Barbie Moms
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I'm sorry. I'll wear my mumu next time.0
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(Just a rant).....
So, today I took my 3 year old to her first day at a local summer school preschool. This is the first time taking my child to school and I was more excited than her. So I walked in and I have never felt so out of place in my life! All the mothers were wearing dresses, high heels, tons of make-up, big hair, Tanned and pin thin like they were competing for Miss USA!!!! All they were doing was dropping there children off and dressed up like barbies. I am overweight, wearing jeans a t-shirt and flip flops! I was doing good on my staying under my calorie goals until today. You would think seeing all these fit and skinny women would make me motivated to become one, yet all there judgmental stares at me made me go home and eat.
Oh, the irony ...
I look nice every time I leave home. Every time. Doesn't matter where I'm going or what I'm doing. I don't wear a ton of makeup or spend hours primping (because I don't need to, but that's another topic). But I always look good. I don't do it to draw attention to myself. I don't do it to make you or anyone else feel like ****. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.
No one made you go home and eat. You chose to. Stop blaming other people for your poor decision-making skills.0 -
Oh and OP deactivated
Wow, in less than 15 minutes.0 -
There were exactly two "vicious" posts in this thread. One was the OP and the other was the insane person ranting about flip-flops, who posted afer the OP was already gone.Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
Amen to that and high five to you for being so strong willed, but not everyone is like that. It just sucks to see that a community that is so supportive when people post positive things is so willing to turn around and be vicious at the drop of a hat.0 -
(Just a rant).....
So, today I took my 3 year old to her first day at a local summer school preschool. This is the first time taking my child to school and I was more excited than her. So I walked in and I have never felt so out of place in my life! All the mothers were wearing dresses, high heels, tons of make-up, big hair, Tanned and pin thin like they were competing for Miss USA!!!! All they were doing was dropping there children off and dressed up like barbies. I am overweight, wearing jeans a t-shirt and flip flops! I was doing good on my staying under my calorie goals until today. You would think seeing all these fit and skinny women would make me motivated to become one, yet all there judgmental stares at me made me go home and eat.
Oh, the irony ...
I look nice every time I leave home. Every time. Doesn't matter where I'm going or what I'm doing. I don't wear a ton of makeup or spend hours primping (because I don't need to, but that's another topic). But I always look good. I don't do it to draw attention to myself. I don't do it to make you or anyone else feel like ****. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.
No one made you go home and eat. You chose to. Stop blaming other people for your poor decision-making skills.
I live in sundresses in the summer. I'm in FL and it's too hot for anything else. I don't wear makeup hardly ever, but I have a ton of cute dresses. I have a friend who every time she sees me in a dress assumes I'm going somewhere special simply because it's a dress. lol0 -
What's abhorrently rude is dragging in germs, snow, salt, mud into the infant area, or didn't you read that part? Nearly every single day I watched her do this, and finally I very politely asked "I'm sorry, didn't you see the sign?"
This is so beyond rude I don't even know where to begin. You have a problem paying tax dollars for her children to go to school because their mom is "fat and sloppy" for dropping her kid off in flip flops. Holy s***. I love how all the people saying "they werent judging you" to the OP had no comment on this....seriously?
Every single time I saw her she walked right by pile of parents' shoes in her bare feet and flip flops and walked right into the gated area, dragging her filth in. And often bringing in her several other older children into the 0-6 month old baby section which is expressly forbidden as I witnessed her rug rat step on a baby before.
The employees didn't have the backbone to correct this vile woman, and I did so politely and with grace.
Go ahead, tell me what's so wrong about me expecting fellow daycare users to follow the rules and have the tiniest amount of ****ing consideration for the health of babies? Or do you not care about babies getting sick and hygiene in general?
What would you do if someone did this at your daycare?0 -
I understand your frustration. But, some might have been headed to work.
Also, consider this... Some of them might have been in your position at one time. Maybe your perception is off? Did you try to talk to any of them?
I'm not slamming you at all because I have felt that way before too. Don't let it get you down. You can't beat yourself up & go home to overeat because of this experience. There's always going to be someone prettier and skinnier somewhere. You have to be proud of who you are and stop comparing yourself to others.
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One thing has absolutely nothing to do with the other or with the OP of this thread.
What's abhorrently rude is dragging in germs, snow, salt, mud into the infant area, or didn't you read that part? Nearly every single day I watched her do this, and finally I very politely asked "I'm sorry, didn't you see the sign?"
