strip club question??...
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All heterosexual men like seeing naked women. So when I see posts like "my husband doesn't like strip clubs" or won't go with me, it is not because he does not like strange naked women. He is a lot smarter than you think. Going to a strip club with your girlfriend or wife is really stupid. There is no up side to this for the guy. Women love to test their man and there is no better place to find out what the man likes and how he acts around other women than a strip club. Thus, the smart answer for men is "no I only want to see you naked honey!".
Really? No "upside" for the guy? When I go to a strip club with my husband he gets so horned up that we can barely make it home.
I know what my husband likes and I know how he acts around other women. I don't have to bring him to a strip club to find that out. And any woman who actually believes the "no honey I only want to see you naked" is pretty daft.0 -
it wouldn't bother me in the least if my wife went to the strip club and got a lap dance as long as I got to pick which club. :P0
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Me and my fiance have gone a few times. It's not a big deal to me really. I enjoy the view **almost** as much as he does!
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I was a burlesque dancer in my late 20s and early 30s. We go to clubs now because we both enjoy the "eye candy" It's a turn on for both of us. If he goes by himself, I know that he is going to be respectful towards the dancers. It's no big deal0
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I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.
As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.
I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"
false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.
They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.
Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.
For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):
1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.
Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.
Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.
I know that I am comfortable enough with my sexuality to know that I don't want another woman shaking her boobs in my face. I was under the impression that if you enjoyed having someone of the same sex grinding on your lap that makes you at the very least bisexual. If that's not something that gives you pleasure, then it stands to reason you are there for one of the other listed reasons. I'm not saying that being a lesbian is right or wrong, I'm saying that if a lap dance is enjoyed...well?
Besides all that crazy logic, it doesn't really matter. It's how I view the situation; you view it differently. The world keeps on spinning. I highly doubt that society is going to crumble over my opinion.
WTF? NO. I have never had the slightest sexual feelings or attraction to another female. I can look at them and think they are beautiful, but so is a lily or a horse or a sunset. I've been in a couple of threesomes about thirty years ago with my hubby and a female friend... we made sure he had a good time, but it was a little awkward as neither of us women wanted to touch the other one in any remotely sexual way.
1. watch this video to help you understand
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylVlkv1el3Q&feature=share&list=UU9gFih9rw0zNCK3ZtoKQQyA
2. and... WOW0 -
I worked on a comm system for Shotgun Willie's in Denver. Spent most of my time downstairs in the dressing/locker area, near the cliched row of bright mirrors. What a sad, lowly, ruined bunch of girls. You can see the mileage that job was putting on their souls, how much they were giving away for each dollar. I wished I could tell just one of them how special she was and she didn't have to do that, but they only understood one form of praise. Puts a different perspective on it I hope.
So, I live in Aurora, and have been to that club!! Only once though...I didn't like it. Went over to Diamond Cabaret and had a pretty decent time.0 -
I'm married and sometimes my husband has to go for some macho work celebrations, but he actually hates going. Seriously. He thinks they are dirty and a waste of money and why go look when he has a much prettier gal at home? I've been to some a few years ago and I thought the same thing. GROSS. I'm spending my money on that?
Personally, I think it's weird when married men are all strip club obsessed. And some of those strip clubs are nasty with what they do in the back rooms. YUCK!
I want my man home with me and the kids, not drunk and staring at boobs.0 -
It's not a big deal for me if my fiance goes to the strip club. I know he loves me and finds me beautiful. It's just eye candy for the boys IMO. He'll go for bachelor parties, his boys Bdays and what not. However, it would only become an issue if he began going to the strip club and spending more time there than at home with me. Other than that, I say let the boys enjoy themselves
In fact, I go to guy strip clubs sometimes. Male and female strip clubs are 100% different lol. It's a good time out with my girls though 0 -
I'm ok with it as long as I don't have to hear about it. But if he goes into the VIP rooms. He's a deadman.0
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I wonder how many of the women opposed to their men going out to gawk at sexy women:
1. Belong to the "hot, not, bang, pass" thread
2. Get all dressed up and go out to clubs to dance - knowing you are there to "be seen and ogled" by men
Let's face it, ladies, we WANT to be seen and admired by men just as much as men want to see and ogle women. It's human nature.
I am a little more offended by the MFP threads that ask me to "rate" the person above me, more than the idea of my husband going to a strip club. This place isn't supposed to be a "rate others" website, it's a fitness and health website. I think if you're on THOSE threads, you are there to get attention from others. And if you're one of those people who want people on here to admire you, then it's really hypocritical of you to say that you don't want your spouse ogling others.
Same church, different pew.
1. No.
2. No. Only time I really dress up (besides the normal jeans and shirt and natural makeup) is if there is a special occasion or if I am going out with my hubby.
Some people don't care for other people to "ogle" at them and don't care to "ogle" at other people.0 -
I don't go to bars often, but when I do, I dress to make myself feel pretty. I don't wear the FMPs, or the low tops, shorty shorts, etc. Everything is covered. Nor do I tease. I just happen to be a fun person to be around, and I enjoy dancing. When I'm out with my girlfriends, I'm the "crazy" one in the crowd.
