but thus far he has never asked or suggested even asked, but maybe one day it will come.

    and FWIW i hate that he watches porn too, it makes me sick to think of him watching other women, but again i’m not going to tell him to stop. and i’d rather him jack off to porn to get his fix than to seeking out another woman and physically cheating.
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    Also, to clear things up, like most women on this thread, I think male strippers are disgusting... Not into that at all.

    :drinker: AGREED! I've never been to a male strip club. I like female ones though. I'm 100% straight but I know a hot girl when I see one. They just don't creep me out as much as male ones do, and they're fun with my male or female friends. But a significant other wanting to go by himself/with his guy friends...hmmm....I'd rather go with him but I doubt that would fly. I don't think I'd be happy about it but I agree with epicrockstar2 that if it was a bachelor party or once in a blue moon then I guess it's cool. Lap dance though? (And of course there would be lap dances for all) Uhhh........I got nothin'. If I'm 100% honest with myself, I'd be disappointed (again, if I "wasn't allowed" to go! I'm not good with being excluded! Haha) I WANNA GO! lol :sad:
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    I'd be more concerned if he was lying about it/trying to hide it.

    ^^^^^^^THIS!^^^^^^ VERRRY true!
  • elledeery
    elledeery Posts: 866
    I don't think it's a huge deal if it's just for a laugh at a bachelor party or even as a gag on a birthday, a rare occurrence but if there comes a point when a man spends more time and money at a strip club than he does with you or he's hiding his strip club adventures from you then the red flag should go up!
  • xFamousLastWordsx
    xFamousLastWordsx Posts: 301 Member
    Even though he's expressed no interest in going, I really wouldn't care. However I have a problem with lapdances, I don't want some chick grinding on my boyfriend. You can look but you can't touch.
  • sixibabey
    sixibabey Posts: 80 Member
    I love strip clubs men and woman strippers both. Lap dances are the best
  • dunlunicor
    dunlunicor Posts: 189 Member
    just dont let him go in the champagne room....

    Just your friendly, local stripper clearing up a misconception:

    Don't let him go to the CR if A) you don't have that kind of money to spare or B) he's a cheater and going back with an extras girl. Most dancers do NOT want to have sex with your man. The CR is a convenient way for us to make a good amount of money in one go and be off the floor for an hour. If you're concerned, go with him and have fun. Strippers are boner-facilitators. Go to the club, get turned on, go home, have sex. It's that simple.

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