This is so beyond rude I don't even know where to begin. You have a problem paying tax dollars for her children to go to school because their mom is "fat and sloppy" for dropping her kid off in flip flops. Holy s***. I love how all the people saying "they werent judging you" to the OP had no comment on this....seriously?
Go ahead, tell me what's so wrong about me expecting fellow daycare users to follow the rules and have the tiniest amount of ****ing consideration for the health of babies? Or do you not care about babies getting sick and hygiene in general?0 -
There were exactly two "vicious" posts in this thread. One was the OP and the other was the insane person ranting about flip-flops, who posted afer the OP was already gone.Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
Amen to that and high five to you for being so strong willed, but not everyone is like that. It just sucks to see that a community that is so supportive when people post positive things is so willing to turn around and be vicious at the drop of a hat.
Agreed.
Although I do agree with the ex-OP about feeling uncomfortable, I dont agree with her blaming the situation on those moms and going home to eat. She has emotional issues that needs addressed and definitely should have used negative energy out on the track, gym, whatever activity she could find.0 -
There were exactly two "vicious" posts in this thread. One was the OP and the other was the insane person ranting about flip-flops, who posted afer the OP was already gone.Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
Amen to that and high five to you for being so strong willed, but not everyone is like that. It just sucks to see that a community that is so supportive when people post positive things is so willing to turn around and be vicious at the drop of a hat.
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She deactivated her account. I think that some of your remarks were uncalled for. She had an opinion. It was something that was bothering her. We all can say at one time (if you cannot you are very lucky) that things like this happen and you feel so mad at yourself for letting yourself go, what do you do? Turn to what brought you to the over weight place to begin with...food....everyone has their own person reason for being heavy. And yes, some it is the love of food, but most it comes from emotions. She was upset she turned to her comfort,.....that being said shame on you all for being so rude. There are many triggers for all types of emotions, and unfortunately not everyone can handle them "perfectly".
I personally look forward to that day when I can be that person that other people think I look great. But, I also love myself enough to know that I look the best I can now. I have just started wearing make up, even at home. Never did that before. Why? Because I am feeling better about myself foe sure.0 -
Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
Amen to that and high five to you for being so strong willed, but not everyone is like that. It just sucks to see that a community that is so supportive when people post positive things is so willing to turn around and be vicious at the drop of a hat.
What was the proper response then?0 -
(Just a rant).....
So, today I took my 3 year old to her first day at a local summer school preschool. This is the first time taking my child to school and I was more excited than her. So I walked in and I have never felt so out of place in my life! All the mothers were wearing dresses, high heels, tons of make-up, big hair, Tanned and pin thin like they were competing for Miss USA!!!! All they were doing was dropping there children off and dressed up like barbies. I am overweight, wearing jeans a t-shirt and flip flops! I was doing good on my staying under my calorie goals until today. You would think seeing all these fit and skinny women would make me motivated to become one, yet all there judgmental stares at me made me go home and eat.
Oh, the irony ...
I look nice every time I leave home. Every time. Doesn't matter where I'm going or what I'm doing. I don't wear a ton of makeup or spend hours primping (because I don't need to, but that's another topic). But I always look good. I don't do it to draw attention to myself. I don't do it to make you or anyone else feel like ****. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.
No one made you go home and eat. You chose to. Stop blaming other people for your poor decision-making skills.
I live in sundresses in the summer. I'm in FL and it's too hot for anything else. I don't wear makeup hardly ever, but I have a ton of cute dresses. I have a friend who every time she sees me in a dress assumes I'm going somewhere special simply because it's a dress. lol
My family does that to me. I wear dresses and skirts pretty much all the time, and still, they will ask me what I'm so dressed up for if we go to dinner and they're all wearing jeans or something. I'm like "It's just a dress. It's not a formal ball gown."0 -
"Haters gonna hate." - Proverbs 9:80
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.Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
For real wheres the love?0 -
Regardless, the OP blamed complete strangers for her binge. It was her choice. They didn't do anything beyond dress up before leaving the house.She deactivated her account. I think that some of your remarks were uncalled for. She had an opinion. It was something that was bothering her. We all can say at one time (if you cannot you are very lucky) that things like this happen and you feel so mad at yourself for letting yourself go, what do you do? Turn to what brought you to the over weight place to begin with...food....everyone has their own person reason for being heavy. And yes, some it is the love of food, but most it comes from emotions. She was upset she turned to her comfort,.....that being said shame on you all for being so rude. There are many triggers for all types of emotions, and unfortunately not everyone can handle them "perfectly".