If men ogle me because of that, I don't mind. It's a great boost to my ego. I will be 49 this year and I've worked hard to get my body in shape. I'm in better shape than when I was in my early 20s. I say, celebrate yourself, if you can.0 -
Can I give you a lap dance?Doesn't bother me at all! As a matter of fact, I go WITH him and get my very OWN lapdance! (Or 12!!) The girls love ME more than they love HIM!! :bigsmile:
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I'd kick his *kitten* and move out for a while-dead serious-that was in our marriage agreement. Or two can play that game and I'll just got sit on some guys lap-naked. yeah-I'm a scorpio-lol0
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I've been before with my Ex. I'd go again if I had a dude. Or I guess if my girlfriends wanted to go.0
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I worked at a strip club as a waitress so I don't mind at all. I actually took him there a few times cause I could get him in free. 0
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Negative. If he wants a lap dance he can get it from me.
^^^ This.0 -
I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.
As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.
I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"
false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.
Totally false... I've been married for 43 years and very secure with my husband, but this is something neither one of us would do. We have always tried to "entertain" each other.0 -
I would give him money lol
Yes - agree. In fact, I've been to more strip clubs than my husband. LOL So, I think it would be good for him to get together with his buddies and go once in while.0 -
Meh, whatevs.0
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don't care. have fun. DON'T spend too much money.0
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Negative. If he wants a lap dance he can get it from me.
^^^ This.
Nothing like overly possessive / jealous.0 -
If I had a wife or a daughter I sure as heck wouldn't want them to have to earn money by stripping in front of others.. So it would be pretty hypocritical if I went myself. I just can't wrap my mind around the logic that "if you're secure in your relationship it shouldn't be a problem." I mean come on now..if you're truly secure in your relationship why not just ask your wife or husband to do whatever it is for you? My personal opinion is that we are all prone to make mistakes.. And the further you push yourself towards and open flame the higher the chance you may get burnt.. Its not about "trust" its about risking what you don't need to.. Its like being ok with your wife or husband leaning over the edge of a high cliff without a rope.. Its not that you don't "trust" she or he won't fall over, but that accidents happen and if they did it would be catastrophic.. Now, you don't want to be "that" person thats GPS monitoring their spouses every move, and searching thru they're entire web and cell history, cause thats where true trust comes in.. But going to a strip club? Cmon.. Before y'all start flaming though, this is all just my personal belief and opinions..0
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I wouldn't mind. It's kinda funny cuz he's a really shy person. Only thing I'd get mad about if he spent so much money on the stripper.0
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depends what mood im in lol0
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How would you feel about your spouse going to a strip club and possibly getting a lap dance.. just curious to see how people feel about it
I hate strip clubs. Waste of money and time. When I had to go to support friends bacehlor parties and such, I would do a few dollars at the stage, then find the pool table in the back and hang there. Funny part is, most the time I neded up with the girls after they got off work and we had a blast.
But my wife knows I have no real interest in it.0 -
F**k that i wouldnt want someone spinning their junk in my girls face,,,if i had a girl haha
I want to show this guy's statement because I think people need to let go of it just being about insecurity, which I think is what people always say about women who aren't into it.
I could imagine a day when I wouldn't care about my SO going to a strip club...but it would really be all about context. I'm not insecure about my body itself. But I want a partner who sees the world similarly to me- and if my SO values the experience of going to strip clubs more than gazing at a sky full of stars, then he is not for me. Someone who would fit me would be someone who has as much interest in strip clubs as he has in watching TV, which would be none. He would rather sit by a fire, or go on an adventure, or read a good book. If it were the kind of thing he was going to because his best friend is getting married and that's where the bachelor party is, I don't think it would bug me. He would be going because he values his friend. That I can relate to. I've been to strip clubs with my friends and the part I enjoyed was my friends.0 -
I have had Ex's that like to go and it didn't bother me. I was jealous because I couldn't go too, but it was fine.0
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Personally, in our relationship, that's not acceptable---for either party. We both feel like it's disrespectful (and honestly kind of gross). That said, I have plenty of friends who go with their significant others and you know, whatever floats their boat. And if he's going to a bachelor party or something and they're going to a strip club, no big deal, it's just the whole lap dance/spending money on other naked women thing that's not really cool with me (and vice-versa, his exact words "I'm not really crazy about you having some dude swing his d*ck in your face").
My whole thing with strip clubs is like, when a bunch of guys go to a strip club, that's just so weird. Like "Hey guys, let's all go get boners together! It's gonna be awesome!!" and then what? You go home and rub one out? Or what? Why not just get a lap dance from your significant other and get it on? At least then you can have sex with your stripper and get the full experience. And strip clubs can be EXPENSIVE! We're in a rough economy, y'all, be fiscally responsible and just get your sexual gratification at home!0 -
If I had a wife or a daughter I sure as heck wouldn't want them to have to earn money by stripping in front of others.. So it would be pretty hypocritical if I went myself. I just can't wrap my mind around the logic that "if you're secure in your relationship it shouldn't be a problem." I mean come on now..if you're truly secure in your relationship why not just ask your wife or husband to do whatever it is for you? My personal opinion is that we are all prone to make mistakes.. And the further you push yourself towards and open flame the higher the chance you may get burnt.. Its not about "trust" its about risking what you don't need to.. Its like being ok with your wife or husband leaning over the edge of a high cliff without a rope.. Its not that you don't "trust" she or he won't fall over, but that accidents happen and if they did it would be catastrophic.. Now, you don't want to be "that" person thats GPS monitoring their spouses every move, and searching thru they're entire web and cell history, cause thats where true trust comes in.. But going to a strip club? Cmon.. Before y'all start flaming though, this is all just my personal belief and opinions..
agree wholeheartedley to this0 -
What's wrong with stripping? I have frineds that do it. Not because they have to either, they want to. One of my friends has her masters degree, but enjoys stipping more. Not really fair to judge other people doing what they like or what makes them happy.0
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