strip club question??...

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  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    I would mind. We're Catholic and also think its demeaning to women. BUT if it floats your boat more power to you!
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    How would you feel about your spouse going to a strip club and possibly getting a lap dance.. just curious to see how people feel about it :smile:

    I would not want him to. I know men will look at other girls at times because they are men and it is natural, but I don't want to encourage my husband to do it. I am the only sexy girl my husband should be enjoying and really looking at. He is the only man for me as well. We say this to each other all the time. It just encourages unfaithfulness to do this kind of thing together. I would have said the opposite before I was married and had been in a relationship but now this is how I feel. I am not jealous at all. I trust my husband completely but there is no need to play with fire. If I kept looking at other guys it would probably make it more and more likely that I would find another man eventually. I want us to be committed to each other for life like we promised when we married. Our marriage relationship is something special especially the sexual part so he should not be getting those feelings from other women intentionally. Conservative I know, but faithfulness is very important to me.
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    I've been to male strip clubs and female strip clubs. I don't really get it. Is it the look but don't touch forbidden fruit thing that people enjoy? Perhaps it's the fact you have power over someone with your wallet?

    Anyway, never appealed to me. I'd rather go to a club where everyone dances with there tops off and jump in the middle and get me some of the hotness to take home.

    I agree - strip clubs for me are all about the fetishisation of money, rather than the women dancing. I don't think any less of the strippers because they know that really, the dynamic works in their favour. I find the notion of paying someone to perform for me kind of creepy.

    I have been to strip clubs on stag parties and whatnot and I find all the girls walking round semi-clad between dances trying to 'sell' lapdances kinda weird and not at all sexy - like a cross between having walked into the wrong changing room and being in a store where they are trying to sell you something - like a cellphone sop, they always seem to do the hard sell.
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    If we had the money for him to spare on such a thing, it wouldn't bother me. My SO and I have both been to strip clubs and gotten dances together and on our own with friends.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    I'm not really ok about if husband wants to go to a stip club but he knows I wouildn't try to stop it. He say that why would he want to go there when he can't get what he really wants afterwards.. maybe he doesn't realise he could with some lol! hmm.. I'd give him everything he says he wants so whatever!
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member

    Lol. Kinda like always banging in the bedroom. Sometimes you need to use the kitchen.

    hell to the yes!!

    :flowerforyou:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Still trying to wrap my brain around the idea of another woman doing a lap dance to me. Ugh! Repulsive idea! What could possibly be attractive/fun/entertaining about that?? I'd just stand up in disgust, say "no thanks", and push her off.

    There are other words in the dictionary besides "disgusting" and "repulsive". Not sure if you know that.
  • I have also gone to strip clubs with my husband. I have had a lap dance right beside him (same girl dancing for both of us).. It turned him on immensely to watch me get more attention than he did! :blushing:

    I wouldn't mind if he went without me (and I think he has a few times) as long as he didn't spend tons of money! I agree with the $100 limit!
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    Wow! Lots of women are cool with the strip club action.

    Never thought about bringing a date there. Perhaps I need to work it into my dating agenda.

    Too soon on the first date? :)

    I'm pretty sure you're supposed to spend the first month pretending you aren't a pervert.
    Once you've caught her, go crazy.

    Strong detection of sarcasm...

    I don't see how a man wanting to go to a strip club makes them a pervert as it is a natural reaction to want to look at naked women? (BTW this is coming from a guy who has been been to one/has no desire to go to one).

    Fine, you win.

    Take a chick to a strip club on your next first date. Tell her it's just natural for you to want to look at naked women. Good luck to you. ;)

    You didn't even adress what I had said... While it is natural for me to want to look at naked women, I'm not going to take one to strip club for a date (I even went as far as saying I haven't been nor do i feel like going). Strong selective reading. I said wanting to look at naked women doesn't make you perverted when your'e already programmed to want to do so.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    Still trying to wrap my brain around the idea of another woman doing a lap dance to me. Ugh! Repulsive idea! What could possibly be attractive/fun/entertaining about that?? I'd just stand up in disgust, say "no thanks", and push her off.

    There are other words in the dictionary besides "disgusting" and "repulsive". Not sure if you know that.

    Like "Satan?"

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  • thisismeraw
    thisismeraw Posts: 1,264 Member
    I have no issues with my husband going to a strip club. I just would not be happy if he got a lap dance from one of the strippers... but that's just me. Some people don't have an issue with it. My husband hasn't been to a strip club in years and even if he did go to one I don't think he would ever get a lap dance. Sure, I would prefer my husband didn't go to a strip club however I wouldn't have an issue with it if he did. He and his boss along with another guy they had with them working went to a strip club after work for a beer. If he went there alone that's a little different than a bachelor party for example.