Are we all supposed to run around looking like People of Walmart so as not to hurt feelings?0 -
Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
I'm with you, I am motivated and there is nothing that's going to stop me from my goal.
BUT...THIS IS A PLACE FOR PEOPLE TO GET SUPPORT [re- the second 1/2 of the name of this sub forum] not people to tell them what they're doing wrong with a blunt group mentality. Especially people who were once in their shoes. Everyone hits low points where their body image messes with their sense of judgement. Come on.0 -
Exactly! lol(Just a rant).....
So, today I took my 3 year old to her first day at a local summer school preschool. This is the first time taking my child to school and I was more excited than her. So I walked in and I have never felt so out of place in my life! All the mothers were wearing dresses, high heels, tons of make-up, big hair, Tanned and pin thin like they were competing for Miss USA!!!! All they were doing was dropping there children off and dressed up like barbies. I am overweight, wearing jeans a t-shirt and flip flops! I was doing good on my staying under my calorie goals until today. You would think seeing all these fit and skinny women would make me motivated to become one, yet all there judgmental stares at me made me go home and eat.
Oh, the irony ...
I look nice every time I leave home. Every time. Doesn't matter where I'm going or what I'm doing. I don't wear a ton of makeup or spend hours primping (because I don't need to, but that's another topic). But I always look good. I don't do it to draw attention to myself. I don't do it to make you or anyone else feel like ****. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.
No one made you go home and eat. You chose to. Stop blaming other people for your poor decision-making skills.
I live in sundresses in the summer. I'm in FL and it's too hot for anything else. I don't wear makeup hardly ever, but I have a ton of cute dresses. I have a friend who every time she sees me in a dress assumes I'm going somewhere special simply because it's a dress. lol
My family does that to me. I wear dresses and skirts pretty much all the time, and still, they will ask me what I'm so dressed up for if we go to dinner and they're all wearing jeans or something. I'm like "It's just a dress. It's not a formal ball gown."0 -
Regardless, the OP blamed complete strangers for her binge. It was her choice. They didn't do anything beyond dress up before leaving the house.She deactivated her account. I think that some of your remarks were uncalled for. She had an opinion. It was something that was bothering her. We all can say at one time (if you cannot you are very lucky) that things like this happen and you feel so mad at yourself for letting yourself go, what do you do? Turn to what brought you to the over weight place to begin with...food....everyone has their own person reason for being heavy. And yes, some it is the love of food, but most it comes from emotions. She was upset she turned to her comfort,.....that being said shame on you all for being so rude. There are many triggers for all types of emotions, and unfortunately not everyone can handle them "perfectly".
Are we all supposed to run around looking like People of Walmart so as not to hurt feelings?
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:flowerforyou:"Haters gonna hate." - Proverbs 9:80 -
Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
Amen to that and high five to you for being so strong willed, but not everyone is like that. It just sucks to see that a community that is so supportive when people post positive things is so willing to turn around and be vicious at the drop of a hat.
What was the proper response then?
Honestly, before I saw all the rude posts flying up my response to OP was going to be:
I doubt they were all trophy wives trying to make you look bad. Some people just like to look however makes them feel good when they leave the house. My own mother is not a "Barbie" stick-thin mom and is honestly the nicest person I know (read: doesn't care what other people look like), but she will not leave the house without makeup and you'll never catch her out in sweats or tennis shoes unless she's gettin her exercise on. If it makes you feel bad then either join in and get yourself dolled up for next time or figure out why it makes you feel bad and deal with that. And a binge today will only ruin your progress if you use it as an excuse to stop taking care of yourself tomorrow, so don't give up.
Same basic message as most of you but in nicer wrapping.0 -
I wear dresses, make-up, do my hair, I'm thin for someone who had a baby 3 months ago and I'm fit.
Cool, I'm a Barbie mom!0 -
I'm a Barbie mom in a Barbie ... pond? What else rhymes with "mom"?I wear dresses, make-up, do my hair, I'm thin for someone who had a baby 3 months ago and I'm fit.
Cool, I'm a Barbie mom!
And you're welcome for the earworm.0 -
Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
I'm with you, I am motivated and there is nothing that's going to stop me from my goal.
BUT...THIS IS A PLACE FOR PEOPLE TO GET SUPPORT [re- the second 1/2 of the name of this sub forum] not people to tell them what they're doing wrong with a blunt group mentality. Especially people who were once in their shoes. Everyone hits low points where their body image messes with their sense of judgement. Come on.
I was so sad to see she deactivated. She was embarrassed. Everyone wants to fit in somewhere and this was one of those awkward "I didnt realize that I wasnt going to fit in here" moments. And I agree when I finally decided to really do this I started realizing that situations like that dont embarass me as much as they used to. I am getting bolder and more determined. She needed us to tell her this isn't about anyone else or how anyone else looks or looks at you. This is about you not caring what other people look like. Its about realizing that the way other people look isnt done to intimidate or demotivate you. They are just living their lives. Its so hard to get into this headspace. You think everyone is looking, judging. I have a ways to go myself. But I could have told her how it gets easier when you are determined.0 -
I enjoy being a MILF.
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What's abhorrently rude is dragging in germs, snow, salt, mud into the infant area, or didn't you read that part? Nearly every single day I watched her do this, and finally I very politely asked "I'm sorry, didn't you see the sign?"
This is so beyond rude I don't even know where to begin. You have a problem paying tax dollars for her children to go to school because their mom is "fat and sloppy" for dropping her kid off in flip flops. Holy s***. I love how all the people saying "they werent judging you" to the OP had no comment on this....seriously?
Every single time I saw her she walked right by pile of parents' shoes in her bare feet and flip flops and walked right into the gated area, dragging her filth in. And often bringing in her several other older children into the 0-6 month old baby section which is expressly forbidden as I witnessed her rug rat step on a baby before.
The employees didn't have the backbone to correct this vile woman, and I did so politely and with grace.
Go ahead, tell me what's so wrong about me expecting fellow daycare users to follow the rules and have the tiniest amount of ****ing consideration for the health of babies? Or do you not care about babies getting sick and hygiene in general?
What would you do if someone did this at your daycare?
Oh, my apologies. There is always people who think the rules dont apply to them, so I get that frustration, BUT judging by your original post and how you went on about what a fat slob she was, I doubt you asked her politely. Even now shes a "vile" woman....because she wore flip flops into a nursery. :noway:0 -
One thing has absolutely nothing to do with the other or with the OP of this thread.
What's abhorrently rude is dragging in germs, snow, salt, mud into the infant area, or didn't you read that part? Nearly every single day I watched her do this, and finally I very politely asked "I'm sorry, didn't you see the sign?"
This is so beyond rude I don't even know where to begin. You have a problem paying tax dollars for her children to go to school because their mom is "fat and sloppy" for dropping her kid off in flip flops. Holy s***. I love how all the people saying "they werent judging you" to the OP had no comment on this....seriously?
Go ahead, tell me what's so wrong about me expecting fellow daycare users to follow the rules and have the tiniest amount of ****ing consideration for the health of babies? Or do you not care about babies getting sick and hygiene in general?
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On one hand I can kind of understand where she was coming from, and maybe she could have approached it a little better than just slamming the ladies and categorizing them as she did. IMO, it sounds like she could have really used some help and support in more ways than one.
BUT on the other hand, I would hate to think someone was looking down on me or judging me because I resemble a "Barbie Mom".0 -
Wow... a lot of hate going on here.... and I'm not talking about OP. Way to run a fellow struggling overweight person off guys.
When I became SERIOUS about weight loss and fitness and MOTIVATED enough to take on some hard effort to make the necessary changes, there AIN'T no one who can run me off. Not the "Barbie Moms" and MFPer's who suggest that I quit blaming others for the food I put in my mouth.
I'm with you, I am motivated and there is nothing that's going to stop me from my goal.
BUT...THIS IS A PLACE FOR PEOPLE TO GET SUPPORT [re- the second 1/2 of the name of this sub forum] not people to tell them what they're doing wrong with a blunt group mentality. Especially people who were once in their shoes. Everyone hits low points where their body image messes with their sense of judgement. Come on.
I was so sad to see she deactivated. She was embarrassed. Everyone wants to fit in somewhere and this was one of those awkward "I didnt realize that I wasnt going to fit in here" moments. And I agree when I finally decided to really do this I started realizing that situations like that dont embarass me as much as they used to. I am getting bolder and more determined. She needed us to tell her this isn't about anyone else or how anyone else looks or looks at you. This is about you not caring what other people look like. Its about realizing that the way other people look isnt done to intimidate or demotivate you. They are just living their lives. Its so hard to get into this headspace. You think everyone is looking, judging. I have a ways to go myself. But I could have told her how it gets easier when you are determined.
You don't think you might be projecting a bit here? Because I didn't get nearly enough information from the OP to determine that was her mindset.0
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