    Right now I would be a little pissed if he did go to a strip club simply because we don't have the money to be spending on things that are not required or in our budget.
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    "Why go out for milk when you have a cow at home?" - Al Bundy
  • HuneeBunee08
    HuneeBunee08 Posts: 168
    actually im the one that goes to the strip clubs he doesnt really care for them.. lol..i have to drag him with me
  • MsEmmy
    MsEmmy Posts: 254 Member
    I'd find it hilarious.
    My husband is a very quiet and keep to himself type of person, I'd pay for a dance for him just to see his face lol

    Haha, my husband is the same.
  • LOL!! I WOULD BE PISSED!! :laugh:
  • KimJohnsonsmile
    KimJohnsonsmile Posts: 222 Member
    My hubby goes every once in a great while . I have no problem at all with it.
  • ChristinaOrtiz23
    ChristinaOrtiz23 Posts: 1,546 Member
    he went before me, so he got in out his system, but i will not have him going now and def not a lap dance!!!
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    For me their are a bunch of reasons to not like it.

    First I have been several times. A woman that I knew owned one, and we went there as it was just another bar. Everyone can try to glorify "stripping" as some sort of empowered thing that is making use of a body obtained by hard work.....But you are fooling yourselves.
    First of all it isn't normal to get naked and rub your goods all over someone you do not know for money. It's just a lesser form of prostitution. Both of which "normal" people will not do.

    Second, look up statistics on the number of strippers who have been sexually abused. WHAT is sexy about a woman doing something to you because some slimey dirty scumbag POS did "something" to her?

    Drug addiction is a REALITY.
    These women make a BUNCH of money and most often times are always broke. The old story "stripping to pay for college" is just something that is told to take the edge off of the reality of the situation.
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    And one other thing.


    If your husband had some random woman get naked and rub herself all over him for free would that be OK?

    If your wife had some random guy get naked and rub himself all over her for free would that be OK?





    So then why is OK to PAY for it to happen?
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    Still trying to wrap my brain around the idea of another woman doing a lap dance to me. Ugh! Repulsive idea! What could possibly be attractive/fun/entertaining about that?? I'd just stand up in disgust, say "no thanks", and push her off.

    There are other words in the dictionary besides "disgusting" and "repulsive". Not sure if you know that.


    Okay. Do you like "off-putting", "invasive", or "unacceptable" any better?
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    First of all it isn't normal to get naked and rub your goods all over someone you do not know for money. It's just a lesser form of prostitution. Both of which "normal" people will not do.
    Holy crap! If this is true, strip clubs have changed since when I and my friends used to go. There was no touching allowed at all, initiated by either the customer or the dancer.
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    First of all it isn't normal to get naked and rub your goods all over someone you do not know for money. It's just a lesser form of prostitution. Both of which "normal" people will not do.
    Holy crap! If this is true, strip clubs have changed since when I and my friends used to go. There was no touching allowed at all, initiated by either the customer or the dancer.

    Ummmm Ya I guess they have changed.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    What's good for the gander is good for the goose!

    No problems here unless he had a problem with me doing the same thing.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    Actually hubby and I went to a place like that once. We'd made a long haul out of state delvering a mare, stopped at a bar in the middle of nowhere as were dying of thirst. They had strippers. The place was seedy, the women looked hard ( as hubby remarked) as ten miles of bad road, and when the dancer started doing the floor moves ( showing about the same thing she'd show during a full pelvic exam) the patrons, all male, clustered around the stage, staring. There was no smiling or laughing. The vibe was hungry, almost predatory. Even my husband thought it was creepy and tawdry. To make matters worse, he had ordered several refills on his iced tea, not being used to bars he thought iced tea refills would be free, as in a restaurant, and he got a $15 bar bill for four iced teas.
    I've been to a ladies-only male strippers event, and it couldn't have been more different. The women were laughing their *kitten* off, having a great time, all joy and fun. Nobody tried to touch the strippers other than to tuck money in their speedos. There did not appear to be much fun, certainly no joy, at the bar/strip club.
  • Katrioustu
    Katrioustu Posts: 2,461 Member
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  • classycouture
    classycouture Posts: 888 Member
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    Holy *kitten*!! That is amazing strength!
  • collingmommy
    collingmommy Posts: 456 Member
    I must be prude...haha i'd be pissed!!! :explode:

    mystczi - i agree haha

    I agree with her. I went to one one night with my fiancé, his bro in law, sister, and their friends, and couldn't stop laughging! chubby strippers!! lol.. then, it happened, a dollar to the girl and she used her, "guns" to get it. from his mouth! I was seeing all red.. then a fight almost broke out, so we broke out!
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    I've gone to a strip club with my husband. He actually bought me a lap dance :-) I think watching my husband get a lap dance would be funny.
  • Katrioustu
    Katrioustu Posts: 2,461 Member
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    Holy *kitten*!! That is amazing strength!
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    So is this...

    It took me a long enough time just to be able to 'sit' on the pole. Dx
  • Mary9921
    Mary9921 Posts: 100 Member
    Nope....I wouldn't be happy... Pissed would be more like it...:explode:

    It is amazing to see all these women on here that go....I would have never guessed women would be ok with that...

    Oh Well Live and Learn :drinker: